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Welcome to the Joy Broadcast. I'm Ali Mortimer, joy coach, mentor, and life confidant, and I'm here to tell you something that might surprise you. Joy is not fluffy.
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Joy isn't frivolous.
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Joy is not the reward you get after you've ticked all the boxes. Joy is the only strategy you will ever need. It's your competitive edge, your antidote, and your super attractor. It's the power that creates miracles and makes life feel like magic. In my life, joy is the acronym for just on you. Because you matter. Your joy matters. Your life matters, and it's time to act like it. Whether you're in the dark with nothing or at the top with everything, and it's feeling so overwhelming, joy is always the answer. Joy is a strategy for every era of your life. And this podcast is a space for women in the boardroom, in business, and those women who are running the show at home. This is your reminder to choose Joy not as a reward, but the strategy that gives you your competitive edge, the energy that will expand to give you the capacity to hold everyone and everything. Now, before we begin today's broadcast, I have an invitation for you. If you would like to go deeper to prioritize your joy, come and join me in the Joy Rebellion. It's my membership where I invite you to align to Joy every single week and where I support you in clearing the path when it's hard. Or work with me in Brilliance, my mentorship for women who want to bring brilliance to the boardroom because they feel fabulous in the bedroom and in their body. But right now and every week on this podcast, I'm going to be bringing you the ideas, the stories and the strategies to make Joy your lifestyle, your strategy, your. Your North Star. This is the Joy Broadcast. Let's go.
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Welcome back to the Joy Broadcast, and thank you all so much for your wonderful feedback on the podcast I did last week on Values. I know it was a real masterclass in understanding how you can use your values to anchor back to yourself, how you can activate who you really are and really know that identity piece so you don't feel like you're lost. It's also that antidote to make sure that whatever anybody says about you, you know who you are, because you've got that real knowing of who you are. So thank you, and thank you for. For all of the beautiful comments and well done to you when you've done that work. And I know how powerful that can be, as one of my private clients said, because I suggested she listened to it. She said, everybody needs to listen to that podcast, Sally, because the world would be a better place and a kinder place if we all knew who we were and could honor other in other people as well. So if you haven't had the chance to listen to it, I would highly recommend that you go back and do that one. I also feel like today's episode is going to be a real mini masterclass and I have a bee in my bonnet around. I keep hearing people talking about imposter syndrome and how this imposter this and imposter that. And I want to help you see this from a really, really different perspective. Because, you know, the imposter syndrome, I think, was coined to reference that almost like Mean Girl, that voice of fear that we all have, that voice of fear, that voice of doubt that pops into our head. But what I have recognized over the years of forging my path towards living my life, building my business, healing myself, creating a beautiful life, healing my marriage, you know, enjoying every single day what I'm here to, to live in Korea. And I, you know, I feel so grateful that I've been able to do that, but it's because I haven't listened to my imposter. And the reason why I haven't listened to my imposter is because I don't call it the imposter. And I want you to stop calling it imposter because actually, those voices that people refer to as imposter are actually incredibly valid. Those fears that you are saying, stop thee with the imposter, are actually something you need to listen to and you need to invite them in. Why would you invite an imposter? You're almost stopping it and subconsciously telling yourself, I don't want an imposter in. Why would I let an imposter in? I would like you to start to see those fear voices, those voices of fear, those doubts, those niggles, actually, as really important friends. They're not enemies. They're your most valuable advisors, and especially once you know their names. And this is what I want to help you with. It's something that I've learned through human design to actually really give them names so that I can invite them in. I also know that I have very specific fear friends from understanding my human design. So I thought I would share with you a little bit like I took you through last week, my values. I thought I would share with you my fear gates, how I know James's fear gates and how I support him, but also how I can support my children with their figures and pretty much you're going to get all of the fair gates, because between us, we've got them all. So the practice of knowing your fears is also coupled with one of my foundational practices or modalities. Everything for me started with mindfulness intuitively. First, mindfulness is just simply the practice of knowing what's going on in your mind. And you've probably heard me say before, your mind will. Your mind is your greatest asset. It's either going to fire you up or