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10 Things Your 14-Year-Old Boy Can Do This Summer with Evan Hempe (#265)
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Foreign. Hey, everyone. Welcome to the Screen Strong Families podcast, bringing you the best solutions for parents who are serious about eliminating screen problems in their homes. I'm Evan Hempy, and I'm so glad you're joining us today. All right, so what are we going to get into today? So today we're going to talk about summer and video gaming, slash phones and devices and what the heck we do about it, right? Most people assume that if you don't play video games, you're going to be bored. Because it's so commonplace now. It's the, you know, what do I do with my kid all summer? You know, he's in a kind of an awkward age where he can't really drive, but, you know, he, he can't really work either. So he's in the house. He didn't have much going on and have that regular routine at school. What do I do? How do I get him off the video games? It seems so hard because everyone's got it nowadays. Everyone, you know, that. That seems so commonplace, but I can honestly say I grew up without it. I didn't have a. I didn't have a phone till I was in ninth grade, and I have a smartphone till I was in college, right? So it's doable. Like it. Trust me. I sit before you today, here, and I'm telling you that it's possible. I know you may not think so. I know it's very, you know, contrary to popular belief that it is possible. But the way I like to think about it is, you know, we've been doing summers for centuries without these things. Why do we all of a sudden have to figure out now what to do? Anyways, so what I gleaned from my summer was, you know, I had to make do with my time, right? What did I. I had to fill the time. I'm just going to sit around in the house, you know, it's just going to be four empty walls, whatever. I don't want to, you know, I don't want to sit there. So what did I do? I went out and I made my own fun and I made my own, you know, adventure. And I, I, I learned skills and I, I filled my time. And looking back on those summers, it was, it was, that was very pivotal time for me was to figure out how. How do I do that, right? How do I fill my time without. Without these devices like everyone else's? So we're going to go over a few things today about just alternatives on what to do if you're stuck, if you're thinking, you know, I've. I've played, you know, these video games. I have social media, I have all that. I like doing it because, you know, they're designed for you to like it. You're not a bad person for liking it. And so what do we do with that, right? What do we do? What do we do off the screen? How do we. How do we go back to the way it used to be? So first thing we're going to go, let's do learn a real skill. So something that, you know, allows time, right? Where it requires you to spend time with something. Because video games are essentially endless and scrolling on social media and all that is endless, right? So how do we compete with that? Well, there are plenty of things in life that you're not going to be a natural at and you're not going to be perfect at the first time. And it's going to get a lot more fun when you get better at them. I can think of a couple things. I can think of music and then honestly, like lawn care, right? So music that it's, it's so music is so wonderful for that because you have to learn the basics of the basics first and then you build on that. And there's always another song you can learn and there's always another skill and there's always different genres you can go. There's so much music out there, you're never going to play every song. And so I think that learning music in having that be something you're committed to in the summer is. You're never going to be bored. You could, you could go the entire summer doing nothing else. Not sleeping, not eating, not drinking, not doing anything else, and you'd still never learn everything in music, everything like that. So it's. It's essentially endless. It's essentially a very natural and perfect way of scrolling, right? You're never going to run out of songs. You're never going to do any of that. And it's a way to. Music is so beautiful, is what we have is this way to. To learn and to work through the hardships and to practice and to learn discipline, right? You're never going to be able to play unless you spend time with those few basics doing the things that aren't fun so that later you can play the fun stuff. So I would say just learning a real skill like music. Nothing could be lawn care, right? And I can be perfect at it the first time. It's going to take a learning curve, right? All good things, you know, honestly require a Learning curve. And so if you are committed to being off the devices and committed to going through the hardship at first, I think oftentimes nowadays is when things get a little bit tough or when a job gets tough, people easily just throw their hands up in the air and they quit, right? And they don't allow themselves the opportunity to experience the good part of it, the fun part of, you know, mowing, like, of mowing a lawn or cutting a cool pattern into the grass, right? You know, taking nice care of the bushes, doing all that stuff, seeing your handiwork afterwards. You don't get that because you quit when it's hard. So I think that's kind of lost on us today, this idea of, oh, well, I'm not a natural at it. And so, oh, if it's a little bit difficult for me at first and I'm just going to throw my hands up and go to the next thing, you're never gonna. You're never gonna be able to experience anything fun after that. That's the thing about video games, social media. It's so easy to get you hooked up front. Doesn't really take much skill to scroll. It doesn't take much skill to play video games well, and then keep. And you keep coming back and it's addicting and all that. So. But you don't get the same bliss out of it as you would of actually learning a real skill. So my two big things for that are music and then something like lawn care, something maybe like woodworking, working with your hands, something tactile, something where you can see the fruits of your label, fruits of your labor. Excuse me, after you've done it, right, there's very few things that you can kind of. That you get instant feedback on, right? And stuff like that, where you're working with your hands and you're creating something, right? That is huge. That's where you can see, oh, I've improved. You know, you see the first project you did all the way to the end of the summer, you're like, that is improvement. And I'm actually proud of that work, right? That's kind of lost nowadays. And so I think that's a huge start is just find a skill because you can always go deeper in it. So number two, we're going to go get really good at the sport, right? This is another thing where sports. You're never going to be the best, right? There's always going to be somebody better than you. You know what I'm saying? Not to. I don't know, maybe if you're listening out there. You're the best in the world, whatever. You can shoot me a message if I'm wrong, but there's always more improvement you can do in sports. That's what's so good about sports too, is it teaches that grit, right? It teaches you, how do I hit a baseball this way, how do I hit a golf ball that way, how do I work on this shot in basketball, right? Even getting, even getting, working out, right? How do I get stronger, how do I get faster? How to improve in this. There's always something you can improve on if you are an athlete and if you, if you truly do love the sport you're in, you know, you're going to want to be committed to that. You're going to be, you're going to want to work hard to it. I remember what I would do is to clear my head or if I was ever bored or something, we had a net, we had a tea, we had a bucket of baseballs. And I would just go and I would think, right? And I would hit and I would hit and I'd hit for hours and hours and hours. So it became that muscle memory and I would just think, I would clear my head, I would talk to myself, right? Kind of weird, a little bit. But it was so good. It was so. And I could do that year round. I could do that all summer. I would wake up every summer and I would do that. Even now I use the same net and I go hit golf balls in it. You know, my, my baseball career is over, but I'm going to