We need to talk about what’s real. And here’s an important piece of that conversation That gets buriedBy the AI part. A video from a random TikToker alerted me to the “fact”that on SPANE:The Scale Of Positive And Negative Experiencethe very highest vibration Is… guess!Right - ha ha you read the title of the post. Authenticity. But on all the charts I can find it’s love.Here’s my take. In all my experiences of love - romantic, spiritual, platonic, ecstatic etc the underlying vibration is authenticity. True love happens when we are authentically ourselves. The desire to love and be lovedisn’t just - but certainly includes -The desire to be ourselves. And be seen as ourselves. And for creatives - where one of the great love affairs is with The audience - the viewer It’s this ability to have your own voiceTo be your actual self in your work.I was once at Sardi’s with the actor Judd HirshAfter his show Tuesday’s with Morrie.With ex and my ex-father in law - who was a friend of his. Mid dinner Judd suddenly clocked meAnd though we had already been introduced He asked my EFIL Who are these people.My EFIL gave him my thumbnail - Which at that point - early in my careerWas weighted heavily towards Solo shows and performance art. Judd turns to look at me and says:I love people like you. Real people.And then he pinched my cheek,Hard. Ow.Filed it under ‘uncomfortable moments’.

But lately, I’ve come to understand The way universe/god/higher-power speaks to us. I get that the language of signs -Can be subtle But is usually not quiet. In fact loudness is one of the main characteristics.It’s like when people try to talk to each other in foreign languages We just sometimes say the same thing again.But louder!

The loudness of a sign might be volume.Or repetition. Or something being out of place.Or a visual sign - words that are so on the nose that they are loud. I’ve experienced a few of those And they are part of It’s A Lot.

I bring it up here because that cheek pinch was loud!It was weird. Who pinches cheeks besides grandmothers?And it was hard enough to kind of hurt.And he was such a weird person to be telling meI love people like you real people.My unthought thought: isn’t everyone a real person?Doesn’t everyone want to be a real person?As it turns out, no.And maybe less so now.

And this TikTok about authenticity being the highest vibration Jogged this memory. And it felt like - oh that was a message.’God’ speaks through us all.People are always telling me that thing you said - blah blah blah - Changed my life.And yet I have no memory of it.We are vessels. I do value authenticity.I’m drawn to extreme authenticity over extreme virtuoso. I love hearing That’s so you!In my coaching and teaching Helping creatives and comedians find their true voices and their real work Is one of my missions. I have this now rare in person You But Funnier workshop coming up LA.Finally. And importantly.I started to wonder what makes a higher vibration - higher and better. I mean in music the bass - low vibration is no worse - or better Than a wildly high sax.Why do we even aspire to ‘high vibration’. My understanding is that high vibe has to do with being in the now.Acceptance.Lack of resistance. Going with the flow.And in this world right now - where there is so much to resistThat can be tricky.So. How not to resist that which we are better off not resisting:The very nature of our own unique beingness And yet also resist that which requires resistance.You know what I’m talking abut.It’s subtle. We each have to find our own way.But listening to what is loudly being whispered right to us.Understanding that authenticity and love are connected. Allowing ourselves to experiment with trial and error.Not being afraid of error.These are some of the ways. Listening to your own true heart’s desire. Marching to the beat of your own drummer. You do you.Even that means balloon denim.All the love, Beth And if you are in LA please do join me on Friday night for It’s A Lot!

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