Priscilla Shirer: Surrender Everything For Jesus

Summary

The Candace Cameron Bure Podcast: Episode Summary

Episode Title: Priscilla Shirer: Surrender Everything For Jesus
Release Date: January 14, 2025
Host: Candace Cameron Bure (Host)
Guest: Priscilla Shirer

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Introduction and Setting the Stage

In this heartfelt episode of The Candace Cameron Bure Podcast, host Candace Cameron Bure welcomes renowned speaker and author Priscilla Shirer to explore the profound theme of surrendering one's life to Jesus. The conversation delves deep into faith, personal growth, and the transformative power of discipleship.

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Navigating Adulthood and Responsibilities

The discussion begins with a light-hearted exchange about the challenges of adulthood. Priscilla shares her initial realization of adulthood responsibilities, particularly financial management.

Priscilla Shirer [05:57]: "Probably when I was around the 20-year-old timeframe... I realized, oh, this costs money. Do I actually want to spend the money I have on this one meal."

Candace relates by recounting her own early lessons in financial responsibility, highlighting the universal struggle of transitioning into adult life.

Candace Cameron Bure [07:09]: "I didn't know how to balance a checkbook... It was a massive responsibility to pay bills now."

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The Journey of Surrendering to God

The core of the episode centers on what it means to surrender everything for Jesus. Priscilla elaborates on the continuous process of growth and the challenges that come with prioritizing faith above all else.

Priscilla Shirer [05:43]: "We're growing. So I was thinking about growing up and I wanted to ask you, when did you feel like an adult for the first time or knew you were now an adult?"

She emphasizes that surrender isn't a one-time event but an ongoing journey that involves making difficult choices to align one's life with God's will.

Priscilla Shirer [10:47]: "Is there anything that I prioritize more than Him? Most of the time, you really don't know until He's asking you to release something."

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The Impact of Mentorship and Discipleship

Priscilla shares personal anecdotes illustrating the profound influence of mentors in her life. She recounts how seemingly casual "girl time" with older women was, in reality, intentional discipleship.

Priscilla Shirer [20:15]: "In hindsight, what I thought was just girl time was discipleship time disguised as girl time."

Candace adds her admiration for influential figures like Cece Winans and Ann Vos Camp, highlighting their role as living examples of faith and intentional living.

Candace Cameron Bure [25:03]: "She [Ann Vos Camp] is that intentional. Every person I can look at a room, and when she's talking to someone, she is talking to that person... a great reminder for me I want to be that way."

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Realizing the Role of a Mentor

A pivotal moment in the conversation occurs when both Candace and Priscilla recognize their evolving roles as mentors themselves. This realization underscores the importance of investing in others just as they were supported.

Priscilla Shirer [27:15]: "It just popped into my mind that I realized it when you were writing a check."

Candace reflects on the honor and responsibility of being a role model to young women and how media presence, like Full House, continues to influence new generations.

Candace Cameron Bure [30:36]: "I'm a brand new mom in law... I can understand it more in maybe college age... but when I see, I don't, I've forgotten and haven't even realized that I'm an example to these really young girls."

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Listener Questions and Practical Advice

The episode includes a heartfelt listener question from Michelle, a mother of five sons, seeking guidance on being the best wife, mom, friend, ministry partner, and preparing to be a supportive mother-in-law.

Listener Michelle [31:33]: "I want to use my emotions for the best possible outcome and not be ruled by them. How do I prepare to be a mom in law who blesses and builds a friendship with the new family members coming into the family?"

Candace offers thoughtful advice, emphasizing unconditional love, support, and the importance of open communication.

Candace Cameron Bure [32:08]: "Unless someone's hurting you or abusing you, we will always love and support who you are with because we love you and we want to be a part of your life."

She shares personal practices, such as encouraging her children to seek permission for honest and loving guidance, fostering a relationship based on trust and mutual respect.

