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Q4Q: Queer Personals Podcast
Hosted by Haley Steinhilber · EN
Let's get personal! Since the dawn of time, humans have been desperate for connection. Then we realized we could solicit strangers through the Sunday paper. You’ve heard of Craigslist personals, just imagine the pining and thirst from lonely queers searching for love. Listen as we read and rate personal ads from the ‘70s through 2000s! If you love gay yearning, you’ll love Q4Q! Be on the show: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSc8dOqRD6JF00L1fzyu8kXbBM58Z19ZlOs1aGeRv1usobmIDg/viewform
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A "Unique and Wonderful Evening" in Baltimore
Jun 3, 202500:56:24Tap to summarizeWelcome back to Q4Q! In this episode, local Maryland historian and librarian, Ben Egerman, steps behind the mic to flip through the pages of Charm City’s historic gay papers. Listen as we weave through a glimpse of Baltimore’s LGBTQ+ history—where you can dance the night away at The Hippo, enjoy a “unique and wonderful evening” in Fells Point, and play cards with a guilt-ridden pinochle player. You won’t be disappointed!Find Ben on Instagram @mdhistory.gay, and learn a little bit about Maryland’s queer history in cheeky little zines. And if you want to meet this celeb in person, join us Thursday, June 5th, at 7PM in ClubCar for the next release party. All proceeds go to the Trans Rights Advocacy Coalition @transrightsmd. Sources: HistoryPinHistory Pin - LGBTQ+ MarylandBaltimore’s LGBTQ Heritage websiteHalf a Century Ago, The Hippo Became a Haven for the Local LGBTQ CommunityClub Hippo | Explore Baltimore HeritageAll You Need to Know About Penis Piercings: A Complete GuideBaltimore Gay paper, June 15, 1990 We read Ads from: Baltimore Gay Paper - 4 Nov 1988Baltimore Gay Paper - 5 May 1989Baltimore Gay Paper - 15 Sept 1989Baltimore Gay paper - 15 June 1990 Baltimore Alternative - Nov 1990 (Ben’s find)Baltimore Gay Paper - 2 Feb 1990 (Ben’s find)Poem- Baltimore Gay Paper - May 1987Send a textSupport the show
Transcribe →Valentine's Day, Q4Q's Way
Feb 14, 202500:38:43Tap to summarizeHey folks! I'm coming out of the woodwork to wish you a Happy Valentine's Day to all who celebrate. Not only is this a special episode drop, but it's a redo of a previous Valentine's extravaganza with a new twist.Listen and rate us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Find a copy of the adult coloring book, Queer Seeking Queer: A Colorful History at Women & Children First bookshop in Chicago, or order from them online! You can also find it on bookshop.org and Amazon (leave a review if you can!)Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Queerpersonalspodcast.Cover art by Bekah Rich. Music by Kaz Zabala.Send a textSupport the show
Transcribe →A Colorful History with Dan & Alexis
Jun 13, 202401:02:44Tap to summarizeSurprise! We’re back with a new collaborative project– Queer Seeking Queer: A Colorful History. Haley joined forces with Dan of @longlostpersonals and Alexis @Alexis_aquarian to create this cheeky, kinky, one-of-a-kind coloring book featuring personal ads from LGBTQ+ newspapers from the 1920s to 1990s. In this episode, Dan, Alexis, and Haley talk about the long journey to create the book, where you can find it, and swipe left or right on some of the ads within! You can find your copy of Queer Seeking Queer: A Colorful History at Women & Children First bookshop in Chicago, or order from them online! You can also find it on bookshop.org and Amazon (leave a review if you can!)Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Queerpersonalspodcast.Cover art by Bekah Rich. Music by Kaz Zabala.Send a textSupport the show
