If you say sorry when someone bumps into you — this episode is for you. In this conversation, Monique talks about the slow, quiet erasure of yourself that happens when you've spent years apologising for existing. The waiter, the wrong order, the friend who talks over you, the text that begins "so sorry to bother you." All those tiny moments where you choose someone else's comfort over your own legitimate need. Again. And again. And again. She names where this comes from — the fawn response, the way some of us learned, very young, that small was safer than seen. And she shares a moment with a friend who apologised for crying at her own father's funeral, an apology so deep it had become a reflex, ready before the grief had even fully landed. This is not about becoming inconsiderate. It's about the difference between real warmth and compulsive self-erasure. One is a choice. The other is a held breath. If you've been doing this for so long that you can't tell the two apart anymore — please listen. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… Take the Happiness Quiz at https://iintendtobehappy.com/ — it's a quick (and eye-opening) way to discover what's actually impacting your consistency, focus, and overall wellbeing. Most people are shocked by their results — and even more surprised by what it reveals about the patterns holding them back. Take the quiz here → https://iintendtobehappy.com/ Let's take this work deeper, together.