Candace Cameron Bure [35:01]: "If you give me permission to speak into your life... my priority is my relationship with you. And in that, I want to love whoever you guys all love."

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Conclusion and Looking Forward

Candace wraps up the episode by highlighting the resources available for listeners, including a free personal prayer guide and Priscilla’s book, I Surrender All. She encourages continued growth in faith and relationships, setting the stage for next week's deeper dive into discipleship.

Candace Cameron Bure [36:05]: "Next week we're going to dive a little bit more into discipleship. Remember that Priscilla and I made a free PDF download for you and we're calling it a personal prayer guide."

The episode concludes with a message of gratitude and encouragement to embrace the journey of surrendering to Jesus, fostering a life filled with faith, purpose, and meaningful connections.

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Notable Quotes

• Candace Cameron Bure [27:15]: "When you wrote a check... that should have been the moment when it happened."
• Priscilla Shirer [10:47]: "Everything, the way you spend your money, your entertainment choices, how you focus your time and attention, when the Lord is asking us to come with Him on a journey that looks different than we expected, are we willing to go in obedience?"
• Candace Cameron Bure [25:44]: "She looks at you and she's like, she's looking into your soul."

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This episode of The Candace Cameron Bure Podcast offers a profound exploration of faith, responsibility, and the ripple effect of mentorship. Through personal stories and insightful dialogue, Candace and Priscilla inspire listeners to embrace their roles in each other's lives and surrender their paths to a higher purpose.

Transcript

[A]

When, if at all. Yet has it occurred to you that, like, you're the mentor?

[B]

I realized it when you were writing a check. Life is like a roller coaster, but it is so much better when we go through it together. Welcome to the Candace Cameron Bure podcast. We're here to share conversations about life's challenges, celebrations, and everything in between. Our season eight conversations are a deep dive into how our faith moves beyond belief with Priscilla Shire. Come join us. Hey, Priscilla, how are you? I'm so good. We were. We were just laughing as we came on set because it's hot.

[A]

It is hot. There's a little air conditioning problem in the studio.

[B]

Uhhuh.

[A]

You know, and nobody would know that because we look halfway decent. But all up under here, it's a.

[B]

Situation a little sweaty, it's a little. It's a little glistening, I should say, because we glisten, we don't sweat.

[A]

Well, I sweat.

[B]

I do too.

[A]

And I came into your office because I thought I saw there was a box of armpit shields, which are life changing.

[B]

They really are lifechanging. Yeah.

[A]

For people that sweat a lot or whatever, you could just sweat. Stick them right there and.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Soaks everything up. But I was just telling you this story that I just discovered armpit shields. Not I should have discovered it a longer time ago, but it was more recently than it should have been. And the reason why is because I was fine wearing panty liners.

[B]

Like, I literally, like, I never thought of using a panty liner before I.

[A]

Knew armpit shields existed. I just took a panty liner and pulled off the back and there's adhesive. So I just stuck it right here. And it was working great until one day I was speaking somewhere and I'm telling you, I was just speaking and speaking and then out of the corner of my eye, I was like, what is this white thing that's peeking out from under whatever? And so I just. It was going to be. Everybody was going to notice the thing. So I just stopped and I said, y'all is probably 3,000 women in there. I was like, y'all, my fear, one of my greatest fears in life is that I'm going to be making a grand gesture and a panty liner is going to smack one of y'all.

[B]

And so I've just come to admit.

[A]

At this point that I was wearing panty liners in my underarms.

[B]

I'm sure. Sorry, go ahead.

[A]

I was going to say, and then like a couple weeks later in the mail from some anonymous woman whom I'M so grateful for that was there that day. I got a box of armpit shields. It was her way of saying, priscilla, let me help you, girl. Let me help you. And it's been life changing.

[B]

That is so sweet. But I'm sure that every woman in that room was endeared to you at that moment for going like, yes, oh, yeah, yes, we do that too. Or whatever. Just the reality of some of the things that we gotta do. I know.

