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Dare to Live Free, Season Finale
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Dare to Live Free, Season Finale
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A
If you're taking pictures as a petite person, oh, here's this is. Oh, she's giving us the good advice of the day.
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B
Is it? She's like everything saying, maddie, it was fine, but this.
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I want to share something with you that's really close to my heart. The people of Israel. I've always believed that some promises don't fade with time and God's promise to Israel is one of them. Even when the world feels uncertain, that promise still stands. And I truly believe that now more than ever, we're called to show up with compassion, with kindness, and with action. That's why I'm so honored to partner with the International Fellowship of Christians and Jews. For more than 40 years, they've been on the ground in Israel providing food, care and life saving help to those who need it most, especially the elderly and Holocaust survivors. Supporting people in need isn't just something I believe in. It's something I feel deeply called to do and I hope you'll join me. To learn more and find out how you can help, visit ifcj.org that's ifcj.org. Life is like a roller coaster, but it's better when we go through it together. Welcome back to the Candace Cameron Bure Podcast. Madison Pruitt Trout and I have been sharing honest podcast faith centered conversations about life's challenges, celebrations, and everything in between. And today we're also answering some extra listener questions from this season. Just a reminder, I have a new app where you can join a private podcast chat and you can become a member@candace.com together. I also have a monthly live stream member Challenges and it's a place where I'm seeing women from all over the place encourage each other, build new friendships and do life together. Come join us. Hi. It's our last week together.
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B
I'm sad and excited. It's been a really good season.
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A
It has been a pleasure to have you on. Thank you so much for sharing all of your wisdom in your heart and your love. Really, it's been such a pleasure talking to you and getting to know you better. And I love that I'm getting to know one of my daughter's friends well.
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B
Oh, I know. It's so fun. I'm like, man, we should have had her come in for this last grand finale episode.
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A
Trust me, I thought about it. It would have been fantastic. I would have loved it. But, well, maybe next time. Next time when we're all together. Yes.
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B
Run it back.
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A
Well, I'm excited about this last episode because we're we just want to wrap up the season and all the things that we've been talking about. And so I. We would really love to. Your final thoughts on living free. And then we're also going to ask. We're also going to answer a lot of listener questions, which I always love. They're so fun. We get so many questions and some of them are really tough and challenging and some of them are very light hearted and easy. So I figured that we would start with a really light, easy question today.
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B
Fun.
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Okay. This is from Megan and she asks what is your favorite go to meal?
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B
Oh, anything Mexican.
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A
Now are you cooking? Or this is your. Are your cooking go to meal.
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B
Honestly love a good home cooked meal, but I'm very basic with my cooking. Like, I'm like a. My husband and I love ground beef, some sweet potatoes, some veggie in there
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A
with avocado coming over.
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B
I mean, and then the just cherry on top is like some fresh sourdough with some good butter and salt.
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A
Yummy. Oh, it's just. So I thought you were going to say chips and guac because we were talking Mexican.
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B
No, that I switched a little bit. Going out is like our Mexican is our favorite. Like, go out. Let's grab some Mexican fajitas, quesadillas. Oh, so okay.
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A
But the other one is your. Your go to home cooked meal.
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B
Yeah.
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A
Just wait. Are you making sourdough? Are you one of those?
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B
Okay, I'm not there.
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A
Natasha does.
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B
I'm inspired by Natasha's cooking. I need to learn from her. No, I am not making sourdough, but I would love to learn. It is a process.
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A
No, it's like a child. Because before Natasha moved out after she got married, she has the mother that's in a little jar and it sits in the fridge. But you got to take it out and you got to do stuff and you got to give it air and light and you literally don't need it.
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B
It's like you have to feed it.
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A
It is like a little child.
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B
The, the. What's it called? The stuff that's in the jar. They have the name for it.
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A
Well, I just know it's mother in the. Oh, it's called a mother. Yeah.
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B
Wow. A mother.
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A
Yeah.
