When I was in first grade, I had a plan for Valentine's Day. A very thoughtful, very Holly plan.

Every classmate was getting a Valentine. But not every classmate was getting the same coin taped inside.

There were the quarter kids. The dime kids. The nickel kids. The penny kids. And one classmate got nothing.

My teacher was not happy. My parents were not happy. And not one single adult that day asked me why I did it.

That part — the part where no one asked — is what this episode is really about.

In this episode, I talk about:

▸ The full story of the Valentine's Day coin system (and why, at seven years old, it made complete sense to me) ▸ What actually happens in a child's nervous system and sense of self when adults skip curiosity and go straight to correction ▸ Why neurodivergent kids stop explaining themselves — and what we accidentally teach them when we don't listen ▸ The one thing I wish an adult had said to me that day — and how you can say it to the kids in your life ▸ A direct challenge: How do YOU want to show up in the next hard moment?

This episode is for parents, therapists, and educators who want to be the person an autistic and adhd child actually feels safe with. The one who asks before they assume. The one who listens before they correct.

It's also for anyone who grew up being the kid that no one asked. You'll know who you are.

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