[A]

Because we all have this tendency. I know I do. To see people from afar and our minds somehow build up that they're not like normal.

[B]

Like, yes, they're superhuman.

[A]

Yes. They're not like, just do stupid things or awkward things or strange things or whatever. And so then you can't get around it when you see a panty eyeliner come out.

[B]

No, you sleep. I too discovered those real fast. Because when I was asked the very first time to share my testimony, it was with a lot of women. Probably again in, you know, at least a thousand or something like that. It was a lot of people. And I think I wore a pretty blouse and it was so soaked by the time I just left. Just the big armpit. Yeah, yeah. And I was like, it was so embarrassing. And then you're like, what, what can I do? And then I started wearing blazers. Okay, anytime I'm gonna speak, I'll wear a blazer. And one of the events it. I sweated through my blazer and it was just. It's awful. So I went. I went online. I mean, I was stuffing tissues. Like tissues in my armpits. Yeah. All the time. It was like, you're about to go out on stage in five minutes and be like, can I please stop at a bathroom and just run in there, grab the ch. Stuff up. Anyway, I finally googled and then found the armpit shields.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

And there's also. There's the disposable ones. They make cloth ones. They make all different shaped ones depending on what you're wearing. And you can pin the cloth ones in and then just throw them in the washing machine.

[A]

We are talking about life changing things. That this is going to change somebody's life. You needed to know today that there is a diaper for your underarm. That's what we came to tell you.

[B]

They probably should make some for in our bra. For under our boobs too.

[A]

We're going off the rail.

[B]

I need that one. Oh, my goodness. All that to say it's been a little warm in here, but. But we're having fun through it.

[A]

Perfect. Yeah, you did the right thing. Look, you've got a nice top.

[B]

Yes, I put some, I put sleeveless on. Yeah, I had to change some of the outfits I was planning on because it's a little.

[A]

It's little.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

But we're doing good.

[B]

Well, you know, we've been talking about this journey of surrender, surrendering our whole lives to God and what that looks like and the process through which we go. And it's not something that just happens in a day. This is, this is an ever evolving journey.

[A]

We're growing.

[B]

We're growing. So I was, I was thinking about growing up and I, and I wanted to ask you, when did, when did you feel like an adult for the first time or you knew you were now an adult?

[A]

Probably when I was probably around the 20 year old time frame is where I felt adults adultish because I think it had something to do with money. Like I was out of it same and I realized, oh, stuff costs money. Like I remember, you know, being with friends and we were going to go out to eat and it's kind of like, are we though? You know, when you start calculating.

[B]

Right.

[A]

This costs money. And do I actually want to spend the money I have.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

On this one meal. And once you start sort of having to adult in that way, it occurs to you, oh, this, this is where it doesn't feel quite as fun and liberating as you thought it was because it comes with responsibility.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Like you got a budget.

[B]

I know, I know. My kids learn that lesson pretty early. Yeah, I too felt like that. Although because I was on Full house, I was making my own money.

[A]

You were.

[B]

And when I turned 18, I actually moved out of my parents home and I had my own place and I realized I didn't know how to balance a checkbook. And I was like, oh, I have to pay the electricity bill.

[A]

I'm laughing, Candace, because somebody needs you to explain what a checkbook is because.

[B]

Right. You guys don't even, Some of you don't even know what a checkbook is.

[A]

They don't know what that ledger looks like. Ledger. Isn't that such an ancient word? There was a ledger on the other. The flip side of the checkbook and the fact you just said checkbook, it dated you a little bit.

[B]

Hey, listen, I wrote a check this morning.

[A]

Did you?

[B]

Yeah. There's still a few places of business that want the check as opposed to an electronic transfer.

[A]

They prefer the check.

[B]

Yeah, they want to check and don't do like Venmo or seems riskier. Whatever.

[A]

You know, to take the check. You don't know if it's going to clear.

[B]

I know, but I did. I legit wrote a check this morning.