Transcribe →Itty Bitty Ads
Feb 15, 202400:32:35Tap to summarizeWelcome to a truly itty bitty episode with guest host, Gabriel—founder, creator, and archivist for @Itty_Bitty_Queer_History. In this episode, Haley takes a page out of Gabriel’s teeny tiny books to pursue some short & sweet personal ads. These authors are very concise yet have a diverse set of needs—from bowling buddies to sugar daddies, water sports to paranormal experiences. You should probably leave them a voicemail to learn more. Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Queerpersonalspodcast.Cover art by Bekah Rich. Music by Kaz Zabala.Sources:The New Works (Indianapolis, IN) - April 1987BLK (Los Angeles, CA)- April 1990BLK (Los Angeles, CA) - January 1994Washington Blade (Washington, DC)- November 20, 1981Gay Community News (Boston, MA) - February 15, 1986Kick! (Detroit, MI)- October 1996OUT FRONT (Denver, CO)- March 11, 1988OUT FRONT (Denver, CO)- April 18, 1980 The San Francisco Bay times (San Francisco, CA) Sep 1989Send a textSupport the show
Transcribe →Heavenly Bodies Looking for Venus: Sapphic Ads with Jack Jen Gieseking
Feb 1, 202400:50:45Tap to summarizeAre you ready to source the galaxies of love? Dip your tongue into this new episode, where Haley & Dr. Jack Jen Gieseking (author of the incredible book A Queer New York) match with some sapphic ads. Whether you’re looking for a good old-fashioned co-dependent, a skateboard bean, a Genteel Daddy pretty boy butch, or a chic Joni Mitchell lookalike—come explore the full spectrum of the sapphic longing. Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Queerpersonalspodcast.Cover art by Bekah Rich. Music by Kaz Zabala.Sources:Joni Mitchel TweetJen Jack Gieseking WebsiteA Queer New York: Geographies of Lesbians, Dykes, and Queers, 1983-2008 (NYU Press, 2020) on contemporary lesbian-queer society, economies, and spaces in New York CityLBQTS Dating StudyThe Star Tarot Card MeaningJewel Box Lounge, Kansas City Primary Sources:Personally, (Kansas City, MO) January 1988 Vol. 4 Issue. 1 Gale Archives of Sexuality and GenderOn Our Backs– summer and fall 1985 and 1986 (volume 1, issues 1-3, and volume 2, 1-2)- From Brown University Archives Outweek (NYC) Jan 28 1990 Outweek Sept 19, 1990 (NYC) The San Francisco Bay times., Dec 1989The Lesbian Tide, 1 Nov 1979Send a textSupport the show
Transcribe →Androgynous Ads with Asho
Jan 4, 202400:52:20Tap to summarizeAttention all you macaroni boys and genderful twinks! Asho joins Haley for a series of ads written by self-acclaimed androgynous lovers. Do you dream of tossing a salad with a cute “she-boy” or maintaining eye contact all the way “through”? Catch these ads before another 30 years passes! Follow Asho on Instagram at @Asho_Buckingham to view & purchase their incredible art!Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Queerpersonalspodcast.Cover art by Bekah Rich. Music by Kaz Zabala.Sources: Online Etymology Dictionary, accessed December 2023The Her app slang glossaryLGBTQ fandom Wiki pageMcNeil, Peter (1999-11-01). ""That Doubtful Gender": Macaroni Dress and Male Sexualities". Fashion Theory. 3 (4): 412. doi:10.2752/136270499779476081. ISSN 1362-704X. Fisher, Harriet (2015-01-19). "The Queen of Androgyny – Marlene Dietrich". Barnebys. Archived from the original on 2016-06-16. Retrieved 2016-05-22.Ads: LA Weekly (Los Angeles, CA) 1995 October 10 - Accessed from @LongLostPersonalsFocus Point (Minneapolis, Minnesota), 1994 November 17 Outweek (NYC) 12 Nov 1989Outweek (NYC) 11 July 1990The San Francisco Bay times., Nov 1989Send a textSupport the show
