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Social Anxiety Solutions - your journey to social confidence!
Hosted by Sebastiaan van der Schrier · EN
My name is Seb.
I used to struggle with severe social anxiety. Since 2009, I've helped people work through social anxiety in a way that is structured, practical, and gentle.
No forced exposure.
No pressure to perform.
No "just push yourself" advice.
Social anxiety is not a defect.
It's a protective nervous system response that can be gradually retrained.
My work combines psychology with EFT tapping to update the emotional learning that drives social anxiety.
Progress is not dramatic.
It's gradual.
Intensity decreases.
Duration shortens.
Confidence builds quietly.
If you're looking for a calm, realistic path forward, you're in the right place.
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I Thought This Would Make Me Confident… It Didn't
Mar 2800:10:11Tap to summarizeDo you feel confident in some situations… but suddenly freeze in others? Like you're fine one-on-one, but put you in a group, around someone you like or in a specific setting… and everything changes? In this episode, I'll show you why that happens, and what's really going on beneath it. It's not random. And it's not because something is wrong with you. You'll learn how certain situations activate old emotional patterns, and how to start working through them in a way that actually feels manageable. Start here: Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidencehttps://bit.ly/socialconfidencenow This short mini-course explains:• why social anxiety happens • why forcing exposure often backfires • how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms • how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach. -------------------------------------------------- If you'd like practical tools you can start using right away: Fast Social Anxiety Reliefhttps://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/fast-social-anxiety-relief/ -------------------------------------------------- About Seb Seb struggled with severe social anxiety himself for many years. Since 2009 he has helped people work through social anxiety using a calm, structured approach that combines psychology with EFT tapping. No forced exposure.No pressure to perform. No "just push yourself" advice. -------------------------------------------------- Scientific research on EFT tapping https://eftuniverse.com/research-studies/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36438382/ https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2023.1195286/full
Transcribe →Your Teenage Identity Is Ruining Your Social Life
Mar 1600:11:29Tap to summarizeDo you still feel insecure, awkward, or self-conscious in social situations, even though you're no longer that teenager? In this episode, Sebastiaan explains how social anxiety can be tied to identities formed during puberty, like feeling like the outsider, the weak one, or the one who doesn't fit in. Start here: Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidencehttps://bit.ly/socialconfidencenow This short mini-course explains:• why social anxiety happens • why forcing exposure often backfires • how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms • how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach. -------------------------------------------------- If you'd like practical tools you can start using right away: Fast Social Anxiety Reliefhttps://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/fast-social-anxiety-relief/ -------------------------------------------------- About Seb Seb struggled with severe social anxiety himself for many years. Since 2009 he has helped people work through social anxiety using a calm, structured approach that combines psychology with EFT tapping. No forced exposure.No pressure to perform. No "just push yourself" advice. -------------------------------------------------- Scientific research on EFT tapping https://eftuniverse.com/research-studies/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36438382/ https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2023.1195286/full
Transcribe →When Social Anxiety Starts to Shift — Real Member Stories
Mar 300:07:18Tap to summarizeIn this episode, you'll hear a Club member, Tapani, describe: • Panic attacks fading • Baseline anxiety dropping from a nine to a three • Triggers losing their grip • Overthinking decreasing • Feeling more like themselves again These weren't dramatic breakthroughs. They were small shifts, repeated week after week. Social anxiety doesn't disappear overnight. It gradually loses intensity and stays gone longer. If you're wondering whether change like this is possible for you, this episode gives you a grounded picture of what that path actually looks like. Start with our free 7 Secrets To Social Confidence here
Transcribe →Does Social Anxiety Change Last? A Real 4-Year Follow-Up
Feb 2300:34:22Tap to summarizeFour years ago, I interviewed Tapani after he had already made significant progress with his social anxiety. His lifelong blushing had reduced dramatically. Life was opening up in ways that once felt impossible. Recently, he shared in our community that the last time he felt more than a little anxious was months ago. His anxiety barely bothers him anymore. And he described learning not just how to deal with social anxiety, but how to approach life differently. That made me curious. So we recorded this follow-up conversation to explore what actually holds up over time. What does long-term change from social anxiety really feel like? Not dramatic confidence. Not becoming a different personality. Not turning into the most charismatic person in the room. Instead: • Anxiety dropping from an 8 or 9 to mild physical tension • Blushing no longer dominating daily life • Social situations feeling ordinary again • Strangers no longer registering as threats • Relief that continues to deepen quietly If you've ever wondered: "Does this actually last?" "What if I improve… and then it fades?" "Is this realistic for someone like me?" This episode is for you. We talk about: • Fear of blushing and reputation anxiety • Anticipatory anxiety and how it changes • Why pushing anxiety away makes it worse • Acceptance and nervous system regulation • Why progress compounds gradually • What "feeling normal" really means This isn't a story about instant transformation. It's an honest look at how social anxiety can loosen its grip over time, and what life feels like when your system gradually updates instead of being forced. If you're considering whether this path might fit you, you'll find more details here. Take your time. Move when it feels right.
