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The Estranged Heart
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Support and community for navigating the emotional storms of parent and adult child estrangement and repairing and transforming relationships with one another in healthy and productive ways.
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EP258: Beneath The Control - the fear-driven parent
1w ago00:28:52Tap to summarizeIn this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed shares a personal and professional exploration of controlling parenting rooted in fear, its impact on estranged relationships, and pathways to healing by understanding underlying fears.Key Topics- Fear as the root of controlling behavior- The cycle of fear, control, and estrangement- Different fears manifesting as control behaviors02:57 Understanding Control in Parenting06:12 The Cycle of Fear and Control11:57 Estrangement and Its Impact on Parents16:59 Reframing Control and Fear22:10 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsResources & SupportFacebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupOne-on-One ServicesPrivate coachingConsultingMediation servicesConnect with Kreed:Website: theestrangedheart.comEmail: hello@theestrangedheart.comSupport the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform)Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
Transcribe →EP257: Reconciliation Grief
1w ago00:27:40Tap to summarizeIn this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed shares a personal and professional exploration of grief in reconciliation, emphasizing the invisible and complex nature of grief beyond death, especially in estrangement. The episode offers insights into managing hidden grief, the realities of reconciliation, and practical steps for healing.Key TopicsInvisible losses and hidden grief in reconciliationThe difference between contact and closeness in relationshipsThe importance of naming and owning griefThe emotional complexity of reconnected relationshipsPractical steps for managing grief and building safetyChapters00:00 Introduction to Grief and Estrangement06:36 Understanding Hidden Grief10:50 The Complexity of Reconciliation14:31 Navigating Grief in Relationships18:22 The Reality of Reconciliation22:35 Naming Grief for HealingResources & SupportFacebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupOne-on-One ServicesPrivate coachingConsultingMediation servicesConnect with Kreed:Website: theestrangedheart.comEmail: hello@theestrangedheart.comSupport the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform)Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
Transcribe →EP256: Labels - "Intimate Terrorist": What Labels Do to Families Already Breaking
2w ago00:27:02Tap to summarizeIn this episode of The Estranged Heart, Kreed explores the harmful use of the term 'intimate terrorist' in family estrangement contexts, emphasizing the importance of nuanced understanding and curiosity over labels that deepen divides. Key TopicsThe impact of language in family estrangementThe difference between control and boundary-settingThe consequences of labeling a partner as a terroristThe importance of curiosity and nuance in reconciliationThe role of generational conditioning in family conflictsChapters00:00 Understanding the Term 'Intimate Terrorist'06:31 The Impact of Labeling on Relationships12:33 The Consequences for the Adult Child15:39 Generational Perspectives on Estrangement19:13 The Importance of Curiosity in Estrangement22:40 Reframing Language and Its PowerResources & SupportFacebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupOne-on-One ServicesPrivate coachingConsultingMediation servicesConnect with Kreed:Website: theestrangedheart.comEmail: hello@theestrangedheart.comSupport the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform)Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
Transcribe →EP255: Who's Holding Your Pain?