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B
Well, I know I have not gotten into my sourdough. We should take a sourdough class together by Natasha.
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A
Yeah. Natasha can teach us sourdough. I know. Before she comes to visit us, Val will call her and he's like, natasha, we need some sourdough.
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B
Get some fresh sourdough.
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A
Yeah, we need some with some olives in it. She makes great sourdough. My go to meal, it's always kind of protein and veggies type of thing. Chicken and veggies, salmon and veggies. That's kind of the go to.
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B
And you're the cook or Val's the cook?
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A
Oh, no, Val's the cook in the family. I always say I'm a sous chef. I'm cooking less and less these days. He is such a great chef and he truly enjoys cooking and hospitality. My. My husband. I'm gonna brag on my husband for a second. Cause I love it. He's so cute. But I feel like the older we get, we're just like it. He is so hospitable. Like, he truly enjoys hospitality to a degree that I don't even understand. You know, like, he. He loves hosting people. He loves hosting our family when we have a casual dinner at home.
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B
He's going all out.
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Yes. And I'm not joking. And it's. None of it's for show, but he loves it. The placemats are out.
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B
The.
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The linen napkins are out. It is. The table is set to perfection. There's always a brand new little flowers on the table. Everything is picture perfect. And then the food is incredible. And he makes it and serves it, but it's his joy. And he loves, like he has his heart in service in that way and in hospitality. That I would say is one of his spiritual gifts.
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B
Yeah, it fills his tank. He loves doing it. Yeah, I love that so much. I love. I also love hosting. I just haven't learned all of the cooking part.
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A
That's okay.
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B
We'll cater. Cater some Mexican.
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A
That's what we have chefs for. We can. We. That's what we have a phone for. Because we can just call and order it up. Yeah, it's totally fine. Okay, well, here is another question. This one's a little more hard hitting. This is from Rebecca. She Sundays, my daughter's 10 and she just went through her first experience with some serious young girl drama. A friend did some not so nice things and lied about it. And then there were rumors at school, and a totally different girl claimed that my daughter said some hateful and threatening remarks. How can I help my daughter move on? Forgive and protect herself from future mean girl episodes.
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B
Ugh, mean girls.
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A
I know. Mean girls are so. It's so hard. I had my fair share of mean girl experiences when I was in elementary school. In middle school, like, middle school was terrible for me in public school because I was on TV and got made fun of all the time and was just hated by some other girls because they were really jealous and they were awful to me. So I know, I know how it feels. And you know what, what you can do as a parent is always teach them them honesty. You, there's always conversation to be had. We know that 10 year olds aren't at their highest level of maturity, so it also depends how those other girls are being raised. But you can always teach your daughter to be the bigger person, teach her forgiveness, even if other people don't apologize to her. But you can teach her how to forgive and move forward. You can also, I would say to find the friends in school that you know that are the good ones and keep them close because that part is really important. And you know, sometimes you just have to stay away from people. Yeah, it's kind of how school works at times. There's, there are clicks for a reason, which is sad, but sometimes you just got to stay with your people.
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B
Yeah, I, I can agree with you on getting bullied and picked on in high school. That was a part of my story. I write about it in one of my books. I can't remember if it's dare to be true, but that was a weird time of my life of getting picked on and rumors, I mean, very similar thing. And it's really hard. You don't like being misunderstood. You want to be liked. It's obviously not fun to be picked on. But I do think that my parents did such a good job of reminding me of what's true, what God says about me, of really modeling it. So what I would say is, you know, your kids are going to do what you do before they do what you say. And so making sure you're modeling to them that you're not reacting, I know it can be. I'm a very protective person. I say all the time, like if someone messes with my hosanna, like I already got my fists up, ready to go. And so I know sometimes, you know, as a mom, you can get so protective and controlling and you want everyone to like your child. You don't want your child to hurt, you don't want your child to. And sometimes, or not sometimes, all the time in life, like your, the kids have to figure things out for themselves and how you model, like your reaction to those situations really matters. As a mom, like your child, your daughter is watching your reaction.