be playing golf for the next 40 years, 50 years, Lord willing, right? And so there's, it creates that little routine where it's, I can go, there's always something. I get better at golf, especially with golf. Golf is so minute and there's so many little things in there that you can just go, continue to get better at whatever your sport is. I guarantee you there's something, there's some little technical skill that you can work on by yourself. It may be a little bit difficult. The easiest I can think of is basketball. Just go shoot around. I would do that. I'm not a very good basketball player, but I would just go shoot around, have fun, clear my head. You know, it's good. It helps you, it helps you think, it helps you, you know, solve problems in your head. So it helps you figure things out. And then you. And then not even to mention you're learning things in the sport, right? You're getting better, you're building that grit, you're like, yeah, this is hard and I'm not doing this well, but I'm going to keep at it. And so I think that's, that's a huge thing is, is sports and anything like that, that's endless as well. And it not only gets you, it gets you moving, it gets you outside, it gets you sweating. There's something good about breaking a sweat. If I go a whole day without breaking a sweat, I feel like I haven't done anything right? And then I'm not as tired because I haven't done as much. But when you're filling your day with things and you hit your, you hit your pillow at night and you're tired, that's a full day. That's a good day right there. If you can say, you know, I sweat, you know, I used my brain. I felt like I got better at this. You know, I communicated with people. That's the other thing is all these things, we're talking music, we're talking, you know, all this, all these skills you can learn. Sports especially, that's a community builder right there. You know, it doesn't take much. You can just go, go to the park, make friends with a guy, right? If he's just shooting around, then he start talking basketball and he start talking sports, whatever, anything like that, then it opens the whole world. Then he found a new friend. Now you're creating new relationships, right? So that's huge. That's a, that's a massive thing. That's where a lot of my friends came from, that in high school, I didn't have video games, social media, and it's like, oh, well, it's going to be so hard for them to make friends. Not if you fill your time with interesting things. Not if you have interesting things to talk about. And that was something my brother and I always had, was we always had things we did. And when you have other things in common with other people, right, they're going to want to talk to you about it. So that was a big thing. Some of the best relationships I have are from that to this day, from, you know, middle school, elementary school. So that's been, that's been a lot of fun. That's just another added bonus of getting good at this sport. Not you're breaking a sweat, you're making yourself tired, you're, you're pushing through it, you're clearing your head and you're getting things that you can talk about with people. It's pretty much a win, win, and it's a huge part of my life and I'm really thankful. It taught me a lot. Thirdly, we're going to go start a small business. So this kind of goes with. If you have that skill, right? Let's say you have a skill that you picked up and you're really passionate about it, well, then other people might think it's cool too, right? So not only you learn the skill or you have developed a skill, now you can start selling it to people, now you can start learning to interact with people. Sales, right? That's all that, all of that face to face stuff, that's just priceless experience because in sales you're trying to create that trust with somebody to. Why would I trust you with my money to buy this product, right? And so if you're, if, if, if you want to learn how to get social really quick, start selling something, you know what I'm saying? That that's the, that's the biggest thing is, is that that's how you're going to really interact with people. You're going to learn how to talk to honestly, older people, adults, all that. And you're going to learn just, you know, how do things work, how do I make this product and you know, how do I price it? All that stuff that's such good problem solving skills that, that's going to pay immense dividends down the road. And it's just, and it's that the other thing is that is, that's a loop, right? That's never ending too where you know, if there's, there's always innovation you can do with your small business like lawn mowing or pressure washing or dog walking. It doesn't take very, it doesn't take, you know, very much. Maybe you don't have a skill like woodworking or something like that. So what? I don't either. But you can go somebody down, your, somebody in your neighborhood probably needs help, right? There's probably somebody that would gladly have you show up and work hard. And then it teaches you how to, you know, client management and you know, just a lot of things that really will help you out in the adult world. And then it's, and then it's endless, right? Then you have, oh, I mow this lawn every week, I mow this on every week. And now it's something in your routine built in. Now you don't feel like you're just going through every day, just trying to find something to fill it with because you don't have video games or social media now. You have a schedule now you have Something and then not even to mention like the money part. Earning money and learning how to be responsible with that. Those are all just priceless skills that you can learn. And you can just do that in the two or three months in the summer, right? That's massive. And then you go into the school year and a whole new perspective. So I think that's a really, that's a really good one, is that teaches you so much and then even just working alongside with people. Go to your buddy, hey, do you want, let's, let's start like mowing so and so's lawn again. Okay, sure. Then we split the profits and stuff like that. Then you learn, you know, relationships. So I think starting a small business is huge. And that's, you know, that'll carry you forward even, you know, maybe you start a business one day when you're older, you're like, oh, I remember when I started my first, you know, lawn care business. There are guys I know that started a lawn care business when they were 14. They sell it for, you know, half a million dollars, right? So it's not even, not even just the, this, the money aspect, but the skills you learn and what it can be, that's, that's a huge one. And you can really just have that take off if you're committed to it and you're willing to work hard and put in the time, right. And get through the difficulty and problem solve and all that. And your brain is working and it's, it's learning and it's, it's a wonderful thing. So that's another really cool one is starting a small business. Build or fix something with your hands. Kind of hit on this already. Anything with your hands, anything tactile, anything skill work that you can work on that you're, you know, maybe you're even messing up at the first part, right? That's okay, right? If you mess it up, that's how you learn. And so when you build something the wrong way, then you're like, okay, now I'm going to learn how to build it the right way. And you have somebody show you and they help you and your hands get used to that and they learn, you know, those skills, right? That's a, that's a massive thing. Now your brain, anytime, anytime your brain is hands on with anything that's real, that's in the, you know, you can experience with like all five, maybe not all five senses, but most of the senses. That's how you're really learning, right? You're not really learning when your Hands are just touching a controller. Your hands are just scrolling. That's all virtual. Your brain is just interacting with the screen. It's not interacting with real materials. And so that's the big. That's the biggest thing is how are we going to learn these skills? How are we going to, you know, maybe build a workbench? Mom needs help building a workbench, or mom needs help building a birdhouse or something. Okay, maybe I don't know a lot about it, but I'm going to learn. I'm willing to learn. I'm willing to, you know, to. To. To fight through, you know, the, the little bit