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Welcome to the Joy Broadcast with me, Ali Mortimer. I was once upon a time an IT consultant, recoding systems in the retail industry to function better. And now I'm turned a life consultant and joy coach where I'd like to think I reprogram and recode hearts, minds, souls and lives to feel better. This podcast, the Joy Broadcast, is a way to bring joy to your life, whatever the weather, whatever you're doing. So you feel a pocket or of positivity in every single day. If, like me, you've once upon a time found yourself wondering whether you will ever be happy again or if you're just staring at the kitchen sink wondering how you'll get through the next 10 minutes, this podcast is for you. Get you a glimmer of hope, a dose of happiness, or an infusion of joy right here, right now. Welcome to the Joy Broadcast.

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Welcome back to the Joy Broadcast. This week I'm starting and new series in the Joy Rebellion, the Joy Rebellion being my membership. And I've started a new series called Joy 101 because I believe I've got 101 ways to create more joy, to use joy in your life to bring more joy. You know, I keep talking about the fact that joy has been so much in my life and it's always been there. Joy as the healer, joy is the tool. Joy as the lifestyle, joy, joy as the strategy for my business and for my life. And joy as a super attractor that has meant so, has brought so much more joy, more love into my life and more success. And it's this word, success that I want to talk to you about today, because this is Joy 101. And it sparked a conversation in the membership this week that I feel deserves to be brought out into the front lines, the open spaces. And I wasn't sure where I was going to put it, and I was like, you know what? I'm actually going to put it on the Joy Broadcast because I think that success can either bring so much joy or it can take joy away from us when we feel like we don't have that success. It was also one of the first joy codes, really that helped me with more joy. And what I mean by code, I mean a lesson, a strategy, an idea, a principle. It means all of those things. And I think the first thing that brought me a lot of joy was rewriting my definition of success. And that was in 2015. I had just walked away from a career of almost 20 years in the IT industry and where success really meant, you know, the speed at which she moved up the ranks. The size of your paycheck, the level of grade that you were at, the number of people you had in your team, the number of the amount of money that you are making a company, or the amount of money that you were saving for a company so that you could increase that profit share. And when I came out, I was like, oh, gosh, you know, if I'm going to work on my own, what does success mean to me? Because I give myself my own promotions, right? I can decide my own paychecks. So what is success? And I wrote the definition. It was such a pure experience. It was literally just flew out of me and straight onto a page. And I said, success is loving what I do. Success is loving who I do it with, and success is loving myself in the process. And I can apply that to everything in my life. That element of success, of loving what I do could be, well, whatever I'm doing for my health, I. I can love it. If I love running, I'm going to run. If I loving who I do it with, I could be running with somebody else, or I could be working out on my own. It's loving myself and honoring myself to know that I am actually loving what I'm doing and who I'm doing it with, and I'm honoring myself. Apply it for my health. I can apply it to who I socialize with. I can apply it to the work that I was going to build from that point at 20:15. I didn't know I was going to be a coach at the time, but it became this definition of success, of what I wrote down not only became my success definition, but it also became a process as well as an outcome. And I believe I wrote it down on the page. To love what I do, to love who I do it with and to love myself was because I didn't have any one of those points at that point in my life. I wasn't loving what I was doing. I wasn't loving who I was doing it with, and I certainly did not love myself at that point. I was still struggling with crippling body dysmorphia. And I didn't look in the mirror. And I thought it was so interesting that I wrote that definition in 2015. And we've almost come on a decade. You know, all the trends out there at the moment were 2016 or 2026 is the new 2016. And I was thinking, gosh, I feel like I've gone a full decade, and every single year in that decade that that definition still rung true for me. I still loved it. This is still my definition of success, and it's still the process of creating success for me to continue choosing that. But for some reason, when I got back from the Maldives last week, I thought, this is joy 101. I'm going to share with this, this with the ladies in the Joy Rebellion. And I'm going to say, write your definition of success for who you are today and the era that you're in and for the next decade or the next five years, or at least this year. What is success that you can feel every day? What is success that you know that you can create using this definition? And I thought, I'm going to check back in with mine. It's so important. I'm going to check back in with it. And for some reason, it just suddenly felt. I think it actually now, for the first time, needs a bit of a judge. It needs. It's no longer exciting me because I have it. I love what I do. I love my work. I love my clients. I love my husband. We have another business, and I love him, and I love working with him. And I love the people who help us in that property business as well. And I love myself so much every day that I do look in the mirror and I love myself and think, wow, you're 50. You look great. You know, and even today, one of the tradesmen, he was like, I can't believe you're 50. The cards everywhere. He said, you're not. He said, I didn't even think you were 40. And I do think it's because I have been loving on myself and I feel good about myself every single day, and I treat myself and I look after myself because my body is going to be around for another 40, 50 years, I hope, you know? And I thought, right, okay, I want to look at this. And is there an evolution of what that might be? And I spent Monday, along