
"What does your wardrobe say about your heart? Can fashion reflect faith and inner beauty?"
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Candace Cameron Bure
It was Thanksgiving and I felt so pretty. I had a skirt on, I had boots on, but then I had like a little camisole on and then a cardigan over the camisole. And then I got a call, just wanted to ask you about your. Just how you felt about your outfit. And I was like, what do you mean about my outfit? We've seen it in the movies. The search for a fountain of youth said to restore one's youth or cure anything. Newsflash, it was not never found. But hey, there is a supplement called collagen. And Ancient Nutrition provides three different flavors. Chocolate, vanilla, and pure. Ancient Nutrition's multi collagen advanced lean is delicious and easy to work into your daily routine by mixing it into your morning coffee, matcha, or your favorite smoothie. This formula is powered by clinically studied ingredients that promote fat loss and healthy weight management. Ancient Nutrition's mission is to create high quality protein supplements that combine the best research with modern formulas. Collagen can reduce joint discomfort and improve the look and growth of your skin, hair and nails. And right now, Ancient Nutrition is offering 25% off your first order when you go to ancientnutrition.com ccb that's ancientnutrition.com cb ccb for 25% off your first order. Ancientnutrition.com ccb Life is like a roller coaster, but it's better when we go through it together. Welcome to the Candace Cameron Bure podcast. We're here to share conversations about life's challenges, celebrations, and everything in between. Season 9 is about girls under pressure with Natasha Bure and Ally Schnacki. Come join us. Hi, ladies.
Ally Schnacki
Hi. Hey, you.
Candace Cameron Bure
You ready for another conversation?
Ally Schnacki
We're ready. Let's do it. This is a good one.
Candace Cameron Bure
It is a good one. We're talking about fashion today. Fashion and modesty.
Ally Schnacki
What a word.
Candace Cameron Bure
That word gets such a bad rap.
Natasha Bure
It does.
Ally Schnacki
True.
Candace Cameron Bure
Yeah. People have gotten in trouble for using that word. And yet it's a word that we, as the church, love to use.
Ally Schnacki
Right.
Candace Cameron Bure
I mean, it's a. It is a really good word, modesty. But it can be used in. It can. It can be used to hurt people. It can be used to shame people. And. Yeah, I don't know. I have all kinds of feelings associated with the word modesty. How do you guys feel about it?
Ally Schnacki
I. Honestly, I love that we're talking about fashion and modesty, because for me, what I've really believed is my truth. At least what God showed me is that fashion and modesty are two Completely different things. Fashion to me is, you know, my style, what I choose to wear, what I think best represents the personality that God's created me with, which where modesty is more like a heart posture. Because I truthfully believe I can be fully clothed from head to toe and still be immodest if my heart posture is to seek attention and approval from people.
Candace Cameron Bure
Oh, starting this show off with fire.
Ally Schnacki
It's true.
Candace Cameron Bure
It is true. What about you, Natasha?
Natasha Bure
I agree.
Candace Cameron Bure
When did you get quiet?
Natasha Bure
No, I completely agree. Yeah, I don't know. She literally took the words out of my mouth. So true.
Candace Cameron Bure
Well, let's talk about fashion, because I love fashion. I've always loved fashion since I was young. I know that growing up on television really shaped my view of fashion. One of my favorite things to do before every episode of Full House was go into the costume department and you would get fitted. There's a rack of clothes. You try on clothes and see what outfits you know, will be for what scenes throughout that episode. So knowing that every week I was going to go into this closet that wasn't mine and they were getting clothes for me to wear was so exciting. And that gave me a sense of loving fashion and style. And then I got to work with wonderful costumers, costume designers, so they would tell me, you know, what was trendy, what looked good, how to pair an outfit with, you know, would a belt work well here? What kind of shoe? What could you accessorize it with? So having their expertise and input since I was 10 years old just made me absolutely fall in love with fashion.
Ally Schnacki
You left every girl's Hannah Montana closet dream.
Candace Cameron Bure
Totally.
Ally Schnacki
I walked in your closet earlier and I said. I said to the girls who were with me, oh, what it would be like to walk and have everything in your size.
Candace Cameron Bure
I know.
Ally Schnacki
Fun.
Candace Cameron Bure
And for those of you, when we're at the office here, I do have all the CCB clothing line on the racks in that office.
Ally Schnacki
Oh, that's your clothing line?
Candace Cameron Bure
Yeah. Which is why that's fun. Yeah. So, yeah, I started that clothing line. So much so because I love fashion. I really do. Do you guys. I mean, you guys are very fashionable. So I'm assuming you both love fashion or do. Do you wake up and look forward to what you're gonna get dressed in for the day, or do you dread it?
Natasha Bure
I have one of two modes, as you know.
Candace Cameron Bure
Oh, this I do know. Do you share?
Natasha Bure
It's so funny because, yeah, I, I, you know, on my social media, I would say I' fashionable gal. But in real Life. I look otherwise. I'm usually in sweats and, like, a big T shirt, and I have no makeup on and my hair is in a bun. And I don't care about fashion at all. But if I have places to be, I love dressing up. And it's honestly such a fun way to. I feel like, to express yourself and just whatever mood you're in and whatever you're vibing with that day, I don't know. It's very fun. I love it.
Ally Schnacki
I feel like growing up, it's so funny because before we started filming this episode, I had pretty much half of the crew here approving my outfit because fashion does not come normal to. Like, it's not. It's not normal to me.
Candace Cameron Bure
Okay.
Ally Schnacki
It was never something that I grew up around. I think when I really started to maybe pique an interest in fashion and cared a little bit more about what I wore was when my brother started dating his girlfriend, who is literally drop dead gorgeous, like, has the best style ever. Grew up in New York City, did a lot of, like, Runway, wanted to go to school for fashion design. And so she came around. I was like, man, homegirl has it together. And so she would kind of, like, help me, my brother, and our family with our styles. And I actually started to realize, and this is what changed my mind about the whole entire concept of fashion, that when I dressed a certain way, I presented myself differently.
Candace Cameron Bure
Yep, absolutely.