Transcribe →What the Social Confidence Club Is (And Isn't)
Feb 200:12:56Tap to summarizeEnrollment for the Social Confidence Club is currently open. If you'd like to see how it works and whether it's a fit, you can start here: 👉 https://bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub Enrollment closes March 3. The Social Confidence Club opens for registration the last week of February. After that, we close the doors for a year to fully focus on the group. All practical details (structure, schedule, testimonials) are on this page. You can also watch video testimonials from former Social Confidence Club members here. This episode gives a clear, calm explanation of what the Social Confidence Club is and what it isn't. If you've lived with social anxiety for years and have tried things like therapy, exposure, CBT, or tapping, you may have had some relief that didn't last. This video explains why that happens and how a different, nervous-system-based approach can support more stable change over time. In this orientation, I explain: • what makes the Social Confidence Club different from courses or quick fixes • why social anxiety isn't a logic problem, but a nervous system issue • how gradual change happens without forcing, rushing, or exposure pressure • what participation actually looks like, including anonymity and replays • who this approach is and isn't a fit for This episode will help you understand the approach and decide calmly whether it makes sense for you. Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You're not alone. I've been there. It sucks. Big time. But there's hope. I've been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I've helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there's a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won't happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you'll also get my FREE "7 Secrets to Social Confidence" Mini Course. 3.) Let's connect! ● SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel ● Facebook ● Instagram ● X ● TikTok ● LinkedIn All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. 💪 Warm regards,Seb
Transcribe →The Subtle Signs Your Social Anxiety Is Actually Shifting
Jan 1900:13:32Tap to summarizeEnrollment for the Social Confidence Club is currently open. If you'd like to see how it works and whether it's a fit, you can start here: 👉 https://bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub Enrollment closes March 3. Tapping for social anxiety but not sure if it's actually working? This video will help you understand what real progress looks like. In this episode, I explain: - The early signs that tapping is helping, even if your anxiety isn't gone - Why feeling calmer, lighter, or less tense matters - How social anxiety slowly fades over time Social anxiety doesn't disappear overnight. It gradually becomes less intense, passes faster, and shows up less often. If you're just starting out and wondering whether you're on the right track, this video will give you clarity. Go check it out! Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You're not alone. I've been there. It sucks. Big time. But there's hope. I've been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I've helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there's a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won't happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you'll also get my FREE "7 Secrets to Social Confidence" Mini Course. 3.) Let's connect! ● SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel ● Facebook ● Instagram ● X ● TikTok ● LinkedIn All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. 💪 Warm regards,Seb
Transcribe →How progress with social anxiety actually unfolds
Dec 2900:06:26Tap to summarize🚨 BIG NEWS! 🚨 We're excited to announce that the FREE 30-Day Social Confidence Challenge starts on January 1st, 2026! 🥳🙌🔥 Ready to reduce social anxiety from the comfort of your home—for FREE? Here's how: ✅ Powerful Guided Tapping to release fear, shame, and insecurity ✅ Learn the psychology of social anxiety and discover the 5 stages to social confidence ✅ Boost your self-esteem and feel calm and relaxed in social situations In just 30 days, you'll feel less anxious and more confident! Join thousands of others on the #JourneyToSocialConfidence! 🔗 Sign up now: https://bit.ly/socialconfidencechallenge __________________________ www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Recommended Playlists: 30 Day Social Confidence Challenge Testimonial: "This Simplifies My Journey To Social Ease" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QkaOaCSG3E8&t=0s 30 Day Social Confidence Challenge Testimonial: "This gave me an answer to what I am going through" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C3S5RjhuQb4&t=0s Powerful Video Testimonial About Overcoming Social Anxiety |🌈 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XVJ6CDgAucs&t=0s "I See Myself In A Completely Different Way" - 30 Day Social Confidence Challenge 2021 |🌈 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4WZq5x9EGm4&t=0s Worried that EFT tapping won't work for you? Watch this! