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Why does sex become such a charged topic in long-term relationships?

Most of the time, you're not really fighting about frequency, desire, or who initiates. You're fighting about unmet emotional needs. Connection. Validation. Autonomy. Safety. Feeling wanted.

When those needs aren't being met, sex becomes the battleground. And the conflict doesn't stay in the bedroom.

In this episode, Stacey gets into what's really happening beneath the surface - and why asking "what is this really about?" changes everything.

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How Sex Becomes a Source of Conflict in Longterm Relationships