4w ago00:28:16Tap to summarizeIn this episode of The Estranged Heart, host Kreed Summary explores the complex emotional landscape of estranged parents, emphasizing the importance of nuanced support and understanding. It challenges simplistic narratives and advocates for compassion, curiosity, and the recognition of complexity in healing relationships.KEY TOPICSThe emotional impact of estrangement and the search for groundingThe difference between validation and support that enables growthThe role of echo chambers in reinforcing binary thinkingThe importance of context and complexity in family relationshipsStrategies for providing nuanced support to estranged parentsCHAPTERS00:00 Introduction to Estrangement and Searching for Answers07:12 The Nature of Estrangement and Its Emotional Impact10:15 The Dangers of Echo Chambers in Support13:21 Binary Thinking and Its Effects on Relationships16:28 Navigating Support Spaces and Complex EmotionsRESOURCES & SUPPORTFacebook Estranged Moms Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupOne-on-One ServicesPrivate coachingConsultingMediation servicesConnect with Kreed:Website: theestrangedheart.comEmail: hello@theestrangedheart.comSupport the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform)Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
Transcribe →EP254: Self of Mother (Mother's Day)
May 1000:44:41Tap to summarizeIn this deeply reflective Mother’s Day episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores motherhood not simply as a role, but as an evolving identity - one that changes across the lifespan in ways many women are never emotionally prepared for. From the intensity of early caregiving to the shifting terrain of adolescence, adult independence, estrangement, reconciliation, and everything in between, this conversation examines the often invisible grief that emerges when motherhood changes shape.Together, we explore the emotional complexity of developmental separation, ambiguous relational grief, the hidden challenges of reconciliation, and the ways identity disruption can quietly shape maternal behavior. Most importantly, this episode invites a deeper question: If motherhood is meant to evolve, what does it mean to remain connected to yourself as the role changes?This is a conversation about grief, identity, emotional maturity, and the woman who continues becoming beneath every version of mother she has ever been.Key TakeawaysMotherhood is not a single transformation; it is a lifelong identity evolution.Grief can emerge not only from estrangement, but from healthy developmental transitions and changing family roles.Emotional pain does not automatically make our interpretations accurate or our behaviors relationally helpful.Reconciliation does not always restore emotional ease, certainty, or maternal confidence.Becoming more fully yourself is not abandoning motherhood - it may be one of its most mature invitations.Chapters00:00 The Complexity of Mother's Day06:50 The Evolution of Motherhood10:01 The Invisible Labor of Motherhood12:43 Navigating Developmental Changes16:10 The Emotional Landscape of Estrangement18:53 Reconciliation and Its Challenges22:03 The Impact of Uncertainty24:51 Grief and Its Many Forms27:49 The Journey of Self-Discovery30:46 Finding Balance in Motherhood33:47 The Invitation to Evolve37:09 Grief Support and Moving ForwardResources & SupportFacebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupOne-on-One ServicesPrivate coachingConsultingMediation servicesConnect with Kreed:Website: theestrangedheart.comEmail: hello@theestrangedheart.comSupport the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform)Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
Transcribe →EP253: Grieving Lost Potential (for estranged parents)
May 300:29:55Tap to summarizeEstranged parents carry a grief that doesn't fit any of the containers we have for it. It's not the grief of death. It doesn't come with rituals or recognition. And much of the world around them doesn't know how to hold it or quietly questions whether they have a right to it at all.In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed names a specific and often unspoken layer of that grief: the grief for the potential. Not the relationship you had with your adult child - the one you always believed was coming. The closeness that was supposed to develop. The grandmother you expected to become. The years ahead that had your child fully in them.In This EpisodeWhy estrangement grief doesn't fit our existing containers for loss and why that makes it harder to move throughWhat "grieving the potential" means for estranged parents: the specific futures that were lost, not just the relationship that exists nowThe particular grief of estranged mothers - including the grandmother grief that is often the most acute and least witnessedAnticipatory grief in the estranged parent experience: what it means to live in sustained, unresolved loss when reconciliation is still theoretically possibleThe grief of not being chosen - one of the most tender and least-named layers of the estranged parent experienceHow the "they'll come back eventually" narrative can become a way of skipping grief rather than sustaining hope - and why that mattersPractical guidance for how to actually grieve the potential, including why specific grief moves where vague grief stays stuckChapters00:00 Introduction to Estrangement Grief06:36 Understanding Potential Grief12:10 Anticipatory Grief and Its Impact14:35 What This Grief Is Not17:11 The Grief of Not Being Chosen21:39 Navigating Grief and Hope23:53 Practical Steps to Grieve Potential26:14 Finding Wholeness Beyond GriefResources & SupportFacebook Support Group for Estranged Moms (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupOne-on-One ServicesPrivate coachingConsultingMediation servicesConnect with Kreed:Website: theestrangedheart.comEmail: hello@theestrangedheart.comSupport the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform)Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