of adversity of, okay, I built it wrong. Okay, so what, am I going to get mad and throw a fit and then just go back to my video games or am I gonna, you know, be able to, okay, this is wrong. What can I take from this? Right? And that's just another huge life skill that you can learn. Something as simple as building a birdhouse or maybe like a tree house or something like that. And so I think the common theme of all these is, you know, you're learning to fight through adversity. I think grit is something that's very much lost on us today. When things get a little bit hard, like I was saying, then everyone just throws their hands up. So not only are you learning grit from this, but another thing. Just build relationships. Hey, come help me build my treehouse. Okay, good. Now we have something to do for the next six or seven or six to eight hours, right? Excuse me. But, you know, so there's. There's. That. That's. That's massive. That's. That's huge. That's how you build relationships. That's how you learn how to do something with your hands. Again, you can just see your work right afterwards and you learn. That's. That's so valuable. And so. And it takes up time. And again, a lot of these things are going to overlap. A lot of these things are going to. You're going to have, you know, things that you need to take time because this is what people used to do in the summer. All of a sudden, we decided that we didn't know how to parent with people, you know, with. With devices and all that. And so they wonder. We get questions from parents all the time, like, oh, no, what do I do if I have to go xyz or I have to do this? What do I do with my kid? What did. What happened to you? Like, what, what, what. What did you do when you were a Kid in the. In the, you know, 70s, 80s, 90s, all that, when we didn't have this. But we just forget all of that. And we forget what. All these fun stories we used to create in the summer by things going wrong and by us messing things up and learning and all that. And those are just such good life skills that his kids don't have anymore. They stay. You know, you stay in your. In your. In your room, and it's easy. It's easy to scroll reels, anyone. It's not. It's not the kid's fault, right? It's very natural for their brain to want to be drawn to that, but there's so much that they're missing. There's so much out there that it may be tough at first, and it may not be as fun as scrolling reels at first, but the satisfaction you get out of it on the back end is just. Is 100 times, right? And they just can't comprehend that because they don't have the opportunity. Number five. So create something like music or art. Again, going back to this, this is a skill, right, that you're not going to be perfect at at first, and that's okay. You're going to learn how to get through it. And then again, you have instant feedback. Learn to play a new instrument. Drums, guitar, piano, all that paint or draw or any other medium of art. Art is. Art is a wide, vast of opportunity that you can just do. Okay, maybe I don't like painting. Okay, maybe I'm not gonna try clay. I used to go to clay classes. I wasn't very good. And there's a bunch of random clay sculptures all around the house and stuff. But it was fun. I built relationships that way. I learned certain skills, and I did that through high school. I wasn't. I wasn't. They weren't selling at an auction. I wasn't, you know, getting contracts with anybody. They're not. They're not putting my stuff in a museum. But it was really cool. It was something I was able to learn with my hands and watch and figure out what works and what doesn't. And then also just the creativity. You know, you go to class like, oh, I want to make XYZ today. Okay, good. You can just. The clay. You literally have the clay in your hands to mold in whatever way you want. And then you have people help you. Like, okay, let's say I want to make a lizard. Okay, how do I make a lizard? How do I make the tail? How do I, you know, how do I give it the scales, all that. And you're just learning these things with your hands on learning. And you're watching, and you're, you know, you're smelling the clay and all that, and you're experiencing that with all five senses. And you come away with. With a. With a. With a finished product doesn't have to be perfect, right? Oh, okay. No, it's not. It doesn't look like a perfect lizard. It's not put in a museum. Who cares? Your mom will like it, right? Because it's yours. You know, my mom kept all the stuff we have around the house for some reason. I think they're ugly, you know, but it is what it is. Like, it's cool. It means something to somebody because it's not something you can buy at the store. Nobody else has that exact thing that you make. And so that was a really cool thing for us. And then it just, you know, it became like Christmas gifts or something. I would make my mom something. I'd make my dad something. And it meant something, you know, is, hey, I spent the time and effort and thought about you, you know, and, you know, the parents don't care. Like, if it's a thoughtful gift from the kid, they're gonna love it, right? Because it's their kid. And, oh, you're thinking of me as the parent. That's awesome, right? And so that was what we would do. I wouldn't make a masterpiece for my mom. Andrew wouldn't. My brother was a little bit better. He was honestly more artistic. But I wouldn't make a masterpiece by any stretch. But it was. Hey, that's really cool. You thought of something that I like, right? You went and you figured out how to make it, and, you know, it survived the whole, you know, the. The. The. The malleable and the. In the. In the molding of the clay. And this works. This works. And then survive the kiln and then you paint it and all that stuff, and you have a finished product and you learn so much, and it took time and it took effort, and it took, you know, maybe a little working through adversity and learning and being humble and learning from somebody else. Hey, maybe I don't have the best way to make this. Maybe you do. Show me, right? That's just learning how to work with people. And so that taught me a lot, was. Was being able to do that. And the relationships I formed through that was. Was awesome. So creating something like music or art and even like writing anything like that, this is. This is limitless. This. These are pretty much Limitless, right? You don't have to go very far to. To think of something to do outside of video games or social media. It just takes a little bit of effort. There's so many cool things in this world that we have that people do and that people. And at the end of the day, people are always going to respect skills. I wasn't that good at violin or piano or art or baseball or anything like that in high school or even, like, now. But because I did them right, people are like, oh, that's so cool that you do that, Comma. I wish that I had done that every time. Every single time. That's what. That's what people say. You know, you don't have to be the best to. To wow people. People just appreciate cool skills because it sets you apart. Everybody wants to be set apart, right? In some way, right? That your natural inclination is to want. You don't want to be like everybody else. You be like everybody else because that's easier, because it's in front of you, because it's easy to scroll on social media and just to learn to do what everybody else does. But, man, at the end of the day, you want to be the different. Right? In a good way. And so something that instantly sets you apart and to instantly earn respect of your peers is to do something like this. Yeah, sure. Well, you got made fun of for not being able to, you know, play video games or have social media and all that, but people are like, oh, you play violin. That's cool. Okay, Bam. Now we're friends. Oh, you do, Clay? That's really cool. Bam. Now we're friends. Oh, you know, you can. You. You play piano, you can play baseball, basketball, you can run all that stuff. You have so many different worlds you can dive into. And my brother and I had so many different people we were friends with throughout our lives because we did so many different things. And so that's a huge thing is relationships. And then at the end of the day, just. People respect if you can do something cool. Doesn't have to be perfect, doesn't have to be a masterpiece, doesn't have to go in a museum, but it's cool. You learn