In this episode of My Autistic Diary, Jeremy Rochford challenges the idea that emotional intelligence in autistic families is something you either “have” or “don’t.” Instead, he shows how emotional intelligence is built through understanding, regulation, and understanding what the situation needs—not pressure to change who you are. Drawing from real moments in parenting and marriage, Jeremy exposes why so many outdated parenting models miss the mark in neurodiverse homes and what actually helps when emotions run high and expectations collide.

From there, Jeremy pivots to discuss how most relationships don’t collapse in a single dramatic moment—rather, they slowly wear down through small, repeated ruptures: misunderstood tone, unmet expectations, unresolved tension, and the quiet accumulation of feeling unseen. This is where micro-healing becomes transformative. Instead of waiting for major breakthroughs or crisis-level conversations, micro-healing focuses on repairing small moments as they happen—naming a misunderstanding, softening a reaction, clarifying intent, or pausing to reset before distance takes root. Over time, these tiny acts of repair interrupt the “death by a thousand papercuts” and replace it with something steadier and safer. Micro-healing doesn’t just prevent damage; it gradually rebuilds trust, restores agency, and creates a rhythm of connection that makes real, sustainable closeness possible.

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Music for the show’s intro is provided (with permission) by Matt Langston & EleventySeven. You can check out their awesome stuff here - https://www.eleventysevenisalive.com/

Music for the show’s outro is provided (with permission) by Sean Rogers & Shineunder. The band doesn’t exist anymore, but Sean is still doing great work and can be found here - https://heyworldcreative.com/

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