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Yeah.
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And you know, I know for me, my mom, I'm very protective of my younger sisters. And anytime, you know, there Was girl drama happening with my younger sisters. Because I'm someone that I'm like, oh, you can come at me. Like, I can take it. But if you come at somebody I love, like, I'm ready to fight. Like, I will, I will fight back. And some girls were just being rude to, to one of my younger sisters and leaving her out and just petty girl drama stuff. And I got so mad and frustrated and I was ready to literally show up at this girl's house. Like, I was ready to, like, I mean, I wasn't going to throw a fist, but I was going to have a really intense conversation with this girl. And my mom just reminded me, she's like, no, no, no. Like, we've got to let, you know, your sister, figure this out. And we gotta show her like this. Let's, let's pray, let's forgive. Let's be the bigger person like you're talking about. And my mom just did a really good job of not overreacting and trying to control the situation.
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A
That is so good. Such a good point to be made. And I would say that too, because as, as parents, we wanna protect, but we have to let our kids learn to fight that battle with God, with one another, how to handle those things. And some are gonna go well and some just aren't. But we don't want to be that helicopter parent that comes in and tries to fight for them. I remember it just reminded me of a story. I was in middle school and I would get to school early because my dad was a schoolteacher and so he would have to go to his school. So he would drop all of us kids off about an hour before school started. And I was in seventh grade and there was a boy that was always there early at the same time, and he started hanging out next to me all the time, but then became more and more annoying to me because he. I don't know, I don't remember the circumstances, but he was making me uncomfortable. And so at one point I had told my mom and dad, like, this boy keeps coming over, but he's not really talking to me, but he's kind of being weird and a little touchy with me of whatever. And so my parents gave me advice like, well, talk to him and tell him, please don't come near me or say, I'm sorry, don't want to talk to you, whatever that is, be kind, but be firm and tell him. And I did. And I think I ended up doing it a couple of times over a couple week period, but he wouldn't let it go. And kept coming over to me and doing whatever was making me uncomfortable. And so then it was at that point my mom asked me and she said, would you like me to walk in with school to school with you today? And I said yes, but she let me try to fight it first. And I did. I did the. Took the advice, but then there came a point where it wasn't working. And then my mom stepped in and she went right up to that kid because he came over and then he saw my mom and she was like, please stop talking to my daughter. And there's gonna be a problem if you, you know, don't. You need to leave her alone and go have your own space. And the boy never bothered me again, you know, but there's always a time and place when a parent can step in. But don't do it right away. Let your child try to figure it out. Figure it out. So good advice. Good advice.
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B
Okay.
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A
Oh, my gosh. This is. This episode's gonna go so fast. Cause we love the listener questions. I know I do. I love them. But let's just get into our. What we wanna talk about just wrapping up your whole season, because I wanna hear your final thoughts on daring to live free and even some practical advice just to remind us to stay in this place of purpose and God's design for our life.
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I love the idea of. Of what you're asking because it is an everyday decision. Like choosing freedom is a daily decision. We have to choose it every single day. And I remember this video I saw actually on, I don't know, Instagram, TikTok or something. And it was this guy who rescued a sheep that had gotten stuck in, like, this.
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I've seen that.
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Have you seen this video?
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Okay.
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And it's like. I mean, it's like if it falls through the crevice, like it's Bad news bears because it's a dangerous, like over a mountain or something, some bad situation. So he's trying to rescue this sheep and he rescues the sheep and he's like, yay, go live your life.
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Go be free.
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And the sheep goes. Runs off. And then he goes right back to the cross and falls in. And you're just like, no. And then you also are like, oh, my goodness.
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We are like, sheep, don't we do that every time?