the effort because people understand what it kind of takes to do that. And maybe if they. Even if they don't, they don't understand how hard the violin is, which most people don't, but it's very difficult. But they, you know, they appreciate the. The music that you're making at the very least, right? You understand the blood, sweat, and tears that it took to, you know, be able to do that certain skill or play that certain song, right? And so then now you get satisfaction out of it, too, because you're like, yeah, I learned how to perform that in front of people, you know, so that's another skill all on its own. But again, it's creating something like art, where you have that instant feedback, where you have those relationships, where you get through with grit. Just. It's just invaluable. It's just priceless. And it's something that's kind of lost on us today. Number six, take on an adventure challenge. Give yourself a goal, right? I'm a huge proponent of. It's not. It's. Nothing's gonna get done unless you put it on paper and write it down and check it off, right? I'm in college now, and what I do every single week is I go, you know, I look at all the assignments I have to do, whether it be school, whether it be outside extracurriculars, whether it be a meeting I have to have with somebody, and I just write it all down, and I put it on a sheet, and then I just check it off as I go. I assign certain things to do on certain days, right? And you just apportion out your week that way, and then you cross everything off. And then at the end of the week, I crumple it up, throw it away, get a new machine, right? It gives you that sense of, okay, I finished this, right? And it's. It's the crossing off. It's the satisfaction. I don't know what it is. Maybe I'm weird, right? But you do get, like, a satisfaction out of, like, oh, man, I. I finished that. I can scratch that up. That's a huge burden off my shoulders, right? I took that test, you know, I studied for that test. I did all that. Boom. Now that. Cross that off, or when you knock out a few things in a row, now you can cross out four, and you're like, okay, now. And then you see the rest of your week that you have to do. Not many people do that. That's something that I swear by, and I'm always writing things down. But again, if you're at the beginning of the summer, like, right now, and you know, you're not. You're not. Video games, social media aren't an option. Figure out, like, just. Just take time to think about what it is that you. You know, what. What's something you want to learn. All the skills we talked about in the past doesn't have to be Any of those. But it could be something along those lines, right? Write it down, Write it down. Try to create a schedule for. How am I gonna. How am I gonna do this? Create a calendar. That's time management. That's, you know, being able to achieve goals and seeing progress, right? It's not just, oh, yeah, I'd like to do this. Okay, how would you like to do this? You know, how. How are we making these goals measurable? Like people always talk about, you know, your goal. If your goals are vague, you're not going to achieve them. Right? Your goals have to have, you know, they kind of have to come attached with something that's measurable, something that you can. That's attainable, something that, you know, you can actually point to and say, okay, I'm doing this in the process of achieving this. Right? So learning that skill early and writing that down is, Is awesome. So it doesn't have to be anything crazy. It could just be like, you know, bike 20 miles a week, something like that. Okay, well, how are you going to do that? How you. When are you going to bike? When are you, how long, you know, how long are you going to bike each time, right? Could be very simple. It doesn't have to be a crazy goal. It doesn't have to be like, run a marathon in a month, right? Not that you would want to do that anyways. But even if it was, then, okay, now you create a schedule for yourself, okay, how am I going to get to the same goal? How am I going to do that? Talk about taking up time. It's. You're waking up every day, you know, in another step of achieving that goal, right? And so that, that's another, that's another thing that's just going to continue with you for the rest of your life. It's going to look a little bit different, right? You know, you're going to have more responsibility, all that when you're, when you're in the future. But again, the principles are the same. And so at a young age, learning these principles and learning how to fight through grit and learning how to write things down and work towards goals and create a schedule and, and manage, you know, talking to people and relationships and all that, you're going to be so far ahead. And it's unfortunate that, you know, these things used to just be commonplace things that my brother and I did. People wouldn't have batted an eye in the 70s and like, okay, wow, cool. But nowadays, because we. That's kind of lost on us. You know, kids are quitting Everything earlier and, you know, and, and things aren't. The, the people don't have as many skills, you know, as they used to at a young age. And so we were just normal people, but people thought we were, you know, elevated in some way because we had these skills. But what we always say is we're not any, we're not. Not special. You know, it's like, oh, well, the kids can do the podcast and they can talk in front of people because that's just, that's just them. But my kid's not like that. Well, it's not a, it's not a genetic thing. You don't inherit. Being able to, you know, talk to people and all that. That's something you have to work on. That's something that, you know, when we were, at a young age, we were having to go up to the, to the people person at McDonald's and we were having to order, look them in the eye, you know, in order and, and speak confidently and all that. And that's learned. It's all learned. None of this stuff. There is nothing, I promise you, that I have. That I'm naturally able to do that. You are not. Right. It's all learned. It's all spending time with it. It's all being pushed in the right direction. I, I'm a huge, I'm a huge believer in that. Where a lot of these things that people. There are some things that are nature that, you know, you're born into and, and, you know, and what, you know, what, how tall you're going to be or, you know, if you're, if you're more inclined to do this. But a lot of that is just learned. I think everything is learned. Like Andrew and I played. My brother and I played music. And, you know, we still have. And people think we're really good and we'll play people's weddings and stuff like that. My parents didn't play music. You know, they don't like. It's not that they're not musical, but they just didn't play. It wasn't like something they passed down, but they were like, hey, you're going to do this, because we understand the importance of this in your. On your brain development. And so it was something that we just learned. It was something you developed, and it wasn't anything to do with natural ability. And so I think if you're a parent out there listening to this or even if you're a kid, like, don't just chalk it up to, oh, I don't have the natural ability to do this. If you have the time and the effort, you're going to be able to do something right? Within, obviously within reason, there's some things like, okay, I can't control. If I can't control that I'm not 6 5, right? And that's fine. Like, so what? Okay, so there's very few things, but all the other skills and the commitment to learning how to do things, that. That just comes by just working effort. And so I think, you know, just writing all that down of how am I going to achieve this goal and how am I going to do this, you know, and not just get so discouraged because it's easy to set yourself a lofty goal, not have a plan of how you're going to do it. And then, you know, May 30th rolls around or whatever your hit time was whenever you were supposed to have the goal achieved and you didn't get it. Well, it's no wonder you didn't get it because you didn't create a process for yourself, right? You didn't create that. How am I going to work towards this every day? And so then you're like, oh, well, okay, I'm just not naturally that gifted. It doesn't have anything to do with that. It has. Has everything to do with how are you going to be committed to this