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In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe breaks down one of the most common questions in labor: when do you actually leave for the hospital?

She shares what she’s seen over 10 years as a doula, from people arriving way too early at 1 cm to babies being born in cars, hallways, and yes… accidental home births. And why the standard 5-1-1 rule doesn’t work for everyone.

HeHe explains how timing your arrival should be based on you — your birth goals (unmedicated vs epidural), how far you are from the hospital, your contraction pattern, and your labor history.

She also gives more realistic guidelines based on distance, like shifting to 4-1-1 or even 3-1-1 if you live closer, and talks about how car rides can actually slow contractions (rude, honestly).

The biggest takeaway? This isn’t one-size-fits-all. Your intuition, your body, and your context matter.

⏱️ Timestamps
00:00 Too Early vs Too Late
05:16 When to Leave for the Hospital
08:29 Why 5-1-1 Doesn’t Work for Everyone
13:40 Listening to Your Body + Past Labors
15:16 Adjusting for Distance + Travel
17:54 Hospital Arrival + Final Tips

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