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Foreign. Hi, guys. Welcome back to another episode of the Blondest podcast.
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Hi, guys.
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Happy Monday.
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How are y' all doing?
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Good. Last week was heavy. It was, like, good. I feel like I haven't, like, really opened up about my relationship and, like, navigating dating, like, after being divorced forever or being married forever.
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Being divorced, you get so many questions about it every Q and A you do.
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People are like, well, I think one, like, divorce is sad and hard, but, like, I've shared my story on that. Like, I did what I thought was best and the circumstances that I was in. And like, I'm a very loyal person. And like, I'm, you know, and that's like. I think something that you and I have, like, struggled with is like, I get so, like, it's crazy because I can do so many things professionally, but when it comes to, like, my love and relationship life, like, I can't dream bigger for that. Like, I have always, like, settled for less than what I deserve. And I think that, like, comes from, like, a deep place of, like, a lack of, like, self love that I thought I worked on in the wilderness, but guess not.
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You didn't have time to test it because you were trying to stay alive.
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I was trying to stay live. Okay.
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Yeah,
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but like, that something, I think that's always been hard. And like, anyone I've ever talked to, like therapists, life coaches, holistic healers are like, you are so good at like, anything, money, like, bringing in money and success. But like, when it comes to love, like, I'm just like, I become like this like 15 year old girl that
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like, no, it's like, it's. It was crazy.
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My, like, growth is stunted when it romantically.
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It was crazy for me to see because it was like, like having my
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first crush post divorce.
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But it was just like, I. And you've gotten better. But I feel like at first, like, it's like how strong you are in every area of your life. And then when it comes to men, men, I'm like, who is this fucking bitch?
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Like, a weak fucking bitch. Okay. I'm like, look at yourself. Like, who are you, Savannah fucking Boda? Yeah, but I don't see my. Like, that's why, like, I'm like this, like, beast in my career and like, professional life and then dating, I'm like, no. I'm like, breadcrumb me harder. I love it. I know, but Sterling's not like that. That's why, like, things move so fast with us, because he was like the first guy I'd met I'd gone on several dates, you know, that I, like, felt that intellectual connection and then emotional depth. That was something that was really missing in my marriage, was, like, the intellectual side of it and then just emotional capacity. Like, I want to be able to talk about things and, like, not get bored. And, like, just. That's so important to me more than, like, the physical chemistry. Like, I won't have physical chemistry with you if we don't have, like, mental chemistry, you know? And so, yeah, it's been hard. I'm not gonna lie. Like, I think, like, finding someone so great so early and then, like, me, like, subconsciously trying to, like, ruin it because I'm broken in the love department. It's hard. But I, like, you know, something that I loved that he said to me is, like, you don't have to come into a relationship healed. Like, you can heal while you're in a relationship with somebody. And, again, he's just been so patient with me and given me so much grace as I figure things out. And he's very sure about me, and he's at a point in his life where he knows what he wants, and he's dated a lot. And I think that's also kind of been a hard thing. Cause I was like, you've been with so many people. You've had so many relationships. I've really only had one relationship my entire life. I don't count a guy I dated in high school. You know, that wasn't, like, real. Like, as an adult. Like, I've only had one relationship, and it was with Lance. And so. And he was like, okay. But on the flip side of that is, like, you haven't had a lot of relationships, which is also kind of even more scary. Cause he's like, I've dated. I know what I want and what I don't want. Like, you haven't had that. Like, I had my, like, little dating here and there, and, like, you know, whatever. But that wasn't, like, legitimate.
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It wasn't, like, truly connecting.
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No, it wasn't. Like, I wasn't in a committed relationship with anybody. And so for him, he's like, you know. Cause I'm like, you've, like, kissed so many people. And, like, then was. And he's like. And then I had to be like, okay, Savannah, like, any guy that you date is gonna be more experience. Yeah. Yeah. He's 30 fucking 7. Okay?
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Like, most people in our age are not getting married at 23.
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So that was so hard for me to conceptualize, and I would just get in my head about it and just be like. But then he's like, I know that I love you and I'm in love with you because I've been with other people.
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Yeah.
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And so he's like, it's scarier for me because you haven't. And like, you haven't.
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Like, in six months you're gonna be like, what else is.
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Yeah. What could be out there? Yeah, but I'm also not like that.
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Yeah, you're not.
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Oh, no.
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You have blinders on. Like, literally, like, this is.
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I see no one.
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Yeah.
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People could be flirting with me and I'd have no idea. When I'm in a relationship, I'm like, I don't see you, I don't talk to you. I don't go out, like, very, like, committed to my person. But anyway, so like, that's been interesting and I think like, for people that have been in a long term relationship also too. He's like. He was like a little bit with like, I'm a mother and I was a wife. So, like, there are certain things that I just am used to.