it's going to fuck you up. And your fears are going to be the ones that fuck you up if you don't bring them up into your conscious, because they're going to play in your subconscious and they're going to feel like lead balls or they're going to feel like you've got reins on holding you back. So this practice of mindfulness and using the mindfulness practice of bringing everything from your subconscious into your conscious is this awareness piece. And then by knowing and understanding your fear gates or your fear friends, then we can actually start to lead, we can start to move. And one of the most powerful things to understand is that we are all most happy when we're making progress, when we're moving. And given that this is called the joy broadcast, this is all about joy. So how can we have more? Joy is by renaming your imposter to your fear friends and also understanding what's going on in your subconscious to bring it into your conscious so that you can move, so that you can create, so that you can live, so that you can love, so that you can feel joy. Right. So that's what I want to talk to you about today. So that was rather a long winded introduction to talk about that. So whether you know your human design or not, this is really isn't going to matter. I think when I speak to you about the different types of fears that we have, you're going to recognize whether they're almost like echoes. What I mean by echoes is that they are on repeat. You recognize, oh, yes, that's me. That's always the one thing that pops into my mind. Just a little thought that's popped into my head. Did you know you actually only ever you were born with only two fears, the fear of loud noises and the fear of falling. That's it. When you look at a baby, a loud noise, they're frightened, they're frightened of falling. That's it. Everything else is learned particularly. And when we can trigger these or understand these echoes that repeat over time by understanding our fear Gates, then you can start to recognize and you can bring that fear friend up to the front to sit next to you to have a conversation over a cup of coffee with, tell me what you want to know. And I think this is really, really important. When you look at your human design, your spleen is the energy center. It's the chakra and the energy center of survival. And so that is why your fear gates live in your spleen. Because the fear is a really, really important part of keeping you alive. It's that little fear that says, don't go too near the edge because you're going to fall off and you will die. Don't pick up that knife, you know, because you will die if you hold it by the blade. It's that kind of thing. It holds our primal fears. The, the, the oldest part of our survival system. It's like it's the one that whispers, don't go down that dark alley. You might get eaten by the saber toothed tiger at the end of it. It's that these fears are really not any kind of character flaw. It's just a biological response. They're ancestral. They're part of our, you know, our system to keep us alive. So they're absolutely doing their job. So they're absolutely not an imposter. They are so, so important. You know, it's also recognizing that our spleen and the spleen from an energetic point of view, is also your intuition. It's knowing that your intuition is guiding you and it will always go hand in hand with the fear because it's just asking you to check to make sure that you're going to stay alive. You know, your fears and your intuition are pretty much in the same postcode. You want them to go hand in hand is I've always said before as well that, you know, whenever you have a big dre or you set a big goal or a huge aspiration, whatever label you want to put on it, you are always going to have the flip side of the fear. They work hand in hand. Dreams and fears go hand in hand. So it's just knowing that the two go together and you need to learn to take one and the other by the hand. I've got my Joy doll in front of me and I keep looking at her and I think it's like, Joy needs to take both by the hand. Joy needs to take the dream by the hand. And Joy needs to take the fear by the hand and say, right, well, we're going anyway. We're doing this, we're going so let's tell me your big dream. Tell me your fears, because we're going together with joy. Right. I love that visual. So I wanted to talk you through the fear gates that I have so you can see how I can work them through and then also how I support the family with them. So there are, I think there's seven from memory, seven fear gates in the spleen. I have four. I've got 48, 32, 18 and 28. I've got quite a flush. James has 3, 48, 44 and 32. So we share 48, 32. Tom, my eldest son, who's 18, has gate 50, 50. And Wells, my youngest son, he has none. And I'll come to what that means shortly because that could mean that he's fearless, but actually it doesn't mean that at all. And it's probably the most misread concept in the whole of your chart. So I think this is really important because it's about recognizing my own fears so that I can harness them, so I can become friends with them, so I can talk to them, so I can understand them, but it's also about understanding my family so I can guide them as well, whether they know I'm doing it or not, and using human design as the modality and the tool to help them. I'm going to go back to almost, probably an older version of me. Let's wind back to, shall we say, 2012. In 2012, I was an IT consultant. I was working in. I wasn't consultant, actually, I was at that point. I'd