We often hear the phrase “It takes a village to raise a child.” And while community matters, research consistently shows something powerful: the single greatest protective factor in a child’s life is one stable, supportive adult.

One person who believes in them.
One person who advocates for them.
One person who stays steady when life feels uncertain.

This episode launches a brand-new series on The Resilient Kid Podcast called Only Takes One Person.

Fresh off the stage after winning the Heart of the Community Award, Ashley reflects on the power of advocacy, connection, and the ripple effect one person can have on a life.

In this opening episode, Ashley shares a deeply personal story about her Auntie Vera (Vee) — the woman who stepped in and advocated for her when she was just 21 years old.

After finishing her psychology degree, Ashley had applied for a counselling course, only to be told she was too young to be accepted. While Ashley was travelling in South America, her Auntie Vee received the call from the course professor.

Rather than accepting the decision quietly, Vee stood up for her niece.

She explained the experiences Ashley had already navigated in life — growing up in a multi-generational family, supporting grandparents, and witnessing her father’s mental health struggles — and why those experiences had shaped her desire to help others.

That moment of advocacy changed everything.

Ashley became the youngest person ever accepted onto the course, beginning a journey that has now spanned 30 years of supporting children, families and schools.

But this episode isn’t just about one phone call.

It’s about the profound impact one person can have on a young life.

Whether that person is a parent, teacher, mentor, coach or relative — a single relationship can change a child’s sense of safety, belief, and possibility.

Through The Resilient Kid programme, Ashley and her team hope to be that person for many of the children and families they support.

Because sometimes, the biggest changes begin with the smallest moments of belief.

In this episode, we explore:

Why one supportive adult is the strongest protective factor for children
A personal story about advocacy and opportunity
How belief from others shapes confidence and resilience
Why the work of supporting children is often about showing up consistently
The ripple effect one person can create across a lifetime

A reflection for listeners

Who was the person who believed in you?
A parent, teacher, coach, mentor, grandparent or friend who saw something in you before you fully saw it yourself?
We would love to hear your story.
Because resilience isn’t built in isolation.
It’s built in connection.
And sometimes… it only takes one person.

Coming up next

In the next episode of the series, Ashley will be joined by a special guest who will share the story of their one person and the impact that relationship had on their life.

Time Stamps:

00:00 One Person Matters
01:00 Series Kickoff
01:13 Heart of Community Night
02:34 Why This Series Exists
03:29 Auntie V Advocates
06:22 Bread as Currency
08:28 Coaches and Teachers
10:16 Advocacy in Schools
12:36 Parents Need Allies
14:17 Your Person Reflection
15:44 Closing and Call In

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The One Who Advocated