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The Estranged Heart
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Support and community for navigating the emotional storms of parent and adult child estrangement and repairing and transforming relationships with one another in healthy and productive ways.
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EP263: Fitting In vs Belonging in Families
1w ago00:40:20Tap to summarizeIn this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores Brené Brown's distinction between fitting in and belonging and how it may help parents understand one of the most painful disconnects in family estrangement. What if the closeness you remember with your adult child was real and your child was also adapting in ways you could not see?Kreed examines how adaptation can be mistaken for closeness, why sibling comparison tells us very little about an individual child's experience, and why adult children sometimes appear to change after therapy, marriage, parenthood, or exposure to a different family culture. For some adult children, what parents experience as distance may be the beginning of the child's effort to develop a stronger sense of self.The episode also explores why renewed contact does not automatically create belonging. During reconciliation, an adult child may still be determining whether they can remain connected without returning to the role they once occupied in the family. For parents, this creates a deeper question than whether their child has returned: Can the relationship make room for the person their child has become?Finally, Kreed turns the question of belonging toward mothers themselves. Many mothers learned to preserve relationships through sacrifice, accommodation, and self-abandonment. Understanding the difference between fitting in and belonging may require parents to examine not only the emotional culture they created for their children, but whether they have ever truly experienced belonging to themselves.Take AwaysAdaptation can look remarkably similar to closeness. Belonging becomes visible when a child stops fitting the familiar role. Reconciliation asks whether both parent and adult child can belong to themselves while remaining connected. RESOURCES & SUPPORTFacebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupOne-on-One ServicesPrivate coachingConsultingMediation servicesConnect with Kreed:Website: theestrangedheart.comEmail: hello@theestrangedheart.comSupport the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform)Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
Transcribe →EP262: The Right Words
2w ago00:16:27Tap to summarizeIn this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores the emotional dynamics behind parental responses to their adult children's expressions of hurt, focusing on trauma responses, emotional safety, and healing practices.Key TopicsTrauma responses in parents and childrenThe importance of emotional safety in repairThe role of curiosity over controlPatterns of defense: denial, deflection, dismissalThe impact of childhood home environment on adult reactionsThe process of genuine repair and healingRESOURCES & SUPPORTFacebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupOne-on-One ServicesPrivate coachingConsultingMediation servicesConnect with Kreed:Website: theestrangedheart.comEmail: hello@theestrangedheart.comSupport the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform)Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
Transcribe →EP261: What Holds Families Together Now?
3w ago00:44:35Tap to summarizeIn this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores how the digital age has transformed family dynamics, shifting the role of information and connection. She discusses the impact of technology on relationships, the changing ecology of family, and how to foster deeper, more meaningful bonds in a digital world.Key TopicsThe impact of technology on family communicationHow the environment has changed the role of familiesThe shift from practical needs to emotional safetyThe importance of curiosity in relationshipsReimagining family connection in a digital worldRESOURCES & SUPPORTFacebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupOne-on-One ServicesPrivate coachingConsultingMediation servicesConnect with Kreed:Website: theestrangedheart.comEmail: hello@theestrangedheart.comSupport the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform)Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
Transcribe →EP260: Pain - Where Does It Go?
Jun 1500:16:57Tap to summarizeIn this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores the profound emotional and physical impact of estrangement between parents and adult children. She discusses the biological basis of attachment, the importance of proper pain management, and pathways toward healing and reconciliation.TAKEAWAYS- Estrangement causes a unique form of grief.- Reaching out to an estranged child is driven by attachment biology, not manipulation.- Pain should not be displaced onto other children or social media.- Healing involves understanding and metabolizing pain, not just managing it.RESOURCES & SUPPORTFacebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupOne-on-One ServicesPrivate coachingConsultingMediation servicesConnect with Kreed:Website: theestrangedheart.comEmail: hello@theestrangedheart.comSupport the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform)Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
Transcribe →EP259: How Power Kills Empathy
Jun 1000:18:38Tap to summarizeIn this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores the impact of power on empathy within hierarchical relationships like families and workplaces. She emphasizes the importance of tenderness and perspective-taking for healing and reconciliation.Key TopicsThe impact of power on empathy and compassionHierarchical systems in families and organizationsThe importance of tenderness in repair and reconciliationPerspective-taking as a tool for empathy and healingStructural causes of estrangement and pathways to reconciliationResources & SupportFacebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupOne-on-One ServicesPrivate coachingConsultingMediation servicesConnect with Kreed:Website: theestrangedheart.comEmail: hello@theestrangedheart.comSupport the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform)Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
Transcribe →EP258: Beneath The Control - the fear-driven parent
