Podcast Summary: The blondEST

Episode: Men Aren’t Men Anymore
Host: Savanna Boda
Date: November 3, 2025

Episode Overview

In this candid and conversational episode, host Savanna Boda, joined by co-host Tyler Jacoby, discusses the changing landscape of dating as a single, successful woman in Dallas post-divorce. The episode delves deeply into Savanna’s personal experiences navigating modern dating, her frustrations with current gender roles and expectations, as well as her unwavering dedication to her career and family. The tone is light, humorous, and raw, with Savanna offering unfiltered opinions on the struggles of finding genuine connection and the realities of balancing personal and professional life.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Reality of Dating Apps & Modern Men

Timestamps: [01:30] – [06:23]

• Dating App Fatigue: Savanna shares her experiences of returning to dating apps after her divorce, finding them disappointing and superficial.

  • "I think, honestly, most of the men are like, I think they're gay… the type of photos, it just gives me the ick." (Savanna, [02:10])
  • She expresses frustration at men’s social media behaviors, criticizing curated selfies and FaceApp use.
  • Tyler and Savanna joke about how straight men should have “bad” selfies or old family photos on their profiles.

• Preference for Traditional Meeting:

  • Savanna expresses a strong preference for meeting organically, rather than through apps.
  • "You’re never, like, intended… Like, God never intended you to actually, like, meet them." (Savanna, [02:58])
  • Emphasizes the importance of personality over looks.

2. The Bar Scene & Being a Single Mom

Timestamps: [04:06] – [07:45]

• Disconnection from Bar Culture:

  • Savanna has tried going out to bars but feels out of place, valuing substance and comfort over party culture.
  • "If I'm gonna hang out with the girls, like, I'd rather be at home in PJs eating Taco Bell and kikiing than like be at a loud, disgusting bar with drunk, sloppy people." (Savanna, [05:21])
  • Tyler agrees, describing their own brief foray into nightlife as "a waste of an Uber." ([07:25])

• Priorities as a Mother:

  • The imperative to be home for her child, not wanting to risk nights out or drinking, and valuing her time in a different way than before.

3. Self-Reflection on Love, Loneliness, and Healing

Timestamps: [08:08] – [15:11]

• Processing Divorce and Moving On:

  • Savanna clarifies she has processed her divorce, having spent three years in a "mentally divorced" space.
  • Discusses her pragmatic approach to emotions—compartmentalizing until there’s time to process.

• Never Truly in Love:

  • Savanna reveals a lingering emptiness, admitting she's "never actually... been in love." ([09:36])
  • She differentiates between loving someone and being “in love,” inspired by her clients’ stories of genuine connection.

• The Value and Timing of Life Choices:

  • "There’s never a good time to get divorced. There’s never a good time to have children... You’re always going to find an excuse." (Savanna, [11:55])
  • Encourages listeners not to postpone major life decisions indefinitely.

4. Gender Roles & The State of Modern Men

Timestamps: [14:15] – [17:11]

• Savanna’s Bold Personality & Men’s Insecurity:

  • She discusses being a strong, financially independent woman, and how that can be intimidating to men.
  • "When I take both of those things away from a man ... I’m also not their little bitch ... if I wanna go do something, I’m gonna go do it.” (Savanna, [15:13])
  • "I just worry because these days the men are not men enough or secure enough in who they are and they think they're the prize and that they need to be chased." (Savanna, [16:01])

• No Interest in Playing Games:

  • She rejects the notion of chasing or playing dating “games,” emphasizing she’s too busy and values her time.
  • "My time is so fucking valuable … even having given you a minute of my energy, like, I could have been making money or I could have been with my son." (Savanna, [16:11])

5. Dating Intentionally & All-or-Nothing Mentality

Timestamps: [17:11] – [19:43]

• Intentionality in Dating:

  • Savanna describes herself as an all-or-nothing person—either invested or not interested at all.
  • "I only know how to be, like, a wife. ...I'm open. I'm such an open book..." (Savanna, [17:35])

• Clear Expectations:

  • She refuses to date casually or for “fun” if she doesn’t see real potential—out of consideration both for herself and her dates.
  • "If I'm not interested, I'm not gonna go on a date just to go on a date because that's a waste of their time and money." (Savanna, [19:19])

• Moderation vs. Abundance:

  • Tyler suggests 2026 could be "the year of moderation," but Savanna disagrees: "I like the word abundance. ...abundance is always good in abundance. Don't try to put me in your box." ([18:43])

6. Career Growth, Family Updates, & Self-Care

Timestamps: [20:08] – [27:51]

• New Spa & Home Developments:

  • Excitement about her spa opening and her new house getting closer to completion.
  • Emphasizes wanting things “done right rather than rushed.” ([20:41])

• Building Her Support System:

  • Hired a nanny and a house manager; shares amusing story about a potential nanny.
  • Values the expertise and qualifications of her support staff, ensuring her child receives full attention ("She loves him like it's her own son already and it's only been like two weeks." [25:27])

• Team Expansion:

  • Updates on new staff for her business: front desk, social media, and clinical staff.

• Health Routines & Peptides:

  • Discussion about trying new peptides for beauty and inflammation, tying back to her professional expertise in aesthetics.

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Unapologetic Dedication:

  • “I'm dedicated to my craft.” (Savanna, [01:28])

• On Prioritizing Her Child:

  • "I'm not gonna sleep at like a friend's house as a 28 year old mother. Like, I'm going home, you know?" (Savanna, [04:22])

• On Gender Roles & Independence:

  • "I take both of those things away from a man and I'm not gonna like dominate them, but like I'm also not their little bitch." (Savanna, [15:48])

• On Navigating Modern Dating:

  • “I just worry because these days the men are not men enough or secure enough in who they are and they think they’re the prize and that they need to be chased.” (Savanna, [16:01])

• On Living with Intention:

  • “If you’re not serious or adding value into my life, I’m not entertaining that for funsies.” (Savanna, [16:18])
  • “If you want to just go fuck people and hook up, like get on a hookup app, you know?” ([19:04])

• On Life’s Timing:

  • “There’s never a good time to get divorced... You’re always going to find an excuse.” ([11:55])

Structure & Flow

The episode is presented as a free-flowing, highly personal conversation between Savanna and Tyler, punctuated by laughter, candid confessions, and relatable frustrations. The hosts blend musings about personal growth with updates on Savanna’s business and family, offering both entertainment and insight into the challenges of balancing modern womanhood with entrepreneurship and motherhood.

Recommended Segments & Timestamps

• Dating App Observations & Modern Masculinity: [02:10] – [06:23]
• The All-or-Nothing Approach to Dating & Genuine Connection: [17:11] – [19:43]
• Reflections on Love and Compartmentalization: [08:08] – [15:11]
• Building a Home Support System & Hilarious Nanny Story: [21:03] – [24:36]

For New Listeners

This episode offers an honest window into the life of a driven, single mom trying to maintain high standards in every area—from romance to business to parenting. Whether you're navigating similar transitions or simply appreciate uncompromising candor, Savanna’s blend of humor, insight, and real talk will resonate.