every day? How are you going to wake up and say, I want to achieve this goal? So I think that's a huge thing to learn throughout the summer. You have those three months to grab. Okay, we're at the beginning of the summer. Where do I want to be in xyz? You know, outside of video games and social media, where do I want to be? What do I want to be able to do by the time school starts, right? And just work at it. Figure out, ask people who can do that. Ask people, how did you get here? How did you do this? Learn their process and all that. And that's so invaluable. That's so massive. And that's honestly one of the biggest things that you can take on after the summer. Say you're 13, 14, do that in high school, you can do that in college, you can do that in postgrad, you can do that in your job, you can do that the rest of your life. And so that's going to be a skill that you're going to be happy that you learned at a young age because you didn't spend time on video games and social media. So, number seven, we're gonna go on to another really Lost art, I would say, is reading books. Nobody reads books anymore. So many people just, you know, they, if there's a book reading assignment for school or something, there's so many resources out there that you can just have just tell you what happened and that's easy, right? And okay, you can get a passing grade in the class and all that. And oh, haha, you know, I didn't read the book. I was there, I've been there. You know, it's like, oh, I didn't want to, you know, read the book and everything. But now when I got to college, right, I'm always re, I'm always reading something outside of what like is in school. Reading for pleasure is one of the greatest things, you know, that you can do. Because when you find a book and a story that you actually enjoy, things that you're passionate about or something like that, it's fun when you can't put a book down. I don't know, you may think I'm crazy and I'm not like, I'm not, you know, a bookworm by any means, right? But reading, I, I know this for a fact is all successful people read, read that you have to, you have, you have to read in order to be successful. You have to learn and you have to engage with things in life. And that's through books, that's through fiction and non fiction and culture and references and all that. Even just growing up, like learning how to spell words, learning how like learning different words that just all came from books, right? And so that's another thing is, and, and I can't emphasize this enough either is the getting the actual book. Yeah, okay, everything has a Kindle or the audiobook or all that and that's fine. But I think getting the actual book, reading it, hearing the characters, voices in your head and you know what they would sound like, and learning this word and imagining things in your head that is happening in the book, that is just firing the creativity part of your brain, right? And so that, and that, that's something that, that, that'll develop and, and help your brain, you know, in the future and then you'll want to, you'll just have that much more knowledge and nobody reads books anymore because it's, it's, it's difficult because, oh, this is boring. So I'm going to put it down. But it's not like the books are just the ultimate, the honestly the ultimate boredom buster. I mean, back in the day, everyone just would read books. You didn't have technology, so we would read and everyone was, you know, people were smart and they were educated and they were well read, and they knew different languages. And that's. I think that's very lost nowadays. And that comes from books. So find something you're interested in that's not video games or social media. Please do not read these video game books. That's not the same. Okay? Find something that you're actually interested in. And then, you know, see if you can put it down. If you can, if you can. You get bored, you want to go back to your video games, fine, fight through it, right? Trust me, you're gonna be like, oh, I actually really enjoyed that book. And you don't have to read. You don't have to read it. You know, 100 books in a summer or something like that. Just read it. That's the other thing is you can just read at your own pace. You have 15 minutes. You know, you're waiting in the doctor's office or something like that, out your book, right? You don't have to pull out your phone. You don't have to. You can pull out your book. And it's honestly more fun. I find myself, like, now. Now I do that now. If I'm in the bus or if I'm, you know, in an elevator or something like that, I'll just pull out a book, right? Pull out a book that I actually enjoy. And it's so rare. You look like people are, like, reading over my shoulder because, you know, they can't believe that I have a book, right? I'm sitting on the bus and I'm. I can feel the people reading over my shoulder because they want to read, too. They just don't have a book because, like, I don't actually want to be on my phone, right? There's a. I think there's a desire where it's like, yeah, okay, I'll scroll reels if no one else tells me what to do, or I'll play video games because, you know, I'm just filling time. But if you fill your time with these skills we talked about and reading and just setting out for 15 minutes. And it's also another thing, is it's a great way to relax before bed. I cannot emphasize enough how the contrast between looking at your phone before bed and reading before bed, looking at your phone before bed is firing your brain and the blue light in your eyes and all that, you're not going to be able to fall asleep right after. And you're going to stay up and going to stay up and you're Going to stay up. And it's because it's not natural. Your brain is constantly being entertained every three to four seconds. And then you keep scrolling, right? And that's just in your brain. It can't, it can't relax that way. It can't wind down. It can't start to process what happened that day. And then you fade off to sleep. But with a book, right, you settle down, you know, you get a nice, like, kind of warm light by you. You start reading a book and then it just LS you to sleep, right? And that's not saying the book is boring, but it's a very natural way to decompress. It's a very natural to feel the pages, to turn the pages and to be entertained and to learn that way, right? That is the healthy way. Scrolling reels and all that, like phones in your bedroom is a bad idea, just in general. And so having that, having that like, natural of at the end of the day, okay, maybe I read two or three pages before I thought you don't have to read a ton, but just something to kind of settle you. And so that, that, that's, that's the biggest thing is reading the book and diving into the stories and firing that creative part of your brain. That another thing is just lost. So, yeah, read books that matter. Learn to work. Right? This is, we're moving on to number eight. Learn to work. Like this is a thing again, this work ethic and all that and learning how to work towards a goal and managing your chores, that's kind of lost too, because kids don't really do their chores as much anymore, right? And because it's just, oh, well, you know, oh, he's just up, you know, playing video games or they're just scrolling reals because that's just what kids do. Why is that? Why did we decide that's what kids do? Why do we not teach them, you know, basic responsibilities? You're doing the dishes, you're doing the laundry. And I know there's going to be parents that come after me. Well, well, my kid, you know, he does the dishes, he does the laundry, he does all that stuff. He has, he has chores. But we also let him play his video games. Like, you know, okay, that's great for him. But you know for a fact that he's just rushing through those chores, you know, to get to his video game, obviously, because the video game is going to be the most fun thing for him. But learning not only the basic, like, household chores, right? Because in my opinion, I think every Kid should be doing chores, you know, without an allowance. I don't know. That's just me, right? I've never parented, but I, you know, we just did chores because it was expected of you. It was. Oh, your bathroom's dirty. Well, who got it dirty? You did. So guess what? You're gonna clean it up. You're gonna take that part of your Saturday morning and you're gonna learn, you know, the grit. You're gonna