In this episode,Kaytlyn Gilner hosts her friend Rachel, a financial expert and author, todiscuss the intersection of self-worth, red flags, healing from toxicrelationships, and rebuilding confidence. They share personal stories,practical tools, and insights to empower women in dating and relationships.

Key topics:

Recognizing andtrusting your intuition in dating

The importance offinancial independence in relationship boundaries

How to identify redflags vs. deal breakers

The role of therapy,journaling, and self-reflection in healing

Strategies forspeaking up and setting boundaries confidently

Common relationshippatterns and how to break them

The impact ofattachment styles on relationship dynamics

How to protect yourpeace and prioritize your well-being

Practical tips forself-trust, self-love, and healing

Timestamps:

00:00 - Recognizingthe moment of self-abandonment in relationships

01:56 - IntroducingRachel's background and new book project on dating red flags

03:38 - Rachelshares her journey through divorce and therapy

04:45 - The storybehind her motivation to write about red flags and healing

05:53 - Howfinancial independence influences relationship choices

07:22 - Examples ofred flags and overlooked early warning signs

08:58 - Overcomingred flag patterns and ignoring warning signs

10:46 - Theimportance of partner support and loyalty in relationships

11:33 - How therapyhelped uncover early red flags and patterns

12:23 - Rachel’sexperience with trust violations and self-awareness

14:03 - Manipulativebehaviors and red flags to watch for

15:37 - Thesignificance of accountability in red flags

16:58 - The momentRachel realized she couldn't stay in her marriage

17:39 - The power oftherapy and journaling for clarity and closure

20:44 - Usingjournal entries as evidence to understand recurring patterns

23:29 - Theimportance of environment when addressing mental health symptoms

24:47 - Intentionalshifts in dating and building confidence

27:09 - Thetransformative power of speaking up for oneself

28:34 - Theimportance of setting boundaries and trusting yourself

31:31 - Listening toyour intuition and protecting your peace

32:43 - Reframingattachment style triggers and healing in relationships

35:54 - The value ofpausing and trusting your feelings

44:40 - Embracingimperfect healing and ongoing growth in love

45:29 - Funexercise: Identifying red flags and green flags in potential partners

50:32 - Clarifyingwhat constitutes a red flag versus a deal breaker

52:30 - Thecomplexities of ex-relationships and how they relate to red flags

55:54 - Practicaladvice for dating with awareness and confidence

56:25 - Connectingwith Rachel and upcoming projects

Resources &Links:

Passive IncomeAggressive Retirement

Self-Love Workbookfor Women

Justin Magaluski& Lisa Welling research on narcissism & exes (search for relatedstudies)

Psychology Today

Connect with Rachel:

Website: Money HoneyRachel

Twitter

Remember, trustingyour feelings, setting boundaries, and investing in your self-worth are key tohealthy love. Practice self-trust daily and know that you deserve safe,respectful relationships.