Some decisions can be the easiest to acknowledge and the hardest to implement. Matt Bays’ first memoir, LEATHER & LACE: A GAY MAN, LOST LOVE, AND A ROAD TRIP WITH HIS DEAD SISTER, chronicles his coming out story.

His latest book utilizes his coaching expertise: HOW TO FIND AND KEEP A GAY MAN: 69 SPICY TIPS FOR LASTING LOVE (Sourcebooks, April 2026).

Matt shares his journey of becoming.

MATT BAYS

Website: https://mattbays.me/

KARA KAVENSKY

Website: Kara Kavensky

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Sponsored by: Adam Gibson Design and Remain Relevant, a corporate storytelling masterclass

Produced by: Marilou Marosz

Original music written and performed by: Adam W. Gibson

CHAPTERS

[01:10] Introduction - Matt Bays, author of HOW TO FIND AND KEEP A GAY MAN

[03:52] LEATHER AND LACE and getting a "do-over" after divorce

[08:03] Losing his sister and finding the courage to come out

[11:06] But wait, there's more!

[14:46] Helping others, working as a life coach

[15:55] Tips for coaching people to live fully

[18:44] What is next for you?