finished my IT consultant, I'd gone in house, I was working in Asda and I was still in it. We were running code, creating code to support the systems and the huge change that was happening in the retail industry as it all went online. And my job pretty much was to be a cynic. My job was to question everything. Why won't that work? It was almost like, let's do the pre mortem on what we're about to do. Let's almost pour water through a bucket and find the holes so that we can plug them, so that we can stop them. I would always look through everything with a cynical lens, meant that was my job, to risk mitigate. What do we need to plug before we go? And this is the same with our fears. This is what I've learned from a personal point of view, is that that's all our fears are saying. Come in and tell me what could possibly go wrong so that I can mitigate it in advance, so that I can relax and enjoy the ride rather than letting that stop me or worrying about it. So I'm not going to go because I haven't been able to plan for it. So they're really, really important. So, as I said at the beginning, our fears are, in my book, one of the most important advisory board members I have in my life. Board, shall we say. It's like, come on, this is the big dream. This is what I want to do. What could possibly go wrong? Come in and tell me. And I invite my four fear friends that I know about that live in my subconscious to come in and tell me everything that they've got. So should we start with gate 48? Because both James and I have that one. And I think it's probably one of the most common ones that is related to that awful word and term imposter, the fear of not being enough. You know, that deep, quiet dread deep within you that just says, I don't have what it takes. Who do I think I am? You know, I don't know enough. I haven't got the skills. I'm not experienced enough or I'm too old. I'm just literally just. I just don't deserve this. You know, this is something that has been playing on me when I've set my latest big dream and my latest big goal with. I want to help millions and millions of people worldwide, globally, with the work I am doing around joy and peace and love for your life. I want my books to be read by millions of people. I want this podcast to be heard by millions of people. It's a big, big dream. But who the hell do I think I am? I'm not good enough to do that. And I'm like, okay, why not come in and tell me all the reasons why you don't think I'm good enough? And let's just really question that and see if it's not true. And the way that I work through that one. And my response to my fear is like, okay, well, if I don't. If you, Mr. Fear, I don't think you're good enough. Think I'm not good enough. Tell me then, how can I do better? Tell me what we can do to do better and we have this conversation, well, I can do this, or I could learn that, or I can try this, or I can do it this way, or my response is, but I'm giving my best, and my best is always good enough. I will show up every day no matter whether I'm at a low or a high. I'M going to come in, and you've probably heard me say this. You're going to get Joy as I am. Whether I'm in that place of fuck, yes, Joy, let's go. You'll see me there, or you'll see me saying, oh, my God, Fuck you, Joy. I can't be asked to feel joy today. I'm feeling really crappy. You're going to get me, and you have the best of me. No matter whether I'm at the highs or the lows or whether I'm the vanilla in between, you know, it's. I'm giving my best every single day, and that is always good enough. And on the days when I'm like, yes, let's go, I'm like, right. How can we do better? So it's that response that I can do. And similarly, that's how I guide James through when he's having one of those moments, you know, when you're having pillow talk at the end of the day and real openness that happens when you've lived together in each other's pockets for 30 years. It's like, you know, you're good enough for this. You know, one of the things you can do, you can always do the, you know, the real belief work of trying to understand where this all came from. Can you heal it at the root? You can spend a lot of time and a lot of work and a lot of therapy in that. Or you can just say, do you know what? Sod it, I am good enough. And let's go. The mindfulness piece here is just recognizing that I'm aware of the first concept of mindfulness is always awareness. So it's the awareness of this fear. Oh, I know that. That's my gate 48 talking. It's the echo. It's coming back. It's the naming of it. It's the awareness, and it's knowing. Oh, now I know the question to ask when that fear comes in. And it's not about that fear stopping me. It's about that fear expanding me. Always. The fear is never there to stop you. It's there to expand you because it's going to go hand in hand with the big dream that you have. Okay, gate 32. James and I both have this one again, the fear of failure. What if I fuck it up? What if it all goes wrong? What if we lose everything we've ever built? You know, what if I go backwards? What if we lose the life that we've created? Oh, there's another whole topic on that One. But what if we don't? What if we don't fail? What if we keep on building and it gets better? And it gets better, and it gets better? What if we do fail? We'll be okay. We'll have learned. I know that both James and I also have line threes in our human design. So this is all about failure. So it's knowing that actually we're here to fail. We're here to experiment. We're here to get it