[A]

We were having a whole old woman conversation right now. It's happening. I know. Anyway, go ahead with your story.

[B]

That's what I realized. I didn't know how to do that. And I'm. It was just like, I need a lesson. Mom, dad, how come you never told me and I have to pay a bit? Like that was such a massive responsibility to. To pay bills now? Same thing. But I didn't know the process of it. And then my girlfriend Chalene, I talked a little bit about her last week. She came over because Chalene's maybe five years older than me, so she was kind of my mentor, you know, And I was like, chalene, how do I do this? She's like, buddy, we are going to Staples and we are going to get some, like, accordion fold.

[A]

You might have to describe staples and accordion folders.

[B]

Okay, you're right. You're right.

[A]

Okay. Sorry. We're back.

[B]

Okay. Okay. Basically, like, file folders, guys. Okay. File folders that have a bunch of files within one, like, box folder.

[A]

Like an accordion.

[B]

Like an accordion. And then they're alphabetized like A through C and D through F. And then there's ones that might just have numbers on them or ones that are blank and you could write in and fill in what you want to file. So anyway, she would. She then went through this whole lesson like, hey, buddy, this is how we do it when we pay bills and you aren't paid, and you file it in this, you know, if it's your, you know, whatever the gas bill you fire, file it under G. Okay. That was. That was my first sign of important adulting.

[A]

Yes. And, you know, on this whole financial kick, I. I remember a very sobering reality that when I finally had a little bit of money and I wasn't more, I never had like a. I did temp jobs and stuff like that, independent contractor things when I was going through graduate school. And I was very mindful of the fact that there were taxes, and I was pulling out some to make sure I had the taxes, but I didn't calculate well. So I remember having just saved up. I literally had just saved up maybe $2,400. And it was. I was so proud. Yeah, separately from taxes, I had saved up $2,400. And then I remember the tax bill came in and it was $2,526. And it wiped out every single dollar that I'd saved.

[B]

And it was crushing.

[A]

Yeah. It was devastating and crushing. At the time that made me feel like an adult because I was like, who is Uncle Sam? He is not my uncle. He's not my family. I don't know.

[B]

I know. Why do they call him Uncle?

[A]

Yeah. I don't know. This man.

[B]

Trying to make him sound nice and friendly and. No, no.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Anyway, well, as we go through this journey this week, we're talking about everything for Jesus.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Hallelujah.

[A]

Hallelujah. Everything. Yeah, all the things.

[B]

So tell us, how are we doing life? Everything is for Jesus. About Jesus. Like what?

[A]

Yes. It's asking yourself, is there anything that I prioritize more than him? Most of the time, you really don't know until he's asking you to release something. And it's not necessarily. It's not only whether or not you will. It's what's the response time before you do? How long does it take you to wrestle before you're willing to let go?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Whether it's of, you know, a direction that you thought your life was headed in, and you can feel the Lord shift it, you're going in a whole different direction, or the expectation you had of what your family dynamic was going to look like, and then you have a child, maybe that has a disability, or you have a marriage that has a struggle that you didn't even consider that this marriage was going to have. And your whole experience and the culture of your family is completely different. And now the way you have to devote your time, your energy, your focus is completely different than what you had in mind. Are you willing to let go and move on with God in this direction? Or are you holding on tightly to what it is? So everything, the way you spend your money, your entertainment choices, how you focus your time and attention, when the Lord is asking us to come with him on a journey that looks different than we expected, are we willing to go in obedience or are we resistant to that? And for most of us, we're resistant. We're like, no, this is the way I want it. This is the way I'd like to have it. This is comfortable for me. And so the response time, I know in my own life, I'm thinking of an area right now where the response time is too long to just say yes. You know, so surrender and discipleship. The clearest example of it really is in the scriptures where Jesus had these 12 men that were his disciples, and the call looked like this, leave everything and follow me. And because he was here physically at the time, there was more clarity to them on what that meant. Like to us. It's sometimes it's so figurative and theoretical that we can't actually put concrete fingers to what it looks like to follow Jesus. But when we look back at the model of what discipleship was, then we see it clearly because leaving everything to follow Jesus was not in theory, it was, leave your home, leave your people, leave your comforts, leave your, the, the, the cadence that has been the regularity of your life. Leave it and come walk with me. They had to decide were they willing to tether themselves to him that completely to where everything else in their life took second place. So it's the same thing for us. Are we willing to prioritize him over and above and only we know the contents of our heart and whether or not it's situated and postured that way.

