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Social Anxiety Solutions - your journey to social confidence!
Hosted by Sebastiaan van der Schrier · EN
You struggle to overcome your Social Anxiety? You're frustrated over how it affects your life? Worried you'll have to live with your Social Anxiety forever?
This podcast is for you!
You'll hear me - an ex-Social Anxiety Disorder sufferer - interview the superstars of the therapy and psychology world. They've been traditionally trained psychologists or psychotherapists and have incorporated an exciting new field into their practice:
"Energy psychology".
These experts share their most successful techniques, fresh insights, and incredible stories of transformation. Here's what you need to gain relief, and shortcut your journey to Social Confidence.
In each show, we discuss a Social Anxiety related topic (eg. shame, self-acceptance, bullying, fear of rejection, connection, loneliness, etc) and you'll get specific action steps to move forward each week.
Listen to gain an empowered perspective.
Learn tools to beat your Social Anxiety.
Be motivated and supported on your journey to Social Confidence; where you enjoy connecting with others, express yourself authentically, and create the social life you desire.
If you want context on how I approach social anxiety, there's a short orientation here:
👉 bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub
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This Changed How I Use Tapping
1w ago00:59:31Tap to summarizeWhat if the reason your anxiety keeps coming back isn't because you're thinking the "wrong thoughts"? In this episode, Sebastiaan sits down with psychologist Steve Wells to talk about Intention Tapping, a variation of EFT tapping that has deeply influenced how Seb helps people with social anxiety. They explore why social anxiety often can't be "out-thought," why emotional attachment matters more than thoughts alone, and how tapping may help reduce the nervous system's perception of threat. You'll hear why anxiety can become linked to everyday social situations, why resisting anxiety often makes it stronger, and how Intention Tapping can help release the emotional charge underneath social anxiety symptoms. In this conversation, they cover: • Why logic alone often doesn't stop social anxiety • The difference between CBT and tapping • Why anxiety is not just a thought problem • How emotional attachment keeps anxiety active • Why social anxiety is often a protective response • How tapping can help calm the nervous system • Why small shifts matter more than people think • How tapping can support gentle real-life progress • What to do when tapping "doesn't work" right away • How setbacks can become breakthroughs They also discuss fear of judgment, blushing, physical anxiety symptoms, performance anxiety, upcoming social events, public speaking, podcasting, salsa dancing, and why forcing yourself to face your fears is not always the most effective path. If you've tried changing your thoughts, affirmations, mindset work, or pushing yourself through social situations but still get triggered, this episode will give you a different way to understand social anxiety and what may help it shift. Learn more from Steve Wells: https://intentiontapping.com https://eftdownunder.com Get Sebastiaan's free training: Overcome Social Anxiety Without Having To Force Yourself To Face Your Fears https://bit.ly/socialconfidencenow Want structured guidance applying tapping to social anxiety? Fast Social Anxiety Relief is Sebastiaan's step-by-step program that shows you what to tap on, how to use tapping before, during, and after social situations, and how to gradually reduce the emotional triggers behind social anxiety. https://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/fast-social-anxiety-relief/
Transcribe →How to Meet New People Without Awkwardness (And Actually Enjoy It)
4w ago00:48:05Tap to summarizeDo you feel awkward or stuck when trying to talk to new people? You are not alone. Social anxiety can make simple interactions feel like a big deal. In this episode I talk with Christoph Schiessl, someone who feels naturally at ease meeting strangers and building connections anywhere in the world. We explore how he approaches people without overthinking, why he expects positive interactions, and how his mindset makes socializing feel simple and even enjoyable. What you'll discover: 🔹 How to start conversations without overthinking what to say 🔹 Why most strangers are far less judgmental than you think 🔹 How to feel more relaxed when meeting new people 🔹 Why focusing on connection works better than trying to impress 🔹 How to make friends naturally through simple interactions 💡 Quote from Christoph: "When I meet someone, I'm fully there in that moment. That's what people feel." Start here: Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast This short mini-course explains: • why social anxiety happens • why forcing exposure often backfires • how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms • how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach.