wrong. We're here to get it wrong so that we know how to get it right, how to course correct, how to power pivot. You know, my line three has ended up becoming. Being one of my most superpowers, as has James's. You know, he's a consultant in finance and I'm a consultant in joy. And it's knowing how to. I've been down the road of where I haven't had joy, so I can show people how they can have it because I've learned how. It's knowing and understanding that there's no such thing as failure unless you fail to learn the lesson right. That wonderful phrase from John C. Maxwell. So once again, the mindfulness move here is when you feel that kind of like contraction around change because you fear the failure. Oh, that voice of failure. I'm okay with failure. This failure is for me. It's going to show me something. I'm going to learn something. Let's go. It's not going to kill me. Failing won't kill me. Gate 18. I think this is one of the biggest ones that I've had to work on more recently. This fear of authority. And the fear of authority, in this sense, I'm almost, like, seeing as, like, not worthy, that I'm going to take a seat at the table where I feel like I don't belong because I'm not good enough. I get back to that other fear. It's also thinking that when I pull up a seat at this table of where I'm going to end up being. I was just talking to this about a client, actually. She is amazing. She's an old client. She's not working with me currently, but she's literally. She was one of my very first clients, and she's worked with me at every step of the way that I've been on. On my journey. And she is now doing the most incredible things, insane things. And we were talking about this, and she's just literally become head of a huge department. And she said she wanted to create this. This big thing so that she could go and work. I can't say names because it will give it away. But she wanted to work with the top, top, top, top industry, and she's done it. And we had a conversation about that today. She's like, oh my God, I just don't feel like I belong. And we were talking about this, this fear of authority. She totally does belong in that room. She's made it happen. She's gone from one room to the next room. And sometimes we can have that when we've gone up a level, when we've up levelled, when we've got a promotion, when we've moved into a different space or sphere of experience and kudos and reputation and credibility. We can sometimes feel that we're not good when we start to look in the room of the people around us. And I said to her, I said, sometimes what we just need to do is we forget how hard we've worked to get into this room, that we fail to recognize it and actually celebrate. So what we need to do is rather than walk into the room and think, oh my God, I don't belong, and walk back out again, is walk into the room, go and find the, Go and find the champagne table, take a moment, take a seat in the corner of the room and celebrate how hard you work to be there and know that you belong in there. And you just need to take a minute and then you can perceive the room per view the room and walk on around and go and have a. Have a conversation with them. What you'll find is that the value that you have is incredibly powerful. You're not going to be the same as they are, but whatever you have and whatever reach it took to get you into that room to that level is going to be super valuable because there's millions of different ways to get there, right? So these conversations are incredible. And you know what? There may be some snakes in the grass who may judge you or may find you unworthy, but then do you know what? You can take that because then it's just about being the most authentic version of you. Go back to last week's episode and share your value by living your values, right? So this can sometimes show up as people pleasing or trying too hard to fit in or trying to prove yourself. You don't need to do that. It's just like, I know my value. Go back to last week's podcast. Oh, gosh, that was a good one, wasn't it? Right? The mindfulness move here is just, you know, catch yourself in the moment when you start shrinking too fit. Or when you start to back out of that door because you think you don't belong. As I said, go and get yourself a glass of champagne. Find a quiet corner and just take a moment. You do belong in this room. Gate 28 Again, this is just one that only I have in my family. I've got a lot of fears. That's fine. I know them and now I can work with them. They're not imposters. They're my friends. I'm going to keep on repeating that. Gate 28 is the fear of purposelessness. You know, the fear that there's no role for me, that the career that I would really, really love is not going to be available, and that that life is only ever about survival rather than joy and abundance. And I come full circle. I come back to when so many people or I feared or I took on the fears of other people. That reinforced a deep belief in me that, you know, I can't have a make a business out of joy. And that's when the whole joy isn't fluff, joy is fucking physics came in. It was like, that is my purpose. I now know it because I allowed this fear of purposelessness to sit at the desk with me and say, right, how can we make joy my purpose? It's something I know intuitively, but I fear that other people won't get it. So it's about saying, come in, let's have the conversation. And we're going to keep working on it. We're going to keep having this conversation until we get it. Get it. I've got