[B]

When you even describe the disciples literally having to leave everything, it just pales in comparison to what God may be asking of me to give up. So when I think of that, so I'm like, Candace, would you have the strength to actually just, I know, legit, leave it all? Like, I don't know.

[A]

Yeah, I completely agree. And I read, I read books like Jesus Freaks. Do you remember that? That book, it's by an organization called Voice of the Martyrs where they are diligent about encouraging people who are live in different parts of the world where they are being persecuted.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

In the most horrendous ways for their faith.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And so they've chronicled in I think three volumes now. Gosh, I'd encourage everybody to read Jesus Freaks because they've chronicled modern day stories and old stories, ancient stories of people who were imprisoned, of people who were killed, of people whose families were taken away from them for their faith. And just to your point, when you read what some people have to go through to follow Jesus because of the context that they're in, what we have to go through, what we have to lose a little bit of our pride or ego or being isolated or ostracized from or marginalized. It pales in comparison.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

To what some people have been and have been required to give up because they refuse to say that they are not believers in Jesus Christ or they refuse to give up the copy of their scriptures and not have an opportunity to read the Bible.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And we have five copies in our house and may or may not get to it.

[B]

Right.

[A]

So it's just sobering to think of what some people right now, current day, are going through.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

To give it all for Jesus it is.

[B]

And then, I mean I bring that up because it's, it does come pale in comparison to what I may have to give up. But I will say that on the flip side, I don't want anyone listening thinking like, oh, if I don't become totally a missionary today and literally leave my house and pack up my kids and we just, that may not know what God is calling you. So it.

[A]

Yeah, that's not the expectation.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

Yeah, yeah, absolutely.

[B]

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[A]

You know, peppered throughout my life. You know, sometimes hindsight, hindsight is this beautiful gift where you get to look back and see the beauty of something that you may not have noticed in the moment. And in hindsight I see these women who the Lord peppered throughout my life that had it not been for their mentorship, discipleship, investment, I don't know what the shape of my life would be now, but everyone from a lady named Kim who When I was 16 and she was 26, she's about 10 years older than me. And she was, you know, this single corporate woman who loved Jesus. Beautiful, vibrant, joyful. And I just remember her saying to my mom, hey Ms. Lois, can I take Priscilla out for lunch after church today? And I'd go with her and we'd go to her apartment, which I thought was so cool that you have your own apartment. It was real cute, decorated. And she talked to me about her work and, and then if she was dating somebody, we'd have conversations about that. She'd ask me if I like somebody or we'd go swimming or the, to the Fort Worth Water Gardens or to the mall. And in hindsight I realize what I thought was just girl time was discipleship time disguised as girl time. Any 26 year old that is paying attention to a 16 year old, it's not just cause y'all are buddies, it's because that 26 year old is making it their business to place value on them.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

That is remarkable that she would be self less enough because that's your 20s, you're really, you're self focused, you're doing your thing, you're doing your thing. You know, everything's about you. So for someone that age to say, come here, let me spend time with you, the value that places on that younger person. So for that woman, I've never forgotten that I wrote her name down and I surrender all. And I'm going to be sending her a copy and just highlighting that section to say thank you. Yeah, thank you for investing in me when you were in your young 20s. So that's an example of a direct discipleship.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

But there have been many indirect ones. You know, one of my favorite people on the planet who's like a big sister to me now is Cece Winans. She's spectacular.