Transcribe →Bitesized Bit: Lesbian Phone Sex
Dec 1, 202300:05:50Tap to summarizeYou think you're sexually frustrated? Try talking to a gal on the lesbian party lines in the '90s! In this truly tiny bite-sized episode, Haley reads from Liz Tracey's article in Outweek: "Hung Up on the Lesbo Line." Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Queerpersonalspodcast. Cover art by Bekah Rich. Music by Kaz Zabala. Sources: Liz Tracey, "Hung Up on the Lesbo Line," Outweek, January 14, 1990. Out on the Town: Liz and Sydney in Outweek 1990-1991.Send a textSupport the show
Transcribe →The Body Politic with Dr. Alex Ketchum
Sep 7, 202301:05:38Tap to summarizeHaley sits down with Dr. Alex Ketchum, a professor at McGill University’s Institute for Gender, Sexuality, and Feminist Studies, and author of books such as Engage in Public Scholarship: A Guidebook on Feminist and Accessible Communication & Ingredients for Revolution: A History of American Feminist Restaurants, Cafes, and Coffeehouses. In this episode, we’re playing matchmaker for several Canadian hotties who posted personals in a 1984 issue of Toronto’s The Body Politic. Will the shy young woman find a gal to satisfy her fantasies? Can we crack the code to some super spy language? Is it possible to be hedonistic AND unpretentious? Come find out! Follow Dr. Alex Ketchum at: Twitter (X) and Instagram @aketchum22https://www.alexketchum.ca/Read her latest book, Ingredients for Revolution a History of American Feminist Restaurants, Cafes, and Coffeehouses.Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Queerpersonalspodcast.Cover art by Bekah Rich. Music by Kaz Zabala.Further Exploration: The Arquives: Canada’s LGBTQ2+ ArchivesArchives gaies du Québec - Mémoires de nos communautésArchives lesbiennes du QuébecPussy Palace AudiogramsEsto no tienne nombre Collection, founded by tatiana de la tierra, housed at UC Santa BarbaraSara Youngblood Gregory, “Raging Against Cultural Amnesia: tatiana de la tierra and Latina Lesbian Herstory,” Autostraddle, June 19, 2018. Accessed September 5, 2023. Gordon Richardson, “What’s in the Archives?The Body Politic” The Arquives website, April 17, 2013. Accessed Sept 5, 2023. History of The Body Politic - A Timeline, Information in the timeline has been taken from Bébout, online and Jackson & Persky, pgs. 224-24, Western University, Canada. Denise Benson, “Then & Now: Voodoo,” Then and Now Toronto, September 20, 2014. Accessed Sept 5, 2023. Article originally published November 16, 2011 by The Grid online (TheGridTO.com).The Body Politic Wikipedia page, Accessed Sept 5, 2023. Arshy Mann, “What was The Body Politic, anyway?: A brief explainer on a radical gay and lesbian magazine,” Xtra, June 9, 2016. Accessed Sept 5, 2023. Jack Gieseking, A Queer New YorkFind the Ads here: The Body politic (Toronto, Canada), March 1984 Archives.org. Send a textSupport the show
Transcribe →Seeking Nice Jewish Girls
Jul 13, 202301:07:51Tap to summarizeIn this episode, Haley & Lauren Hoffman of the Capital Jewish Museum wander through New York, San Francisco, and Minnesota following these Jewish sapphic lonely hearts. Check your baggage at the door and prepare to meet a Would-Be Cowboy, a“Highly Flawed and Special” artist, and a gal looking for a “New Age thinker with a specific physical discipline….”? Follow Lauren on Instagram @spicylilscorpio and @wanderthrumuseums. Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Queerpersonalspodcast. Cover art by Bekah Rich. Music by Kaz Zabala.Sources: Jewish Women’s ArchiveGBLT History Museum and Archive2019 Twin Cities Jewish Community StudyFocus Point (Minneapolis, Minnesota), 1994 November 17Focus Point (Minneapolis, Minnesota), 1997 October 8 J-Pride - TC JewfolkThe San Francisco Bay times, December 1989The San Francisco Bay times, September 1989Outweek (New York City), 1990 July 11Additional Websites to Browse: Instagram: @dchistory @dchistcon @marenorchard Swann Queen: A Short Film GoFundMe Marjorie Morgan, "From slavery to voguing: the House of Swann" Sha’ar Zahav ArchivesAn inside look at the history of Sha’ar Zahav, San Francisco’s LGBTQ synagogueAlpert, Rebecca. Like Bread on the Seder Plate: Jewish Lesbians and the Transformation of Tradition. New York: Columbia University Press, 1998.Alpert, Rebecca, Sue Levi Elwell and Shirley Idelson, Lesbian Rabbis: The First Generation. New Brunswick, NJ: Rutgers University Press, 2001.Balka, Christie, and Andy Rose, eds. Twice Blessed: On Being Lesbian or Gay and Jewish. Boston: Beacon Press, 1989.Beck, Evelyn Torton, ed. Nice Jewish Girls: A Lesbian Anthology. Boston: Beacon Press, 1982; Rev. and updated 1989.Biale, Rachel. Women and Jewish Law: An Exploration of Women’s Issues in Halakhic Sources. New York: Schocken, 1984.Brettschneider, Marla. The Family Flamboyant: Race Politics, Queer Families, Jewish Lives. Albany, NY: State University of New York Press, 2006.Brettschneider, Marla. “Jewish Lesbians: New Work in the Field.” Journal of Lesbian Studies. 2019, 23(1): 2-20 and passim special issue.Kaye/Kantrowitz, Melanie, and Irena Klepfisz, eds. Tribe of Dina: A Jewish Women’s Anthology. Boston: Beacon Press, 1986.Moore, Tracy, ed. Lesbiot: Israeli Lesbians Talk About Sexuality, Feminism, Judaism and Their Live. New York: Cassell, 1995.Rogow, Faith. “Why Is This Decade Different from All Other Decades? A Look at the Rise of Jewish Lesbian Feminism.” Bridges 1 (Spring 1990): 67–79.Sarah, Elizabeth. “Judaism and Lesbianism: A Tale of Life on the Margins of the Text.” Jewish Quarterly 40 (1993): 20–23.Send a textSupport the show
Transcribe →Bitesized Bit: Sentenced to Voicejail
Jun 15, 202300:21:36Tap to summarizeYou ignore your voicemail, but have you heard of voicejail? Imagine the world before the internet, before blogs and discord servers and reddit forums or Google reviews. Where did people release their pent up anxieties, how did they share their niche interests, or act out their weird bits? In this bite-sized episode, Haley looks at the fascinating microcosm that sprang up in the 1980s and ‘90s in Silicon Valley, and those that called themselves the voicejailers. Clips of the radio show, “Midnight Voicejail,” are sprinkled throughout the episode to highlight how a few voicejailers manipulated and recreated the messages left on their voicemail boxes. Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Queerpersonalspodcast. Cover art by Bekah Rich. Music by Kaz Zabala. Sources: Midnight Voicejail - Episode 01 - What is Voicejail? | NCN | The National Cynical NetworkThe sonic geeks of KFJC's 'Midnight Voicejail' bring you 'that Sept. 11 show'By Richard von Busack - Metroactive Music | 'Midnight Voicejail'Midnight Voicejail FAQPhineas Narco’s LivejournalNational Cynical Network: NCN FAQ - What We're All AboutMidnight VoicejailRecordings used, from Bandcamp : Episode 1 - What is Voicejail?Episode 2 - DrugsEpisode 4 - Manic DepressionFull List of Midnight Voicejail’s episodes: National Cynical Network: Midnight Voicejail Episode GuideSend a textSupport the show
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