it. My role is joy. Your role is whatever you fear, isn't it? And make it yours. You know, this is about saying life does get to be full of joy and abundance, and that is really my own purpose. I remember the first card I ever put. This is so interesting. The first Oracle card that I ever, ever took. So this is going back to 2017, and I'd started to hear about Oracle cards. There must have been somebody who was doing a talk on it, or I think I might have been. I might have started doing my chakra healing course. Actually, that's what it was. I was doing a chakra healing course in the Acorn, a beautiful retreat near me, and somebody had an Oracle deck. And I thought, that's really interesting. And I pulled my own card from my very first deck, and I kid you not, it said, your purpose is joy. It's on my desk. Your purpose is joy. How do you make your purpose your life? Okay. So the awareness here is, you know, the struggle with what you're battling is information that you can use. Sit down with that fear and work out what your purpose is and why you fear it being the absolute truth of yourself. Gate 44. So this is James. So James has the fear of the past repeating itself. You know, that quiet dread that what's happened in the past that bought you pain, that brought you anxiety, that you know didn't go as well as you'd hoped, that embarrassed you. That is going to happen again. Whether that's in your corporate life, whether it's in your personal, private life, whether it's, you know, anything to do with your health, it doesn't work. Whatever it was, it didn't work, or it caused you pain and anxiety. You project what happened in the past into your future. You know, whether that's clients who let you down, the business that didn't work, the relationship that broke. Whatever it was, you worry the fact that it's going to happen again. You know, and me knowing that about James, when I can see that intuitively, when I can feel and sense that, because I've also got an undefined spleen, so I can sense him and his fear that that's what he thinks might happen, I can say, shall we talk about it? I'm just like, you are not the same person as you were when that experience happened. You learned from it. So learn from what happened in that experience and take those learnings and bring them into your presence so that they don't happen again. Also know that even if it does happen again, you're going to be okay because you were okay last time. You're going to be fine. And just because it happened last time really does not mean to say that it's going to happen this time, because it's probably different people, different clients, different relationship. You know, the past does not dictate the future unless you let it. So really, again, being mindfully aware of this is notice when you are projecting past into the future. Notice when you're treating the present moment as if you were back in the past. That's gate 44. So bringing this fear into your conscious means that you can really understand that. Okay, my gorgeous Tom. So Tom is 18. He's sitting his first A level today. Let's. Let's just send him a moment. He's right in the thick of it is my gorgeous boy, my angel. So Tom has the fear of responsibility. Gate 50. This is the fear that you might not be able to provide. Whether that's for Your family, your clients, your friends, your community, you know, the weight of caring for others, maybe more than you can carry. And Tom is such a caring person and he is so full of responsibility. He's such a leader of his mates, so understanding or me being able to know that about Tom as he takes his next big leap into what is to come. Gate 50 is going to be one of his lifelong companions. Knowing that he will be able to provide for himself, knowing that he will be able to support and care for others when they need it. You know, the work that we're doing together at the moment and writing his CVS and his cover letters, helping him define his values and who he is, isn't just admin work. It's real deep work. It's foundation setting for him to know, do you know what? I can take responsibility for myself. And in taking responsibility for myself, I know that I can also help others do the same. He knows what matters to him. He knows what he really stands for. Whether he can name it or not. You can see Tom's core values in him and then he's able to lead from that. You know, Joy. When I think about it, and I wrote about it in a substack last week, there's. There's joy. The proof, Joy. The proof is that joy is fucking physics, right? The Hawkins Scale. Joy is everything. There's joy the practice, joy is a strategy, joy asking yourself the question every day. And then there's joy as the personal responsibility where joy stands for just on you, you know, the fear of responsibility. Don't fear it, own it. I am responsible for me. And helping Tom, you know, my son, as he takes this big, bold leap, is going to be so powerful. So I think, you know, helping him understand the weight of responses, responsibility, and appreciate it, but then also know what he can do for it. So I think for any parent who might be listening to their children, knowing their fear, Gates is really, really powerful because you can start to guide them early on. It's not about fixing fears, it's just about recognizing that I know his biggest fear and it's one that's going to keep showing up. So if I can start to help him recognize it, be mindful of it, be aware of it, and then guide him in knowing how he can use that to expand himself going forward is going to make