Ally Schnacki
Like, and people respected me more based off of what I wore. And last night, as I was even thinking about this topic I was researching, and it's actually psychologically proven that when you're dressed up, when you're taking care of the way that you look or you feel confident in your clothing, that you approach situations better, that you can think faster. Yeah. I think CEOs said 95% of their hiring process is based off of what people wear because it makes them respect them more. And, I mean, I've seen this in my own life, but very much like you, Natasha, on a normal basis. I live in Florida, where it's 100 degrees out and we wear sweatpants and sweatshirts in the heat.
Candace Cameron Bure
So not shorts.
Ally Schnacki
Oh, no. You'll know real Floridians because they're in the sweatsuits and you're like, how are you even breathing right now? That's us.
Candace Cameron Bure
Yeah, I know Natasha. When I. Natasha's the firstborn. So when they said, oh, you know, it's a girl, I got very excited because I thought, oh, I'm going to dress her like a little doll Like, I'm just. I can't wait to have all of these fashion mom. Her and Natasha growing up, did not want to really wear girl clothes. She wanted to wear her brother's. I still.
Natasha Bure
I steal my dad's and my brother's clothes.
Candace Cameron Bure
I know you had papa's T shirt on last night. He was like, excuse me, are you wearing my shirt?
Natasha Bure
Because I asked, I said, can I borrow some of your clothes for, you know, this episode? And then he goes, are you gonna ask to borrow my clothes? Because you're wearing them right now.
Candace Cameron Bure
Yeah. So Natasha wasn't into fashion as a young girl at all. And I would. She wouldn't even let me brush her hair.
Ally Schnacki
It was like, I would never guess that about you.
Natasha Bure
I was such a tomboy growing up because why in the world. Both of my brothers were all so close in age that I just felt like the third. Well, I feel like the first son, you know, not the third son, but I just kind of felt like we were all. We all did the same sports and did the same activities. There was really no differentiating us in terms of, like, the way that they parented us or the way that bought.
Candace Cameron Bure
You you outfits, but not ever wear.
Natasha Bure
Listen, hear me out. Literally, you know, I went to school where we had to wear uniform, and then on the weekends, every single weekend until I was maybe 15 or 16, I was on a tennis court, I was playing tournaments. I lived in sports clothes. So I just genuinely at that point had no interest and no energy to put on a cute outfit or to brush my hair, to do anything. So in my free time, I was like, I'll just wear my brother's gym clothes. That's fine.
Candace Cameron Bure
Yeah.
Ally Schnacki
You know what, though? Two guys clothes are just so much more comfortable than girls clothes.
Natasha Bure
They are.
Ally Schnacki
And they're cheaper. And they're cheaper.
Candace Cameron Bure
Yeah, I know. But, you know, as someone who loves fashion, I have to say my heart was so happy when Natasha decided that she suddenly enjoyed getting dressed and.
Natasha Bure
Yeah.
Candace Cameron Bure
And picking out cute clothes.
Ally Schnacki
Do you remember the first moment she walked out in, like, makeup and a. In a fancy outfit?
Natasha Bure
I certainly do only the makeup part, because your foundation was so dark. And I told this story.
Candace Cameron Bure
Yeah.
Natasha Bure
I remember in middle school, I found I would always go through her makeup. Like, since I was little, I always loved mascara or, like, just things. Even though I would never wear them, I just would always go through her things. And then I started to get a little bit of acne. And I remember, like, one day before school, I went through your drawer, and I Put on you, like a cream foundation of some sort. And I just, like, did a swipe and a swipe in here, and it was like orange and orange because she was so much tighter than me.
Candace Cameron Bure
Orange.
Natasha Bure
No, mom, you were. Trust me. No, you told mom, you know, you go get tan.
Candace Cameron Bure
No, I'm tan, but can we not call it orange? I don't think.
Natasha Bure
Yeah, I don't know, but I just remember. And she was like, you need to go look in a mirror. Because I did it in the dark too, because I didn't want them to know I was putting on makeup. So I remember the first time I, you know, dabbled in the makeup world.
Ally Schnacki
It's so funny.
Candace Cameron Bure
It's really cute. I don't remember the first outfit. I remember, like, when she was 4, she did put on a really cute outfit that I had bought, and there are some pictures of her in it. And I was like, ah, finally. But it wasn't until she got way older that she got into clothes and fashion. And what do you think, like, changed for both of you if you weren't really into it? Well, you told us it was your brother's girlfriend and that kind of.
Ally Schnacki
For sure, for sure.
Candace Cameron Bure
And did you. Did you feel different once you started wearing different clothes? Did it then make you want to go shopping and pick out?
Ally Schnacki
Yeah, for sure. Like, honestly, I think a reason why I didn't, like, it's not even that I didn't like fashion in the beginning, and I think a lot of people can relate to this. I just didn't even know where to start. I didn't know what matched with what. I didn't know what was trendy, what was not trendy. I would literally wear gym shorts and flip flops to school my best friend and make fun of me just because I just didn't know better. I didn't care. Nobody in my family knew. And so when somebody came beside me and actually began to show me, hey, this is how it works. Also, you don't have to just be one thing. You can dress in a ton of different styles. Like, you can experiment with a ton of different things. I realize I don't have to be boxed. Like, I don't have to have everything perfect. Especially being in la. The first time I came, I remember seeing people walking on the street and thinking to myself, those are some ratchet outfits. But they were so free and so trendy and everyone was so accepting of them that it really took that, I think, peer pressure, weight to have it all figured out off of me to where I could really just enjoy it, and it was fun.
Candace Cameron Bure
Yeah. You know, at what point in your lives did you realize, okay, I'm enjoying fashion. I like getting dressed. I'm free to dress and try different styles. When, as a young Christian woman, did you or did you ever feel convicted that, like, oh, I like this outfit, but maybe it's not honoring, or maybe I'm actually getting so many looks from guys that, I don't know, I like it, or maybe I'm uncomfortable. Was there ever a conviction moment for you guys when it came to dressing fashionably?