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And Jesus is the good shepherd who rescues us. And it's. It's just a funny story, but also like a reality check of if we're not careful and conscience and make the choice every day to choose Freedom. We're gonna go right back to what kept us bound. We're gonna choose to go back to that thing. And Galatians 5:1 says, you know, do not go back to what once enslaved, you don't go back to the bondage of your past, like, live in freedom. It is for freedom that Christ has set you free. So don't go back to that thing. You've been set free. And then it goes on to talk about in Galatians 5, your freedom isn't just for you, like you were set free from something, but for something. And so use your freedom not to indulge your flesh and live however you wanna live, but use your freedom to serve others humbly in love. Which is a lot of what we kind of talked on on the last episode, on true purpose and influence. But I think that's such a beautiful reminder of what it looks like to live free every day. Galatians 5. I'd encourage everyone listening to go and read that chapter. It's a really powerful chapter of living a life led by the Spirit. And that's what I think it is, is you get free by the blood of Jesus Christ. Only the blood of Jesus Christ can set you free. Only Jesus Christ can set us free from our sin and the bondage that we were born into and that we so easily drift to. But it's the Spirit of God, it's the spirit of Jesus Christ that keeps us free and walking in step with his Spirit, keeping in step with his Spirit. And it talks about that a lot in Galatians 5 of how we don't live our life by the flesh and how to live our life by the Spirit. But it is a continuous. Like, I've got to choose to not let my mind be governed by the flesh, but to let my mind be led by the Spirit and to keep in step. It uses that terminology like, keep in step with the Spirit, make the choice to continue to take the next step again and again and again, being led by the Spirit. And so I think it's just that continual reminder of, you know, dying to self, you know, holy Spirit, help me, lead me. I'm submitting myself to you. It talks about in James 1, like, don't just be a hearer of the Word, be a doer of the Word. And it reminds me of the story I talked about in one of the episodes of when my husband and I found out we had a gas leak in our house. And you know what would have been really crazy is if we found out we had a gas leak in the house. And then the plumber was like, so want me to turn it off? And I'm like, no, it's fine. You know, like, we just wanted to know what the problem was. We're just going to keep living.
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We don't want to fix it.
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Yeah, we don't want to fix the problem. We're just going to keep living, you know, with what's causing all of these issues and what's keeping us stuck and what's, you know, leading to all of this suffering and bondage. That would have been crazy. And in the same way, you know, we oftentimes will find ourselves at these crossroad moments of maybe we've identified the problem, maybe we've identified, you know, and those who have been listening, you know, along with this podcast series, maybe they're like, okay, God's revealed to me, like, what my sin struggle is, or the lie I've been believing, or the shame I've been carrying, or that thing, that relationship, that thing that's been keeping me bound and stuck and not living the life that God wants me to live. But now the crossroads moment is you gotta choose. Like you have a choice to make and you're gonna have to choose to walk that out every single day. You're going to have to choose to open up the word of God and memorize scripture and meditate on scripture every single day. You have to choose to surround yourself with godly community and walk in the light and walk in confession and have people hold you accountable. Accountable. Like I have to make that choice every single day. And so that's really the heart of kind of towards the end of the book and wrapping it back up is there's going to be lots of moments where we're going to have a choice to go back to that thing that Jesus set us free from. And, you know, making that choice, you're not gonna be able to do it on your own, but by God's spirit and with God's people. Diving into God's word is how we continue to live that life of freedom.
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That's so good. Thank you.
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We're good.
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So we're, we're gonna recognize the lies, we're gonna read the words so we know the truth. We're gonna pray, we're gonna stay in community, we're gonna have an eternal perspective. Yeah, I think that's so good. Thank you so much.
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B
This is so fun. I love this so much.
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It's been so great. And that was really the perfect wrap up. And I want to just Go to listener questions because we have so many, and we're going to try to answer as many as we can for the next 10 or 15 minutes.
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I love it.