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I don't know where you're going.
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Like, he has. Wants privacy when he poops.
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Oh, okay. Okay.
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I'm like, I've cleaned up so much shit and diapers. And he was like, told me. He's like, you have to understand, you've been a. I understand you've been a wife and a mother.
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But like, this is my me time. Yeah.
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Cause I went to go put something up and he's just in the bathroom. He's like, hello. I'm like, oh, no, you're fine. He's like. And he's like, I've never done this in front of anyone my entire 37 years. All of his, like, past girlfriends and stuff. I just like week two, I'm like,
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hey, that's it checks out.
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I'm going to put like my jacket up. Like, I have shit to get done. Like, it doesn't bother me.
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Yeah. I mean, you don't care.
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I do not care.
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Not even like, it's not even a thought in your brain at all. Yeah.
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And I was like, oh, like he cares about privacy. It's crazy. So, you know, just learning those types of things I think have been like, difficult going from, like, wife to girlfriend. And I'm just like, so used to, like, how I've been for so long. So like, having to like, adjust to someone else. It's different, but it's good.
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But I was gonna say but better.
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It's so Much better. No, I. I mean, I love him. I'm so happy. I have now that I've, like, kind of gotten out of this, like, self sabotage, see if I can make him hate me thing, which, like, was so subconscious. I wasn't like, sitting there, like, today, like, how to lose a guy in 10 days? Like, today, like, piss on the floor tomorrow. Tell me short.
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Yeah.
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Like, no, I wasn't doing that. It was just, like, so subconscious. Because again, again, my wounds that I have. I have abandonment wounds and stuff too. And so I like to be the one in control. If someone's gonna leave me, I'm gonna be like, oh, well, it's because I did xyz. Because if I was perfect and amazing and wonderful and then they left me, I would be crushed. And that's something that I fixed in my professional life. Cause I used to stop my own growth so many times with working out. I've talked about this. I was the biggest cock block to myself in every aspect of my life. And I finally figured it out, like, with my body and, like, fitness and then with professional. My career, like, not getting in my own way, but for some reason and love.
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You hadn't had practice.
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It's so vulnerable. Yeah, it's just so vulnerable. Like, relationships are so vulnerable. And like, there was, like, such a comfort in my marriage that, like, I was just. What it was. Was what it was. Like. There were no, like, it was just like.
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There were no surprises. There were no, like, expectations. There were no.
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Yeah, it was just like shit. And we, like, knew it was shit. And it was just like, here we are. Yeah.
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Yeah.
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We're gonna be doing this forever. Until we didn't. And then now I'm like. And I don't, like, I'm like, such a lover. I love myself more through loving people, which is like. Like doing things for other people. Being able to, like, love other people makes me softer. And, like, having close connections are, like, very important to me. Yeah. I'm trying to think about anything else work related. Carlos died. Rip. Don't really want to talk about that. Makes me really sad.
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She almost took the. Because she's getting a fish tank in her new house and she was like, tyler, I don't want it anymore.
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No, it's just, like, traumatic.
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Yeah.
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At this point, like. Like the first couple, like, I was crying. Now it's just like. I get it. It's like nurses, you know when they see so much death and you're like, oh, she's like a stone cold bitch. And it's like, they've watched so many people die that they're just so numb to it. That's how I feel about the fish.
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You're at the point now. Maria will text you in the morning, like, hi. And you're like, no.
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Yeah. Like, I don't even want to know who died.
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You're like, no.
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Yeah.
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So we've been death. Well, I'm not even.
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Don't even talk about.
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Yeah, I'm not going to say it. I was going to say it's not great.
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Well, I was going to say they don't look good. Okay. They look sick. Yeah.
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But I think that's like. I don't think they're sick anymore. I think they're just damaged forever like that. I don't know. I know that they're like eczema or something. Yeah. Basically, it's like fish eczema.
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We need to get on that fish graphic that I paid for that we had to redo because people swapped Angela and Angelo. Angela's black, Angelo is yellow. And I know a lot of those fish are dead, but we paid for it.
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Yeah. Yeah.
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I'm not putting money down the drain. That shit's expensive. Anyway, so there's. That clinic's been picking up now that we're, like, finally up and rolling. It's been great. Booked back to back, getting in, working, loving it, slaying it. There's been some new products which have been exciting. Cyspera just came out with pills, which I'm really excited about. They have two tyrosinase inhibitors in them, and you take four a day. And they're amazing for really helping manage stubborn pigment internally. We have our peptide program, which I can't talk about on Instagram because now I'm fucking shadow banned, which is like such a. So if you don't see my stuff, that's why. And nobody will appeal me. Okay. They think I'm selling, like, crack cocaine, meth.
