Podcast
Not Well
Hosted by Bobby, Jim & Friends · EN
Bobby and Jim have been doing this for seven years and they're only getting worse. Gay life, American dysfunction, travel chaos, unhinged takes on the news, and conversations that start at foreskin philosophy and end at the collapse of civilization. May cause uncontrolled laughter, sarcasm, and existential dread. You've been warned.
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I just want to lay there and have someone else be like, 'I'm having fun.'"
Today00:50:59Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailAre we officially getting too old for this? In this wonderfully chaotic episode of Not Well, Bobby and Jim dive headfirst into the sheer exhaustion of aging out of the nightlife scene. Grab a Coke Zero and buckle up as the guys roast the absolute state of modern Pride month—lamenting how grassroots community celebrations have been tragically replaced by corporate banks tossing cheap beads from parade floats.From dissecting Gen Z's "grungy" aesthetic to surviving the physical toll of midnight clubbing, the boys are unapologetically embracing their limits and leaning into a life of avoiding discomfort at all costs. It’s a messy, fast-paced, and wildly unhinged conversation that goes off the rails in the best way possible.What we're getting into this week:Submarines in the Sky: Why flying is terrifying and why you have a nerve to fall asleep on a plane.Corporate Pride: We don't need to march with a banner for a bank. We're over it.The AI Trump Love Song: A terrifyingly catchy AI-generated track that we can't unhear.The Gen Z Grudge: Dissecting the grungy, mullet-and-jorts aesthetic of the youth.MAJOR ANNOUNCEMENT: A massive update on the future of the show—by episode 400, Not Well is packing up and broadcasting from an entirely different continent!Buckle in, it’s a wild ride. Let’s get loose!Support the showAs always you can write us at nowellpodcast@gmail.com or call us at (614) 721-5336 and tell us your Not Wells of the week InstagramTwitterBobby's Only FansHelp us continue to grow and create amazing content, like a live tour or just help fund some new headphones when needed. Any help is appreacited. https://www.buzzsprout.com/510487/subscribe#gaypodcast #podcast #gay #lgbtq #queerpodcast #lgbt #lgbtpodcast #lgbtqpodcast #gaypodcaster #queer#instagay #podcasts #podcasting #gaylife #pride #lesbian #bhfyp #gaycomedy #comedypodcast #comedy #nyc #614 #shesnotdoingsowell #wiltonmanor #notwell
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Your Pastor Loves You So Much, He Needs a Private Jet
3w ago01:00:32Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailThis week the boys open with a "loving" influencer explaining why we're all going to hell — and it only gets holier from there. Social media Christians who gay-bait on Snapchat, megachurch pastors who need a second jet, and why nobody is getting into Heaven Plus.Then Bobby reports live from Charlotte: a city full of 23-year-olds, an open bar (RIP), and a gay bar near the airport that sparked the most honest conversation about race we've ever had on this show. Plus a gas station encounter that proves travel actually changes you.And the main event: a full dramatic reading from the Book of Faggot — a Grindr message from a hookup 13 years ago with a suspiciously perfect memory, a top-three ranking (out of three), and the coldest "Got it." in recorded history.Also inside: the president is a farter, Pillion is unrealistic (Alexander Skarsgård is a 95, sorry), doctor's office anxiety is just hookup anxiety, why the gays bully the gays, and the moment we realized the days are already getting shorter.🗳️ VOTE: Chicago, Seattle, or New York for the August trip? Tell us or be quiet forever.Mentally Not Well. Physically Hot. 🛍️ Merch + everything: notwellpodcast.comSupport the showAs always you can write us at nowellpodcast@gmail.com or call us at (614) 721-5336 and tell us your Not Wells of the week InstagramTwitterBobby's Only FansHelp us continue to grow and create amazing content, like a live tour or just help fund some new headphones when needed. Any help is appreacited. https://www.buzzsprout.com/510487/subscribe#gaypodcast #podcast #gay #lgbtq #queerpodcast #lgbt #lgbtpodcast #lgbtqpodcast #gaypodcaster #queer#instagay #podcasts #podcasting #gaylife #pride #lesbian #bhfyp #gaycomedy #comedypodcast #comedy #nyc #614 #shesnotdoingsowell #wiltonmanor #notwell
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Grandma's Watching. Get Fucked?!