Transcribe →How to Start Conversations and Make Friends Naturally
Apr 2700:16:11Tap to summarizeDo you want more connection, but still overthink what to say when meeting someone new? You are not alone. Social anxiety can make starting conversations feel much bigger than it is. In this episode I talk with Teun Melis about how to start conversations in a low-pressure way, how to keep socializing light and natural, and how real friendships usually grow. We explore why curiosity works better than trying to impress, why repeated shared activities make connection easier, and why a little awkwardness is not a problem if you keep showing up. What you'll discover: 🔹 A simple low-pressure way to start conversations 🔹 Why curiosity works better than trying to be interesting 🔹 How timing can matter more than saying the perfect thing 🔹 How friendships grow naturally through shared interests and repeated contact 🔹 Why a little awkwardness is normal and worth pushing through 💡 Quote from Teun: "Just see it as a game, try out different things, and don't focus on the result." Start here: Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast This short mini-course explains: • why social anxiety happens • why forcing exposure often backfires • how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms • how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach.
Transcribe →How to Start Conversations and Make Friends Naturally
Apr 2700:16:11Tap to summarizeDo you want more connection, but still overthink what to say when meeting someone new? You are not alone. Social anxiety can make starting conversations feel much bigger than it is. In this episode I talk with Teun Melis about how to start conversations in a low-pressure way, how to keep socializing light and natural, and how real friendships usually grow. We explore why curiosity works better than trying to impress, why repeated shared activities make connection easier, and why a little awkwardness is not a problem if you keep showing up. What you'll discover: 🔹 A simple low-pressure way to start conversations 🔹 Why curiosity works better than trying to be interesting 🔹 How timing can matter more than saying the perfect thing 🔹 How friendships grow naturally through shared interests and repeated contact 🔹 Why a little awkwardness is normal and worth pushing through 💡 Quote from Teun: "Just see it as a game, try out different things, and don't focus on the result." Start here: Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast This short mini-course explains: • why social anxiety happens • why forcing exposure often backfires • how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms • how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach.
Transcribe →How to Feel Safe Being Vulnerable in Relationships
Apr 2000:35:18Tap to summarizeDo you want deeper connection, but still hold back because getting hurt feels too risky? You are not alone. Social anxiety can make vulnerability feel unsafe, especially in relationships. In this episode I talk with Dr. David Lake, psychotherapist and relationship expert, about why vulnerability feels so difficult, why fear of being hurt blocks true intimacy, and why social anxiety often magnifies the "I'm not good enough" belief. We also explore when vulnerability is helpful, when it is not, and how authentic feedback can help you feel safer being yourself. What you'll discover: 🔹 Why fear of being hurt blocks true intimacy 🔹 Why the "I'm not good enough" belief runs so deep 🔹 How criticism and conditional love feed self-doubt 🔹 Why vulnerability only works in the right context 🔹 Why "good enough" is healthier than trying to be perfect 💡 Quote from David: "It requires a lot of courage to be authentic and be your true self with another person." Start here: Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast This short mini-course explains: • why social anxiety happens • why forcing exposure often backfires • how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms • how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach.
Transcribe →Why Social Anxiety Still Feels Unsafe Even When You Know You're Safe
Apr 1300:08:04Tap to summarizeDo you ever know a situation is safe, but your body still reacts like it is not? You are not imagining it. Social anxiety often goes deeper than logic. In this episode I talk with Gwyneth Moss about why social anxiety does not always respond to visualizations, thought work, or trying to push through it. We explore why your thinking mind and your deeper fear response can go in opposite directions, and how EFT can help the part of you that still feels unsafe begin to calm down. What you'll discover: 🔹 Why logic alone often does not resolve social anxiety 🔹 Why your body can still react even when you know you are safe 🔹 What Gwyneth means by your "inner animal" 🔹 How EFT helps calm the part of you that feels unsafe 🔹 Why trying it works better than arguing about it 💡 Quote from Gwyneth: "With social anxiety your animal brain is going, 'it's not safe, it's not safe,' and your thinking brain is trying to go, 'yes it is, it's ok,' but there is no trust and the two are going in opposite directions." Start here: Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast This short mini-course explains: • why social anxiety happens • why forcing exposure often backfires • how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms • how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach.
