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Exploring Trauma and Healing with Dion Jensen Episode Summary In this powerful episode of Seriously, What Were You Thinking?, I sit down with Dion Jensen to discuss trauma, mental health, and the transformative power of nature and cultural connection. Dion shares his remarkable journey from a military and policing background through personal grief and transformation, offering profound insights into how energy, emotions, and healing are interconnected. Together, we explore the concept of "subconscious bodyguards" – the mechanisms that protect us from emotional pain – and how they can be reimagined to support healthier responses. We also discuss the stigma surrounding mental health, the complexities of trauma, and the importance of authentic relationships in recovery. This episode highlights the role of Maori cultural perspectives, nature, and practical tools for managing suicidal thoughts, with a focus on connection, love, and growth as the keys to overcoming life’s challenges. Key Takeaways Dion’s unique perspective: His military and policing background informs his understanding of trauma and grief. Trauma as energy overload: Emotions are “energy in motion” and must be processed. The healing power of nature: Time spent outdoors fosters peace and clarity. Cultural identity and connection: These are crucial to mental health and resilience. Authenticity matters: Genuine relationships are essential for recovery. Stigma hinders healing: Breaking down barriers enables open, honest conversations. No comparison in trauma: Everyone’s experience is personal; there’s no “trauma Olympics.” Rest is critical: Healing cannot happen in the midst of a crisis. Love and connection are foundational: They are the heart of recovery and growth. Hope must be actionable: It drives meaningful change when paired with a plan. Sound Bites “Your story is fascinating.” “The army becomes your family.” “Nature is so important to us.” “Emotions are just energy in motion.” “Trauma is an overload of energy.” “We don’t play trauma Olympics here.” “The relationship is the key to healing.” “You can’t heal in crisis.” “Hope without a plan is a wish.” Chapters 00:00 – Introduction and Cosmic Connections Setting the stage for a transformative conversation. 02:54 – Dion's Journey and Military Background Insights from Dion’s military and policing career. 05:50 – Cultural Connections and Nature’s Role How Maori culture and nature play a role in healing. 08:48 – Understanding Trauma and Energy The relationship between trauma and emotional energy. 12:09 – The Impact of Trauma on Life How trauma uniquely affects each person. 15:02 – Navigating Grief and Support Systems Dion’s personal experience with grief and the power of connection. 17:53 – The Stigma of Mental Health and Suicide Breaking down barriers to open conversations. 21:10 – Experiences in Policing and Trauma Lessons in resilience from Dion’s policing career. 23:57 – The Power of the Mind and Coping Mechanisms Exploring subconscious protective mechanisms. 27:11 – Authenticity and Connection in Healing The necessity of trust and genuine relationships. 32:16 – Facing Claustrophobia: A Personal Journey Pete shares a personal struggle with trauma and its impact. 35:38 – Understanding Subconscious Bodyguards Reframing subconscious protective responses. 38:30 – Navigating Trauma and Emotional Responses Practical approaches to building resilience. 41:57 – The Importance of Rest and Reflection Why rest is essential for recovery. 44:12 – Transforming Subconscious Bodyguards Using these mechanisms as a source of strength. 49:19 – The Role of Love and Connection in Healing How connection drives recovery. 52:43 – Understanding Suicidal Thoughts The importance of actionable hope. 58:49 – Using Personal Experience to Serve Others Turning personal struggles into empowerment for others. Call to Action This conversation is a vital resource for anyone navigating trauma or supporting others in their healing journey. Please share this episode with someone who may benefit from Dion’s incredible story. Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and explore Dion’s work for more practical tools on mental health and healing. Special Thanks A heartfelt thank you to Dion Jensen for his courage and wisdom, reminding us of the importance of connection, love, and finding strength in vulnerability.

