Savanna’s Life Update

Summary

Podcast Summary: "Savanna’s Life Update"

Podcast: The blondEST
Host: Savanna Boda
Episode Date: October 7, 2025

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Episode Overview

In this candid, emotionally charged episode, Savanna Boda—the Dallas Aesthetician—shares a personal life update alongside her (now former) husband, Lance. Together, they announce and discuss their mutual decision to divorce, addressing rumors, explaining their reasons, and reflecting on their relationship's complexities. The goal of this public conversation is to clarify the situation in their own words and, most importantly, to protect and set an example for their young son, Cyrus.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Announcing the Divorce: Openness and Intentions

• Savanna and Lance openly confirm their decision to divorce.

• Both emphasize this conversation is to control their narrative, avoid speculation, and protect Cyrus.

• They acknowledge that being public figures leads to rumors and scrutiny about their personal lives.

  "This is...us sharing with you all together. So it's on our terms and the way we want it to be said. And our story, because you only see about 1% of our lives online."
  — Savanna, [00:32]

• Lance clarifies there was no "event" or negative behavior such as abuse or infidelity.

  "Nothing crazy has happened. You know, no bad words like abuse or, you know, infidelity, thankfully. So, yeah, it is what it is."
  — Lance, [01:23]

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2. Relationship Reflection: Incompatibility from the Start

• Both discuss honestly that, despite their efforts, they lacked compatibility from the very beginning.

• Their relationship stemmed in part from being two people in their hometown who felt out of place among peers, leading to codependence.

  "The truth really, if everyone wants it, is we were never compatible from the start. And we tried really, really hard..."
  — Savanna, [02:03]

• Extensive attempts to fix the relationship included years of efforts, therapy, and even an ambitious trip to Indonesia as a last-ditch effort to reconnect.

• They reflect on family patterns and fears, admitting that part of staying together was avoiding the discomfort of change:

  "I think a lot of people stay in a familiar hell because they're scared of an unfamiliar heaven. And I think for both of us, we would have suffered silently, you know, but we started to notice that, like, we want our son to see us happy, and we deserve to be happy, both of us..."
  — Savanna, [04:37]

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3. The Role of Timing, Age, and Growth

• Context: They began dating when Savanna was 19 (almost 20), Lance was just 21.

• Both admit youth and inexperience played a key role in how their relationship developed.

  "In hindsight, we should have broke it up within the first year."
  — Lance, [04:19]

  "Two weeks, or even our parents, I think six months... you guys are already fighting two weeks into dating."
  — Savanna, [04:37]

• Both acknowledge their extensive personal growth during their relationship and the tendency to stay together out of fear and comfort.

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4. Parenting Focus: Always United for Cyrus

• Both express that their top priority is their son, Cyrus.

• They are committed to "co-parenting kindly," being present and positive examples, and ensuring Cyrus never feels at fault.

  "We're in each other's life forever because of Cyrus."
  — Lance, [07:00]

  "...our son can see two really fucking happy parents that love him to death. And it's not his fault, obviously at all."
  — Savanna, [12:49]

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5. Community, Privacy, and Public Life

• Savanna addresses the challenges of being a public figure and the pressure to explain private matters.

• She stresses the importance of privacy, respect, and human decency from listeners and followers.

  "My page is not about marriage or relationships. My personal life is my personal life. And I hope people respect that. I shouldn't even, or don't even have to give a reason for anyone."
  — Savanna, [10:02]

• Both ask followers—especially the "haters"—to consider Cyrus's future and their need for peaceful co-parenting.

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6. Looking Forward: Acceptance, Grace, and Hope

• They both express sadness, relief, and excitement for each other's futures.

• The decision, though difficult, was made with respect and honesty.

  "I've always said, like, Lance is a great guy. He's just not my guy."
  — Savanna, [07:09]

• Brief, light-hearted ending in which Savanna jokes about Lance being single.

  "...he's single, ladies."
  — Savanna, [13:11]

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “We barely... okay, let me just say this. When Lance and I got together, yes, we fought. Yes, we had a hard time when we were dating. Weren't super compatible. But then he got into his master's and he was busy 24/7... enough time to get pregnant.”
  — Savanna, [07:57]

• “We just kept trying to keep something alive that was already dead for eight years. And I think we both lost a lot of ourselves in this. And I don't know, but I do love you.”
  — Savanna, [12:55]

• "I love you too.”
  — Lance, [13:07]

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Important Timestamps

• [00:00–01:23] — Announcement and motivation for sharing their story
• [02:03–03:57] — Relationship origins, incompatibility, therapy attempts
• [04:19–05:55] — Growth, youth, and staying together out of fear and comfort
• [06:54–08:34] — Parenting focus, family patterns, dealing with the “inevitable”
• [09:51–11:46] — Addressing public perception and desire for privacy
• [12:49–13:34] — Final words: regret, gratitude, respect, and humor

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Summary

This episode stands apart for its openness, vulnerability, and the couple’s united, considerate approach to a difficult transition. Rather than focusing on drama, Savanna and Lance model maturity, mutual respect, and deep care for their child, Cyrus. Their message is threaded with sadness but ultimately hopeful: a commitment to growth, acceptance, and a better future for themselves and their son.

