If you've ever felt that gut punch…

The side eye. The comment. The subtle (or not so subtle) message that your child is "too much"… or that you're somehow getting it wrong as a parent…

I get it!

In this episode of The Autism ADHD Podcast, I'm talking about something that so many parents and therapists experience… but we don't talk about enough:

The "good kid / bad kid" narrative
The "they were raised right" comments
And the damage this causes for autistic and ADHD kids — and their families

This episode was inspired by two real-life moments that happened just days apart… and they both reminded me how deeply rooted these beliefs are in our society.

Here's what we dive into:

Why behavior is often misunderstood (and what's actually underneath it)
How neurological differences are mistaken for "bad behavior"
Why shame is NOT a teaching tool (and what it actually does)
The emotional toll on parents of autistic and ADHD children
How masking develops — and why it can be dangerous
Why families begin to withdraw and isolate
The invisible, extraordinary work of neurodivergent parenting

This episode is for you if:

You're parenting an autistic or ADHD child and feel judged or misunderstood
You're a therapist, counselor, or psychologist supporting neurodivergent kids
You've ever wondered why your child's behavior doesn't "match" expectations
You're trying to understand meltdowns, shutdowns, and emotional regulation
You want a neurodiversity-affirming approach

You are going to LOVE this episode:)

Sincerely, Holly Blanc Moses, The Mom/Neurodivergent Therapist

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About Holly Blanc Moses: Holly Blanc Moses is an AuDHD psychologist with 28 years of experience. She is a speaker, consultant, continuing education provider, and host of The Autism ADHD Podcast, Autism ADHD TV, and parent masterclasses.

About the Podcast

The Autism ADHD Podcast is for parents and professionals who want a neurodiversity-affirming approach to supporting autistic and ADHD children and teens — with a focus on emotional regulation, executive functioning, mental health, and connection.

"Why 'Bad Behavior' Isn't Bad Parenting — And the Harmful 'Raised Right' Myth About Autism & ADHD"