Bring Value To Our Relationships | Victoria Osteen

Summary

Joel Osteen Podcast Summary Episode: Bring Value To Our Relationships | Victoria Osteen
Host/Author: Victoria Osteen
Release Date: November 30, 2024

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Introduction

In this heartfelt episode of the Joel Osteen Podcast, Victoria Osteen delves into the intricate dynamics of personal relationships, offering insightful guidance on how to enhance and bring value to the connections we share with others. Drawing from biblical teachings and personal anecdotes, Victoria provides listeners with practical strategies to foster healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

The Dual Nature of Relationships

Victoria begins by acknowledging the dual nature of relationships, highlighting how they can be both sources of immense joy and significant frustration.

Victoria Osteen (02:16): "Some of those relationships can bring us great joy and satisfaction. And sometimes some of those same relationships can be a source of frustration and they can be a challenge in our life."

She emphasizes the necessity of balancing these extremes to maintain harmony and satisfaction in our interactions with others.

Biblical Foundation: Love Keeps No Records of Wrongs

Central to Victoria's message is the biblical principle from 1 Corinthians 13:5, which states that "Love keeps no records of wrongs." This concept serves as the cornerstone for her discussion on fostering positive relationships.

Victoria Osteen (04:15): "Love keeps no records of wrongs. If we're going to balance out our relationships and enjoy them, we're not going to be frustrated and irritated. We're going to have to learn to keep records of the good things."

Victoria explains that maintaining a grateful heart and focusing on the positive aspects of our relationships can transform our interactions and overall satisfaction.

Personal Anecdote: The Impact of Holding Grudges

To illustrate the detrimental effects of holding onto grievances, Victoria shares a personal story involving a woman burdened by a list of her husband's perceived faults.

Victoria Osteen (06:45): "She pulled up these three sheets of paper that she held in her hand, and I began to look at the offenses on the pieces of paper. I thought, wouldn't she be much happier if she would just tear that list up?"

This anecdote underscores the emotional toll of keeping negative records and highlights the power of forgiveness and letting go.

The Power of Trusting God in Relationships

Victoria ties the concept of love and forgiveness back to a foundational trust in God. She asserts that trusting in God's love empowers us to transcend personal frustrations and maintain harmonious relationships.

Victoria Osteen (09:10): "The greatest power that we operate in is when we trust God. It's when we say, God, it doesn't matter how many things they do wrong... Because I trust you, God, you got my back."

By placing trust in divine support, individuals can adopt a more loving and forgiving stance, fostering stronger and more resilient relationships.

Practical Steps to Enhance Relationships

Victoria offers actionable advice on how to implement these principles in daily life:

1. Clean the Slate Daily: Make a conscious effort to let go of past grievances and start each day with a fresh perspective.

   Victoria Osteen (10:30): "This morning I wipe the slate clean. I let go of offense. I let everybody in my life off the hook."

2. Operate from a Place of Love: Approach interactions with love and understanding rather than frustration and judgment.

   Victoria Osteen (11:50): "When we're operating out of a place of love, we can be more effective in our relationships."

3. Avoid Mental Lists of Faults: Refrain from compiling lists—mental or physical—of others' shortcomings, which only serve to foster negativity and resentment.

Striving for Personal Growth and Perfection

While acknowledging that nobody is perfect, Victoria encourages striving towards the perfection embodied by God, promoting the development of love, faithfulness, and strength within ourselves.

Victoria Osteen (10:55): "We serve a perfect God and his spirit is on the inside of us. So we should at least set our sights on perfection."

This pursuit of personal growth not only enhances individual well-being but also positively impacts the quality of our relationships.

The Ripple Effect of Loving Relationships

Victoria envisions a world where relationships are governed by unconditional love, leading to meaningful conversations and deeper connections.

Victoria Osteen (12:15): "Can you imagine walking this earth being so full of love, so full of faithfulness that nothing shakes you, nothing rocks your boat?"

She underscores that loving others unconditionally can inspire and positively influence those around us, creating a more compassionate and understanding community.

Conclusion

Victoria Osteen wraps up the episode by reiterating the importance of love and forgiveness in maintaining balanced and fulfilling relationships. She encourages listeners to adopt these biblical principles, trust in God's love, and strive for personal growth to enhance their connections with others.