get on your hands and knees, you're gonna scrub, you're gonna scrub the tile, and you're gonna use the bleach, all that stuff, right? And. Yeah, and who likes that? Nobody likes that. But it learned. It teaches you grit. It teaches you how to work through something. And then you see, oh, yeah, this bathroom is clean, you know, oh, you may not care. I don't really care if it's dirty, but if it gets clean, you will care and you will notice, I promise you. Even people that are like, oh, yeah, just, you know, just kind of live, you know, whatever. I don't have to be super neat. You don't have to be super neat to, like, to, to be able to clean your room, right. Learning how to work and stuff like that and learning just that. That's what it teaches you. And so that's the thing, I think that it's just, it's. It's learned. Work ethic is never. Is never. You're never born into that, right? It's something of, you know, okay, do I want to, you know, put my head down and, and, and get this goal at the end of the day? And so how am I going to do that? Well, I'm gonna, I'm gonna hustle, I'm gonna grind, right? So the earlier you can learn that, the better. Because then obviously, you know, if you, if, if you show up to your job, you know, you're showing up early, you know, you're. You're constantly hustling, you're helping everybody out. You're doing the most. You're not only worried about, like, what your job is, but you're helping other people. People notice that it doesn't go unnoticed, right. In any, in pretty much any job you do, you know, if you're constantly moving and you're. You're just looking for what can be done, people are going to appreciate the heck out of you. And so I think that's just another skill that can just help and just like, when things get tough, right? If you've had that work ethic from, you know. Oh, I, Yeah. I would wake up and clean my bathroom almost every Saturday. I would wake up and make my bed and do things that aren't fun. Do things that, you know, oh, the other kids don't do it. Well, it doesn't matter. You're learning how to be a good worker from an early age, right? And doing just your basic due diligence and then looking out for. For what else can be done and helping others out. You'll feel a sense of accomplishment from that. You'll feel a sense of, you know, I guess, gratefulness for what your mom did before you started learning how to work, right? Honestly. Because that's a big thing. Because you moms are constantly doing all this, and they're doing kids laundry and dishes and all that way later than they should be, right? And so I think, you know, just learn. Learn to work. Learn to do the little things. Right? Right? So if you can, learn to make your bed every morning and, you know, fold your socks, fold your, you know, stuff like that, the little things. It may seem, you know, inconsequential now, but it's the principles that you're building, right? If there's one thing to take away honestly from this episode, it's just, how are you going to build these principles with little. So that when you have the responsibility one day, you know, are you going to be able to use those same principles and manage your adult life well? And so that's a big thing, right? Helping, Helping a neighbor, volunteering, get it. Going out, getting a summer job, going out, learning how to interview with people. Maybe you're too young to do that. Okay, well, then go do the, the lawn thing. Go knock on somebody's door and say, hey, you know, I. I can cut your lawn. I know how to cut lawns. You know, do you need help with that? You know, I charged xyz, right? And they'll appreciate the big, oh, this is cool. This kid showed initiative, you know, he's looking to help, right? And you know, he's. He's willing to work, right? And that's huge. That, that goes a long way. You'd be surprised. So I think that is one thing you can learn from the summer is just kind of how to work. How to work through things, right? How. How to have a bad day on the job, right? Or how to, you know, how to, how to deal with that adversary, adversity. Excuse me. How do you deal with that? And so if you learn these skills at age 12, 13, 14, you're not learning those on video games, right? It's not set up to be tough and for you to have to grind and scrap through it. If it was, then nobody would play then these games, these gaming companies and these social media companies wouldn't make billions of dollars, right? Set up to be fairly easy at first to get you in the door, right? And so it's not. But that's not how real life works. Real life, if you want to achieve something great, you have to work really hard and you have to have the bad days. And I think that's kind of lost on us. So I just encourage you guys to just learn how to work, right? Be okay with. With the. With the. Not fun. Be okay with, you know, maybe your parents or the person you work for, then maybe they make you mad that day. You know, how are you going to handle it? Right? That's a very real world application. How are you going to do with people? How are you going to show them that you still want to show up and work? That's a huge thing. Number nine, spend more time outdoors. Again, a lot of these things are pretty much all outdoor activities, all the job, all that stuff like that. That's outdoors again, breaking a sweat, making yourself tired. How am I going to hit the. Hit the pillow at the end of the day and am I going to feel accomplished of what I did that day? Right? I'm going to have something that I can point back to. I was like, yeah, I did that today. Yeah, I broke that sweat today. Yeah. Okay, good. I got dirty. You know what I'm saying? That's a good day in the summer. That's a great day. And so spending more time outdoors is just obviously perfect for that, you know, and just even doesn't even have to be like work. Like fishing can be extremely relaxing. It is, right? You go, you go out to a pond, you know, you're with, you know, a couple friends, you know, kind of quiet, chatty. You're just listening to what's outside. You're just throwing the line back in the water, all that stuff. It's very peaceful. It's a very, I think, thing that we have in nature that calls us kind of to that as humans. We like being outside, right? We weren't, but we weren't. We. We. Air conditioning's been around since like the 50s. That's it. We haven't even had air conditioning for 50 years or for 100 years. Excuse me. You know what I'm saying? So it's like, I think our bodies. You will, you'll be fine, right? You know, put on Sunscreen, go outside, right? Break a sweat, right? Do all that move. And I think a lot of times we just don't move nowadays as a society, and it's causing problems, it's causing health problems. You just got to keep moving. You don't have to be the best athlete. You don't have to be the best, you know, I don't know, lawn care worker. You don't have to be the best, you know, fisherman or a hiker or kayaker, anything. You don't have to be the best. Anything to go do it. Just go do it. Just go enjoy it, right? Go break a sweat. Go learn something new. Go do all that. You have to do that outdoors. That doesn't happen inside. You have to go do that outdoors. Especially as a kid, you have so much energy and so much, you know, wanting to, To, To. To go outside. Like, when you're a kid, what's your favorite time at school? It's probably recessed or pe. I don't know. Maybe it's not for some of you, but, like, for me, that always was because you get to go outside and you get to break a sweat, and then you get to, you know, maybe then come inside and grab a drink of water and then go back out, or you just put the. You just go drink out of the hose, right? Doesn't have to be perfect. When we were kids, we just stay outside all day, you know, and then the hose water was cold. Then we just go drink out of the hose water, and then. Okay, we're back to our game, right? Okay, Maybe it wasn't perfect, maybe it wasn't sanitary, all this stuff, but it just taught. It taught great. It's not being outside. It taught, you know, just having something to do that day. Even come rain or come shine in the. In the summer, you can go outside in the rain. That never hurt anybody, right? As long as you're not just holding up like a giant piece of metal. It's saying, strike me, you know, with lightning or anything like that. Which, you know, honestly, you'll probably still be fine. That's just me. But, yeah, just go outside, right? Just