Natasha Bure
Yeah, I know I did certainly not dress modestly at all, especially when I had graduated high school. I think it's similar with anything. If you get a reaction one time maybe, and you kind of see heads turning or something like that, there is, like, a little rush of excitement. Like, okay, I got a little bit of attention for wearing this, so maybe I'm gonna wear it again. And so I remember when I was, you know, I had graduated high school and I started going out with all of these new friends, I adopted their style, which honestly just was not how I would have dressed myself. And I remember it got a lot of male attention. And at the time, maybe I liked a guy or, you know, whatever. And I was like, okay, well, maybe this is going to help, or things like that. And then we had this conversation just, you know, earlier about heart, posture, and, you know, why am I wearing the things that I'm wearing? Is it because I'm comfortable and I actually feel really beautiful in this, or is it to get somebody's attention? And I think when I really started to take a step back and realize, okay, I would be wearing this because I want attention versus, like, I'm wearing this because it makes me feel confident and I feel empowered. And I'm loving the way that this is styled. That's where I have to take a step back and say, okay, I need to. I need to adjust some things.
Ally Schnacki
Honestly, something that I wish people would have told me because they're so quick to judge when it comes to modesty. Like, when you're a Christian, if you go out one time into the wrong place where Christians are, and you're not wearing what they like, they'll make it known to you, right?
Candace Cameron Bure
Oh, yeah.
Ally Schnacki
And a lot of times, not in a nice, loving way. A lot of times they'll whisper behind your back. You'll get weird looks from them. You'll feel unwanted. Even in the church and growing up in the church, I even felt like that, like, there was no grace or real love in the conversations at all. And something I wish I would have been told was that modesty is a complete journey. Because truthfully, what I wore three years ago, that I had no conviction about, and I loved God, I was pursuing Him. I probably wouldn't wear now just because I really believe that God refines you for the next place that he has for you. And I have so many stories that God has just done, refining who I am, how I view myself. And a lot of it has to do with my heart posture. Actually, something that I made the habit of doing when I was in high school was whenever I liked a guy when I was in high school, I wasn't allowed to date. I told you guys this. But what I was allowed to do was invite them to church. So whenever I had a crush at school or I had a crush on social media, I would always invite them to my church because that's where I could kind of loophole everything thing, get away with it. I remember this time in particular, I had invited this guy to meet me at my church. And before the service, I was just in my room, stressing out, panicking. Clothes were flinging across the room, like, my room is just a disaster all the time because I can never decide what to wear. And I remember in my heart, like the Lord saying, like, ally, you better put on your sweatpants and wear no makeup, wet your hair and go to church. The purest, simple form of who you are. Because if this guy is really who I have for you, he is going to be attracted to what's inside of you, not just what you look like.
Candace Cameron Bure
Wow.
Ally Schnacki
And I didn't even know about this verse at the time, but I wrote it down because it impacted me so much. And it says in First Peter, chapter three, verse three, it says, your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braiding your hair or gold jewelry or fine clothes, but the inner disposition of your heart should. The unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the Lord's sight. And so it would be easy for me to say when I went, I felt so confident or whatever, but I really didn't. I went to church. I was obedient. I just. I looked like trash, in my opinion. Right? But I was so confident that I knew the Lord had called me to do that and that if this was what he had for me, he was going to love me for who I am. The part about me that's not going to fade away. And so I met this Guy this night, we had a great time and he ended up liking me. And I remember in that moment, like, it healing something on the inside of me. I don't have to seek approval from people by just my exterior, but really the interior is the most interesting thing about me. Something me and Natasha both say is the way that you look is the least important thing about you.
Candace Cameron Bure
Yeah.
Ally Schnacki
And it's so true.
Candace Cameron Bure
Yeah. But I think that's a hard thing, especially at my age. It can. It's still difficult.
Ally Schnacki
Yeah.
Candace Cameron Bure
And I think it's very hard at your. Your age because there's such a presentation, especially on social media. It's what we see. We do, like, share our clothes, share our outfits, and again, can come from a great heart place. That's where mine comes from. But it can be such a struggle for young girls trying to find their value and worth because they look cute. They're dressed cute and not feeling worthy if they don't feel like they have the latest fashion trends.
Natasha Bure
Yeah, Yeah.
Ally Schnacki
I do want to clarify too. I don't want to take it to another extreme and say that if you love God, you can't dress cute. Like, you have to have your hair wet and no makeup or anything like that all the time.
Candace Cameron Bure
Right.
Ally Schnacki
Because the truth is, I really believe if we read our, like, the word of God, he's an excellent God. And that's why I think I, I so enjoy getting ready for church and going into God's house, like, looking my best because he deserves it. And as his ambassadors, the body of Christ, I really actually do think we're called to look good.
Candace Cameron Bure
Yeah.
Ally Schnacki
You know, hold ourselves well. We're going to talk about body image, like taking care of our bodies. But I did want to clarify that because so many times too, we think, oh, if they're a Christian, they can't. Yeah, wear this or do that or why do you care about materialistic things when really it could just be a passion of your heart?
Candace Cameron Bure
Yeah.
Ally Schnacki
You know, for sure.
Candace Cameron Bure
I, I agree. I feel the same way. And yet I always have to remind myself too, because it's just so easy to look in judgment, especially at church or church settings when you're. When you see someone and you see a girl and you're like, oh, that skirt is way too short. Oh, her boobs are hanging out way too much. And then I will remind myself and I'm like, but she's here. I don't know where she is at in life. What if this is the first time she's here? I don't Know that I'm glad she's here. Come as you are. And I know as women, as girls, I'm glad. In terms of culture, it's shifted more, and we're trying to share, like, women together are better. Like, let's encourage and empower. But there's still such a culture of cattiness between women. And it's so easy to look at someone and just judge them up and down based on their clothes, which is just. It just convicts me. I share that because it's convicting. I remember a time in my life when I had all three kids, but you guys were still, like, fairly young, you know, maybe 10 at the oldest. And it was Thanksgiving, and I felt so pretty. I had a skirt on that was like an. A line skirt past my knees. I had boots on because it was, you know, probably 85 degrees out. But I was dressing for fall because I just.
Ally Schnacki
Who doesn't love it fall?