Transcript

[A]

Okay, guys, this is a little bit of a different episode today. It's been a long time that I've been processing a lot of this as well as Lance, but we've made the decision to get divorced. And I wanted to share this with you all, with us, together, for our son, because I know the rumor mill, people have already been speculating about it. You guys are really good private investigators. Truly.

[B]

People are perceptive.

[A]

Yeah. But really what this is, is, you know, us sharing with you all together. So it's on our terms and the way we want it to be said. And our story, because you only see about 1% of our lives online, and no one really knows what happens behind closed doors. No one really knows the struggles that we've gone through, the battles that we've tried to conquer. And it's sad, you know, with being a public figure that I have to do this, but it's for our son. And that's really why we're recording this today, is to protect him and also share our side before people start to draw conclusions or make assumptions about why.

[B]

Yeah, we just, you know, we decided that it's just best for us to move on and to, you know, live our separate lives. But we're still obviously going to be in each other's lives forever. And I have a lot of love for Savannah still and a ton of respect for her, and, you know, so we're just trying to do what's best and co parent. And, yeah, luckily, you know, thankfully, we're together in this and, you know, nothing crazy has happened. You know, no bad words like abuse or, you know, infidelity, thankfully. So, yeah, it is what it is. I don't know what else to say.

[A]

And I think people just, when they hear divorce, like, their first thing is like, oh, like somebody cheated or someone was abusive. And really, Lance and I, truthfully, we met at a really young age, and we were kind of like the last two people in our hometown that weren't, like, drug addicts or complete losers. And so we started hanging out, dating. And, you know, the truth really, if everyone wants it, is we were never compatible from the start. And we tried really, really hard, because I think both of us, through couples therapy, through our own therapy, through the trip we went through in Indonesia, really just learned that we both lacked a lot of self. And we're really codependent on 1:1. I can't talk today. So hard to talk about this. Really codependent on one another. And it was not serving us, and it was just keeping us kind of in this trauma bond and, like, circle. That just wasn't healthy. And it was affecting the way, you know, we treated one another. It was affecting, you know, our son. And it just, like, became too big to fix, if that makes sense. And weirdly enough, ever since we decided, you know, it was for the best for us to get divorced, we've gotten along so much better, which is great for our son and for Cyrus, who is our son. But, yeah, I mean, it's. It's sad because he has been, like, with me from the very beginning of my life in this industry, my career. We have a child together. And again, like, you know, we really, really did try to do everything to make it work, but, you know, I think it's hard to fix something that was broken from the start.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Even though we really did try. And, like, I think, you know, just seeing from our parent generation, like, people just stay married because they got married, even though it's, like, not healthy or good, and they're not good in that capacity, in that relationship together, like, we just, both of us, like, we're just not the partner that either of us needed.

[B]

In hindsight, you know, you learned a lot, Especially. I had just turned 21. Savannah was 19, turning 20 when we started dating, just for context. So, you know, we've been together for over eight years, and you learn a lot at the time. And, you know, hindsight, we should have broke it up within the first year.

[A]

Two weeks, or even our parents, I think six months. I mean, even our parents were like, you guys don't have any taxes. You don't have any, like, rent to pay. You don't have any financial issues, and you guys are already fighting two weeks into dating. And I think really what it came down to is just, like, we didn't have really anyone else, and we were just young. And, like, again, like, Lance and I were the two people that, like, we always got broken up with. We never broke up with anyone. So we kind of held onto a broken marriage for years because we were scared to leave, and we were scared of putting ourselves first and loving ourselves enough to walk away and just the comfortability. Like, you know, I think a lot of people stay in a familiar hell because they're scared of an unfamiliar heaven. And I think for both of us, we would have suffered silently, you know, but we started to notice that, like, you know, we want our son to see us happy, and we deserve to be happy, both of us, and find people in the future that are the right partner for us. And, like, there's no shame in saying that. Like, we were young. I got pregnant before we got engaged. We did what we thought was right, which was to get married and have this child, which we're so thankful we did.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Like, he's the best thing that's ever happened to us. And, you know, everything has its season. Every phase of life has its time. And I think ours has just run its course in that capacity. But I'm just really thankful that we both took the time and did the work to, like, get to this place to where we both want this. It's not he wants it and I don't, or I want it and he doesn't. It's just really. It's the best interest of our son. And. Yeah. I mean, we're gonna see each other all the time. He is a big part of my life and always will be, and I love him. And. Yeah, just. It's sad and it's hard. I think we've, you know, processed these emotions for a really long time because it has been like, you know, a couple years of us going back and forth on, are we gonna make it? Are we gonna get divorced? And there's, like, a sense of relief, I think, for both of us now, knowing that, like, there's not that anxiety.