Victoria Osteen (13:50): "Life is too short to live a frustrated life and it's too precious to be out of balance with the people in your life."

Notable Quotes

• Victoria Osteen (02:16): "We've got to learn how to balance these things called relationships and learn to bring out the best in each other and enjoy relationships."

• Victoria Osteen (04:15): "Love keeps no records of wrongs. We're going to have to learn to keep records of the good things."

• Victoria Osteen (06:45): "Wouldn't her life be better, less frustrated if she would just tear that list up?"

• Victoria Osteen (09:10): "The greatest power that we operate in is when we trust God."

• Victoria Osteen (12:15): "Can you imagine walking this earth being so full of love, so full of faithfulness that nothing shakes you?"

Final Thoughts

This episode serves as a compelling reminder of the transformative power of love and forgiveness in our relationships. Victoria Osteen's eloquent blend of scripture, personal experience, and practical advice provides listeners with the tools needed to cultivate more meaningful and harmonious connections in their lives.

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Transcript

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[Joel Osteen]

Hi, this is Joel in Victoria. Thanks so much for listening to the podcast and thanks for supporting the ministry. We believe you're going to have an awesome 2024 healthy, productive and favor filled. God bless you today and enjoy the message.

[Unknown Speaker]

You know I want to talk to us a little bit about relationships and how to bring value to our relationships. You know we are going to be around people all the time, and we're going to have people in our life that are close to us. And some of those relationships can bring us great joy and satisfaction. And sometimes some of those same relationships can be a source of frustration and they can be a challenge in our life. We've got to learn to balance the two extremes. Have you ever been in love with someone a moment and then they say something you don't like and you're mad at them? That doesn't make sense. We got fickle feelings. We've got to learn how to balance these things called relationships and learn to bring out the best in each other and enjoy relationships. Listen to what the apostle Paul teaches us in First Corinthians 13:5. He says, Love keeps no records of wrongs. Love keeps no records of wrongs. You see, the apostle Paul was telling us, if we're going to balance out our relationships and we're going to enjoy them, we're not going to be frustrated and irritated. We're going to have to learn to keep records of the good things. We're going to have to learn to find the good in our relationship, the good in the people that we are connected to. See, it's easy to see the worst in people. Let me tell you. That takes no effort, and it certainly takes no faith. But when we begin to keep no records of wrong and we begin to look at the good, we have a grateful heart. Now think about this. Love keeps no records of wrong. The only way that we can accomplish this is to let love rule. See, God is love. He is the very essence of love. When we think about this for a minute about God's love, we think, now, God, if you were to have recorded our mistakes, if you were to have recorded all the things that we've done wrong, would you ever have given us the very best Jesus Christ? Would you have sent your only son in place of our mistakes? See, love is the essence of Almighty God, and he's put that love on the inside of us. And the only way that we're going to be able to balance out relationships and certainly enjoy them is to let the love grow. I was several years ago, I was right down here at prayer time, praying with a woman, and she came to me and she said, victoria, you need to pray for me. My husband has disappointed me so much. He does all these things that I don't like. Then she pulled up these three sheets of paper that she held in her hand, and she opened them up, and I began to look at the Offenses on the pieces of paper. And I noticed that they were written in different color ink and some were written in pencil. And I thought, well, why are they written in different color ink and in pencil? And she said, you know why? Because as soon as he does something I don't like, she said, I'll grab the closest pen or pencil that I have and I'll write it down as quickly as I can because I don't want to forget it. And I thought, okay. I prayed for her. There's only so much you can do at the altar. Sweet woman, sweet woman. You know, she came up for prayer. She was giving it to God. When I got back in my seat, I was thinking about it and I thought, lord, you know, if I see her again, I'm going to tell her, you know, then I have all this download, what I'm going to tell her, right? But I thought to myself, wouldn't she be much happier if she would just tear that list up? If she wouldn't keep a record, a running list of the things that she sees that's wrong, wouldn't her life be better, less frustrated? Wouldn't she operate from a position of power if she would just tear that list up? Because the truth of the matter is the greatest power that we operate in is when we trust God. It's when we say, God, it doesn't matter how many things they do wrong, doesn't matter if they don't affirm me. It doesn't matter if they do the things that I like or dislike. That doesn't change who I am, doesn't change my destiny. Because I trust you, God, you got my back. I can love, I can let it grow. That is a position of power. When we're frustrated, when we are always looking at what's wrong, we're at a position of weakness. We're running out of deficit. Because that's how we're going to operate. We're going to respond to people in our life from that place. You know, some of us don't make physical lists, but some of us compile a mental list of the things that people do when they hurt us. They don't make us feel good. They do things their way and not our way. We compile this mental list and when it happens again, we add it to our list again. And then when it happens again, we have this automatic recording in our mind that says, well, there they go again. They're always going to be like that. They're never going to change. There they go. That's who they are. And you know what? That is not a healthy place to be. Because you know what happens? It hurts us. I mean, it not only hurts the other person and damages our relationships, but it frustrates us. It hurts us. So God, I mean, is saying through the apostle Paul, one of the ways you can balance all this out is to clean the slate every day, to let people off the hook, to understand the best help you can be to them is when you're operating out of a place of wholeness, happiness and strength. Keep no records of wrongs. Listen, nobody's perfect. No relationship is perfect. Now, can I stop there just a minute? Because I've heard that a lot lately. Nobody's perfect. Some people say nobody's perfect. And you know, that's why I do that. But the truth of the matter is we serve a perfect God and his spirit is on the inside of us. So we should at least set our sights on perfection. We should at least set our sights on developing everything that he's put on the inside of us. Can you imagine walking this earth being so full of love, so full of faithfulness that nothing shakes you, nothing rocks your boat? When your child says something or he does something that you don't particularly agree with, that you say, I love you anyway? Tell me, can you imagine the response that the people in our life would have when we love them anyway? Can you imagine the meaningful conversations that we can have when we're operating of this place of pure love? Now, people don't always want to hear it, but, man, when they know you love them, seed goes down on the inside of them and they carry that seed with them. You know, more is caught. More. More is caught with honey. More flies are caught with honey than vinegar. More things are absorbed when you are coming at it from a place of love. Like, you know what? I can't change you. God can change you. All I can do is love you. Bible says, oh, no, man. But to love them. Listen, life is too short to live. Frustrated life is too short and it's too precious to be out of balance with the people in your life. You know as well as I do, one minute you can love somebody until they do something you don't like. Listen, we've got to step back and we've got to say, okay, this morning I wipe the slate clean. I let go of offense. I let everybody in my life off the hook. I'm going to let them be who God's called them to be. I'm going to do my job and I'm going to be more effective in that job when I come from a place of love. Amen. Amen. He is an awesome God and he helps us. That's the great thing. He helps us. He doesn't expect us to do this alone.

