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I eaaaaaaase into conversation with no one; a familiar practice I haven't engaged in for some months now. I wander from one thought to the next: Style Guide & Vocal Expression Data Cleanup & Research Memoirtistry & Mental Health: You can hear more from Quincy and I over on COMPLEX, The Podcast. Word of 2025: OPEN & Green Goddess Tara Performing a Persona with the Mirror Mask & Jumpsuit Published Art Commentaries Unlearning Patterns of Behavior OCDdddddddddddddddddddd The Habit of Purging Things Pittsburgh is a Way Station

In this episode, Quincy and I hit record mid-conversation and follow our thoughts: We begin by reflecting on the previous episode with Clairvoyant Elizabeth Mihelich, which leads us to addressing the symptoms I experience from [C]PTSD and the emotional neglect I suffered in my childhood . Quincy drills down to the deep questions: "In a situation where you never received confirmation that your parents loved you more than religion, (you knew for certain they would never change or that they weren't here anymore) what would be your measure of love?" I see where I have been okay being neglected in love with friends and former partners. When I am not listened to, I do not feel loved. So how can I undo this pain? I choose to engage in loving relationships with those who value active listening. Memoirtistry is a practice, years in the making; what I share is my present action to heal the past and envision a future. How do you share a full picture of who you are? "Not wanting to rock the boat" poisons relationships. What I gained from this conversation is a new level of safety with Quincy. I haven't felt free with my words in this way with another person since I was married, and having divorced the person I felt this with, it's been difficult to achieve trust in all relationships following. I'm grateful to Quincy for sticking with me all these years; together, we have outlived my marriage. Purchase I Was a Good Wife: A Self-Portrait on Amazon. I'm learning how to point to the symptoms of [C]PTSD through my art, as therapy. Everything I do is an attempt to show the work. And then we get into business. Quincy and I are brainstorming a new podcast! Book Reference: The Finding of The Third Eye by Vera Stanley Alder (now I'm committed to making it to age 49) Building a timeline of your life in five-year increments, noting your personal memories and the stories your family have shared to paint a picture of who you are, is a helpful activity. Eventually we land on discussing a desire (perhaps for a future episode) that Quincy has to rewrite the experience women in his life have had with men.

I have been interacting with Elizabeth Mihelich for almost 10 years now, and I value her work as a Clairvoyant. She has shown me many things “without knowing” and she is faithful to her craft. In this episode, she talks about her training in clairvoyance and what she sees when she provides Aura Readings. Then, we have a personal session together in an effort to reveal the process. I set my intentions around Memoirtistry and, saying my name at birth three times, we begin… You can scheduled your own Aura Reading with Elizabeth via her website Lit Up You.

In this episode, Quincy and I discuss the concept of anxiety. He explains anxiety as a message from the self, often misconstrued as a threat. He emphasizes the importance of understanding internal triggers and managing anxiety through awareness and physiological techniques like widening one's visual field. I, of course, share my personal experiences with anxiety, highlighting its exacerbation during COVID-19 and the ongoing impact of social media. We discuss practical tools like the Five-Point Check-In. Quincy and I agree on the need to address internal emotions, to move toward acceptance, to reduce anxiety effectively. Links to things we mentioned: The Gift of Fear, Gavin de Becker Affirmations with Louise Hay The Wild Unknown Archetypes Deck, Kim Krans Lit Up You! Aura Readings with Elizabeth Huberman Lab

In this episode, Quincy offers a window into why he loves doing the work he is doing. I ask, and we get into it: Where are you from? (Spoiler Alert: AK, like me!) How did you get into coaching? What fulfills you in the coaching role? Why coach and not therapist? Quincy is accepting clients, and is a fantastic resource for individuals and couples exploring Ethical Non-Monogamy.

Quincy and I continue the conversation about how one can shift from monogamous patterns of belief to the openness of polyamory using my own experience as a guide. We explore the concept of solo polyamory and the misconceptions surrounding it, and we consider how to address satisfying sexual needs to reduce the charge in relationships. We highlight communication challenges and the importance of self-awareness, mutual respect and understanding. I share personal fears about enforcing boundaries and the societal stigma around polyamory. Quincy emphasizes that boundaries are the responsibility of the person setting them and stresses the need for clear, non-violent communication. The discussion also touches on trauma bonds and the impact of past relationships on current dynamics. Resources: Quincy Schmidt Coaching The Center for Nonviolent Communication

Mental Health & Relationship Coach Quincy Schmidt and I discuss the transition from monogamy to polyamory, exploring the concept of polyamory and its implications. We share insight into our [separate] journeys away from serial monogamy to polyamory, having both been influenced by non-monogamous friends. Our conversation delves into the challenges of defining and practicing polyamory, including the importance of clear communication, understanding personal values, and setting boundaries. We highlight the need for self-awareness and the rejection of societal norms that limit relationship choices while emphasizing the importance of being true to oneself and the potential for fulfillment in multiple relationships. AI was used to create this summary because I didn't want to risk listening to this episode and shying away from posting it. It's challenging to change with an audience, and I aim to change no matter what. xoxo, Elizabeth Dawn

I don't know if I shared this in previous episodes, but I have been working with Poetry Lounge Press to publish my first poetry chapbook. In this episode, I have the proof in hand and am driving myself to the woods to read it aloud for a first look. It's real! It's happeningggggggggg! The edits are now in full swing. The expected release date of I Left a Stranger: A Coming Out & Into Estrangement is September 30, 2024. More to follow!

I let AI write the summary: "The conversation revolves around the challenges of navigating life's complexities through binary thinking, the importance of finding joy in the gray area, and the need to recognize and challenge limiting beliefs to move forward." My brain takes Quincy's concept of Black & White thinking, and the fear of the Gray Area, and connects it to my experience in estrangement. We also find ourselves discussing our beliefs around money and "free". Per usual, it's an exploratory journey and we take turns guiding the flow.

Quincy discusses his meditation practice using The Way app. Recently, my energy appeared in one of his meditations and he poses some questions to me about performing Memoirtistry on a stage. Questions: Who is the person who performs your art? How do you get into the space to express? How did it feel to perform a flashback from the Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder symptoms you experience? What do you mean by "flashback"? What are your thoughts about being in the moment without preoccupying yourself with the audience's perception of you? These questions took me on a journey of my healing, and I'm grateful. Quincy has a way of easing me through difficult thoughts. I hope you enjoy the journey he and I go on during this conversation, and find something for yourself to investigate. xoxo, Elizabeth Dawn Resources: The Art & Science of Performance Training with Frankie Mulinix of The Vibrance Centre in Atlanta, GA Quincy Schmidt is a Certified Coach, offering personalized, mental health and relationship coaching sessions. Schedule a Free Session Our inside joke of me not wearing any pants is the title of my second memoir which I am currently writing and editing.