[B]

Yes, she is.

[A]

Not only because the girl can sing, but also because she just her.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Just kind and generous and humble and she has integrity like she really loves Jesus. The first time I saw her reality, just saw her make decisions based on her priorities, was when I was about 14 years old. We went to a BB and CC Winans concert. My parents took me to one. It was in Dallas, and I was totally enamored. This is BBC, BB And CC Winans. This is when they was winning Grammys.

[B]

Right, Right.

[A]

Singing with Whitney Houston on the, you know, Oscars or whatever. And so to me, I was just like, wow. Especially about both of them, but about her. And afterwards, the host at these particular. This particular church, somehow they decided to invite mom and dad over for dinner. There were other guests there, and BB and cece Winans were there. So I'm just tagging along so I get to be with mom and dad while they're in this little small circle with BB and CC Winans. So I'm just kind of sitting there. I'm 14, and I mean, that poor woman. I was just staring at her, you know.

[B]

Sure.

[A]

Her kids were babies at the time. I said babies. They were young.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Toddlers.

[B]

Yep.

[A]

So they're kind of running around. She sit on the floor playing with them. And I don't know why this imprinted itself on me so deeply. But when it was time for the adults to eat, meaning they were going into the dining room china, they had pulled out all the stops, as you do when you're hosting in your home like that. And someone came over to get her to tell her it was time to eat. And I just remember looking at her look at her children and then look up at the person and say, you know what? It's okay. I'm going to stay right here with my kids on the floor and eat. And I watched this woman eat from a paper plate off the floor with her kids while everybody else. And I think she went in there at some point, but originally she stayed right there with her kids. That marked me so deeply that this woman, there was no diva in her. I don't. I don't. Not going to leave my kids somewhere else while I go do the thing. And I'm sure there were other reasons why she made that choice in the moment, but I just know it marked me so much that. Fast forward more than a decade after we started having children, and the life that the Lord entrusted to us included so much travel and being around a lot of people. I never forgot that it's okay for me to choose my priorities when it comes to my family. And I have made so many decisions in the 22 years I've been Raising kids now, where I've said no to the kosher thing to do in the moment.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Because I just decided. No, I think I'm just going to eat right here on the floor with my kids. And it's okay. It's okay. Y'all go ahead. I'm going to stay with my kids. That's because of an indirect moment of discipleship where I was just absorbing the choice. Choice of a woman who had her priorities straight. Never forgot.

[B]

What a beautiful example.

[A]

Yeah. And I've gotten. Yeah.

[B]

Really cool.

[A]

And since then, I've gotten to tell her, thank you for mothering your kids. I saw it.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And it's informed my choices.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

I love that. I mean, there's so many women that have been influential in my life, and then there's just people that I've admired from afar that I. I would like to be more like, not in a comparison kind of game, but just genuinely value examples and great examples and, you know, I don't know if you know personally. Ann Vos camp.

[A]

I have met her several times.

[B]

Yes. And me, too. Like, Ann and I know each other, but we haven't really spent much time together. But we kind of will kind of like you and me, in a way. It's like we've had some great moments together. They cross mutual conversations and all of that. But every time I have spent with her, there is such a depth to her soul. One, because she's just been through so much in her life.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

But there is, like, more empathy and compassion in that woman, like, in her little pinky, than I probably have in my whole body.

[A]

She is a deep well, that is for sure.

[B]

Yes. And so I admire her so much, and I, you know, I look at her and she is inspiring and an inspiration in that way, because when you are talking to her or in her presence, she makes you feel like you are the only person on the planet. And she is like. She looks at you and she's like. She's, like, looking into your.

[A]

Into your soul.