Jun 101:12:50Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailTo celebrate their milestone 300th episode, Bobby and Jim return to recap their recent separate vacations to two very different places named Naples. Bobby shares wild, chaotic stories from his trip to Italy—including navigating bullet trains, dealing with aggressive tour guides, visiting a gay nudist beach in Palermo, and surviving a sudden police raid at an underwear club in Rome. Meanwhile, Jim contrasts that with his ultra-conservative, deeply relaxing family trip to Naples, Florida, where a restaurant waiter hilariously mistakes him and his husband for brothers. The duo wraps up the milestone episode by ranting about international airport baggage customs, discussing their partners' intense road rage habits, and exposing the "fake facades" of dating app profile pictures.Support the showAs always you can write us at nowellpodcast@gmail.com or call us at (614) 721-5336 and tell us your Not Wells of the week InstagramTwitterBobby's Only FansHelp us continue to grow and create amazing content, like a live tour or just help fund some new headphones when needed. Any help is appreacited. https://www.buzzsprout.com/510487/subscribe#gaypodcast #podcast #gay #lgbtq #queerpodcast #lgbt #lgbtpodcast #lgbtqpodcast #gaypodcaster #queer#instagay #podcasts #podcasting #gaylife #pride #lesbian #bhfyp #gaycomedy #comedypodcast #comedy #nyc #614 #shesnotdoingsowell #wiltonmanor #notwell
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Most Pretty Dicks Are On Ugly Faces
Apr 3000:57:18Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailEpisode 299 of Not Well Podcast is complete disorder.This week Bobby and Jim discuss drinking out of the sink, gay nightlife chaos, furry encounters, hookup apps, Italy travel plans, weird kinks, hot people problems, armpit attraction science, toxic cookware paranoia, seat-switching airplane drama, and why some people stir coffee for far too long.Comedy, zero filter, questionable logic, and premium nonsense.Subscribe, rate, review, and send in your own “Not Well” stories.Support the showAs always you can write us at nowellpodcast@gmail.com or call us at (614) 721-5336 and tell us your Not Wells of the week InstagramTwitterBobby's Only FansHelp us continue to grow and create amazing content, like a live tour or just help fund some new headphones when needed. Any help is appreacited. https://www.buzzsprout.com/510487/subscribe#gaypodcast #podcast #gay #lgbtq #queerpodcast #lgbt #lgbtpodcast #lgbtqpodcast #gaypodcaster #queer#instagay #podcasts #podcasting #gaylife #pride #lesbian #bhfyp #gaycomedy #comedypodcast #comedy #nyc #614 #shesnotdoingsowell #wiltonmanor #notwell
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Wait… You Can’t Botox Your Knees?
Apr 2300:55:22Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailEpisode 298 of Not Well Podcast is chaos in its purest form.This week Bobby and Jim spiral through aging panic, weird beauty standards, Botox limits, golf bros, gay bar behavior, bald head hotness, awkward encounters, body image, nightlife nonsense, and the random observations nobody else is brave enough to say out loud.Sharp humor, zero filter, and two hosts trying to stay semi-functional.Subscribe, leave a review, and send in your own “Not Well” stories.Support the showAs always you can write us at nowellpodcast@gmail.com or call us at (614) 721-5336 and tell us your Not Wells of the week InstagramTwitterBobby's Only FansHelp us continue to grow and create amazing content, like a live tour or just help fund some new headphones when needed. Any help is appreacited. https://www.buzzsprout.com/510487/subscribe#gaypodcast #podcast #gay #lgbtq #queerpodcast #lgbt #lgbtpodcast #lgbtqpodcast #gaypodcaster #queer#instagay #podcasts #podcasting #gaylife #pride #lesbian #bhfyp #gaycomedy #comedypodcast #comedy #nyc #614 #shesnotdoingsowell #wiltonmanor #notwell
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Wait, You Don't Trim an Abandoned Lawn?