Transcribe →How Childhood Trauma Can Fuel Social Anxiety
Apr 601:00:27Tap to summarizeDo certain situations still trigger fear, shame, or panic even when you know you should be fine? You are not broken. Old trauma can keep social anxiety active for years. In this episode I talk with Rehana Webster, EFT founding master and creator of the Trauma Buster Technique, about childhood trauma, severe trauma, and how one core incident can keep anxiety patterns going. We explore how tapping can help reduce the body's stress response, why getting to the root trauma matters, and what can change when the real issue is finally addressed. What you'll discover: 🔹 Why unresolved trauma keeps getting triggered in social situations 🔹 How to find the core incident behind a fear pattern 🔹 How tapping can reduce the emotional intensity 🔹 Why working around the problem can keep you stuck 🔹 What becomes possible when the root issue is resolved 💡 Quote from Rehana: "The only pain you experience is thinking about what the trauma is." Start here: Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast This short mini-course explains: • why social anxiety happens • why forcing exposure often backfires • how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms • how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach. -------------------------------------------------- About Seb Seb struggled with severe social anxiety himself for many years. Since 2009 he has helped people work through social anxiety using a calm, structured approach that combines psychology with EFT tapping. No forced exposure. No pressure to perform. No "just push yourself" advice. -------------------------------------------------- Scientific research on EFT tapping https://eftuniverse.com/research-studies/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36438382/ https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2023.1195286/full
Transcribe →I Thought This Would Make Me Confident… It Didn't
Mar 2800:10:11Tap to summarizeDo you feel confident in some situations… but suddenly freeze in others? Like you're fine one-on-one, but put you in a group, around someone you like or in a specific setting… and everything changes? In this episode, I'll show you why that happens, and what's really going on beneath it. It's not random. And it's not because something is wrong with you. You'll learn how certain situations activate old emotional patterns, and how to start working through them in a way that actually feels manageable. Start here: Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidencehttps://bit.ly/socialconfidencenow This short mini-course explains:• why social anxiety happens • why forcing exposure often backfires • how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms • how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach. -------------------------------------------------- If you'd like practical tools you can start using right away: Fast Social Anxiety Reliefhttps://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/fast-social-anxiety-relief/ -------------------------------------------------- About Seb Seb struggled with severe social anxiety himself for many years. Since 2009 he has helped people work through social anxiety using a calm, structured approach that combines psychology with EFT tapping. No forced exposure.No pressure to perform. No "just push yourself" advice. -------------------------------------------------- Scientific research on EFT tapping https://eftuniverse.com/research-studies/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36438382/ https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2023.1195286/full
Transcribe →Your Teenage Identity Is Ruining Your Social Life
Mar 1600:11:29Tap to summarizeDo you still feel insecure, awkward, or self-conscious in social situations, even though you're no longer that teenager? In this episode, Sebastiaan explains how social anxiety can be tied to identities formed during puberty, like feeling like the outsider, the weak one, or the one who doesn't fit in. Start here: Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidencehttps://bit.ly/socialconfidencenow This short mini-course explains:• why social anxiety happens • why forcing exposure often backfires • how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms • how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach. -------------------------------------------------- If you'd like practical tools you can start using right away: Fast Social Anxiety Reliefhttps://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/fast-social-anxiety-relief/ -------------------------------------------------- About Seb Seb struggled with severe social anxiety himself for many years. Since 2009 he has helped people work through social anxiety using a calm, structured approach that combines psychology with EFT tapping. No forced exposure.No pressure to perform. No "just push yourself" advice. -------------------------------------------------- Scientific research on EFT tapping https://eftuniverse.com/research-studies/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36438382/ https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2023.1195286/full
Transcribe →When Social Anxiety Starts to Shift — Real Member Stories
Mar 300:07:18Tap to summarizeIn this episode, you'll hear a Club member, Tapani, describe: • Panic attacks fading • Baseline anxiety dropping from a nine to a three • Triggers losing their grip • Overthinking decreasing • Feeling more like themselves again These weren't dramatic breakthroughs. They were small shifts, repeated week after week. Social anxiety doesn't disappear overnight. It gradually loses intensity and stays gone longer. If you're wondering whether change like this is possible for you, this episode gives you a grounded picture of what that path actually looks like. Start with our free 7 Secrets To Social Confidence here
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