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Hillary (13:41)

I believe your best life includes feeling comfortable and confident in your body, and you shouldn't tolerate anything less than that. If weight loss is one of your 2026 goals and you're ready to put yourself first, Weight Loss by Hers offers personalized support designed to meet you right where you are. Through hers, you're connected with a medical provider who determines if treatment is right for you and creates a personalized plan to support your goals. Feel your very best. Visit forhers.com readyforlove to get an affordable plan customized just for you. That's F O R h e r s.com readyforlove Weight loss by hers is not available everywhere. Compounded drug products are not approved or evaluated for safety, effectiveness or quality by the fda. Prescription required. See website for full details, important safety information and restrictions. Actual price depends on product and plan purchase and Number five this is such a fun one to poke fun at. Just Be More feminine. This is the most alluring and intriguing advice for go getter high achieving driven women. It's seductive because it plays on women's fears and insecurities that because they're successful and strong, they somehow are deficient in their femininity. And oh no, who wants that to not be woman enough? So it pulls women in and then it has them feigning softness and pretending to need help. Wear more dresses. Let him open doors. Act like a damsel in distress. Be nurturing. Be softer. If you want a masculine man, you have to be more feminine. But here's the thing. You can't fake femininity and expect it to work out. There are reasons women show up in their masculine energy and not addressing the deep embedded root causes and core issues driving this masculine energy is like putting lipstick on a pig. Women who are go getters type A high achieving don't know how to be more in their feminine or what that even means. So they become awkward. They try to act soft when they're naturally direct. They pretend they can't do things they're perfectly capable of doing. They force themselves to be less so he can be more and feel needed and important. And it feels wrong because it is wrong. Here's what I say. We want strong, powerful, driven, decisive women to continue being who they are. The cure for over functioning in relationships isn't pretending to be someone you're not pretending to be more feminine. It's not about performing femininity. It's about learning how to be taken care of, about how to receive the attention, affection and care you long for. Learning how to receive is a wound that needs healing. It's not a costume that you can put on it's inner work. It's really healing the root cause of why you're over functioning in the first place. So now that you know all of this, you're going to start seeing it everywhere and you will be all the wiser for it. And now we're going to talk about what actually works. The five pieces of advice you should follow instead. At the core of every healthy relationship is emotional responsibility, self trust, and internal steadiness. These aren't abstract ideas, they are skills that you have to practice. So here are the five principles that actually create clarity, calm, and genuine connection. First, start with the only person you can control. You. Every dating struggle points back to your relationship with yourself. Not in a blaming way, but in a profoundly empowering one. You cannot control how men behave, how quickly they move, whether they text back, or whether they choose you. But you can control what you tolerate, what meaning you make from his behavior, how you communicate your needs, and how you respond when something isn't working. That's the foundation of emotional maturity. So the action step with this is to look back at your last few dating situations and identify the moment you abandoned yourself. When did you rationalize a red flag? When did you soften a truth? When did you minimize a need or excuse a pattern or something that you're seeing? And when did you allow something that made you uncomfortable? Your dating life changes the moment you stop negotiating with yourself. Number two, Trust your intuition. More than any expert algorithm or friend group, most women have spent years outsourcing their judgment, asking their friends, their family, their dad, crowdsourcing opinions, googling analysis, polling group chats, consuming endless dating content, asking their friends and family, what do you think about him? And intuition just slowly becomes background noise as I stated earlier. But your intuition is your most accurate guidance and system. It knows when something feels off long before the story in your mind even catches up. It's a felt sense that you have inside of you that you have learned to turn away from. The goal at Ready for Love is not for women to do what I say, but for them to learn how to do what they think is best for themselves. It's cultivating that rock solid relationship with yourself so that you can become a woman who leads from herself. So the action step here is when you feel activated or confused, pause before responding. Ask yourself, if I trusted myself completely, what would I choose right now? The more you practice this the clearer dating becomes. Number three, Treat