In this episode of The Estranged Heart Podcast, Kreed explores one of the most painful and perplexing questions estranged parents ask: How can my adult child remember our relationship so differently than I do? She introduces a perspective - that there was never just one relationship. There were always two: the relationship the parent experienced and the relationship the child experienced.

Rather than asking whose memories are "right," Kreed invites listeners to consider a different question: What was it like to be my child inside the relationship I remember? Through a relational lens, she explains why parents often remember the relationship through their intentions, sacrifices, and responsibilities, while adult children remember it through their emotional experience, sense of safety, and whether they felt truly seen.

This episode challenges the assumption that shared events create shared experiences and explores how curiosity - not certainty - can become the first step toward greater understanding and, when possible, reconciliation.

In this episode, you will learn:

Why parents and adult children often carry two very different experiences of the same relationship.
The difference between remembering events and remembering emotional experiences.
Why understanding another person's reality does not require abandoning your own.

Takeaways

1. There was never just one relationship. Parents and children often experience the same family through entirely different emotional realities. Both perspectives can be genuine without being identical.

2. Intentions and experiences are different kinds of truth.A parent's loving intentions do not automatically determine how their child experienced the relationship.

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Disclaimer: Kreed Revere is not a licensed therapist. Nothing in this podcast should be considered or taken as therapy. If you need therapeutic support, please seek out a therapist near you.

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