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Okay, this is from Hannah. She wants to know, do you have thoughts on dyeing your hair from a biblical perspective? I have mousy brown hair and have been dyeing my hair to super blondes since I was in high school. And I've recently been doing more natural, lived in blondes since becoming a little closer to Christ. Thoughts? I love my life as a blonde, but I want to be living as a godly woman. Is this contradicting that? This is a good question. We talked about this a couple of seasons ago in body, mind, and soul. So this Hannah may have just listened to that season. Well, I mean, do you have any initial thoughts? Because I'd love to give my group thoughts. Okay, sure.
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Let's see what Kate has got to say.
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Here's the thing, because we talked about how far is too far? What is God honoring? What isn't when it comes to our bodies and when it comes to beauty? Can I dye my hair? Can I get a boob job? Can I get Botox? Can I paint my nails? How much of it is, is changing me from who God made me to be to being vain? I'm doing it for vanity? Or is this something that, honestly, it just makes me feel better? I, I, I just have more confidence when I do this. I think it really comes down to the why. Why do you want to dye your hair? Why do you want to change your appearance in some way? I mean, a very practical answer on my end is, girlfriend, I've been dyeing my hair since I was 12. Okay? So I don't think that I'm any less of a Christian because I dye my hair. I don't think I'm any more of a Christian if you don't dye your hair. Or I don't think you'd be more of a Christian if you don't dye your hair. Some people might have a different opinion in that, but I think it all comes down to a heart issue, is why, why do you want to do those things? But I'm like, I, I, you know, hair dye, Botox, which one is okay? Which one isn't? I don't know. Why do you want either one of them? Talk to God about it. And if you're like, you know what? I just feel prettier with blonder hair, but I want to be a little bit more natural in this color and talk to God if You feel good and peace in your soul. I think you're okay or not. If you feel convicted about something, that you should have a more natural hair color, then do that.
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Amen. Literally everything you said, I, I mean, I'm just echoing because you touched on so many, I think, important points. And I just would say like, you know, points to you for even wrestling with this and asking this question because I think so often we can compartmentalize our faith and it has to be just like our quiet time in the morning and it looks a certain way, but really inviting the Holy Spirit into every area of our life from like, lord, what do you want? How, how can I honor you with, with my looks and my hair and my, you know, clothes, the clothes that I. And you know, it talks about in scripture, if it's not done from faith, then it's a sin for you. And so I would say this isn't a salvation based issue. It's convictions. And so what do you feel when like Candace said, you ask the Holy Spirit, like, is this okay? Am I okay to, to do this? I have hair extensions and I've definitely colored my hair before. I love my press on nails, you know, and every once in a while I love to go shopping and get a cute little girly outfit. And so I think that it's just what you say, it's, it's the purity of heart. What's your why are you doing it for validation and attention? Are you doing it because you don't believe that you're beautiful apart from it? Is it you're searching for some type of thing that the world can give you when you've already been affirmed and told who you are in Christ? Or is it just like something that's like, it's fun for you, it's not a big deal. It doesn't create a stumbling block for you and maybe other people around other people? Yeah, I mean, I think that it really goes back down to, to your why and the purity of your heart and then asking the Holy Spirit to speak into it.
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Yeah, I so agree. I think Revelation 12:11 talks about we overcome by the blood of the Lamb and the word of our testimony, and so realizing that sharing our testimony is just to point other people to Jesus and that's done through our brokenness. I mean, what he's rescued us and redeemed us from. It says in scripture that when we're weak, he is strong. You know, when we have nothing left to give, that's when he does his best work. And so it's. I think it's so beautiful to boast and what once was so broken because he's made it beautiful and it can lead to other people's freedom. But I agree with you of you want to make sure that your heart is healed and healthy to where you're not going to share something vulnerable that you could be susceptible to, either fall back into or could create more trauma if, you know, you don't feel in a. In a healed spot and someone else, you know, reacts a certain way. And so for me, even when I share about certain vulnerable.
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I was going to ask because you share very vulnerable things, and you did on the podcast, where was there a time when you felt confident Was there a shift from sharing privately with your friends to then being able to share publicly?