Finding Meaning in Grief: Lessons from Life’s Challenges Episode Summary In this deeply moving episode of Seriously, What Were You Thinking?, I sit down with a remarkable guest to explore the profound impact of grief, resilience, and finding meaning amidst life’s adversities. Together, we discuss the raw realities of losing a loved one, the discomfort society often has with grief, and the transformative power of facing life’s most difficult moments directly. We reflect on lessons from a young daughter’s life and legacy, the importance of staying authentic in the face of hardship, and how nature, humour, and community can help us navigate grief. This conversation invites listeners to embrace grief as a process rather than avoiding it, finding hope and strength in life’s small, beautiful moments – like the sunrise after a dark night. Key Takeaways Grief transforms us: It deepens our perspective and brings new meaning to life. Language is crucial: Open, clear conversations about death make processing grief healthier. Celebrate loved ones: Speaking their names honours their memory. Nature heals: Spending time outdoors offers peace and grounding in difficult times. Be authentic: Stay true to yourself, no matter the circumstances. Resilience can be learned: Tools like humour, mindfulness, and community support ease challenges. Grief doesn’t disappear: It evolves over time but remains part of who we are. Legacy is powerful: Turning grief into purposeful action brings hope. Sound Bites “Grief never goes away, but it becomes part of who you are.” “Speak their names. We want to remember them, not silence them.” “Nature brings peace – it’s alive, and it heals us.” “Life’s preciousness comes from its finiteness.” “When you can’t fix the pain, just be present with someone.” Chapters 00:00 – Introduction A warm welcome and gratitude for this meaningful conversation. 03:42 – The Complexity of Grief Exploring why grief is so challenging and society’s struggles with it. 08:15 – Honouring Life and Death The lessons a young life can teach about resilience and living fully. 15:32 – The Role of Language in Grief Why clear and direct language is vital when discussing death, especially with children. 20:48 – The Healing Power of Nature How nature provides solace and grounding amidst life’s chaos. 28:10 – Humour and Resilience Using humour as a tool to cope with overwhelming loss. 35:45 – The Evolution of Grief Over Time How grief changes with time but remains a chronic condition with moments of joy. 42:33 – Building a Legacy Through Action Turning personal tragedy into purposeful action, including founding a charity. 49:20 – Finding Peace and Contentment The importance of authenticity and staying true to oneself. 54:05 – Final Reflections and Invitation Encouraging community, authenticity, and the power of sharing stories. Call to Action This episode is a heartfelt reminder of the strength of the human spirit and the importance of finding meaning, even in life’s toughest moments. Please share this episode with anyone who may need inspiration or support. Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and visit Kenzie’s Gift to learn more about supporting families facing grief and serious illness. Special Note A heartfelt thank you to our guest for sharing their story, reminding us all to live authentically, embrace life’s beauty, and discover meaning even in the hardest times.

In this engaging episode, Pete Cohen and his guest explore transformative ideas surrounding capitalism, personal growth, and the profound connections between business, community, and self-development. They delve into how grief can provide perspective and shift motivations in both life and business, reimagining capitalism as a means to improve lives rather than solely generate profit. Key topics include sustainability, the power of community, the role of food in societal change, and how businesses can address systemic challenges. The conversation also examines the interplay between the ego and true self, presenting mindfulness practices like martial arts as tools for personal and organizational growth. Themes such as mindful leadership, stress management, and spirituality are highlighted as crucial for transforming both individual lives and larger systems. Key Takeaways Capitalism's true purpose: to enhance lives, not just generate profits. Grief can provide profound perspective and fuel meaningful growth. Businesses should focus on sustainability and community impact. Intentional, values-driven practices create resilient organizations. Food can connect people and drive societal change. Understanding the ego and true self is essential for authentic leadership. Martial arts like Wing Chun promote mindfulness and personal development. Mindful leadership can transform ego-driven organizational cultures. Stress management and spirituality are key to health and productivity. Sound Bites "Grief has added more depth to me." "We are not just a fast food operation." "The ego self is what drives us to fears." Chapters 00:00 - Introduction and Personal Connections Pete Cohen introduces the guest and sets the stage for the discussion. 02:17 - The Purpose of Capitalism Reframing capitalism as a means to improve lives. 06:12 - Historical Perspectives and Personal Insights How historical and personal contexts shape our understanding of community and business. 11:20 - The Impact of Grief on Personal Growth Using grief to deepen purpose and approach to leadership. 26:01 - Creating a Business with Love and Purpose Integrating meaningful connections and values into business operations. 38:44 - The Birth of Leon: A Vision for Good Fast Food The inspiration behind Leon and its mission to serve food with love. 44:02 - Purpose vs. Vision: Leon's Core Mission Exploring the values driving Leon’s success. 48:48 - Resilience in Crisis: Leon's COVID-19 Response How Leon adapted to the challenges of the pandemic. 56:08 - School Food Reform: Insights from the Ground Addressing systemic issues in school food programs. 01:01:55 - The True Self: Balancing Ego and Authenticity The interplay between ego and authentic leadership. 01:10:07 - Transforming Organizations: From Fear to Love The role of mindful leadership in reshaping organizational culture. 01:18:50 - The Influence of Wing Chun on Business Practices Applying martial arts principles to leadership and decision-making. 01:21:32 - Navigating Skepticism and Embracing New Ideas Overcoming resistance to change in organizations. 01:24:05 - The Philosophy of Relaxation and Mindfulness Using Wing Chun to cultivate presence and resilience. 01:31:38 - Understanding Stress and Its Impact on Health The importance of stress management in disease prevention. 01:38:00 - Spirituality: Beyond Ego and Ritual Exploring spirituality as a path to deeper connection and flow. 01:49:23 - Practical Steps Towards a More Allowing Life Actionable advice on aligning with purpose and presence. Call to Action Join us for this insightful conversation that challenges conventional ideas about business and personal growth. Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who values mindful leadership and meaningful change! Contact Information To connect with John Vincent, visit his LinkedIn profile.