Transcribe →EP252: Grieving Lost Potential (for estranged adult children)
Apr 3000:24:38Tap to summarizeThere is a sentence that follows estranged adult children like a slow-moving storm - especially when a parent is aging, ill, or has died: You're going to regret this.It sounds like concern. It lands like a verdict.In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed unpacks the critical difference between regret and grief and why getting that distinction wrong does real harm to estranged adult children. Regret implies a wrong choice. Grief honors a real loss. And most estranged adult children aren't carrying regret. They're carrying grief for the potential - the relationship they always hoped was possible and they've often been grieving it long before the estrangement was ever named.In This EpisodeWhy "you're going to regret this" is a verdict dressed as concern and what it gets fundamentally wrongThe difference between regret and grief, and why that distinction matters more than it might seemWhat "grieving the potential" actually means for estranged adult children and why the loss of a hoped-for relationship is just as real as the loss of one that existedAnticipatory grief in the no-contact experience: why many estranged adult children have been grieving their parent long before the parent diesWhat the "you'll regret it" message is often actually doing and whose discomfort it's really managingWhat grief after a no-contact parent's death actually looks like, including the complicated presence of reliefWhy estranged adult children are so often denied permission to grieve and why that needs to changeWhat estranged adult children, the people who love them, and the professionals who support them can each take from this episodeTime Stamps05:55 Understanding Regret vs. Grief10:33 The Complexity of Anticipatory Grief16:49 The Impact of Estrangement on Grief22:12 Navigating Grief and Moving ForwardResources & SupportFacebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupOne-on-One ServicesPrivate coachingConsultingMediation servicesConnect with Kreed:Website: theestrangedheart.comEmail: hello@theestrangedheart.comSupport the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform)Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
Transcribe →EP251: Rethinking Tough Love
Apr 2600:30:59Tap to summarizeIn this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores the impact of tough love parenting, its roots in cultural beliefs, and its effects on attachment and estrangement. She advocates for a presence-based approach that fosters genuine connection and healing.Key TopicsThe origins of tough love in cultural and generational beliefsHow tough love affects attachment and emotional regulationThe long-term impact of estrangement and emotional withdrawalA presence-based approach to healthy relationshipsChapters02:33 The Impact of Tough Love on Children06:58 Understanding the Child's Perspective11:49 Estrangement and Performance in Relationships15:49 The Defense of Tough Love20:41 Alternatives to Tough Love24:49 Conclusion: Rethinking Love and ConnectionResources & SupportFacebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupOne-on-One ServicesPrivate coachingConsultingMediation servicesConnect with Kreed:Website: theestrangedheart.comEmail: hello@theestrangedheart.comSupport the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform)Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
Transcribe →EP250: It's a THEM Problem, Not a ME Problem!
Apr 2300:39:55Tap to summarizeIn this episode of The Estranged Heart, Kreed explores the complex emotional landscape of parental estrangement, focusing on the psychological impact of the phrase 'it's a them problem, not a me problem.' The episode offers insights into armor formation, the costs of defensiveness, and pathways toward genuine peace and self-integration.Key TopicsThe psychological impact of the phrase 'it's a them problem, not a me problem'The formation and function of emotional armor in parental estrangementThe costs of defensiveness on relationships and self-knowledgeThe importance of curiosity and self-inquiry in healingPathways to genuine peace and wholeness beyond blameChapters07:14 Understanding the Armor of Estrangement16:44 The Complexity of Responsibility in Estrangement21:16 Exploring What Lies Beneath the Armor26:05 The Costs of Staying Defended31:40 Curiosity as a Path to Healing37:52 Conclusion and Call to ActionResources & SupportFacebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupOne-on-One ServicesPrivate coachingConsultingMediation servicesConnect with Kreed:Website: theestrangedheart.comEmail: hello@theestrangedheart.comSupport the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform)Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
Transcribe →EP249: Is Culture To Blame?
Apr 2000:38:49Tap to summarizeIn this episode of The Estranged Heart Podcast, Kreed discusses the dangerous oversimplification of family estrangement as solely caused by cultural programming, emphasizing the importance of understanding individual experiences and fostering genuine curiosity to heal relationships.Key Topics- Cultural programming and family estrangement- The importance of understanding individual experiences- The danger of oversimplified narratives in healing- The role of curiosity in reconciliationResources & SupportFacebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroupOne-on-One ServicesPrivate coachingConsultingMediation servicesConnect with Kreed:Website: theestrangedheart.comEmail: hello@theestrangedheart.comSupport the work: Buy Me a Coffee (donation platform)Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.
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