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B
Yes. Oh, it definitely started privately. It definitely started in living rooms. It definitely started with close circles and friends and bringing people into. I think that's where it can get dangerous sometimes as we automatically want to post everything on social media before we've even processed it fully with the Holy Spirit or even with godly community. And there isn't full healing or even freedom or steps towards freedom being taken. And I think that's where it can get a little dangerous. To each their own, you know, take it up with the Holy Spirit. I'm not saying don't share the things that maybe you feel led to share, but I have seen personally walking through things that are happening in real time or things that are really fresh and to be better done in private with my people. And every now and then I'll share something like, hey, this is a lie that I'm, I'm believing right now. You know, that I, I shared on one of the podcasts, like a lie that I was believing a couple weeks ago was that I was a failure. And that was something that I processed with my husband and walked through and worked through and still have to choose the truth every day. But I do think that there should be, you know, people were processing with and bringing people into it and not just sharing publicly or on social before we're like really walking through it privately with the Holy Spirit and with godly community. And that has definitely been my process and will always be my process.
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Great advice. Okay, this question is from Judith. I am a law enforcement officer who works anywhere from 8 to 16 hours a day. I find it difficult to keep up with my workouts or have the motivation for them. Some days I feel guilty not moving my body when I am recovering from long shifts. How do I jump back to my routine on days where I do have a normal shift? Judith, we're living in the same world.
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B
I'm like, you're the perfect person for this.
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I'm not in law enforcement, but I too work 8 to 16 hour days very often. And so I find myself in the exact same boat as you. And here's my advice to you. Don't feel guilty for missing workouts. Absolutely not. When you are consistent over a long period of time with workouts, your body will not change that much. When you miss a few, when you are consistent to pick it back up wherever, right wherever you left off. And so I too, when I'm filming a movie, I basically don't work out for almost four weeks. And when I say don't work out, I. I'm not lifting weights. I'm not really even doing cardio or anything Monday through Friday. And if I can get two lighter workouts in on a Saturday, Sunday, I will. But because my schedule's so rigorous for those four weeks, my workouts go out the door. And. But this has been consistent over years and years of my life. So my body knows that once I'm done with that, I just pick it up. Takes me about a week to kind of get back into the groove, and then I go again. And even today's like this. On a podcast day. There's travel. We're doing a lot of talking. I'm doing full days of filming. I didn't get a workout in today, but listen, my workout schedule is normally Monday through Friday. I work out five days or really six days a week, Monday through Saturday. But I miss days all the time. And it's okay. That's all I'm saying. Just don't feel guilty. Just once you have that normal shift, be consistent that every normal shift you're getting your workout in and you'll be fine.
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B
Amen. I have nothing to add to that because you are the health wellness workout queen. I'm like, I need to get on what you're on.
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A
I tell you, you have a young child. You don't need to get on anything. Go outside and get that fresh air and walks with grass and what did we say? That's all you have to do. Go on the swing with her, put her in your lap and go down the slopes.
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B
Take some good walks.
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A
Take walks. That's all you need. Some ankle weights. You don't need to do anything else right now. Enjoy motherhood. Okay. This is from Crystal. Do you have any wardrobe tricks for a petite size woman?
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B
Um, I don't know.
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A
You're not, you're not. I mean, you are petite in your size, but not your height.
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B
I'm like, I don't know, do I,
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A
Do I have anywhere? How tall are you?
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I don't think I really have anything to offer there, but something that I like to to do sometimes is if my jeans are not. Because sometimes it's really hard to find jeans. I'm not talking about length, so I don't think this really answers the question. But sometimes on the waist, it's hard to find jeans that like, fit your waist perfectly unless you go and get them, like, altered.
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A
Right?
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B
So I love to take a shoestring from a tennis shoe and just like Tie the thing at the end and kind of bring it together.
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A
Yeah, that's a good idea. But how tall are you?