Apr 1701:05:49Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailThis week on Not Well, Bobby and Jim spiral beautifully through a night out that started with cheap margaritas and ended somewhere between gay bar chaos, moon conspiracies, death talk, body shame trauma, and the collapse of modern society.We cover: A wild night at Lupitas and Columbus bars Meeting a hot casket salesman Why American car culture is broken Weird truths about body odor and shame Going around the moon… again? Trump, distractions, and the state of the world Kink culture, sensory deprivation, and Claw weekend Why gay men drinking wine at dive bars feels suspicious Friendship, loneliness, attention-seeking, and social media weirdness The usual emotionally unstable nonsense If you like sharp humor, gay chaos, conspiracy tangents, social commentary, and two friends saying what everyone else is thinking… welcome home.🎧 New episodes weekly. 📍Based in Columbus, Ohio. 💚 Follow, rate, review, and tell one unstable friend.Support the showAs always you can write us at nowellpodcast@gmail.com or call us at (614) 721-5336 and tell us your Not Wells of the week InstagramTwitterBobby's Only FansHelp us continue to grow and create amazing content, like a live tour or just help fund some new headphones when needed. Any help is appreacited. https://www.buzzsprout.com/510487/subscribe#gaypodcast #podcast #gay #lgbtq #queerpodcast #lgbt #lgbtpodcast #lgbtqpodcast #gaypodcaster #queer#instagay #podcasts #podcasting #gaylife #pride #lesbian #bhfyp #gaycomedy #comedypodcast #comedy #nyc #614 #shesnotdoingsowell #wiltonmanor #notwell
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I Just Realized That I'm Not Even Really Taking the Medication the Way I Should Be
Apr 301:08:11Tap to summarizeSend us Fan Mail We finally made it to Dallas, and let’s just say the Big D stood for more than just the city name. In this episode, we’re peeling back the foil on our own incompetence—specifically how we’ve been winging our medical prescriptions while trying to maintain a 10/10 aesthetic. We’re diving into the "Modern Grime" of our travel habits, from the "Cornhole Lesbians" of Texas to the absolute panic of a self-driving car that almost ended it all before we even reached the hotel. It’s honest, it’s messy, and it’s the definitive proof that we are "Not Well." The Top 10 Chaotic TakeawaysThe Dosage Disaster: Realizing you’ve been taking a fraction of the intended dose for months while wondering why you hit a weight loss plateau.Dallas vs. The World: Surviving a trip to Texas that included questionable navigation and even more questionable life choices.The Self-Driving Death Trap: A harrowing encounter with a Tesla that decided a 90-degree horizontal turn in construction was "the vibe."Cornhole Lesbians: Being validated by the most unexpected demographic in a Dallas bar and immediately feeling "pretty."The "Hotspot" Shower: Redefining hygiene as a tactical strike on specific body parts when time (and energy) is running low.Medical Non-Compliance as Art: Treating prescription instructions like the "Terms and Conditions" page—just scrolling to the bottom and clicking "agree."The 3 AM Alfredo Pipeline: The inevitable journey from a night out to a bowl of pasta that you definitely didn't need but absolutely deserved.Lanyard Loathing: A deep-seated hatred for conference lanyards and the "dorky" energy they bring to an otherwise high-fashion aesthetic.The Korean Spa Revelation: Navigating the vulnerability of a spa day while trying to maintain the "Hot but Chaotic" hierarchy.Rebranding the Mess: Launching a new, professional logo while simultaneously admitting your life is currently a beautiful, grainy, indie-film disaster.Support the showAs always you can write us at nowellpodcast@gmail.com or call us at (614) 721-5336 and tell us your Not Wells of the week InstagramTwitterBobby's Only FansHelp us continue to grow and create amazing content, like a live tour or just help fund some new headphones when needed. Any help is appreacited. https://www.buzzsprout.com/510487/subscribe#gaypodcast #podcast #gay #lgbtq #queerpodcast #lgbt #lgbtpodcast #lgbtqpodcast #gaypodcaster #queer#instagay #podcasts #podcasting #gaylife #pride #lesbian #bhfyp #gaycomedy #comedypodcast #comedy #nyc #614 #shesnotdoingsowell #wiltonmanor #notwell
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The Gooner Algorithm: Squeezing the Sac and Thick Bands
