Touch My Bestie and It’s On: Why We Defend Our Friends Harder Than Ourselves

You can insult us. We’ll probably roll our eyes and move on.

But disrespect our bestie?

Now we’re drafting paragraphs, standing taller, and deciding who needs to be escorted out of the group chat.

In this episode of Slightly Unsupervised, Jennifer and Jackie unpack the protective instinct that kicks in when someone hurts our people. Why is it easier to defend our friends than defend ourselves? Why do we forgive faster for our own pain… but hold lifelong grudges when someone crosses our bestie?

This chapter dives into:

Why women go full mama bear for their friends
How loyalty can turn into fierce (and sometimes petty) protection
The difference between healthy boundaries and permanent blacklists
Why our “bullsh*t tolerance” drops as we age
How childhood patterns of self-abandonment can turn into over-protection of others
When sticking up for your friend helps — and when it complicates things

Jennifer and Jackie share real stories from their friend group — girls’ trips gone sideways, shady behavior, teenage locker-room standoffs, Moscow Mule meltdowns, and the unspoken rule: if you hurt one of us, you hurt both of us.

They also admit the hard truth:
Sometimes we hold onto anger longer than the friend who was actually hurt.

Because protecting your bestie feels powerful.
Protecting yourself? That’s harder.

This episode is about loyalty, love, projection, fierce devotion — and the beautiful, chaotic energy of women who refuse to let their people stand alone.

🎙 Hosted by Jennifer & Jackie
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Listen in, laugh with us, and maybe text your ride-or-die just to say: “I’ve got you.”

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