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B
I'm five. Five. Oh, you're five five, but you put on some heels. You know, people tell me I have tall person energy. I don't know what that means, but
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A
I. I thought you were saying thank
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you as if it's a compliment, but
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A
you have come in every week with heels.
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B
I have.
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A
So I thought you were gonna. I thought you were like, five seven. Okay, well, I am a petite person. I am five.
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B
To your advice.
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A
Yeah, my. My wardrobe tricks for petite size are fine. Clothing brands that have petite sizes, they really help. I also think that a tailor is absolutely worth the investment. If you're working within a certain budget, I would even suggest that you buy less expensive clothes so that you can invest in a tailor to make them. The right sleeve length, the right length on your legs. Oh, here's. This is.
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B
Oh, she's giving us a good stuff. Is it? She's like, everything said, Maddie, it was fine. But this. This is groundbreaking.
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A
Because this is totally off topic, but you know how everyone wants to go high angle with the camera? Like, they take their phone and they want to go a foot above your head and angle it down because everyone thinks they have a double chin if it's not super duper high. I think this is the worst angle for photography, period.
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B
Yeah. No, it's not good.
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A
It's terrible. But as a petite person, you want to ask the person who's taking the photograph.
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B
Oh, really?
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A
I'm good enough. I'm like, can you take a picture of me? By the way, this is how you have to have. This is how you have to know.
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B
Actually, I'm going to position you. Don't move.
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A
No, I do. No, for real, don't move. Don't. Whenever I ask Bell, I'm like, can you take a picture? And he's like, just hold the camera where you want me to hold it. Yeah. He knows what's very used to it. So as a petite person, I want it at a minimum chest height. I don't want this camera any higher than my head actually is. I want it more at, like, neck height.
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B
That's good.
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A
And almost. I want it flat, but almost a tiny. A tiny bit up. Because when the camera's angled down, it squats you. So if you take a picture like that, your legs are gonna look a foot shorter than they are. Your whole torso gets compact and shrunk in a bad way. It's bad for petite people. You just.
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B
You.
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A
You don't even look.
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B
That's not cute.
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A
You don't look like you belong with anyone else. When you're around normal sized people and you're the pet. So you. And then if you want a really great picture and you do have like your high waisted jeans on and you have heels, and then to make your legs look really long, you actually want to take the picture at a low angle and just shoot up a little bit. And then you have legs for days, people.
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B
And I like putting like one leg out a little bit so that you have kind of a little bit more of a leg moment.
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A
Yes.
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B
Okay. Wow. We.
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A
Petite person advice for the day.
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B
She's been waiting for this question, you guys.
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A
I feel like I've corrected so many people taking pictures lately. I'm like, no, that's fair. Don't take.
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B
It's always really sad when you have no one. It's like someone finally comes up and you're like, will you take this picture? And then the picture's just not.
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A
I know. It's a bummer.
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B
It was.
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A
Yeah. There were so many pictures at Natasha's wedding, Natasha and Bradley's wedding, that were just friend pictures, but they took them so high and I. They were just terrible angles. Okay, I'll stop complaining. One more question. One more question. This is from Tori. How do you balance having your platform, having a family, having your personal time and quiet time with God? Let's start there. There's more to this question, but all of those things. You're in the same boat, Maddie. So how do you balance it all?
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B
Yeah, well, you know, I saw this analogy one time of putting like the big rocks in first and then the small rocks fall in.
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A
I have that analogy in one of my books. It's a great analogy.
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B
It's a great analogy.
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A
But tell it.