Candace Cameron Bure
And it's Thanksgiving. I'm gonna dress it even if the weather doesn't call for it. But then I had, like, a little camisole on, and then a cardigan over the camisole, and I had a. Like, a long necklace. And anyway, Thanksgiving was great. I had a wonderful time. I felt so pretty, all the things. And then I got a call the next morning from my brother and my mom. Two separate calls that were like, hey, it was great to see you at Thanksgiving, blah, blah, blah, great time. And then they. And then they, you know, individually, but, like, in their own ways, just wanted to ask you about your. Just how you felt about your outfit. And I was like, what do you mean about my outfit? And they were like, just like. There was just a lot of cleavage, and the necklace was just drawing attention to it. And I was like, oh, I had no idea. Like, wasn't my intention. It made me feel pretty crummy. It really did. I felt like, really. I felt shameful in the moment because I'm like, well, that's not what I was trying to do. I'm married and have three kids. Like, I. And I. My family. My point wasn't to show a lot of cleavage, but I guess I didn't realize what it looked like from the outside or, you know, and my. In the. And then when my mom told me and the same thing, I was like, okay, it's not just coming from one person, and it's coming from two people that I really love. And it hurts. It hurt me to hear it. You were talking about heart posture and my heart posture. I felt actually quite Modest, because everything was pretty covered up. But I guess that area was more exposed than I realized, or people felt uncomfortable or drawn to look at that area. So it was one of those things that I had to sit on it and really pray over it because it didn't feel good to hear it. But when I prayed and ask God about. I'm like, what is it that you want me to learn? Okay, am I just supposed to throw that blouse out, that camisole? Is it just. That's it? Or is this something about, like, am I. Am I subconsciously exposing something? Or if I'm not, can you just help me to process this? Because it really isn't my intention to do that. But I. I also don't want to make other people feel uncomfortable. Like, there's just so many things that go along with modesty and what other people's take of modesty is, as well as your own. So as I've grown, I've gone through, I think, a lot of different. Not only feelings and emotions, but understanding of what modesty means. And at the end of the day, my conclusion that I've come to is that I have to feel good about it between me and God.
Ally Schnacki
100% agreed.
Candace Cameron Bure
I also want to feel good about it between me and my husband. That's my other, like, main point of reference. Like, if my husband ever felt that something didn't feel appropriate, like, that doesn't take but two seconds to say, okay, I'm changing that. Yeah, but really, when it comes to other people, I listen to people that are trusted people in my life, because if it was just someone off the street, I might. I might throw it out and say, you know what? You don't have. You don't get to speak into me that way, because I do. I don't know you. You don't know me. But when it came from really trusted family members, I was like, okay, I will listen to that. But now, at the end of the day, I'm like, I just have to feel good about it between me and God. But I check myself all the time, you know, when I put on an outfit. And it can be. It can be tricky, especially as a Christian and being in the public eye, because everyone wants to scrutinize everything that you're wearing. I've been in front of the camera my whole life, so I'm pretty seasoned as to what makes me feel comfortable on and off screen when it comes to makeup. So I was pleasantly surprised and delighted by Adele Natural Cosmetics. Adele carries everything for your daily skincare needs as well as color cosmetics and so much more. They offer personalized customer service with real people and they even provide complimentary foundation color matching. All you have to do is reach out to customer service and ask. I have personally been using the Highlighter Glow Stick and the Bronzer Stick. Both products are super creamy, but not in a way that's overpowering and they blend to perfection and not to mention how long they both last, even on some of the busiest days. So follow Adele on Instagram. That's Dell Natural Cosmetics for lots of tutorials, behind the scenes and encouraging content and then use my one time use code for 25% off your first order. Use the code CANDICE for 25% off your first order after a long day of responsibilities, something in your home should feel like a refuge from the outside world where you can find comfort, comfort and tranquility in the midst of a hectic life. Cozy Earth's bamboo sheet set is made with a temperature regulated, durable fabric that won't pill to help you sleep several degrees cooler, guaranteed for 10 years. The ultimate ingredient for a luxurious sleep is softness. Cozy Earth uses only the best fabrics and textiles to enhance a good night's rest, whether you're winding down at night or having a slow morning. Cozy Earth also provides the softest bamboo sleepwear, perfect for any season. They're cozy enough for relaxing with your favorite book or devotional, but still stylish enough to feel put together. Cozy Earth takes pride in the responsible production of everything they make. And don't forget Cozy Earth bedding and bath products have a 10 year warranty. Visit cozyearth.com candice and use my exclusive 40% off code candice. If you get a post purchase survey, say that you heard about Cozy Earth from this podcast. Create your own sanctuary with Cozy Earth. Grand Canyon University, a private Christian university in beautiful Phoenix, Arizona, believes that we're endowed by our Creator with certain unalienated rights to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. GCU believes in equal opportunity and the American Dream. Starts with purpose by honoring your career, calling you impact your family, your friends and your community. Change the world for good by putting others before yourself to glorify God. Whether your pursuit involves a bachelor's, master's, or doctoral degree, GCU's online on campus and hybrid learning environments are designed to help you achieve your unique academic, personal and professional goals. With over 340 academic programs as of September 2024, GCU meets you where you are and provides a path to help you fulfill your dreams. The pursuit to Serve others is yours. Let it flourish. Find your purpose at Grand Canyon University. Private Christian affordable Visit gcu. Edu have you guys ever gotten judged over what you've worn on social media? Have you ever gotten called out?
Ally Schnacki
I know I have for sure. And I was sharing this with Natasha, but when I first started Tick tock, I was, I was revealing a lot more skin than I, than I did now. And I think subconsciously I never really knew that I was doing it out of a place of seeking approval from people. Looking back now, I see that that definitely played a part, but I really just thought that it was cute, it was trendy, and I was putting it out there and it was, it was doing good. Like, I realized my content did better when I dressed cuter, which showed more skin. And I didn't know, I didn't see a difference back. Like it's my head space wasn't there. And I want to make that really clear because you had just said on Thanksgiving you were perceived a certain way, but your headspace wasn't there. And even in church, like what you were saying with that example, it's so important that when we do confront people that it is in that love. Because the truth is, is the first way to humble us before we go up to someone is to realize that I was that person. I was the person that probably wore something to church that they weren't supposed to. And I wish somebody would have come up to me and give me the benefit of the doubt. But when I first started posting on social media, I did get comments about the, the clothes that I wore because I was leading Bible study and wearing these clothes. And they weren't like super skimpy or anything. They just aren't where I'm at now.
Candace Cameron Bure
Yeah.