go. Just do things. I can't emphasize that enough. It's just. Just figure out things that, you know, either you might like or just. Just try things, try new things. People are afraid to try new things because they think they're not naturally gifted enough or, you know, they're afraid of what people think. And that's valid. You know, I've been there. I've been. Oh, I don't want to try this because I don't want to get made fun of or laughed at or whatever. But you know, learning how to, to work through something and to not be good at something and okay, maybe somebody laughs at you. Okay, that's another good life experience to learn from. How do I react to somebody laughing at me? Right? Because it's going to happen. Happened to me so many times. Maybe it won't happen to you. Maybe you're a stud and you know, and, and nobody's going to laugh at you ever for something you do. But I think it builds a little bit of character. It's a little bit of grit. And so spending time outdoors or something you're uncomfortable with and learning to get through that uncomfort is such a big skill to learn and that happens a lot of times outdoors. And then we'll go number 10, spend more time with friends in real life. Right. There's a big misconception of, oh, I keep up with friends on social media or oh, I keep up with friends. I, you know, I play video games so I can keep up with these friends. I don't know about you, but the friendships that last the longest that I've experienced are the ones that you go through something with. I was a cross country runner in high school. Cross country is not fun. It's hard. You're pushing your body to its limit. You're waking up early and you're, you're running and you're breaking a sweat and you know, your face feels like the, the, the heat is leaving it at the end of the race and it's hot outside and all that and the, but the guys to my left and right, that did that with me, instant, instant, instant close friendship. It's just amazing how just a little bit of shared hardship doesn't even have to be like something crazy traumatic, right? Like I'm not traumatized from cross country. It was tough and I learned how to get through it. But the relationships I built because it's like, oh, I respect you. You're doing this thing too. You're outside breaking a sweat with us. You're waking up early. I respect that. We're probably going to be friends and wouldn't you know it, we were friends. Right? And so I think that that's another thing is just spending time with them in real life face to face, learning how to read their, like, read their emotions, see their real life, see them in their day to day. Because you're not getting that online, you're not getting their day to day. You're not getting how they react to certain things. I'm learning things new about. I've had these same friends for about 15 years. I went to one school, right. Grew up with a lot of the same kids. I learned something new about them every day that I'm with them, right? That face to face interaction that, you know, that, that shared experience, all that, all that has happened in real life, I can't emphasize that enough. And it happened a lot during the summers where it was, hey, you know, my buddy lives, you know, 10 minutes down the street, I'm gonna bike to his house, we're gonna go find a creek and we're gonna fish, right? That's what we're gonna do all day. And it's like, okay, you know, then you just go inside, you drink, you eat, and then you go back out, right? And you're talking and you're learning things about people and you're, you're having these, you're creating memories. And I love doing. I was like, oh, do you remember XYZ with certain person, right? That always happens in person, every single time. And my brother and I were the only ones that didn't have, you know, everyone when we were in fifth and sixth grade, started to get phones, started to get social media, was playing video games. But even they would, like in high school, they would talk back about, oh, do you remember that time in like in middle school when we went to the baseball field and xyz, excuse me, right. They don't, I don't ever hear them talk about the time they spent playing video. Like I never hear specific memories about them playing video games with other people. Maybe they just don't say it around me, but I just never have heard them say that. They always talk about things that happen in real life. And I think that's a hard thing to grasp is you think that you're, you're being social with people and you're creating memories, but you're just not. You're not. And, and even like doing things in the summer when things go wrong, that's when you create the most memories. Like a camping trip where it pours down rain, where it's not perfect conditions. Those are memories that it's okay, yeah, it's maybe not fun in the moment. Who cares? In 24 hours you're going to be laughing about it. You know what I'm saying? And so those are the memories that stay with you. That's what stays with you. That's what it keeps it real, right? And so just learning that this is how we create real memories, this is how we create real skills, this is how we create real world princip, like real principles that are going to help us in the future. Now, the earlier you can get it, the better. And it'll separate you, I promise you. If you can talk to people, if you have a skill, if you can, you know, work through problems, if you can problem solve, if you can critically think, all that you learn pretty much. Excuse me. Outside in the summer with real friends in real life. I'm not that special of a person. I'm not going to lie to you. A lot of people are like, oh, you can public speak and do all this stuff. It's not that I'm that special. It's just that I had these summers to learn those skills, right? And that's the biggest thing. And so all of you out there listening to, if you do this, you're going to be much better than I am ever at anything. You know what I'm saying? So just be committed to doing that. And I promise you, you'll have more fun, you'll have more memories, you'll have, you'll have better friends. All that. It's just when it happens in real life, and I think everyone deep down knows that, right? A few memories you have in real life you cherish, but then all kind of the, the scrolling and the playing video games that all blends together. But it's what you did, you know, on a random June day, you know, when we were trying to learn how to, how to, you know, I don't know, fish or how to play basketball or, you know, when we went out and played golf together and he shot this. Right. It's all. You're gonna remember that. And that's. That. That is just so unbelievably priceless, I can't even. Yeah, so. So that pretty much that's it. That's. That's our 10 for the, the day. Again, a lot of overlap, right? Principles are the same. You know, I know I talk a lot about stuff like that, but I, it's just from somebody who lived that that is just the most important thing. It's just removing the, the video games and social media and getting out in real life. So instead of spending it behind a screen, like, spend it with real people, invite friends over, build a fire, play basketball, go fishing, you know, join a club, go out in your community. There's, there's, you know, join a club in a small town or at a church or at your school or something like that do things, fill your time with something. I promise you you'll never be bored. There's this big myth about the over committed child nowadays. It's oh, he has two sports so you know, he can't do xyz. Yes he can. He absolutely can. There is so much time in the day that it's wasted, right? And so it's, you see that as a challenge is okay. If there's wasted time in the day, how am I going to, you know, combat that? How am I going to fill my time with things that. Things that are going to productive and going to get me to where I want to be, right? And just challenge yourself, Try a lot of different things, right? Create a list, do, do all of that. You'll have so much more fun. Like you just will. You have so many more memories, so many closer friends, so much you can look back on in the summer that says that was the summer that I learned this, that was a summer that I got better at this or achieved this. And that's something that sticks with you, that's something that you can hang on to for a while. So what I've learned again, you don't spend your summer gaming, you