[B]

Like, her eyes are so intense when they're. Yeah. And I just. What a wonderful feeling. You walk away. I've just always felt blessed by the time I've had with her, and I've just observed her with other people, and from the. The little time I've spent with her, she is that intentional. Every person I can look at a room, and when she's talking to someone, she is talking to that person, and I love it. I love it so much. And I can look at someone like her, and Be like, what a great example for me. It's a great reminder for me it is. I want to be that way. Whether I'm sitting with my kids, I want to be intentional with my time or I'm at work, I want to be intentional and make everyone feel. Feel seen. Yeah, I love that. But she's like, she's, she's a representation of Jesus in that way to me.

[A]

Mm. That's. That's spectacular.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

I have a question for you.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

When, if at all yet has it occurred to you that like you're the mentor, like, almost like that you're, you're the. Not the older woman, but that it's not just about you being poured into, but like it. Have you had these moments where it dawns on you, oh my goodness, I'm the person now that is the elderish one. And I should be intentionally keeping my eyes out for younger women who the Lord puts in my sphere that I'm supposed to be pouring into. Like somebody did me when I was 20 years old or whatever.

[B]

Priscilla, it's like funny you asked this. It just popped into my mind that I realized it when you were writing.

[A]

A check.

[B]

When I pulled up my accordion folder.

[A]

That should have been the moment when it happened.

[B]

You know when you're in. Typically in elementary school.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And you get a. There's a. There's a day that kids have they. Or a week and they have to write a report on a famous person or someone they admire or someone that has had an impact in the world. Priscilla, how did I get on this report? How did I get on the list? I know it is the. It is the most flattering thing ever. And also sobering, but so sobering and surprising.

[A]

Totally.

[B]

So I've had people send me the cutest pictures. They're like, here is my 8 year old daughter. And they had to pick a hero for the day and they chose you. And I'm like, I mean, it makes me want to cry. And I'm like, who am I to be a hero of someone's. And then typically they'll say like, this is. They love that you're a strong Christian woman. They love television or they want to be an actress one day, but they love that you love Jesus and stand up for your faith. And I'm like, what? And then the little kids dress up like DJ T. Tanner. You know, they just, they kind of put 80s clothes on. And I don't know, it is, it is the cutest. And even my, my neighbor's daughter, which I had no idea.

[A]

It.

[B]

It was part of what sealed our friendship is that her daughter at that same time, it's like third or fourth grade, they did the hero thing and, or the, you know, whatever. And she chose me and dressed up like me. And I was like, what? Like, we weren't even close friends. And then when she came over and she's like, you know, Liv really wanted to show you these pictures, but she dressed up like you. And I'm like, wow. But it was, it was sobering in the sense that I'm like, I'm a mentor to. I can understand it more in maybe college age because I'm also a businesswoman and I love that aspect of life. When I now am in a position to mentor young people that are, you know, want to establish business and lead it with. Lead it as a woman of faith.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

But when I see, I don't, I've forgotten and haven't even realized that I'm an example to these really young girls. And that's the beauty of this long standing television show called Full House that God put me in.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And I'm like, who would have thought 35 years later, there's still little kids watching it for the very first time.

[A]

That's something.

[B]

And then their parents go, she loves Jesus. And then it just like changes the whole everything. I'm like, yeah, what a blessing. That's awesome. Thanks for asking that question. That was cool.

[A]

And I listen, I totally get it too. Just so you know. You know, February is Black History Month and I will get things like that too, from kids. That for Black History Month, I was the person they wrote about or drew a picture of. And I'm thinking Harriet Tubman is. Who were Maya Angelou. Like, we've got people to celebrate here. And so it is kind of like, what? When did this happen? That I might be in your mind as someone that could be a mentor, could be an example of excellence in some way or honoring. I mean, wow. So it does kind of make you wake up and go, oh, I'm not like the baby of the bunch anymore.

[B]

Yeah, I know.

[A]

Out here writing chips and stuff.

[B]

We are ready for a listener question. This is from Michelle and she says, I want to be the best wife, mom, friend, ministry partner that I can be. And with five sons.

