Have you ever completely lost your temper… and then immediately wondered, "What's wrong with me?"

If you're finding yourself more irritable, more reactive, or snapping at the people you love in your 40s, you're not alone… and it may have far less to do with your personality than you think.

This week, we're joined by psychotherapist, bestselling author and host of The Therapy Edit podcast, Anna Mathur, to unpack why so many women experience anger, overwhelm and rage during midlife. Together, we explore the hidden emotional load women carry, how perimenopause changes our stress response, why guilt keeps us stuck, and the small shifts that can help us feel like ourselves again.

From learning the difference between anger and rage, to spotting the warning signs before you explode, repairing relationships after you've snapped, and finally giving yourself permission to rest without guilt… this conversation is filled with compassionate, practical tools every woman needs.

If you've ever thought, "I don't recognise myself anymore," this episode is for you.

Chapters

00:00 | Why are we snapping at the people we love?

02:08 | Anna's breaking point after motherhood & the pandemic

05:48 | The shame every woman feels after losing her temper

06:54 | Anger vs. rage: why they're not the same thing

09:10 | The "boiling pot" analogy every woman needs

10:42 | Amanda's shocking anger management story

14:22 | The warning signs you're about to snap

16:50 | Good girl conditioning & why women can't rest

19:20 | Why rest feels so uncomfortable (and even selfish)

23:56 | How perimenopause changes your brain's stress response

26:21 | "I can't even be sick." The invisible mental load of motherhood

28:35 | Why you have to stop waiting for permission to take care of yourself

32:03 | Sleep, cortisol & why everything feels harder when you're exhausted

35:04 | Your phone isn't helping you rest

37:20 | What to do after you've snapped at someone you love

41:34 | The repair technique every parent should know

43:43 | When the problem isn't really about the dishes

46:37 | Why burnout happens—and why some women can't stop until they crash

49:36 | Two simple practices to start changing this week

52:06 | Stop asking "What's wrong with me?"

54:05 | Anna's new book: How to Stop Snapping at the People You Love

About your hosts:

Jasmin Dhillon is an Integrated Health Strategist and Health Coach helping women in their 40s navigate gut health, hormones and nutrition.

https://www.instagram.com/eat.with.jasmin

Amanda Lim is a Metabolic Health Coach focused on helping women build strength, confidence and long-term health.

https://www.instagram.com/coachamanda

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