don't just avoid something bad, you want to make something good. So you know, parents ask us all the time, they're like, hey, you know, and then I took video games out now, now we're avoiding the bad, you know, now what the heck do I do? And it's like, well, don't just avoid the bad. You want to, you know, go towards the good, right? And so that's why you do all these things, that's why you go get it, that's why you go start a small business, you go learn how to woodwork, you go learn how to do clay, how to play golf, how to do, how to play guitar, how to play piano, all that stuff that's going towards stuff that's good, that's going to stick with you. And something that I wish that I had honestly had when I was growing up is the why we're going away from something bad. Why do we see video games as bad? Right? Why do we see social media as bad? And is it just my mom? That's know because I thought, oh, my mom's just crazy. She just kind of, she's a little bit weird. She's out there. She just wants me to be quote unquote miserable and you know, not have any friends, which is what I thought in middle school I was like not going to have any friends. I'M going to be miserable. I'm the weird kid du which is all contrary. It was like, it was all absolutely false, but I just didn't have the explanation of the brain science. What you'll have is if you buy this curriculum, right, kids, brains and screens. This is a complete rundown of what is going on to your brain when you're on social media and, or video games. And so now it's not just if you're a kid out there listening this. It's not just a mom and dad are making this decision because they hate me, right? It's not just a, oh, they want me to be miserable for the summer and uncool and get made fun of. No, this is actual science and if you want to argue with it, go ahead, like, you know, you can try, right? But you, you're more than welcome to it. But now this is, this book creates this, you know, actual real world evidence of what is going on in your brain, of brain scans and stuff like that. And it's something that you then, if you then, you know, understand that as a 13, 14 year old, then you'd be like, yeah, you know what, you're right. I want to spend time doing these other valuable skills, not even just to, you know, just to learn how to do those, but just to spend so that I can help my brain in the future by not being hooked on video games and social media. And so that's the biggest thing if you want to learn the why of why are we going in this direction? Why are we not spending our time on video games, social media. Buy the book, right? Go through the book, be diligent with the book. That's another thing you can do with a family. You can, you know, work there with your parents, like parents. This is the best thing, like honestly, for, for your kids and, and for them to understand the why. And then honestly, I think that'll probably help. You know, your kids are still going to push back, right? They're still going to think they know the best, you know, they, they know what's best for them. And of course they're going to want to do like the thing that requires the least effort, which is video games, social media. But just stick to your guns, right? Be like, no, I understand. I know that I understand the brain science because I'm older and. No, so now I want you to, I'm going to explain it in a way that you can understand. And so now it's not just going to be this back and forth of, you know, you know, I'M just making a decision because, you know, I'm the parent, which is good, which you have every right to do as a parent. But now it's. Your kid will have a little bit more understanding of why you're making it and that you actually care for them, right? This is one of the best things you can do is, hey, I actually care for your development and your brain, you know, your mental well being. And so we're not going to do this this way. And it's an act. It's honestly an act of love. It's the best thing you can do. So going through this book with your kids and all that is something that I wish I'd had because. But now after, after the years of, of, of what we, you know, went through and the way we were raised, which was the best way you can raise kids, now this is just a cherry on top, right? And this is something that you guys get to have that you guys can make the decisions of. We're not going to do video games, social media. You can also have the why and the understanding and you can explain it to your friends and their friends and then it kind of, you know, comes full circle. So that's the best thing I think you can do if you're going to do this during the summer. I would buy the book. Buy the book, go through it, explain to them why and just be, be excited to, to make these new memories, to try new things. To try new things and to, to learn how to work through problems, learn how to obtain real world skills, learn how to talk to people, learn how to communicate, learn the soft skills. People say one of the biggest things they're looking at when they're hiring people like right out of college is soft skills. They can teach you everything you need to know. But can you look them in the eye? Can you give them a firm handshake? Can you show up on time? Can you, you know, politely write an email? Can you do these things that honestly, they used to be givens and now they're not, right? And so learn how these principles will, you know, affect you in such a positive way. And, and it was so much fun. I look fondly back in the summers. You know, I don't really have much of summers anymore. The older you get, the less summer you have, right? And so you want to cherish those early summers when you feel like they're never going to end because it's not always going to be here. Not to get grim, but it's like you want to make the most of what you've given at the time, and when you're 12, 13, 14, you know, how much responsibility yet learn cool things, build cool relationships and do all that. And, and so I really think that that's going to be the best for your kids and for you as kids to learn how to do that. You may not enjoy right up front, but you're going to look back and it's going to be awesome. So I appreciate you guys all listening to me. You know, I know I talk a lot. I'm sorry if spoke fast or anything like that, but it's just really something that is. It's been on my heart and it's been, you know, something that, that I'm very passionate about because I've lived it. And you can come out on the other side and be normal. Right? You can be. You can have lots of friends, you can have lots of things to look forward to and lots of skills that you learn. Not on, not on my own merit, but because of what my summers looked like as a kid. So I hope this encouraged you, really, as a kid, if you're out there, to know this is possible as a parent, to know this is possible. Really hope encourage you to buy the book. This book is really, you know, instrumental and key in this process of winning off the, or, you know, cutting out the video games and social media. Right, Right. The book is really instrumental in that, really goes along nicely with that and it'll make, I think, that process a lot smoother. So we'd love if you would please subscribe to the podcast. Share this episode with a friend. Encourage them, right? This is meant to. This is not meant to be like a, you know, oh, you know, kids, it's all hope is lost. This is a, this is a meant to encourage kids and say, hey, we're not trying to beat you over the head with the, oh, you've been playing video games. Social, you know, you've been on social media. You're a bad kid. No, not at all. Right. We're just trying to help encourage you to understand that there's way more out there and there's so many memories to be made and there's so many relationships to have and there's all this and it's going to be so much fun if you're just committed to it. Right. If you're committed to understanding why this does what and what this does. So remember, we've got your back. We're here to help you. We have everything you need to remove the screen complex for your home for this summer and then hopefully on in the future and learn how instrumental that can be. So until next time, stand up for your kids through getting this new KBS course, right? Standing up for your kids. You're doing this out of love, right? Stand up for them by buying this new kbs. Stand out from the crowd and stay strong.