Ally Schnacki
And I would write them off because I thought to myself, like, this is not. I mean, look at everything everybody else is wearing. And I would almost gauge what I could wear based off of what the culture around me was wearing instead of gauging what I wore based off of who Christ was and a revelation that the Lord has given me recently. And you guys can bear with me because this is really fresh, but I really feel like God's trying to show me something in this. Okay, is I actually found this scripture, and I've never heard this said before in a way of modesty, but the scripture says in Romans, chapter 13, verse 14, to put on the Lord Jesus Christ and make no provision for the desires of the flesh. And I realized what does it really mean to put on Christ? And when I really start to dissect and think about putting on Christ in my life. Waking up every single day, reading my Bible, reminding myself of what God says about me, putting on Christ, realizing I'm his ambassador. If I start with that first, everything else in my life is taken care of. I know that what I pick, when I pick my outfits, it's not out of a place of needing attention, like you said, or feeling like I'm lacking in a certain area, having to prove myself, but I'm already in a place of fullness, knowing my identity is found in the beauty from within me. I know what my creator says about me. And now I can go and I can pick something based off of what I like to wear, what. What I think is fun, what I think, you know, is trendy, what represents me well. And so I don't know. That's kind of a revelation that the Lord's been giving me recently. But going back to what you said, I still have comments about the things that I wear, but I'm the same way. I just realized, God, you've already grown me so far. It's between me and you. And if nobody else gets that, that's okay.
Candace Cameron Bure
Yeah.
Ally Schnacki
Because I can't please anyone, you know, Everybody.
Candace Cameron Bure
I would say that in a public. In a public platform setting for.
Natasha Bure
I definitely have experienced it, but I just was flat out. I don't even know what I was doing. I wasn't wearing anything, like, remotely modest at a certain time. So I feel like those comments were not even coming from, like, a place of.
Candace Cameron Bure
What do you mean? That people had the. That they were right in saying the comments?
Natasha Bure
Oh, I'm just saying that I think that, like, the outfits that I was wearing at the time just so was so opposite. Reflecting, like, what I was about, you know, so when they saw it, I feel like people were just so confused. Like, I just don't get it. Why are you wearing this stuff? Which is. Was super convicting for me to go, okay, yeah, I don't even know, like, why am I wearing this? And for me to dig deeper and go, okay, well, is it because I think that this is cool or this is trendy, or is it because of attention? So, like, I definitely have been there, and then now I'll get, you know, a comment here and there about what I'm wearing and not being modest. But I think that I've had such a. Yeah. Such a transition, even with the way that I approach my fashion and modesty and what that means to me, that if I do get comments they. They do truly roll off my back more than they used to, just because I know where my heart is. And again, like, I truly don't think that anything. I wouldn't want to put out something that would encourage someone to wear something that, like, I wouldn't approve of, you know?
Candace Cameron Bure
Yeah. Yeah. It can be a tricky topic. I think Matthew west had a song that he put out a couple of years ago that, like, Modesty is Hottest or something. It was actually a very cute song, but he got so much backlash for it.
Ally Schnacki
Really.
Candace Cameron Bure
Yeah. Well, also.
Natasha Bure
Sorry to, like, cut you off.
Candace Cameron Bure
Yeah.
Natasha Bure
I just feel like in modesty, at least in our schools, because I went to a Christian school growing up, and modesty was, like, very covered up. You know, like, our skirts had to be a certain length every single time we actually came to school. We had to measure, like, upon walking in the door without fail. And my dad would drop me off early, and there would always be the teacher there, and she would have you measure your skirt, and you had to be wearing a certain thing. And I think that, of course, you want to be mindful, but then it. It does put a damper, not necessarily, like, the length of certain things, but when you are talking about the. In the context of modesty, and then you're making people wear, like, super ugly things, it doesn't make you feel beautiful. I never felt super beautiful going to school because the outfits were ugly. Like, that's. It's true. They made them so ugly so that no boy would ever want to look at you.
Ally Schnacki
And that's true.
Natasha Bure
Okay.
Candace Cameron Bure
Because you're there for school.
Natasha Bure
No, mom, of course to study.
Ally Schnacki
Okay. You're like. You're like 60 there for school.
Natasha Bure
But. And also when you're wearing something that makes you. I don't want to talk about. Whatever.
Candace Cameron Bure
I. I totally understand. When you're making. When you're wearing something that doesn't make you feel beautiful for the sake of modesty, it. That also. It suppresses your confidence, and that's. And you don't feel good.
Natasha Bure
Right. And that's. My point is there is a fine line of. You obviously want to be modest and uphold yourself in a way that's respectful, but I also want to feel beautiful, and I also want to express who I am through fashion. I want to be able to do that. And so I think that the word modesty just has such a bad rap, especially in certain, you know, cultures and areas and things, because at least when I was younger, like, the modest is hottest was always. It honestly made us look terrible. Like, I wore a frumpy button down shirt that wasn't even like fitted. It was like ugly brown. And then like my school skirt was down to here. And then we couldn't even wear like cute shoes. Like, my dad made us wear, like my tennis sneakers. Like, I actually, I was like, I would rather just wear my brother's outfit at this point. For real. So there is, you know, something about it that I'm like, okay, I don't like, I, I don't like the word modesty. I obviously have such a different approach to it now that I'm older and things like that. But I think that's why, you know what I mean, that's why it does get such a bad rap, is because there are places like that, I think to my old school. But whatever.
Candace Cameron Bure
The part that I struggle with the most when it comes to modesty is that modesty is also. Modesty is different for everyone, what their definition of modesty is. And so you know what? Maybe I may have an outfit on that I feel is modest, but it's just not according to someone else. I might feel comfortable showing my shoulders. That may be immodest to someone else. And so, yeah, I always have to. I kind of, I kind of pray about it. I always think about, you know, if Jesus were sitting right here, would I be comfortable if he was looking at me? And I'm like, yes, I would feel comfortable if I were in a bathing suit at the beach. Like, sometimes, yes, the examples are ridiculous, but that's kind of where my line was. Or, or whoever that person is in your life. It's like, if your mom or dad walked in, would they go like, what are you wearing? You know, if you would feel a conviction from anyone, then maybe you want to reconsider that outfit.