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B
You put the small rocks in first and the big rocks don't all fit in. But if you put the big rocks in first, then the small rocks will all fit. And I think a lot of times we focus on what's urgent versus what's important. And then our schedule kind of gets filled with just like responding, responding, going to this thing, to that thing. And then we look at the end of the day and we're like, what did I even do today? Like, was today even productive? Was it purposeful and was I fulfilled? Did I make a difference? Did I? And you can kind of feel like life is just happening to you, but I think the way that you can approach it differently, instead of life happening to you, you happen to life and you're like, this is what I'm prioritizing. This is a non negotiable for me. You know, my quiet time in the morning, if I got to get up at 4:30am, if I got to get up at 6am like whatever time I got to get up to make sure I have that quiet time in the morning is essential for me personally. I will not allow that to be taken away or interrupted. And if it happens, then I'm not the funnest person to be around. I'm not the kindest person. Like I've got to start my day in the word of God and in the presence of God. And so that's a really big one for me, starting my day that way. It's really funny, Grant. I laugh because when we got married I thought, I just didn't know. I was like, oh, we're gonna have our quiet time together every morning. Like we're gonna have breakfast together and quiet time together every morning. And that's just not the reality. That is just not right. You know, he laughed at me. He's like, maddie, no, I'm going to go to a coffee shop and I'm going to go, you know, like we're not, it's not like sitting down, having our cutting our pancakes together, asking each other what are you learning in the Word every now and then like that. Yeah, but that is a huge part of how I start my day. And then, yeah, I think you, you make room for what's most important. Like you will make time for what's most important to you. So prioritizing those things, having non negotiables and. Yeah, and I mean that's what it is for me. Making time for what matters most versus what's like just urgent right now.
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Yes, that's absolutely great. I would say the same thing. She continues and asks, what are you currently studying? Any devotional things. And if you're in a dry season, please don't be afraid to share how you are coping in a dry season. Let's see, what am I currently studying? And devotional things. So I'm still going through the Bible recap and there's only a couple months left and I'll have finished another round, my fourth round of the Bible, which is great. I love it. I have been reading some other books. I'm reading Francis Chan's newest book called Beloved or France Beloved and yeah, Francis is great. And if you're in a dry, what do you. So what are you studying and or
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B
Reading or right now, I've been going through. So I've been memorizing chunks of Scripture, and whatever passage I'm memorizing, I just do, like, a deep dive into. So I memorized the book of James, and I just went through each chapter and really did, like, a deep dive. Study into context, into meaning, into. I just love that stuff. I mean, looking up, like, Hebrew words and I mean, just all the things, like, really, what are my takeaways? How can I apply this to my life and then memorizing it? I think that's been a big part of my routine. And then I love. She reads truth. I do some things that she reads truth. And so I have that as kind of part of it. But really it's like whatever scripture I'm memorizing. So I've been in First Peter, and so I've been memorizing that. So I've just been going through that and really doing, like, a deep dive into the verses. And we'll focus on, like, a chapter at a time and find, like, cross references. I love doing that to where it's like, okay, this verse relates to something in the Old Testament. So then I'll go and kind of read a little bit in the Old Testament or a psalm or a proverb, and so that I'm not just focused on one passage. But I love the idea of, like, a Bible recap having something that's just consistent that, you know, I think it feels overwhelming sometimes when you're just like, what do I do? Where do I go? And just choosing somewhere in the Bible. I always love the Gospels. You can never go wrong with the Gospels. I'm probably gonna go there next and memorize some chunks of scripture in the Gospels and do a deep dive with that. It's. It's my favorite.
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A
I love it. It's so great. We're out of time. We even went over on this episode, so that was our last question. Madison, thank you so much for being here. You are a joy, and everybody can keep listening to you every week on the Stay True podcast.
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B
Yeah, well, thank you so much for having me. This was so much fun and I'm excited to hear what everybody thinks and what they took away from the episodes.
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A
I know. So don't be afraid to comment on all of our posts and write more questions into the podcast. That is a wrap on the season. But don't forget your free Dare to Be True guide@candice.com It's the perfect way to follow along with Maddie's book. And if you have a burning question that you want answered in the Future, head to Candice.com and click the Got Questions button. And while you're there, go to Candice.com together to become part of the Together community. You be able to download the app and get access to a private podcast, chat, monthly live streams with me, and daily encouragement from other members. Thank you so much for listening and until next time, be grateful all day, every day. Candy Rock Entertainment all rights reserved.
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