It’s not unusual for an attraction to develop between a man and a woman who work together. Spending hours side by side can naturally create a connection. I want to examine some of the pitfalls that can show up in those situations.

Most of us have seen relationships develop between coworkers—or maybe experienced that spark ourselves. What should a Christian woman do if she begins to feel attracted to a male coworker or senses he’s attracted to her?

The first thing is to ask a very simple question: Are either of you married? If the answer is yes, then the path forward is actually very clear. That attraction is something you simply cannot encourage. No private conversations, lingering looks, or emotional sharing that crosses a line. You don’t even have to pray about the decision—just pray you will obey God. That’s it. Full stop. The wisest step is to create distance; marriages should always be protected.

Female attention from a man can feel flattering—especially if you’re single or going through a lonely season. But many inappropriate relationships start in a very ordinary and innocent way: someone is a good listener. I’ve heard women say, “He didn’t have anyone else to talk to. I was the only friend he had.” But that kind of emotional closeness can quietly move into dangerous territory. You can find yourself in an emotional affair.

Now, if both of you are single, a relationship might be worth considering. But as a Christian woman, you’ll want to look carefully at the bigger picture. It’s important he share your faith in Jesus Christ—and your level of commitment to living it out.

Even then, relationships between coworkers can complicate the workplace. It’s wise to move slowly and keep good boundaries. And if the relationship becomes serious, it may be best to find a way to separate your working lives.

In situations like this, the wisest choice is usually the one that protects hearts—yours and everyone else’s. And it can save you from much hurt and regret later as you honor God through obedience.