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It's crazy because, like, we, like, we're partnered. We're partnered with a company where you get connected with a medical provider and you have to, you know, do a consultation and all this stuff. We're just like, this is where Savannah likes to get hers from. That's all. And she basically got banned because they said that she was like. Like, we're shipping these peptides out add to cart from our own website, which is not the case, but whatever.
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So about it here. I'm on GHKCU. Fucking love it. BPC157. I'm on MOTS C I'm on KPV. I'm on all of them. And they're the best. Okay. We love. And yeah, you can get them on our link in bio. Lemd. D. Savannah Boda.
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No, Savannah. Lemd Savannah. It's also on our website, like, under our links or under her link tree, our podcast. We don't need to clip this part because I cannot post it because I don't want the blondest to get.
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We don't want to get banned.
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Yeah. So I'm over being banned.
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It's so fucking stupid. Like, I'm. I'm angry.
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Yeah.
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I'm trying to think, what else is new? Cyrus got his tonsils out, and that was, like, very traumatic also.
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That was a lot. Oh, yeah, tell that story.
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Fucking hate that story. So he needed to get his tonsils out and his adenoids and he had a tongue tie.
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Was that. Was that from, like, sleeping issue? Like, what? I didn't even know that.
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They said he could have developed sleep. Sleep apnea. And then also cosmetically. Because I'm a good mom. Okay. Good mother. It gives men weak jawlines, like, if they're sleeping. Anyone that sleeps with their mouth open.
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Because he snores, right?
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All the time. Oh, does he snore?
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I remember when we were there, right after he got up, I thought. I didn't know if it was, like, from the surgery.
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Oh, no.
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Okay.
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It's been, like, that. Horrible, terrible. And he sleeps with me every night. Okay. And it's so loud.
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I don't know how you do it.
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Dude.
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Ryan. Ryan snores. He has to get a septum surgery. And at the beginning, like, still to this day, like, he's not allowed to fall asleep.
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When you love your kids.
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Well, he's not allowed to fall asleep before me.
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I have to do that with Lance.
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Like, I have to fall asleep first.
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Literally, how I did it before. And then I. Eventually, we went in separate rooms for the duration of our relationship. But Cyrus snores. Okay. And so also, when you have your mouth open like that, it can cause, like, a weak jawline. So we don't want it. We want him to have, like, a good, sexy jawline when he's older. Okay. We want him to, like, he's gonna thank me later.
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Yeah.
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That's not why we did it. A lot of infection. He, like. They were just, like, a lot of risk for, like, infections, recurring sicknesses. And he won't have tonsil stones, which is great because those are stinky. So proud of him. Happy for him. So we go in we get this surgery and Sterling was so sweet. Took off work, like the best to be there with me. And then he comes out of surgery and he's like, with his mouth like this. And I'm like, I guess he's just, like, feeling around. Okay, then trigger warning for anyone that doesn't like blood or I'm gonna try to be as least descriptive as possible. Blood just starts pouring out of his mouth, bright red. Okay. And he's like crying and there's blood, and he's like moving his tongue around in his mouth. And I'm like, what the fuck is happening? And 15 nurses. I'm not even kidding, Russian. There's like fucking buttons. And I'm like, oh, my God, what's happening? And then he starts coughing. And then there's like these like, particles coming out. Like things. Okay. Like flesh colored things. And they're like, open your mouth, Open your mouth. You won't open his mouth. We find out one, he's biting because he's so numb. He was biting his tongue literally. Looked like his tongue went in a meat grinder on one side. Like, so fucking bad. Like, tore his tongue up. Poor baby. And then they didn't know he wouldn't just stop doing it. And so they're like, we're putting him back under anesthesia after they just woken him up. And they're like, sign here, mom, sign here. Da, da, da. So I'm like signing his life away. They rush him out, they go check. They want to make sure that he isn't bleeding, like, in the back of his tonsils or whatever like that.
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Like he didn't cause any damage to the surgery.
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Yeah. Or like, they just want to make sure that's like, before they send us home, like, lord forbid. And like, it's like, not his tongue.
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Yeah.
