We've all heard it: "When's the last time you two went on a date?" Like date nights are the magic fix for a marriage that feels stuck. In this episode, we push back on that, and we get real about what actually moves the needle.

We talk about why date nights became the default advice for every marriage problem, why they can even backfire if the deeper stuff isn't being addressed, and what we've found actually strengthens our marriage on a weekly basis... no babysitter or budget required.

In this episode:

Why we don't think date nights are a real gauge of marriage health
How date nights can actually amplify problems instead of fixing them
The real (and often unspoken) costs of relying on date nights: time, money, childcare
What date nights can't solve: communication gaps, resentment, mismatched expectations, spiritual disconnect
Why small, consistent habits beat grand gestures every time
The weekly marriage meeting that's shaped our marriage more than anything else

Resources & mentions:

Our recent episode on pursuing spiritual disciplines in marriage
Our monthly marriage challenge emails
Our upcoming app with daily connection challenges

One-degree shift: Start a weekly marriage meeting: even 20 minutes on a Sunday night to talk through highs, lows, faith, finances, and intimacy. It won't cost you anything, and it'll do more for your marriage than any date night could.

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