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hCidMvyR2f0&t=0s 🤓 Scientific Evidence Research Links: https://eftuniverse.com/research-studies/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36438382/ https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2023.1195286/full ------- Do you feel #awkward socially? Struggle to be yourself around others? And do you #fear #beingjudged, being seen #anxious, and #embarrassingyourself? You're not alone. I've been there. It sucks. Big time. But there is great #hope. I've been fortunate enough to overcome it (thanks to a powerful, #scientificallyproven Emotional Release Technique, and the help of some brilliant #therapists)… … and I've helped hundreds of #sociallyanxious clients overcome their struggle too. Here are some video #testimonials as proof : https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLaacEyPlJ8icnlmTHSEXLnbONdhPkmhIJ Thankfully, here is gentle, powerful, and #effective #solution to beat your #socialanxiety. It won't happen overnight, but with certain #techniques and #strategies you can reduce your social anxiety quickly. And with #persistence, you can become completely #anxietyfree. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly #faceyourfears. Ready to get started on your journey to social confidence? Here are your first steps: 1) SUBSCRIBE to this channel. I release weekly videos to help you understand and #overcomesocialanxiety. https://bit.ly/socialanxietylive 2) GET your free Social Confidence Starter Kit. https://bit.ly/socialconfidencekit You will receive: - 10 SHORT videos, where I teach you the basics of the tapping technique that I used to overcome my own social anxiety - My Ebook on "How To Overcome Social Anxiety COMPLETELY", where I share how I overcame my social anxiety and how you can do the same in 4 steps using tapping 3) TUNE IN to my Social Anxiety Solutions Podcast. http://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/sas-podcast/ You'll hear me (an ex-social anxiety disorder sufferer) interview the superstars of the #WESTERNtherapy and #ENERGYpsychology world as they share their most #effectivetechniques, #empoweringsolutions, and unbelievably #inspiring #storiesoftransformation. 4) LET'S CONNECT! https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb
Transcribe →Do You Have to Keep Tapping Forever to Stop Social Anxiety?
Dec 1200:04:02Tap to summarizeIn this episode... I explain why tapping reduces social anxiety like a volume knob (not a light switch), and why new situations can briefly trigger anxiety again even after big progress. You'll also hear a quick story from my own experience with social dancing. If you want to learn this step-by-step, I'll be running a free challenge soon. Stay tuned. Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You're not alone. I've been there. It sucks. Big time. But there's hope. I've been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I've helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there's a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won't happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you'll also get my FREE "7 Secrets to Social Confidence" Mini Course. 3.) Let's connect! ● SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel ● Facebook ● Instagram ● X ● TikTok ● LinkedIn All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. 💪 Warm regards,Seb
Transcribe →3 Strategic Times To Tap To Reduce Social Anxiety
Nov 2800:15:47Tap to summarizeIn this episode... You'll learn when to tap and how to tap to reduce social anxiety gradually over time in a simple and gentle way. You'll also understand why this works, how tapping helps rewire your nervous system, and what to do if you can't feel any feelings when you try to tap. Want to go further? Start your journey to social confidence with my free mini-course: The 7 Secrets To Social Confidence https://bit.ly/socialconfidencenow Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You're not alone. I've been there. It sucks. Big time. But there's hope. I've been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I've helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there's a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won't happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you'll also get my FREE "7 Secrets to Social Confidence" Mini Course. 3.) Let's connect! ● SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel ● Facebook ● Instagram ● X ● TikTok ● LinkedIn All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. 💪 Warm regards,Seb
Transcribe →Complete Freedom from Social Anxiety… Possible?
Nov 1400:17:54Tap to summarizeBelieving you should never feel anxiety again is the very thing that fuels your anxiety. In this episode... I explain what real freedom looks like, why acceptance is essential, and how to stop the perfectionistic trap that keeps people stuck. You'll learn: • Why anxiety sometimes comes back • How acceptance stops the anxiety spiral • How to expand your comfort zone with ARTX If you want to start overcoming social anxiety step by step, start here: https://bit.ly/socialconfidencenow Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You're not alone. I've been there. It sucks. Big time. But there's hope. I've been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I've helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there's a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won't happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you'll also get my FREE "7 Secrets to Social Confidence" Mini Course. 3.) Let's connect! ● SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel ● Facebook ● Instagram ● X ● TikTok ● LinkedIn All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. 💪 Warm regards,Seb
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