Jun 300:28:52Tap to summarizeIn this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed shares a personal and professional exploration of controlling parenting rooted in fear, its impact on estranged relationships, and pathways to healing by understanding underlying fears.Key Topics- Fear as the root of controlling behavior- The cycle of fear, control, and estrangement- Different fears manifesting as control behaviors02:57 Understanding Control in Parenting06:12 The Cycle of Fear and Control11:57 Estrangement and Its Impact on Parents16:59 Reframing Control and Fear22:10 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsResources & SupportFacebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupOne-on-One ServicesPrivate coachingConsultingMediation servicesConnect with Kreed:Website: theestrangedheart.comEmail: hello@theestrangedheart.comSupport the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform)Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
Transcribe →EP257: Reconciliation Grief
May 3100:27:40Tap to summarizeIn this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed shares a personal and professional exploration of grief in reconciliation, emphasizing the invisible and complex nature of grief beyond death, especially in estrangement. The episode offers insights into managing hidden grief, the realities of reconciliation, and practical steps for healing.Key TopicsInvisible losses and hidden grief in reconciliationThe difference between contact and closeness in relationshipsThe importance of naming and owning griefThe emotional complexity of reconnected relationshipsPractical steps for managing grief and building safetyChapters00:00 Introduction to Grief and Estrangement06:36 Understanding Hidden Grief10:50 The Complexity of Reconciliation14:31 Navigating Grief in Relationships18:22 The Reality of Reconciliation22:35 Naming Grief for HealingResources & SupportFacebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupOne-on-One ServicesPrivate coachingConsultingMediation servicesConnect with Kreed:Website: theestrangedheart.comEmail: hello@theestrangedheart.comSupport the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform)Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
Transcribe →EP256: Labels - "Intimate Terrorist": What Labels Do to Families Already Breaking
May 2400:27:02Tap to summarizeIn this episode of The Estranged Heart, Kreed explores the harmful use of the term 'intimate terrorist' in family estrangement contexts, emphasizing the importance of nuanced understanding and curiosity over labels that deepen divides. Key TopicsThe impact of language in family estrangementThe difference between control and boundary-settingThe consequences of labeling a partner as a terroristThe importance of curiosity and nuance in reconciliationThe role of generational conditioning in family conflictsChapters00:00 Understanding the Term 'Intimate Terrorist'06:31 The Impact of Labeling on Relationships12:33 The Consequences for the Adult Child15:39 Generational Perspectives on Estrangement19:13 The Importance of Curiosity in Estrangement22:40 Reframing Language and Its PowerResources & SupportFacebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupOne-on-One ServicesPrivate coachingConsultingMediation servicesConnect with Kreed:Website: theestrangedheart.comEmail: hello@theestrangedheart.comSupport the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform)Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
Transcribe →EP255: Who's Holding Your Pain?
May 1400:28:16Tap to summarizeIn this episode of The Estranged Heart, host Kreed Summary explores the complex emotional landscape of estranged parents, emphasizing the importance of nuanced support and understanding. It challenges simplistic narratives and advocates for compassion, curiosity, and the recognition of complexity in healing relationships.KEY TOPICSThe emotional impact of estrangement and the search for groundingThe difference between validation and support that enables growthThe role of echo chambers in reinforcing binary thinkingThe importance of context and complexity in family relationshipsStrategies for providing nuanced support to estranged parentsCHAPTERS00:00 Introduction to Estrangement and Searching for Answers07:12 The Nature of Estrangement and Its Emotional Impact10:15 The Dangers of Echo Chambers in Support13:21 Binary Thinking and Its Effects on Relationships16:28 Navigating Support Spaces and Complex EmotionsRESOURCES & SUPPORTFacebook Estranged Moms Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupOne-on-One ServicesPrivate coachingConsultingMediation servicesConnect with Kreed:Website: theestrangedheart.comEmail: hello@theestrangedheart.comSupport the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform)Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
Transcribe →EP254: Self of Mother (Mother's Day)
May 1000:44:41Tap to summarizeIn this deeply reflective Mother’s Day episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores motherhood not simply as a role, but as an evolving identity - one that changes across the lifespan in ways many women are never emotionally prepared for. From the intensity of early caregiving to the shifting terrain of adolescence, adult independence, estrangement, reconciliation, and everything in between, this conversation examines the often invisible grief that emerges when motherhood changes shape.Together, we explore the emotional complexity of developmental separation, ambiguous relational grief, the hidden challenges of reconciliation, and the ways identity disruption can quietly shape maternal behavior. Most importantly, this episode invites a deeper question: If motherhood is meant to evolve, what does it mean to remain connected to yourself as the role changes?This is a conversation about grief, identity, emotional maturity, and the woman who continues becoming beneath every version of mother she has ever been.Key TakeawaysMotherhood is not a single transformation; it is a lifelong identity evolution.Grief can emerge not only from estrangement, but from healthy developmental transitions and changing family roles.Emotional pain does not automatically make our interpretations accurate or our behaviors relationally helpful.Reconciliation does not always restore emotional ease, certainty, or maternal confidence.Becoming more fully yourself is not abandoning motherhood - it may be one of its most mature invitations.Chapters00:00 The Complexity of Mother's Day06:50 The Evolution of Motherhood10:01 The Invisible Labor of Motherhood12:43 Navigating Developmental Changes16:10 The Emotional Landscape of Estrangement18:53 Reconciliation and Its Challenges22:03 The Impact of Uncertainty24:51 Grief and Its Many Forms27:49 The Journey of Self-Discovery30:46 Finding Balance in Motherhood33:47 The Invitation to Evolve37:09 Grief Support and Moving ForwardResources & SupportFacebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupOne-on-One ServicesPrivate coachingConsultingMediation servicesConnect with Kreed:Website: theestrangedheart.comEmail: hello@theestrangedheart.comSupport the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform)Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
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