This is the final episode in our 6-part series on erectile dysfunction.

Over the past five weeks, we've talked about the weight, the mechanics, the conversations, what partners experience, and sex beyond erections. But we haven't talked about… wanting.

One casualty of ED is desire. You stop letting yourself want. No fantasizing or anticipation. No imagining or longing. You disconnect from this part of yourself because wanting something you don't think you can have feels too painful.

But when you disconnect from desire to protect yourself from disappointment, you don't just lose sex. You lose something essential —aliveness.

In this episode, Stacey explores how to let yourself want again.

In this episode:

How shutting down sexual desire bleeds all over your life
The difference between arousal and desire
Gifting yourself permission to want
Desire in its most valid form is to "own the wanting."

You don't need a body that works like it used to. You just need to let yourself feel again.

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