[A]

Oh, my goodness, that's amazing. That's a spectacular thing. She's a boy.

[B]

Mom said, I want to use my emotions for the best possible outcome and not be ruled by them. How do I prepare to be a mom in law who blesses and builds a friendship with the new family members coming into the family.

[A]

I hope you have a response for that, Candice.

[B]

I guess this one's for me.

[A]

This is for you.

[B]

I'm a brand new mom in law.

[A]

You are.

[B]

Or as I like to say, mother in love.

[A]

Yes. Help us. Wow.

[B]

Okay, let me think about this. How do, how do you prepare to be a mother in law? Well, here's what I've seen in my life and here's what I've taken from it to apply to my own relationships with my children's, girlfriends, boyfriends, spouses, whatever, whatever, Wherever they're at in life.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

I've seen relationships as the mother and father in law that don't particularly like who their, their child is with. And ultimately I've never really seen it go well in the sense that if someone's going to be pushed out, it's usually the parents because they are forming their new life together and it's their life. It's not our life. Even if it's not what we hoped for or dreamed for them, it's theirs to live.

[A]

So the parent is the one that.

[B]

Loses, the parents lose. And so I've seen that happen with several people in my life and my mom and dad have seen that too. So their approach for us was always, and which is the approach that I take to, they always said to us, unless someone's hurting you or abusing you, we will always love and support who you are with because we love you and we want to be a part of your life. And so we are here for you in the good and the bad and you know, offer opinions, don't offer opinions, whatever that is. But that was always the take my parents had given us. And so I've told my kids the exact same thing. And you know, some of my kids are dating. I have one that's married. I'm, I'm so grateful that I love my daughter in law. It really is. But I have told them over and over and so is Val, we love you first. And I, if you love them, we will, we will love them too. We will pray for them. We will pray for you as a family, as a couple. And I always want to be intentional and go in with the best of me and my ability to show them my love. And even when there are things that I'm disapproving of and trust me, I'm okay, I'm not, I am not perfect at this and, but I freely say, I just had this conversation with Natasha actually and I said, if you Give me permission to speak into your life. I would love to continue to do that. She's 26 years old.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And I. And she said, yes, Mom, I would like that because I value your opinion. And I said, well, I thank you. I said, but I always want, and I always want to be a part of your life. When I speak truth in love into your life, if you do feel or it comes off in a way that you feel I'm attacking you, or it's too aggressive because I've been told by my kids I can get aggressive, then you just need to call me out. And you need to say this. It's not just about hurting your feelings because you don't like what I'm saying, but if there's a tone that you are interpreting that I don't mean to have, I need you to tell me because my priority is my relationship with you. And in that I want to love whoever you guys all love. I hope that's helpful.

[A]

That's great wisdom. I'm serious. That was great.

[B]

Thank you. Thank you.

[A]

And Also thank you, Mr. And Mrs. Cameron, for such great and example. Seriously, on how they've loved you guys and your spouses.

[B]

Thank you.

[A]

It's a big deal.

[B]

I love my mom and dad.

[A]

How many of you all is it? How many kids?

[B]

Four.

[A]

There are four of you?

[B]

Yeah. I'm the baby.

[A]

And all of you are married?

[B]

Yes, we're all married. Kirk is the oldest. I have two sisters, Bridget and Melissa. I'm the baby. And then between the four of us, there are 17 grandkids and she's pretty great. And one great grandbaby.

[A]

That's awesome. Yeah, that was great wisdom.

[B]

Thank you. Well, that's it for this week. And next week we're going to dive a little bit more into discipleship. Remember that Priscilla and I made a free PDF download for you and we're calling it a personal prayer Guide. We hope it'll encourage you and and affirm to pray for your family and grow deeper in your relationship with Jesus. Go to Candice.com to find the link and there's also a link to her book, I Surrender All. Until next time. Be grateful. All day, every day. Candy Rock Entertainment. All rights reserved.