Natasha Bure
And not that it's all about, in the context of this, but it's so true. Because if. Are you gonna walk around in super tiny shorts and like a really thin crop top when you're going out? But like at the beach or obviously wearing a bikini and you, you would feel modest, you're wearing one piece or whatever. But it's in the context of, okay, I'm doing this activity. There's times when I would play tennis and I'm in, you know, a really short skort or like shorts or whatever. Would I ever wear a, A shirt? Sorry, Would I ever wear a skort or shorts that short? Normally, no. But in the context of the physical activity that I'm doing, sure. This is what makes me, you know, Feel the most confident playing. It's what's the most, you know, accessible for whatever I'm doing. So it's also just in the context of. Of the certain activities that I feel like is important. And then a lot of times, that's when people just go, well, why are you wearing that? You know? And then you kind of have to just brush that off.
Candace Cameron Bure
Yeah. God tells us, you know, to put on humility, put on kindness, put on gentleness, and most of all, put on love. And I think those are the most important things we can clothe ourselves with each and every day. Before we get dressed, before we decide on our cute outfit that we. We put on the love of Christ, we put on the gentleness, the kindness, and the compassion that he gives us through the Holy Spirit.
Ally Schnacki
I so agree. It's actually funny that you brought up the beach, because I just had an experience at the beach when I was with my boyfriend. So my entire life, I've. I've worn bikinis to the beach entire life and felt no shame about it at all. Now there are some in my closet that I might feel a little more uncomfortable with than others. I will say, if I'm just being completely real with you guys. And I wore one of those to the beach not too long ago. And I remember being there just tanning, trying to. Trying to just not think about it, right? Because at the end of the day, like, I really just want to get a good tan. I was in Water Pole growing up, and so I had this ugly tan line for such a long time. I just want to get a nice bronze. And my heart wasn't even wrong in it, but I did feel this little tug on my spirit. Like, you feel a little uncomfortable in this. You know what I mean? And my. My boyfriend Austin asked me. He said, hey, Ali, let's go on a walk on. On the beach, right? And I initially stood up, and this isn't like me, because I usually love to walk on the beach. I said, like, no, I can't do that, because my bikini is gonna, like, give me a wedge. You're like, whatever. And then I'm gonna have to be self conscious because everybody's gonna be looking at me, and it's not. It's just not gonna be a good look for who I am, like, what I do. And Austin's like, I actually think you look fine, but put on, like, put on your pants. And I was like, no, you know what? You're fine. I'll just walk on the beach. I'm at the beach. I don't have to worry about it. You know, we. We do everything, go through all of these mental conversations in our head. And as I was walking, like, I thought, my bathing suit starts riding up, and I'm just so uncomfortable having a miserable time normally when I would just be having fun, enjoying my life. And I really felt like the question prompted in my head, if somebody. If a girl were to come up to you right now that, like, listen to your ministry, would you be excited like you normally would to talk to her, to take a picture with her, or would you feel ashamed because of the thing that you wore? You'd be, like, hiding and, like, timid and, like, wanted to almost run and hide. And when I realized I wanted to run and hide, I realized, like, okay, maybe this just isn't for me anymore. I'm not talking about, like, I'll never wear a bikini on the beach again, but I'm saying maybe, like, that one.
Candace Cameron Bure
Yeah.
Ally Schnacki
Isn't for me to wear anymore. Sure. You know, and absolutely. I think that's a cool thing, too, to realize. Like, you know, sometimes you don't have to throw the baby out with the bath water. Like, God is just refining you little by little.
Candace Cameron Bure
And I love those little steps of growth. You heard me, too.
Natasha Bure
Yeah.
Candace Cameron Bure
Holy Spirit, you are convicted. And you're like, okay, like, we're done with this one. Yeah.
Ally Schnacki
And do I love this so much that I'm not willing to give it up for God?
Candace Cameron Bure
Yeah.
Ally Schnacki
And I think that's where the issue comes in, Right?
Candace Cameron Bure
Yeah.
Natasha Bure
I feel like also in terms of baby steps and growth, sometimes I found, even in my own personal life, I remember when you feel such a heavy conviction, it's almost so easy to just flip the switch and go all the way to one extreme, where then you're like, okay, well, I need to just start dressing in, like, super long, super modest, like, completely covered up and whatever that, you know, whatever that looks like for that person. And then I think that there's also something to be said for style within being a believer and, like, expressing that, because I don't know if you guys feel this, but in Christian culture, sometimes I feel like there's, like, the right thing to wear when you go to church. Like, you wear something super feminine and, like, a nice dress, or you look super pretty. And then there's other people that don't feel as comfortable in something super girly, and they might feel comfortable in more of, like, a street wear or something like that. And I know that that's conversations that I've had with my friends of finding what makes you the most confident and the most comfortable. And if for you that's wearing jeans and like a little button up and, you know, something that's a little bit classier, great. If that's wearing a super bright pink flowy dress, that's amazing. If that's wearing cargo pants and cool sneakers and a cardigan, like, that's awesome. All of those things are. Are beautiful. And I think the thing that I love is whatever makes you feel the most confident you're gonna shine the brightest in. And that's really what I've.
Ally Schnacki
So true.
Natasha Bure
I've learned. And I remember when I was. When I was younger, I literally every single weekend I, you know, if it was Sunday going to church, or if it was just like a random Saturday on the times when I wasn't playing tennis and I didn't have a tournament, I would wear a different type of style. I remember Dylany, my mom's best friend, gave me this, like, studded black leather purse and I was like, oh, my gosh, I'm gonna, like, lean into this era right now. And I was like, super grunge for one day, and then the next day I'd go to Forever 21 and get this, like, super preppy skirt. And then the next day I was maybe a little like, boho. Like, I just loved experimenting and trying and seeing what made me feel the most comfortable. And that's ever changing. Like, as I get older, as I grow, sometimes I love dressing a little preppier, and then sometimes I love dressing a little sporty. Like, whatever. I wake up on that day and feel I want to be the most confident version of myself. My dad has this great quote, feel good or look good, feel good, play good, you know, And I feel like that's so applicable to just every aspect of life. When you are feeling your best in your dressed, whatever makes you feel a 10 out of 10, you're able to shine so much better and you're able to use your words in a way that you might not have been before and have this confidence. And so, I don't know, I just feel like there's something to be said about that. I just really love that.
Ally Schnacki
Oh, it's so good. And you can't do that being a Christian. Like, you can dress so cute being a Christian.
Candace Cameron Bure
I know.
Ally Schnacki
And if you don't mind, I have one question for you.