[B]

Of, like, just the decisions made, you know?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

So we're in each other's life forever because of Cyrus.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

It was just totally, totally good thing, and. Yeah.

[A]

But I'm excited for you. So I, you know, just. I've always said, like, Lance is a great guy. He's just not my guy. And I think for me, like, you know, for him. I don't know. I mean, I know what you feel about me, but, you know, I just think we're just not compatible, and that's okay. And we never were. And that's, like, really what I think people don't understand or get is that it's just like we've. We barely. Okay, let me just say this. When Lance and I got together, yes, we fought. Yes, we had a hard time when we were dating. Weren't super compatible. But then he got into his master's and he was busy 24 7, studying his ass off, trying to get licensed and get past his cpa. Is it the bar?

[B]

No, that's the lawyer. Attorneys.

[A]

Well, whatever.

[B]

Yes, cpa. You said it. Right.

[A]

Okay. And at that time, I was building SBA. I was working 14 hour days, seven days a week. We never saw each other, hung out, so it was almost like there was no point in, like, breaking up because we weren't really even like seeing each other maybe like once a week for an hour at night, enough time to get pregnant. But, you know, then we got pregnant and we were like, well, shit, you know, And I think I forgot to say this part that I was trying to get to earlier and I got distracted. But I think we both come from generations of seeing people just stay together because it's got married. Maybe I did say this. I don't know. My brain's scattered.

[B]

Oh, yeah, I think you did. Yeah.

[A]

And, you know, for me, I had a hard time with relationships growing up. Just watching my parents relationship, which is actually crazy enough, better now than it was. And I'm like, really happy for them, but wish that they had that marriage when I was younger because it did, you know, cause a lot of problems with me. And I noticed a lot of my patterns in this marriage because I had so many things that I had learned from learned behavior and vice versa from him. So, yeah, I don't think there's any shame in it. We don't make this decision lightly. Like, we. I feel. And I think you feel the same way that we really did everything. Like, we literally went to Indonesia for three weeks and we're like, if we can't be happy and get along here, like, there's no way. And I think for the longest time, I've just been so busy with my business that I kept pushing it aside until it became such a big thing that I was like, I can't, you know, ignore this anymore.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So, I mean, yeah, there's not really anything else to say other than, like, you know, I know people, regardless of us doing this, are going to make their own assumptions and they're going to talk their shit and say their things like they have been for months. But just know, you don't know anything. Like, you don't know, you know, what you think you know.

[B]

Yeah. I haven't been on the story and like, I've barely been on your Instagram.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

So they can't really see much of me.

[A]

But I just want, even for the haters that are listening to this, because I know you're here, think about my son and what he's gonna read and what he's gonna see as he gets older. And. Yeah, I mean, that's really. This is one. Because I've shared a lot of my life and I've shared Lance a lot in my life, and it's an elephant in the room. It's something that does need to be addressed. So we can move forward from it. But my page is not about marriage or relationships. My personal life is my personal life. And I hope people respect that. I shouldn't even, or don't even have to give a reason for anyone. But again, we made this decision to do this for our son. So do you have any decency as a human being? I mean, just let us be peaceful, let us co parent, let us enjoy our lives. Let us, you know, navigate doing this separately and heal. Even though we've had a lot of time to process it and we've been roommates for years, it's still hard losing somebody that in that capacity that you've been so close with and has shared so much with you to be in a different role in your life and not your husband. So, yeah, just we're young and we really did what we thought was best. And I think for me, looking back, like, it was probably would have been best if we just co parented from the start when I got pregnant. But, you know, it's hard to make big decisions and life partner decisions when you're young and.

[B]

You learned a lot.

[A]

I mean, we honestly were just trying to do what we thought was best for Cyrus, like having two parents, married and together. And you know, I just, I didn't know at the time too that it, you know, I don't even know. I just, I think it's just, it's been really hard and it's been weighing on us both for years, the inevitable. And it was kind of like, we either do this now and save Cyrus a lot of trauma, or we're gonna do it when we're 50 and probably really hate each other then. You know, I think now we've realized that we can have a good respect for one another and separate in an amicable way and co parent kindly. And our son can see two really fucking happy parents that love him to death. And it's not his fault, obviously at all. I mean, it was just broken from the start. It should have never happened and it did. And we just kept trying to keep something alive that was already dead for eight years. And I think we both lost a lot of ourselves in this. And I don't know, but I do love you.

[B]

I love you too.

[A]

Sucks.

[B]

Yeah. It's gonna be okay.

[A]

But you know, I think the biggest thing was like, I don't want you to change for me and I don't want to change for you. I think, you know, we'll find people that love us for who we are and how we love. And I'm excited for you. And he's single. Ladies.

[B]

Soon. Maybe. Hopefully. Maybe so.

[A]

Oh, okay. It was like ripping a band aid off.

[B]

Yeah, I know. Yeah.