your needs as your filter, not as flaws. Women have conditioned to treat their needs as inconveniences rather than essential information. We downplay, we ignore, we minimize, we make excuses, we apologize for our needs, and we most certainly do not assert them and ask for them to be met. But your needs are the roadmap to compatibility. That is a really powerful statement. So first of all about needs. No one can meet your needs if they don't even know what they are. So expecting mind reading is a trap and a total setup for failure. And a man who cannot meet your needs isn't a bad man. He's just simply not your man. He is not your partner. And this has nothing to do with your worthiness or your needs being too much. So action step here is to get clear on your non negotiables and your requirements. These are your filters, not your flaws. And as I like to say, dare to be difficult. Ladies, stop trying to be so easy. Number four, Authenticity must be your dating strategy. Any action you take to elicit a particular reaction from him, such as waiting to text him back, pretending you're unbothered, hiding your needs, mirroring his ambivalence is manipulation disguised as confidence. It erodes both connection and self respect. You cannot build intimacy on tactics. Authenticity might feel riskier in the moment, but it's actually the most self loving, self respecting and dignified way to be. And it's the only path that leads to genuine partnership and internal peace. So action step here. Before you speak or respond, ask yourself, am I expressing myself or am I trying to manage his perception of me? If it's the latter, pause and recenter yourself. You have to lead with truth, not pretense or performance. Here's what I know to be true. You cannot fully thrive in your life if one area is growing and the others are quietly being neglected. Eventually the imbalance catches up to you. That's why I created three programs to support women in the areas that matter most. Self Devoted helps you reconnect to your body, your health and your self Care so self Satisfied helps you create relationships that feel secure, fulfilling and aligned. And Self Made helps you shift your money mindset so wealth not only feels possible, it feels inevitable. These programs are not random, they are intentional. And when they are done together, the impact is powerful. When you choose the full bundle, I include the Daily Journal. This is a practice I use myself and it's the tool that helps you apply what you're learning every single day. So change becomes real, not theoretical. If you're ready to invest in yourself in a way that actually supports your whole Life, go to readyforloveinc.com courses. You can explore the programs and the bundle at readyforloveinc.com courses and five become the woman who is ready for love, not the woman trying to earn it. At the heart of everything I teach is this. To find the right partner, you must first become the right partner to yourself. This isn't about perfection. It's about cultivating self trust, boundaries, emotional wholeness, and the courage to walk away from what doesn't honor you. The women who struggle most in dating aren't struggling because of men. It's true. They're struggling because they repeatedly abandon themselves in pursuit of love and connection. When you stop doing that, everything changes. So action step here is when you catch yourself spiraling about a man, why he hasn't texted, what he meant, whether he's losing interest, you have to redirect yourself inward and ask yourself, do I even like how I feel when I'm with him? Do I even like how I feel when we're not together? This single reframe shifts your dating life from reactive to grounded and centered in yourself. So here's the bottom line. The worst relationship advice teaches women to contort themselves around men and the best relationship advice teaches women to come home to themselves. Dating becomes dramatically simpler when you stop trying to get a man to choose you and instead you choose yourself every single time. Clearly, consistently and unapologetically. That is the moment love stops feeling like a battlefield and and starts feeling like alignment and it actually becomes so much easier and a whole lot more fun. If you're tired of crowdsourcing terrible dating advice from friends, family and the Internet and you're ready to actually change your patterns for good, you are in the right place. Stick around and be part of the Ready for Love solution. We have so many options for women at all levels. Obviously this podcast is a free resource. I have a relatively new substack where I post weekly articles. We also just launched the Ready for Love coaching app which is so exciting. We have a handful of self study courses and of course our flagship coaching program that you can apply to join@readyforloveinc.com apply wherever you go within my ecosystem here. My promise to you is that I'm teaching you the real work. How to stop abandoning yourself, stop taking bullshit advice and start showing up as the woman who creates the love and the life you she wants. Thanks for listening. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review it helps other women find us. 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Hillary (26:32)

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