Candace Cameron Bure
Yeah?
Ally Schnacki
Just one question. So when we were talking about you on Thanksgiving, right, and how your mom and your brother reached out to you and Just like, lightly just said, hey, are you comfortable with what you wore? There is a point in our relationship with people. As the body of Christ, we're called to call out things in one another and to call each other higher. Not condemn, but, like, pull higher. Right. And so I feel like there's so many people listening to this that could be in that position where there's someone that they love that maybe isn't dressing a way that. That represents them well, who they really are well. And so what would you say to that person is a good way to ask or confront the person that they're. That they love in a way that they don't feel?
Candace Cameron Bure
You know, it's hard because even that conversation for me was in love from them, but it really hurt my feelings. You know, I don't think there's an easy way to say it, but if we have trust, I would say only have that conversation if that is a trusted, respected relationship, if you are in, you know, true friendship or family ship with that person. And, you know, I would just come at it as gently as possible. And like you said, not in a condemning way, but to say, even me, I'm stumbling saying the words right now because it's just hard to put it in the nicest way of, like, God's called you even more than this or even higher than this. And some, you know, people might see this, you know, take. Perceive you as something else just simply based on what you're wearing.
Natasha Bure
Sometimes I feel the best way. Even the times that I feel like might not have been a plain and simple call out if someone provokes thought of just, like, asking a question, it will make me dig deep of like, okay, let me think about this. You might not be saying, I don't like your outfit, but if you ask me a question about my outfit and I start thinking about it, I'm like, oh, okay. And I feel like that's happened multiple times with my friends whenever we're calling each other out in accountability. I don't think it's Jess, especially one of my best friends, she has such a way with words. And it never comes across as, I don't think that you should be wearing this. There's been plenty of times where she said, if I've asked her, you know, but whenever I know she's trying to come around to something, she always approaches it with the most gentle, kind spirit and asks more questions, like, just inquiring, like, I'm just curious.
Candace Cameron Bure
Yeah. Like, and where'd you get your dress? Or what do you love about your dress, right?
Natasha Bure
Yeah.
Ally Schnacki
I think that's really good.
Candace Cameron Bure
Yeah.
Natasha Bure
Yeah. Let me think about this. And then you're probably gonna feel the conviction of the Holy Spirit on your own.
Candace Cameron Bure
Yeah, that's so true. Okay, we have to get to our listener questions. We have two of them today. Kelly asks, how do you instill confidence in your kids? Some of us are just more naturally confident, more confident than others. What would you guys say? What were the things that make. Because you're clearly two confident young women.
Natasha Bure
I would say, for me, affirmation is so huge. I need affirmation. I don't need it, but I really appreciate the affirmation. And it could be in little things. It could be in, you know, the way that you dress or if you did a good job, I don't know, cleaning the house or whatever. Just. There's just, like, little things that just, like, a nice pat on the back goes such a long way. And I feel like, as parents, that's so important to obviously instill that as your kid. But the other thing that I would say is lead by example. So when you're confident, and I know that that would be, you know, you would have to have someone instilling that in you in the community that you surround yourself with. When you're a parent, if you're able to look in the mirror and say, oh, my gosh, I'm beautiful, and you see your mom doing that, or you see your dad and they're all dressed up or whatever, that makes you go, okay, wow. I want to be like that. If you have this constant, like, negative talk, and if your parent thinks that about themselves, and naturally you're gonna go, well, does my. My parent think that about me?
Ally Schnacki
Right?
Natasha Bure
Because I don't want to think that. I. I don't think that's good.
Ally Schnacki
I. I honestly agree with exactly what she said. The biggest difference in my life, and I said this on the last podcast, was my parents speaking life into me, reminding me of who I was even when I didn't feel it.
Candace Cameron Bure
That's good. Okay, second question. Autumn says you always look put together. Thank you. But I know that's not true outside of the camera. Well, I dress myself outside. Outside the camera, too. I hope I look put together on me. How did you do it in everyday life? Say something terribly wrong happened the day before, then you had to go to work. How do you keep it together? Yeah, listen. I mean, no, thank you for the compliment. I do really enjoy fashion, so I try to look put together in my everyday life. But you Know what? Some days, it just doesn't matter. Some days, even at work, it's a sweatpant kind of day.
Natasha Bure
I just have, like, a very materialistic answer. But I just thought that.
Candace Cameron Bure
Say it.
Natasha Bure
Who cares? I mean, one thing that always makes me feel put together is jewelry. And it doesn't have to be super expensive. But this is just like my own little fashion tip. If I am running out the door and I'm literally wearing jeans and a white T shirt, if I on. If I have on cute hoops or a pair of sunglasses or a cute bow in my hair or something, automatically I feel elevated. There's so many little things that can just immediately lift your outfit. And sometimes I'll just keep things in the car in case, whatever. But the amount of girls that will wear, you know, a cute pair of, like, Uggs and sweats and a regular tank top, but they have on cute earrings and their hair slick back. They have on a pair of cute sunglasses. They look expensive, they look nice, and they're just wearing, like, a bummy outfit, but they look put together.
Candace Cameron Bure
Yeah.
Natasha Bure
So on the days where you can't put on expensive something extravagant, you can't, you know, match everything to a T. It's just little things, and I feel like that will elevate your confidence so much.
Ally Schnacki
Oh, yeah. My go to is that slick back hair.
Candace Cameron Bure
I was just going to say that.
Ally Schnacki
Y'all are going to see that soon.
Candace Cameron Bure
On days I don't feel great or wear very little makeup, I just want to slick my hair back in a pony. And it's like, this is me.
Natasha Bure
Yeah.
Candace Cameron Bure
And it actually gives me confidence. There's way less about me because it's not about my hair. It's. It's not about my makeup. It's not about my outfit that day. So it goes into the slick back pony, and I'm like, here I am, boss woman.
Ally Schnacki
Yeah, I can get stuff done when I slick my hair back.
Candace Cameron Bure
Yes, exactly. Oh, that was a good answer, guys. This was so good. When life feels full of pressure, practicing gratitude can change your day. We created a gratitude guide for you this season with daily reminders and scripture readings. Go to Candace. Candace.com I forgot my name. Go to Candace.com to find the link and it's also in our show notes. Until next time, be grateful all day, every day. Candy Rock Entertainment. All rights reserved.