Living With Intentions: Design Your Best Life Finding Clarity and Purpose Through Intentional Living Episode Overview In this reflective and heartfelt episode, Pete Cohen takes a walk in nature and explores profound questions about life, purpose, and intentionality. Sharing personal stories, observations, and insights, Pete invites listeners to pause and consider: How are you thinking and feeling? What kind of life do you truly want? What is the "fruit" only you can bear for the world? Pete discusses the impact of our thinking patterns, societal challenges like anxiety and distraction, and how intentional living can lead to clarity and transformation. He introduces his free mini-course, Living With Intentions: Design Your Best Life, which is designed to help people identify what truly matters and take meaningful steps toward their goals. Key Takeaways: The Power of Intentionality Intentions are the foundation of growth and change. Life is about expressing and bearing fruit for others. Questions to Reflect On How are you thinking and feeling right now? What matters most to you in life? What unique contribution are you here to make? Overcoming Obstacles The obstacle is not in the way; it is the way. Challenges are opportunities for growth and self-discovery. Insights on Thinking and Focus Harness intentional thought to create a meaningful future. Shift from reactive, past-driven thinking to forward-facing navigation. Living With Intentions Framework Pete outlines his INTENTIONS method, guiding listeners through steps like: Identify where you are. Navigate with clarity. Think with intention. Explore possibilities. Success through progress. Special Invitation Pete shares details about his free course, Living With Intentions: Design Your Best Life. It’s a short, accessible program designed to help you: Audit your current life situation. Gain clarity on what you want. Take actionable steps toward intentional living. Resources Mentioned: Free Course: https://petecohen.com/intentions Connect with Pete: Stay updated on events, programs, and future podcasts by subscribing to the newsletter at petecohen.com. Final Thoughts Pete reminds us that life is fragile, and the greatest gift we can give is to live intentionally. He invites listeners to consider their “onlyness” and the unique contributions they can make to the world. If this episode resonated with you, share your thoughts with Pete or join the conversation on social media. Let’s inspire each other to design our best lives! Next Episode Teaser: We’ll explore the importance of vision and how to build a compelling future that pulls you forward. Subscribe, Rate, and Review! Don't miss out on future episodes. Subscribe to Living With Intentions on your favourite podcast platform, and leave a review to help others discover the show.

"You cannot swim for new horizons until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore." - William Faulkner What is the gap in your life that stops you from going from who you are right now to who you want to become? I'm no stranger to traumas. I've dealt with tragedies my entire life. But beyond the seas of sad personal stories, I want you to understand that being intentional also needs hope. You are the story that you create. What do you want to tell the world? In this episode, listen as I talk about how to live with hope and combat being stuck with where you are by being intentional. Highlights: ✅ If you do not identify with the person you need to be, you won't be able to achieve things. ✅ You are either growing or dying. You have to know that you are meant to grow. You are meant to live and not just merely exist. Fill the gap to reach who you want to become. Some important stories in the episode: ✍🏼 (7:05) Recalling my experience of how traumatic it was to deal with cancer. ✍🏼 (19:50) Reflecting on George Harrison's song, Got My Mind Set On You ✍🏼 (31:39) Reflecting on Abraham Maslow's book, Future Visions. 🟩🛑🟩🛑🟩🛑🟩🛑 Do you feel that you are not in control of your life? Are you ready to live to your fullest potential? You can take back control of your life. Join the Mi365's Start One Stop One Challenge now. You're going to get seven masterclasses plus a whole load of extras: 1. Who + Why + How = Success 2. Roles and Goals 3. Accountability Mastery 4. Habits 101 5. Maximise Responsibility 6. Thinking Your Way To Success 7. Grit And Resilience I'm excited to help you be the person you want to become. Click here to join! 👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼 Start One 🟩 Stop One 🛑 Challenge Excited to hear your thoughts about this episode. ------------------------------------------------- I help everyday people achieve their goals & dreams! Helping and coaching people in my expertise. And it is VERY satisfying to change people's lives so they improve and change their health, finances, relationships, confidence, and mindset. Connect With Me! Come join our free Pete Cohen Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/223961357935535/ Follow me on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/petecohen_/ About Pete Cohen: Pete Cohen is one of the world's leading life coaches and keynote speakers. Hundreds of thousands of people from all over the world have been motivated and inspired by Pete's presentations. He has professionally impacted the lives of thousands of people worldwide, including business executives, professional athletes, and everyday people. Pete focuses on the importance of closing the gap in our lives between where we are and where we want to be, both personally and professionally. It's then all about coaching you to remove the obstacles that are in your way and helping you install the habits of success. Pete is the author of 20 published books, several of which have been best-sellers across the world, including Shut the Duck Up, Habit Busting, Life DIY, and Sort Your Life Out. He has also presented his own show on TV called The Coach and was the resident Life Coach on GMTV for 12 years.

