We are examining the Joy Gap—the difference between the joy we expect and the joy we actually experience. This Joy Gap has taken an identity of its own; people are noticing it and naming it and studying it.

What is this Joy Gap and why does it happen? You might be in a Joy Gap if you find yourself thinking: “I thought I’d feel happier when I got here,” or “Why am I still restless?” or “I have so much to be thankful for—so why don’t I feel joyful?”

The reason most often given for this Joy Gap is because of misplaced expectations. We tend to assign too much power to things, people, and circumstances. We think, “If this works out, I’ll be happy.” But no circumstance, no achievement—no matter how good—can carry that kind of weight. It’s an unrealistic expectation.

Another reason is comparison. It’s so easy to look at someone else’s life and assume they’re happier, more fulfilled, more satisfied. But comparison quietly steals joy. It shifts your focus from what God is doing in your life to what you think he’s doing in someone else’s. Comparing yourself and your situation to others is a sure way to increase your Joy Gap.

And then there’s fear—those “what if” thoughts. What if this doesn’t last? What if something goes wrong? What if I lose what I have? You can’t enjoy what you have for fear that you could lose it. That kind of fearful thinking can drain joy right out of the good things that are happening right now.

And sometimes, the Joy Gap comes from simple neglect. When you’re too busy to stay connected to the Lord, your joy begins to fade—not because he moved, but because you did. But here’s the encouraging part: once you understand why the gap exists, you can begin to do something about it.

I encourage you to think about what is stealing your joy. Satan loves to steal our joy. Ask yourself if you’re allowing unrealistic expectations or comparisons or fear to create a Joy Gap in your life.