The Candace Cameron Bure Podcast: Episode Summary
Episode Title: Allie Schnacky and Natasha Bure - How Do I Decide What to Wear Today?
Release Date: March 4, 2025
Guests: Allie Schnacky and Natasha Bure
In this engaging episode of The Candace Cameron Bure Podcast, host Candace dives deep into the intricate relationship between fashion and modesty alongside her guests, Allie Schnacky and Natasha Bure. The episode explores how personal style intertwines with Christian values, societal pressures, and individual confidence.
Candace's Love for Fashion:
Candace opens the conversation by sharing her lifelong passion for fashion, which was significantly shaped by her experiences on the television show "Full House." From a young age, she relished the process of selecting outfits for each episode, fostering a deep appreciation for style and collaboration with costume designers.
“Having their expertise and input since I was 10 years old just made me absolutely fall in love with fashion.” ([04:43])
Allie Schnacky's Transformation:
Allie recounts her initial indifference towards fashion, attributing her newfound interest to her brother's girlfriend, a fashion-forward individual who inspired her to understand the impact of clothing on self-presentation and confidence.
“I started to realize... when I dressed a certain way, I presented myself differently.” ([06:17])
Natasha Bure's Tomboy Roots:
Natasha shares her experiences growing up as a tomboy heavily involved in sports, leading her to favor comfortable, gender-neutral clothing. This early focus on athletic attire left little room for exploring personal style until later in her life.
“I was such a tomboy growing up... I just felt like we were all. We all did the same sports and did the same activities.” ([08:17])
Defining Modesty Beyond Clothing:
The trio delves into the distinction between fashion as an expression of personal style and modesty as an inner heart posture. Allie emphasizes that one can be fully clothed yet seek attention, highlighting that true modesty stems from one's intentions and inner disposition.
“Fashion to me is... what I choose to wear... Modesty is more like a heart posture.” ([02:25])
Balancing Style with Faith:
Candace shares her struggle with receiving feedback about her outfits, particularly how certain choices can unintentionally draw attention in ways she didn't intend. This led her to seek guidance through prayer, ultimately concluding that her clothing choices should primarily align with her relationship with God and her husband's perspectives.
“At the end of the day, my conclusion that I've come to is that I have to feel good about it between me and God.” ([23:57])
Experiences with Criticism:
Allie and Natasha discuss the challenges of facing judgment from others, whether it's family members or online audiences, regarding their fashion choices. They highlight the pain that can come from unsolicited opinions and the importance of handling such criticism with grace.
“...people have gotten in trouble for using that word [modesty].” ([02:13])
“I do want to clarify... if you love God, you can't dress cute.” ([18:26])
Impact of Social Media:
The conversation touches on how social media exacerbates these pressures, with both guests sharing personal anecdotes about receiving negative feedback on their attire. Allie links her struggle with seeking approval through platforms like TikTok, realizing the need to align her fashion choices with her faith rather than trends.
“I realized that God, you've already grown me so far. It's between me and you.” ([29:53])
Instilling Confidence in Kids:
In response to a listener question, Allie and Natasha offer insights into fostering confidence in their children. They emphasize the importance of affirmation, leading by example, and cultivating a positive self-image through encouragement and supportive environments.
“Affirmation is so huge... lead by example.” ([46:43])
Personal Confidence Strategies:
Both guests share practical tips for maintaining confidence, such as accessorizing with jewelry or adopting a signature style element like slicked-back hair. These small adjustments can significantly elevate one's appearance and self-assurance without relying on expensive or extravagant outfits.
“One thing that always makes me feel put together is jewelry... that's so much more comfortable than girls' clothes.” ([48:52])
Elevating Everyday Outfits:
Natasha and Allie discuss simple ways to enhance everyday attire. Natasha suggests using accessories like earrings or sunglasses to elevate basic outfits, while Allie mentions styling elements like slicked-back hair to project confidence and professionalism.
Natasha: “If I have on cute hoops or a pair of sunglasses... automatically I feel elevated.” ([49:36])
Allie: “My go-to is that slicked-back hair.” ([49:46])
Approaching Conversations About Fashion:
When addressing a loved one's fashion choices, Candace advises approaching the topic with gentleness and respect, ensuring the conversation stems from a place of trust and genuine concern. Natasha echoes this sentiment, suggesting that asking thoughtful questions can prompt self-reflection without causing defensiveness.
Candace: “Only have that conversation if that is a trusted, respected relationship... come at it as gently as possible.” ([44:23])
Natasha: “Ask a question about my outfit and I start thinking about it...” ([46:21])
The episode wraps up with a reaffirmation of the importance of inner beauty and aligning fashion choices with personal faith and values. Candace emphasizes dressing with humility, kindness, and love, reinforcing that true confidence and modesty come from within.
“Before we get dressed... put on the love of Christ, we put on the gentleness, the kindness, and the compassion.” ([40:47])
Fashion as Self-Expression: Personal style is a powerful tool for expressing one's identity and confidence.
Modesty Defined by Heart: True modesty transcends clothing and is rooted in one's intentions and inner disposition.
Handling Criticism Gracefully: Constructive feedback from trusted individuals can guide personal growth, while unsolicited judgments should be navigated with grace.
Building Confidence: Affirmation and leading by example are crucial in fostering self-esteem, especially in children.
Practical Styling Tips: Simple accessories and signature styling elements can significantly enhance one's appearance and confidence.
Supportive Conversations: Addressing fashion choices in a loved one should be done thoughtfully, prioritizing trust and respect.
Notable Quotes:
“Fashion to me is... what I choose to wear... Modesty is more like a heart posture.” – Allie Schnacky ([02:25])
“Having their expertise and input since I was 10 years old just made me absolutely fall in love with fashion.” – Candace Cameron Bure ([04:43])
“I'm the same way. I just realized, God, you've already grown me so far. It's between me and you.” – Allie Schnacky ([31:37])
“Before we get dressed... put on the love of Christ, we put on the gentleness, the kindness, and the compassion.” – Candace Cameron Bure ([40:47])
This episode offers a heartfelt exploration of how fashion intersects with personal values and faith, providing listeners with both reflective insights and practical advice on navigating the often complex world of modesty and self-expression.