[Joel Osteen]

This is my Bible. I am what it says I am. I have what it says I have. I can do this. This is the first Bible that my parents gave me. I was six years old. They taught me the importance of believing what God said says about you and letting that determine your self image and how through the scripture you can learn to handle challenges and pursue your dreams. But some people tell me that the Bible is not practical for them and how they don't understand it. We've created a new resource called how to read your Bible and enjoy it. It provides 12 distinct lenses that will help you see the Bible with fresh eyes so you can discover the hidden treasures that increase your faith. Practical truths that'll help you in your everyday life. When you tap into the power of God's word, there's no limit to where he'll take you.

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[Joel Osteen]

When you get God's word down in you, it brings life and victory. This has a great Bible reading plan, plus introductions to each book. It'll help you enjoy reading the Bible. Thanks so much for being a part of the ministry. Victoria and I pray for you and your family every day and we appreciate your prayers and support. Remember, you can watch the services online every Sunday morning, download our daily podcast, watch on YouTube, or we have a new Joel Osteen television network 24 hours a day, and of course SiriusXM as well. Until we see you next time. May the Lord bless you and keep you.

[Unknown Speaker]

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Hey, it smells so good in here.

Yep, that'd be the coffee.

I know it's just I've had nasal polyps for so long now I'm on this medicine and my congestion and breathing are much better.

Dupixent Dupilumab is an add on prescription maintenance treatment for uncontrolled chronic rhinosinusitis with nasal polyps in adults and children 12 years and up. It can help shrink your nasal polyps so you can breathe better with less congestion.

I'm pretty jazzed about it. Plus, I don't want another surgery and now I might not need one.

So what can I get you?

Medium coffee, please.

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