Porn addiction recovery is rarely instant—especially in a Christian marriage. In this conversation, Greg and Stacey share what helped them move from secrecy, betrayal, trauma, and crisis toward honesty, community, and lasting change.

If you’re a spouse reeling from disclosure, a struggle trying to get free, or a ministry leader afraid to come forward, this episode offers grounded encouragement: healing is possible, but it’s often gradual—and it requires authenticity, support, and trauma-informed care.

Greg explains why sexual addiction is an intimacy disorder and why secrecy makes real connection impossible. Stacey speaks candidly about the “kicking and screaming” reality many partners live through, and why you’re allowed to feel what you feel as you begin.

Time Stamps / Chapters:
00:00 Sexual addiction, intimacy, and honesty
00:26 Introducing Greg & Stacey (Awaken Ministries)
00:49 Greg’s hidden struggle + disclosure and job loss (2009)
02:45 Stacey’s side: betrayal trauma and the “hell” of discovery
04:16 Early-stage wisdom: letting yourself feel what you feel
07:03 How long does recovery take? Expectations and gradual change
10:23 Social media, church persona, and trusted community
12:01 Why addiction often roots in deeper wounds and quick escape
13:52 Ministry leaders: fear, secrecy, and job risk
16:21 Better vetting + restoration-minded church culture
19:03 “How long is secrecy sustainable?” loss, redemption, purpose
20:30 Bringing kids along: honesty vs oversharing
23:35 Therapist guidance + age-appropriate conversations
29:05 How to connect with Awaken: meetings, retreats, podcast, next steps
37:26 Closing encouragement: healing may look different, but it’s real

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