What’s the difference between truly belonging and just fitting in? In this raw and resonant episode of The Circle, Eric and Tim unpack the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways we abandon ourselves in order to be accepted—and what it takes to stop. They explore how social conditioning, internalized fear, and curated identities shape our choices around how we show up in community, especially in queer spaces.

Eric shares his personal experience of feeling isolated during Bear Week in Provincetown, while Tim opens up about the cost of being too playful, too much, or too real. Together, they discuss the relationship between control, safety, and self-trust—and how embodiment practices, affirmation, and conscious spaces can help us come home to ourselves.

This is a must-listen for anyone navigating identity, authenticity, or the messy middle between self-protection and self-expression.

Timestamps:

00:00–04:20 — Intro: The difference between belonging and fitting in
04:21–14:10 — Tim’s fashion story: authenticity vs. curation

14:11–20:50 — Expertise vs. people-pleasing, and the role of intention

20:51–27:45 — The hidden cost of hiding parts of ourselves

27:46–36:10 — Embodied loneliness: fitting in but still feeling alone

36:11–44:30 — Tim’s story: playfulness, performance, and the pain of not being seen

44:31–52:40 — The illusion of belonging on Instagram; the craving for connection

52:41–59:00 — Embodiment and nervous system tools to anchor authenticity

59:01–1:05:10 — Safe spaces vs. performative ones: building real community

1:05:11–1:13:30 — Inner belonging, affirmations, and the challenge of loving all parts

1:13:31–1:22:00 — The need for community, checking in, and not feeling like a burden

1:22:01–End — Wrap-up: Sass, solitude, and the sacred work of showing up

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Belonging vs. Fitting In: How to Stop Abandoning Yourself to Be Liked

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