with all of the ladies in the Joy Rebellion, looking at what success was. And I'm looking at my journal now. I've got pages and pages. I was like, what is success? What is. What is the new feeling of success for me? And I've got pages of it, pages and pages of what. What success looked like, you know, and it, again, it was on statistics and everything. It was like, nothing is feeling quite good. And I knew that somewhere in the back of my mind, there was something that was really trying to be recognized a little bit. Like when I wrote it purely down on the page, when I first asked myself what's my success definition. It was there, but I was ignoring it. And I was like, you know what? I'm going to turn around and I'm going to stop overthinking this in my mind, and I'm just going to write on the page what that little voice is trying to say. And I'm looking at it now, and it says, success is the feeling of overflow, and abundance is being really wealthy and overflowing with money. And I felt sick because I was like, but that's not me. That's not me. I spent such a long time resisting that. I thought, that is so interesting. I don't know what to do with that. I don't. I just don't identify with a lot of people who I surround myself in real life. I don't identify with the seriously wealthy people that I. As much as I love them, I don't identify with them, probably because a lot of them are men and they all have legacy wealth working in family businesses. So I don't identify with that. I'm like, but that's not the way I want to generate this amount of wealth. And I can't. I either one, because I'm not a man and I don't have a family business. And secondly, I think, well, okay, what about online then? And I've stopped following so many online coaches because I don't identify with them and their way of life either. Just. I just don't. And I think a lot of it is false and fake and. And I know that to be true from working with some of them and what they say. So I was like, I don't. And also, a lot of them wear suits and they're so polished and have to be perfect and talk about money, and those are the things I don't want to talk about. And I was so resisting it. And I also don't resonate with the part of me who, prior to my current definition of success, was all about making money and generating money and income and seeing that as success. And I don't identify with her either, either. So I felt like I was really, really stuck when I was being told that this was what my definition of success was. But it didn't feel right. So I spoke to my mentor, and if you've heard the podcast with her a couple of weeks ago, you'll know we have a great relationship. So I feel like I can say anything. And I was like, jenna, I don't like my new definition of success. What. What am I going to do with it? How, How. How Can I work through this? Because I don't identify with it at all. And I shared how I was feeling. I said, you know what? I feel like I have ordered a business. I have spent the last eight years building and creating a business with this idea of I am co creating with the universe, this, this beautiful business that I can take with me anywhere. And I love working with who I'm working with it, love, myself, and I've ordered it and it's all about joy. And I'm helping millions and millions of women with joy in all of the different ways I've shared. And I want to make a lot of money with it. And I've said that that's what I want. But it's there waiting for me in the universal post office and I'm not going to collect it. I'm just not going because I don't feel like it's mine or I don't want it. Why am I resisting it? And she started talking and I was listening, but as she was talking, an image popped up into my mind. And also a word. It often happens to me when I. Some people refer to it as channeling, but to me it's just like suddenly it's almost like clarity or a light bulb moment, maybe people call it. And the first thing that came into my mind was the word. And I think up until this point what I was saying to myself was that I have to cross out my old definition and welcome in this new one. And that felt so wrong. And the word. And. And I've often said my favorite word in the dictionary is. And you probably heard me talk about it before, and I say it a lot to my clients. Why can't you have both? You know, you. I love champagne just as much as I love sparkling water with a squeeze of lime juice. I love a delicious bar of dairy milk chocolate as much as I love broccoli with, you know, soy sauce and almonds on. I love the beach as much as I love going to the mountains. I love a party as much as I love sliding into bed at night with my woolly socks on. You know, I love both equal and opposite. And as I was thinking that and as I was playing that in my mind and as Jonael was talking, I wrote on my notebook, which I have in front of me this very strange drawing that these three kind of like foundational blocks, the three foundational blocks of loving what I do, my work, loving who I do it with, my clients, my family, and loving myself, looking after myself and my health. These three foundational blocks I've done, I've created, I've built, I've got it, I've got it, I've got it. And then I drew almost like this reflight structure over the top and it was as clear as day. And it said that money, that overflow of money that I suddenly feel like is my success definition is the reef that is protecting what I have built. The money that's going to come that I can go and collect from the post office, from the universe, the universal post office is the money that is going to protect me, is the money that's going to protect my family, and it's the money that's going to protect my business. But not only is it protecting, it is also money, income, wealth that is also going to benefit those three key things. They are the beneficiaries of all of this money. You know, when I think about me loving myself, money and income and wealth is going to benefit me because do you know what it means? I get to look after my health even more. I get to go to my PT more than once a week. I get to go to the gym. I get to do eat organic food or the best foods. I get to eat in the best restaurants. I get to look after myself. I get to have more space in my diary. I get to take time off. I get to travel and have adventure and fulfill my soul's dreams. I am the beneficiary of that money. Similarly, my family, the people who I love