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So they come back, they're like, it's his tongue, It'll heal. Tongue heals really fast. Tongue bleeds a lot. Blah, blah, blah. Dude. So bad. His poor tongue was like, completely, like, crusted and scabbed over for like two weeks. So anyways, comes out of surgery and they're like, he shouldn't be as, like, numb anymore. Thank God he stops chewing on his tongue. But it was just like, so fucking traumatic. And so then we get home, everything's good, he's doing great. Fucking hates taking his medication. Every three hours, alternating Tylenol and ibuprofen. And so then Sterling has this amazing idea, and he hasn't really been around kids a lot, so it was like, really impressive. He was like, we're gonna cut this Pedialyte. We're gonna get a Pedialyte pop. And he, like, got half of the Pedialyte pop out, let the rest of it melt, and then he puts the medicine in there and then refreezes it. And so, like, that's how we were getting medicine and through the Popsicle. That was really smart. And so. Yeah. And then his breath smelled like something died inside of it.
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Oh, my God. Did they warn you for that?
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Yes.
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Oh, okay. That was.
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I kept thinking he shit himself.
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It was unlike anything I've ever seen.
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He did not. It was his mouth.
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Well, they say it's, like, really bad for that age, specifically because they, like, aren't gonna be able to, like, gurgle or, like, really clean the back of their throat. So it was. It was an intense smell. But he. How is he doing now?
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He's good. Yeah, he's doing great. He healed great. Everything's been good.
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No medicine anymore.
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Mm. I know I need to go get home to him, but. Yeah, I mean, I'm trying to think.
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We just had our grand opening. When this comes out, we're, like, a month out from be. Well, Las Vegas, so. Yeah, make sure y' all are signing up. Actually, I think all your classes are already sold out.
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Oh, that's.
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And we're two months out right now, but.
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Cool. If you need a book, our hotel room.
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Yeah. If you didn't get a chance to secure seat at one of Savannah's classes, she will be doing many other things there. She'll be teaching a class with aerolays
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and a lot of the stuff I teach, too, Guys, you can purchase on our website. I have a lot of webinars, which. Can you tell them how to get to that?
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If you go on shop.savannabota.com you will see education as a tab, and you can click on it, and it'll bring you to all the webinars. Or if you're on savannahboda.com on a little dropdown, it'll say trainings, and you click that. Yeah. And then I don't think I have any other updates. We're so, so close to having a new website. We. We literally post you posted new website. Like, November. It. You said it was coming soon, but it's coming soon. It's been a work in progress. The hardest part, honestly, was imagery, because we didn't want to have a new website and have no images in the new spa. You know what I mean? Like, us doing treatments. Like, imagine if we had the new Website, but it was all pictures that you taken in old spa. It would have been about website. So that's what the holdup's been, is just getting content to support a brand new website. And we have a lot of new pages and stuff like that. Just a lot more information and education. And so we're excited for it. It's gonna be a better experience, gonna
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be prettier, better ingredients, better pizza. Papa John's.
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Honestly, by the time this episode comes out, I'm hoping we're launched.
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So I hope we. One can hope.
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On my meeting today, I said, my goal is for not this next week, but the week after. I said, I want this launched before Ryan and I are in St. Lucia slay. That's what I said before.
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I'm at little Palm island with my little baby.
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Yep.
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That's Sterling, not Sarah. He is with his dad. He gets two weeks with his dad in the summer per law for Savannah. Bode's law.
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Okay.
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Because I'm nice.
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Yeah.
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A good person. Okay. Didn't have to do that, but I did. It's all about the child.
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Absolutely.
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And then I get two weeks of Cyrus, and I think we're gonna go to Disney World, so. Aw, my nose is so itchy. But yeah.
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Okay, y'. All. Well, we love you guys.
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Oh, and I will say my last little cute thing. Sterling right now is at scuba diving class. He's getting certified.
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No way. For me, you can just go scuba diving when you're there. Is there scuba diving here?
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Oh, yeah. We're doing a shipwreck and stuff.
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Oh, yeah, that'll be.
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I told him that.
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Wait, isn't that where all the.
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He said, if anyone who dates me ever is getting certified.
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Wait, didn't it when we were in Grand Cayman, all those, like, cool coins and everything were from that area where you're going? Right? Okay, that's what I thought.
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So I'm going on a treasure hunt.
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That's so fun. I was thinking about doing it in St. Lucia for you.
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That's so sweet. It only took you seven years. Took him two months. But yeah, but he getting something you ain't ever got. But yeah. So I'm excited. And he's so cute.
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It's, like, really cheap.
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In St. Lucia, Cyrus sings it so many. He's like, sterling's at swim class because Cyrus goes to swim class. He's like, can you do the backstroke? And I'm like, probably.
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Is it really expensive here?
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It was like, 500 bucks.
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Wait, that's not expensive at all. It was Hawaii was so much fun.
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Well, that's why, babe, he's, like, at a pool right now.
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Oh, I know.
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He has a class tomorrow. I'm going to go watch. And he's. He does not want me to go, but I'm going. All right. Love you guys. See you next Monday.