Mar 600:54:11Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailIn this unfiltered catch-up, Bobby and Jim dive into a chaotic month of travel, awkward social encounters, and the strangest corners of the internet. From the "scenes" in Puerto Vallarta and Cleveland to the frustrations of being blocked on dating apps in Columbus, no topic is off-limits.We explore the "profound" world of energy work and chakras after a life-altering massage, share our anxieties about aging and health, and somehow end up deep in the rabbit hole of Reborn Dolls and Gooning subcultures. Plus, we discuss why "prices are down" at Costco and critique the latest in A24-style cinema.[00:00] Travel Recaps: New York, Atlanta, and Puerto Vallarta[12:15] Dating App Disasters: Why am I getting blocked?[24:30] Cinema & Pop Culture: Taylor Swift, Charli XCX, and "The Moment"[38:45] Wellness & Energy: The Chakra-Opening Massage[52:20] Aging Anxieties: Physical health and the fear of the unknown[1:05:10] Internet Subcultures: Exploring the world of Reborn Dolls[1:18:40] The Gooner Algorithm & "Bating" CultureSupport the showAs always you can write us at nowellpodcast@gmail.com or call us at (614) 721-5336 and tell us your Not Wells of the week InstagramTwitterBobby's Only FansHelp us continue to grow and create amazing content, like a live tour or just help fund some new headphones when needed. Any help is appreacited. https://www.buzzsprout.com/510487/subscribe#gaypodcast #podcast #gay #lgbtq #queerpodcast #lgbt #lgbtpodcast #lgbtqpodcast #gaypodcaster #queer#instagay #podcasts #podcasting #gaylife #pride #lesbian #bhfyp #gaycomedy #comedypodcast #comedy #nyc #614 #shesnotdoingsowell #wiltonmanor #notwell
Transcribe →You got so much attention when you were fatter... Now we walk in and we're just old
Feb 501:00:19Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailThis episode of "Not Well" is a brutally honest, stream-of-consciousness conversation about navigating gay life in your 30s with all its contradictions and anxieties. The hosts dive deep into the psychological aftermath of major weight loss, discussing how losing 65-70 pounds has paradoxically made one of them feel less attractive in gay spaces—getting way more attention as a bigger bear than as a slimmer guy. They question whether it's the weight, aging, or just a combination of everything that's changed the dynamic when walking into bars.The conversation spirals through modern absurdities: how delusional confidence seems to be the key to success (citing the Hawk Tuah girl making $15 million), generational differences in handling internet fame, and why their generation can't just embrace the chaos like younger people do. They touch on practical frustrations like airplane etiquette—specifically calling out first-class passengers who put backpacks in overhead bins—and the hilarious reality that TSA agents will move weed gummies aside to check electronics.The episode gets vulnerable discussing body dysmorphia, balding, potential thyroid issues, and the complex relationship with hookup culture. One host reveals he actually needs emotional connection before sex and hates the idea of planned "sex dates," despite being perfectly fine with spontaneous bathroom encounters or random basement hookups. It's a fascinating contradiction that speaks to the difference between performative sexuality and genuine desire.Throughout, there's constant self-awareness about their modest podcast success (hundreds of listeners, not thousands), frustration with social media narcissism, and the ongoing struggle to stay motivated during cold weather. The tone is profane, self-deprecating, and refreshingly authentic—two friends processing their lives out loud without filter.Support the showAs always you can write us at nowellpodcast@gmail.com or call us at (614) 721-5336 and tell us your Not Wells of the week InstagramTwitterBobby's Only FansHelp us continue to grow and create amazing content, like a live tour or just help fund some new headphones when needed. Any help is appreacited. https://www.buzzsprout.com/510487/subscribe#gaypodcast #podcast #gay #lgbtq #queerpodcast #lgbt #lgbtpodcast #lgbtqpodcast #gaypodcaster #queer#instagay #podcasts #podcasting #gaylife #pride #lesbian #bhfyp #gaycomedy #comedypodcast #comedy #nyc #614 #shesnotdoingsowell #wiltonmanor #notwell
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You Cannot Send a Silicone Torso Sex Toy to Your Mother’s House.
Jan 2200:51:44Tap to summarizeSend us Fan MailThis episode starts where all good family stories end: with a silicone torso sex toy accidentally delivered to a mother’s house.From there, Bobby and Jim spiral through modern shame, bad decisions, creative vulnerability, and the unspoken rules everyone knows but nobody says out loud. They talk about incoherent politics, Irish gin, finishing a deeply personal short film, aging out of nightlife, and why “discreet” hookups are never discreet.Along the way: • a horrifying holiday package mix-up • the psychological damage of Amazon Prime • why bars feel younger, emptier, and louder • the fear of being seen when the camera turns on you • and the hard truth that some packages should never be openedIt’s uncomfortable. It’s funny. It’s too honest. In other words: Not Well.Support the showAs always you can write us at nowellpodcast@gmail.com or call us at (614) 721-5336 and tell us your Not Wells of the week InstagramTwitterBobby's Only FansHelp us continue to grow and create amazing content, like a live tour or just help fund some new headphones when needed. Any help is appreacited. https://www.buzzsprout.com/510487/subscribe#gaypodcast #podcast #gay #lgbtq #queerpodcast #lgbt #lgbtpodcast #lgbtqpodcast #gaypodcaster #queer#instagay #podcasts #podcasting #gaylife #pride #lesbian #bhfyp #gaycomedy #comedypodcast #comedy #nyc #614 #shesnotdoingsowell #wiltonmanor #notwell
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