Show Notes

When a therapist posted about the "engagement asymmetry" in estrangement content - noting that posts about what parents did wrong go viral while content about adult children's responsibility goes quiet - it sparked a conversation worth having carefully. In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed unpacks why that asymmetry exists, what it's actually telling us, and why the "both sides" framing, however well-intentioned, can quietly close the very doors we're hoping to open. This is an episode about developmental power, the sequence of healing, and what it actually means to lead with love when leading feels like the hardest thing you've ever been asked to do.

Key Topics

Why estrangement content that names the adult child's experience spreads and what that hunger is really telling us
The difference between both/and thinking and the symmetry trap
Developmental power: what a parent holds that a peer does not
The distinct types of estrangement and why treating them as one category does real harm
Echo chambers on both sides: what happens when pain finds community but not growth
The sequence of healing and why it almost always needs to start with the parent
What "leading with love" actually looks like and why it isn't surrender
What every reconciliation Kreed has witnessed has had in common

Time stamps

00:00 — Introduction and Context of Estrangement
02:48 — The Asymmetry of Engagement in Estrangement Discussions
06:09 — Understanding Responsibility in Parent-Child Relationships
08:55 — Different Types of Estrangement
11:59 — The Echo Chamber Effect in Estrangement Narratives
14:47 — The Role of Parents in Healing and Reconciliation
17:58 — Final Thoughts on Healing and Love

Resources

Facebook Support Group (facilitated by Kreed) https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup

One-on-One Services

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Consulting
Mediation services

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Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.

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