Have you ever looked back on a relationship and wondered:

"Why didn't I trust myself?"

In this episode of Not So Dumb Blonde, Kaytlyn Gilner, M.A., MSW Candidate, explores one of the most powerful skills from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT): Wise Mind.

If you've ever struggled with relationship anxiety, overthinking, emotional reactivity, anxious attachment, trauma responses, or trusting your own judgment in relationships, this episode is for you.

Many people believe they have to choose between following their emotions or ignoring them and focusing only on the facts. DBT teaches something different. Wise Mind is the integration of both emotion and logic, helping you make healthier relationship decisions without getting stuck in anxiety, black-and-white thinking, or impulsive reactions.

DBT Self Reset Series

Part 3: ⁠https://spotifycreators-web.app.link/e/XYJdjRgbA4b⁠

Part 2: ⁠https://spotifycreators-web.app.link/e/3809vSgbA4b⁠

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In this episode, you'll learn:

• The difference between Emotion Mind, Reasonable Mind, and Wise Mind
• Why black-and-white thinking can fuel relationship anxiety and emotional spirals
• How trauma impacts decision-making and emotional regulation
• Practical ways to access Wise Mind during difficult relationship situations
• How to stop overreacting without suppressing your emotions
• Real-life examples of using Wise Mind when dating and navigating relationship uncertainty

Whether you're healing from a breakup, working through attachment wounds, learning to regulate your emotions, or simply trying to build healthier relationships, this DBT skill can help you develop greater self-awareness, emotional balance, and self-trust.

Chapters:

00:00 Why We Ignore Red Flags in Relationships

01:05 What Is DBT Wise Mind?

02:15 Emotion Mind vs. Reasonable Mind

04:00 How Trauma Fuels Black-and-White Thinking

05:10 Relationship Example: Someone Cancels Plans Three Times

06:45 How to Access Wise Mind in Real Life

07:40 Anxiety or Red Flag? Learning to Trust Yourself

Key Takeaway:

Wise Mind isn't about choosing emotion over logic or logic over emotion. It's about learning to integrate both so you can respond effectively instead of reacting impulsively.

Resources:

🎁 Free Guide: Anxiety or Red Flag?
https://www.therapykay.com/freebie

Connect with Therapy Kay for more content on relationships, attachment styles, trauma recovery, emotional regulation, DBT skills, self-trust, and mental health.

Topics Covered:
DBT, Wise Mind, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Relationship Anxiety, Attachment Styles, Emotional Regulation, Self-Trust, Trauma Recovery, Healthy Relationships, Relationship Psychology, Dating, Mental Health, Personal Growth, Anxiety, Decision Making