being with, are also going to benefit from that. Our home is going to benefit from that because we still got so much to do in terms of renovating a bit. You know, my family as well, the experiences and the adventures and everything that we can create. But also my work and my clients will be also the beneficiaries of that because it means that I can give more away for free. It means I can do more podcasts, it means I can do more masterclasses. It means that my content will be of course, more beautiful. I can have my wonderful team at UP Brand do more work for me. My wonderful va. I'm sure she'll help me more too. So I get more support so my clients will have the benefit of me without me having to do all the admin. I get to do what I love and it was just like, oh, okay, I get it. It's. And success to me is loving what I do, loving who I do it with, loving myself in the process of making a fuck ton of money and overflow. And I'm good with that. I have made peace with that. And so I shared this riff. I ripped it out to myself so that I could remember it. And I thought, you know what? I'm going to share this with my Joy rebellion, because Joy101 is writing your success definition. And I'm going to do this work. As I take them through it, I'm going to be doing it again. And the conversation that started in the Joy Rebellion on Monday was beautiful. These are the conversations that I love and the conversations that came back, you know, me too. You know, and the minute women come in and talk about the shame that they hold about money or the resistance they have to previous identities or other identities, the fact that, you know, they recognize that women with money are the circulators of money. So why are we resisting it? Because we're going to be the ones doing all the good things. The more we talk about it, the more we remove the stigmas and shame about it. And that's why the conversation was so powerful, because everybody kept coming in and talking about their blocks and, you know, their feelings and their thoughts about it in an incredibly safe space where they weren't going to get canceled or slammed or shamed into what they believe. You know, women were coming in and talking about all of their blocks and their emotions, especially when they're moving from corporate into entrepreneurship. And so many of them were talking about the fact that they thought that they didn't have it in them to generate that wealth, they would have to win it or inherit it. But it's like, how can we generate our own income by sharing our own wisdom? We're all these incredible women. And if we think about feng shui, you know, we're in cycle nine, which is all the power of these incredible women who are coming to share their knowledge and wealth. And with that, that wealth of wisdom can also generate us and amass us incredible wealth as well. And I think conversations around money can SAP us of joy, whether that be conversation about money in the household or conversations about money online. It can SAP joy. But actually, money can bring so much joy. Wealth can bring so much joy. And it's about really understanding what money means to you, what income means to you, what your blocks are. And this conversation of joy and just on you and just about you and a focus on you and your joy and what money does to enhance that is a powerful one. This was just joy 101, code one, and it's blown up my inbox, and I love this conversation. So that this is a conversation that's to Be continued. This is the one that we're going to be talking about in the live masterminding session as part of the Joy Rebellion in February. So if this is something that you'd like to come and conversation about, come in and join us in the Joy Rebellion. You know, the Joy Rebellion is all about you. It's for you to know yourself like yourself, trust yourself, understand yourself, create a relationship with yourself and doing this joy 101, and the 101 codes are how you are going to get to know yourself. Just even just going away and writing your own definition of success for you today in this era and not worrying about what anybody else thinks about you is such a power move. It's such a joyful move. It's about, oh, I honour myself. And then coming and sharing it with other women who are there to cheer you and say, oh, thank you, you've inspired me. Me too. I want that. Thank you for being the inspiration. Or even if you see what they're writing and you think, actually, that's not me, you're saying, well, thank you for showing me what I don't want. That's the power of women being together and having these conversations in these spaces. So if I've ignited a desire in you to come in and have these types of conversations with women who want to have these conversations, I'd love to invite you. This is your personal, private invitation to come and enjoy me in the Joy Rebellion. It's a beautiful space for beautiful women who want to have the big conversations, who want to bring more joy to themselves so that when they bring joy to themselves, they can bring joy to others. You know, the Joy Rebellion is all about you, so that you don't feel that resentment or hatred or frustration fact that you're holding everybody else together when no one's holding you. It's about understanding that we are there to hold each other so that you don't blow up your life, so that you can feel good in your life. Joy is the strategy for you. It's not the reward. And my favorite lines at the moment, joy is the super attractor, is everything you've ever wanted and more. I've been on a big, long riff and a rant and I hope you've enjoyed that today. I've got some more amazing guests coming up in the next few weeks, by the way, so I hope you'll stay tuned to those. But I'm excited to share more of the Joy 101, whether that be in the Joy Rebellion or every now and again, I'll be popping on here to talk about it, but thank you for listening. I hope I've brought some joy to your money beliefs, your wealth beliefs today. But whatever you take away from this podcast, I hope you go and write your own success definition of whatever that means for you in this era of your life. Spend some time with your journal, riffing it all out, writing it all out, or speaking it all out. Find out what it means for you and then get up every day and create the success in your life that you want to feel, because it's the most joyful feeling you'll ever feel. I love you and I'll speak to you next week.