Just whose rules are you playing by? In podcast three, we take a closer look. Humans are born very dependent on others. We are so for a few years until we learn to develop on our own, till we develop independence. That independence stems from a want for our ‘need’ of things to be met. We as humans need to have certain needs met every day, the main six are, the need for certainty, what can we be sure will happen, and when? We need uncertainty too, no one wants to have their life plan handed to them in a script. Connection to others and love is what fills us up, we also thrive on a sense of growth within ourselves as individuals, then we feel we can contribute to others and society. But, in order to make sure these needs are met, people may fulfill them in negative or neutral ways. Unfortunately, most people would give up on their hopes and dreams, just to get their needs met. Most people stick to the familiar. They play it safe and coast along, but just think if you stepped it up and pushed yourself, even a little every day, you could achieve so much more and go on to thrive and flourish. The greatest joy is a sense of fulfillment, but this is not often found in the superficial places people are looking. People are often much more concerned with other opinions of them, rather than their view on themself. When you think of your life can you identify the virtues by which you live? Can you identify your vices too? Which unfortunately work against you most of the time. People say, “Oh yeah I love surprises!”. No, you don’t, you like the ones you want, no one likes the bad ones. Now is time to do a life audit and look at the areas in which you can improve this ‘need’ process. When we were young, we were filled with a sense of excitement for something we were looking forward to; be it a birthday, school holidays, even a visit to the park, but as we get older it becomes harder to recreate this feeling. We need to look at the distractions that are pulling us away from being our best, spend some time thinking about ‘onlyness’ by this I mean what is it that you do that only you can do? -- You can take advantage of our new exclusive free training; "How to get ahead, build long-lasting confidence and stay productive in four simple steps” This reveals; Why most people never build true long-lasting confidence and never get to live a happy, healthy life The exact strategy productive people use to become a master of their own time The tools you NEED to create YOUR BEST YEAR EVER https://coaching.mi365.me/workshop All our podcasts are available at: https://petecohen.com/podcast/ I help everyday people achieve their goals & dreams! Helping and coaching people in my expertise. It is VERY satisfying to change people’s lives so they improve and change their health, finances, relationships, confidence, and mindset. Connect With Me! Come and join our free Pete Cohen Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/223961357935535/ Follow me on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/petecohen_/ About Pete Cohen: Pete Cohen is one of the world’s leading life coaches and keynote speakers. Hundreds of thousands of people from all over the world have been motivated and inspired by Pete’s presentations. He has professionally impacted the lives of thousands of people worldwide, including business executives, professional athletes, and everyday people. Pete focuses on the importance of closing the gap in our lives between where we are and where we want to be, both personally and professionally. It’s then all about coaching you to remove the obstacles that are in your way and helping you install the habits of success. Pete is the author of 19 published books, several of which have been best-sellers across the world, including Shut the Duck Up, Habit Busting, Life DIY, and Sort Your Life Out. He has also presented his own show on TV called The Coach and was the resident Life Coach on GMTV for 12 years. His new book Inspirators - Leading The Way In Leadership is available for free here - https://book.petecohen.com/ *** Check out my brand new 30 Day Kick Start Challenge In just 30 days, I will show you the Exact "Step By Step" Method to redesign your life like the top 1%. Feel extraordinary and take hold of life's boundless opportunities Mi365 30-Day Kick Start Your Life Let me guide, coach, and support you. Just give me 30 days and I'll give you the exact step-by-step method for getting you on your A-game and staying there for 365 days! Every day you'll have access to a new training session, introducing you to a new idea or concept. By investing the time each day, the programme will build over the 30 days to put you in a powerful place in your life.