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Welcome back to the Daily Blade. Again, this is Jay Reisner, lead pastor at Faith Bible Church in Edmond, Oklahoma. And we're at the end of the week, almost all the way through the story of the lost son. And I hope you've hung with me. And I've read very little of the actual text as I've done these devotionals. So I'm finally going to read from this parable. Let's read Luke 15, verses 2832. The setting is a party being thrown for the lost son. But he, the older brother, became angry and was not willing to go in. And his father came out and began pleading with him. But he answered and said to his father, look, for so many years I've been serving you, and I have never neglected a command of yours. And yet you have never given me a young goat so that I might celebrate with my friends. But when this son of yours comes home, who has devoured your wealth with prostitutes, you killed the fatted calf for him. And he said to him, son, you have always been with me, and all that is mine is yours. But we had to celebrate and rejoice, for this brother of yours was dead and has began to live and was lost and has been found. So from the closing verses of this parable, I want to bring forth three properties of this older brother character. He stands out as the only miserable person in all of these parables in Luke 15, and we have to ask why? And the answer is, because he's eaten up with resentment. First, he resents his life of service. Did you notice that he speaks to his how he speaks to his father. He says, look, now, it doesn't matter what culture or what time you're living in. When you're ticked off at someone, you tear into them by saying, hey, look, look, for many years I've been serving you. Does that sound like a son who loves his father? Is that a son who delights in working for and with his dad? Absolutely not. I've been serving you. Little brother chose not to serve you, and now you're rewarding him. Where's my reward? Where's my party? Dad tries to respond, saying, but, but you've been with me this whole time. But the older son doesn't care about his dad, his mentality is, good sons serve. Good sons go out to the fields every day. They do the work and they don't complain. That's the older brother's mentality on serving. And because of that, he resents his father. Dad, I'm doing the work. Little brother wanted you to die. But the truth is the elder brother wanted the father to die also. He was just more determined to wait it out. He didn't love the father. He resents his service. Well, second, and similarly, he resents his life of obedience. He says, I never neglected your commands. And what's embedded in that thinking is sort of a quid pro quo approach to his father. The formula is, I obey you, bless me with stuff. But little brother disobeyed and you blessed him with stuff. And now you're giving him even more stuff. The robe, the ring, the fatted calf. You've never even given me a goat. What good is obedience if you can just get rewarded for disobedience? And the father stands there pleading, saying, but, son, we had to celebrate. A lost sinner repented. He was dead. And now he lives. He's home. He's here for good. But the older son, he doesn't care. He doesn't have a category for a rebellious son being celebrated. And here we learn he's just as lost the older brother is as his brother was. He stayed at home, but his heart is so distant from his father. One more area of resentment. Lastly, he resents his father's grace. To be shown grace is to be shown favor or kindness that's not earned by your performance. The doctrine of salvation says that God saves us by his grace. So not by our works or our worthiness, lest any of us should boast, but by sheer grace. And the kind of people who resent grace are the people who think that they've pretty much done everything right. That's this position of the older son, that's the heart of the Pharisees and scribes that this older son in the parable represents. Their commitment to the law led them to despise and condemn all those who were not equally committed to the law. That's what these scribes and Pharisees are dealing with in this story. They can't handle grace. They can't handle a teacher like Jesus. They can't handle his radical mercy. It's upending their entire understanding of salvation. They can't rejoice because grace not only disempowers them, it redefines their whole existence. So instead of changing, instead of killing themselves. Like the character Javert in Les Miserables, they will eventually kill Jesus. That's the depth of this older brother's resentment of the Father's grace. See, we're naturally lost. We are helplessly lost. We are willfully lost. And apart from the grace of God, we can be self righteously lost. We can be blind to our need for grace by our projections of outward goodness. One of the things that Tim Keller points out in his teaching on this parable is that in Luke 15, Jesus defines sin in two ways. In the younger son, he gives us a definition of sin that's very traditional, basic rebellion. But in the older son, he turns the table. The older son is not lost in spite of his goodness, but he's lost because of it. It's not his sins that are keeping him from the Father, it's his damnable good works. So not only do our sins need to be repented of, but our self righteousness does also. When was the last time you went to God? Not just for your overt sins of rebellion, but for those sins of self righteousness? Go to him today.
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Title: #358 – Jay Risner // When Being The Good Kid Makes You Miserable
Date: May 15, 2026
Hosts: Joby Martin & Kyle Thompson
Guest/Featured Voice: Jay Risner, lead pastor at Faith Bible Church in Edmond, Oklahoma
Main Theme:
This episode centers on the concluding verses of the Parable of the Lost Son (Luke 15), with particular focus on the seldom-explored figure of the older brother. Pastor Jay Risner unpacks why the "good kid" in the story—the elder brother—is left miserable and resentful, using the character as a lens to explore deeper issues of obedience, self-righteousness, and the scandal of grace in the Christian life.
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[02:20–03:15]
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[05:45–06:30]
On the elder son’s heart:
“I've been serving you… Is that a son who delights in working for and with his dad? Absolutely not.”
(Jay Risner, 02:40)
On resentment of service:
“Little brother wanted you to die. But the truth is the elder brother wanted the father to die also. He was just more determined to wait it out.”
(Jay Risner, 03:08)
On grace:
“The doctrine of salvation says that God saves us by his grace. So not by our works or our worthiness, lest any of us should boast, but by sheer grace.”
(Jay Risner, 04:28)
Pharisees can’t handle radical mercy:
“It's upending their entire understanding of salvation. They can't rejoice because grace not only disempowers them, it redefines their whole existence.”
(Jay Risner, 05:10)
Self-righteousness as lostness:
“Not only do our sins need to be repented of, but our self-righteousness does also…When was the last time you went to God? Not just for your overt sins of rebellion, but for those sins of self righteousness?”
(Jay Risner, 06:20)
Pastor Jay Risner champions an honest examination of motives—especially for those who identify with the “good kid” role. The episode’s challenge is twofold:
Overall, the tone is pastoral, direct, and gently provocative—inviting listeners to both humility and deeper intimacy with God. This devotional is sharp, succinct, and serves as an effective spiritual “blade” for men seeking true transformation.