Welcome to Episode 451 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Dr. Joli Hamilton who speaks to me about navigating non-monogamy, jealousy, and building healthy polyamorous relationships.

In this conversation, I invite Joli to share the very human, very messy path she took from a long-term monogamous marriage into consensual non-monogamy. We talk about how a simple crush, paired with new language for polyamory, sparked courageous but complicated conversations, the pitfalls of working with clinicians who default to monogamy, and the painful social narratives that cast open-relationship exploration as “cheating” even when no boundaries are crossed.

Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines & founder of The Year of Opening. She is a depth psychologist, TEDx speaker, best-selling author, and AASECT (pronounced ay-sect) certified sex educator. Joli co-hosts the Playing with Fire podcast. Joli’s been featured in The New York Times, CNN, Vogue, Cosmo, and NPR. She’s spent the past two decades studying and reimagining what love can be if we open our imaginations to possibility. Joli helps people create non-monogamous partnerships that are custom-built for their authentic selves, no more shrinking, pretending, or hiding required.

In this episode, you will hear:

· From Monogamy To Non-Monogamy: A Real-Life Origin Story

· Why Honesty Without Skills Still Hurts

· The Therapist Fit Problem In CNM

· Naming Feelings vs. Trying To Erase Them

· Jealousy Happens - Bans Make It Worse

· Agreements, Not Assumptions

· Breakup And Aftercare In Polyamory

· Parenting And Cohabitation Considerations

· Nervous System Tools For Regulation

· Defining Your Own CNM Script Over Time

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EP451 - Coloring Outside the Lines: Freedom in Polyamory