This week kicks off a three-part series on planning, and it starts where every planning conversation should: with honesty about why plans fall apart in the first place. Pete opens with his own cascading construction disaster at home, where raccoon damage set off a chain reaction of disruptions that has bled directly into his work life. Nikki’s diagnosis is both simple and profound: when you make a plan, you’re trying to predict the future with the information you have right now. When that future doesn’t cooperate, the real problem isn’t the plan failing. It’s that we treat plan failure like a personal failure.

From there, Nikki walks through the full spectrum of executive function challenges that make ADHD planning uniquely hard: time blindness that operates at every scale from individual task to entire month, working memory that drops the ball the moment you turn around, prioritization paralysis where everything feels equally urgent, the cognitive inflexibility that turns one bad morning into a ruined day, emotional regulation struggles and the sharp edge of RSD when disappointing someone is unavoidable, and sustained attention that evaporates the moment your environment gets interesting. At the center of it all is what Pete calls “fantasy Pete,” the imaginary version of himself who wields time like a saber and never lets anyone down, and whom nobody would actually like at a party.

The antidote isn’t a better system. It’s moving from shame to curiosity. Nikki’s framework: instead of asking what’s wrong with you, ask what your brain actually needs. Find the friction. Learn your own flavor of ADHD. Build in margin so that when things go sideways, you have something left in the tank for recovery. The episode closes on Pete’s central paradox, the one he returns to with clients again and again: it’s not your fault, but it is yours. You didn’t design this brain. But you’re the one who has to work with it, and building that muscle, one honest conversation at a time, is exactly what this trilogy is for.

If this episode hit close to home, we made something to help it land a little deeper. Your Planning Reflection is a free companion guide—just four honest questions to help you connect what you heard to what's actually happening in your own life. No productivity exercise. No grade at the end. Just a quiet moment to start paying attention.

Links & Notes

Lattice by Pete D. Wright — Pete’s new science fiction novella, now available on Amazon
Unapologetically ADHD by Pete Wright and Nikki Kinzer — the planning book behind this trilogy
Your Planning Reflection worksheet — Nikki’s four-question companion to this episode, available now!
GPS Guided Planning Sessions — Nikki’s membership planning program
The ADHD Podcast on Patreon — early access, Discord, and live stream recordings
The Spanish Prisoner (1997, dir. David Mamet) — Pete’s most underrated film, home of the worry quote
Ricky Jay — magician, actor, and unwitting aphorist: “Worry is interest paid in advance on a debt that never comes due”
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(00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast
(00:41) - Introducing Pete D. Wright... Struggling Author of Fiction
(03:31) - Patreon.com/TheADHDPodcast
(04:34) - Why do your plans fall apart?
(09:37) - Were you taught how to plan?
(31:17) - Today's Reflection Worksheet

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