him a beautiful human adult. Ah. And then we get to my youngest son. So, wills, he is 17. He is also doing his mock A levels, and I think he might even be doing an AS level today. So we'll take a moment for him as well. He has no splenic figure gates. This means he is totally open. And maybe in the past I might used to say Willy is fearless. You know, if you've ever seen him on a ski slope, he certainly looks that way. You know, heart in my mouth, be like, oh my God, he's got no fear. But really I, this is probably one of the most misread things that you can say, you know, whether you use the context of human design or not. But you know, it's never about being fearless. It's about actually saying I recognize my fears and I'm moving with them. That's bravery, that's courage. Being fearless is just stupid. But when somebody has no defined spleenic gaits and when they are undefined, this means that they are going to be the sponge for everybody else's fears. So parenting Will is really knowing that sometimes he can be weighed down by everybody else's fears. So he will absorb whether he knows it or not. He's going to be absorbing my fears, he's going to be absorbing James's fears, he's going to be absorbing Tom's fears. He's going to be absorbing all of his teachers fears and all of his friends fears. And if he's not aware that he is doing that, he will amplify them and make his own. So for Will, it's really having those conversations of if he is not moving or when he's stuck, you know, when he doesn't want to do something. The question becomes, you know, why aren't you moving? What's holding you back? And you know, it's a bit basic to say to a teenager what are you frightened of? But you can. So what are you frightened of? What are you worried about? What might happen? And he might not answer me because he's a teenager and he might just grunt or sharp, mom, stop doing your coaching work on me. But it's about guiding him and knowing him that maybe I can anticipate or maybe talk about some of the fears he might be feeling because I've known him his whole life and show him the other side of all of those fear gates because he can take on all of our fears and show him how he can release them by just saying, is that your farewell or is that coming from somebody else? Was that taken on from me? Am I projecting my fear onto you? Or is dad or Tom or a friend? The work for an open splenic child is not necessarily to manage their fears, but it's showing them how they can learn the difference between is this my authentic fear or have I learned this, been conditioned in this, or taking it on? Whose fear is it that I'm taking on? Where did I pick it up? Do I need to keep it, do I need to drop it? And if so, what do I really want to do? Children with children, adults with open spleens can be some of the greatest empaths because they can read a room. And will for sure is that he's probably one of the kindest, caring people I know. That's a beautiful thing, right? So there are a couple of other fear gates that I haven't really talked about. I haven't talked. Oh, that's actually just one more actually gate 57. But do you know what? I think this wasn't necessarily a masterclass in fear gates, but more of how can you become aware of your fears, Whether they are aligned to the spleen, the splenic gates, or whether they're just fears. It's is saying I am aware of my fear and how can I use that to move forward, to expand, to not let it stop me? My intention really for this podcast was to bring in elements of mindfulness because I'm such a believer. You know, mindfulness changed my life because it was about being very, very conscious of what was going on in my head, in my heart, in my feelings, in my body, and how I could use use that in order to find peace and presence in the day to day. Human design has amplified that. It's given me names for certain things that these have named my fears. Just like some of the other gates and other areas in my sacral, I'm aware of what I'm doing and why I'm doing it. Like I've got. One of my favorite ones is the channel of rhythm between my sacral and my G. I just know the timing. It drives everybody else mad. I'm not ready. I'm not ready. I'm not ready. And now it's time. I also wanted to show it as an example of how you can one most importantly, stop calling it imposter. Start listening to your fear friends. How you can use fear to achieve your dreams, how you can mitigate them, how you can use that to create a smoother path ahead for what you want to do. And know that fear is not your enemy. Conditioning is, your unconscious is. It's not even an enemy. It's just something really to be aware of. And what I would really love for you to do is if you want to do or take this work deeper beyond what I've just said to you today, which is just to start to become aware of your fears, start naming them. Give them whatever name you want. Recognize when they repeat, recognize when they come on an echo. Make them your friend so that you can ask them, what are you trying to tell me? What can we mitigate here and how can we move forward? Remember that visual of Joy? Joy in the middle with her blue hair and her yellow dress from inside out. She's going to have her dreams in one hand and fears in the other. And you're going to go together, you're going to do this. If you want to do the work on a deeper level, there's a couple of things I'm going to have a mini ad break on around right now. I've just started a new series on my substack called Mindfulness Mondays. And on Mindfulness Mondays, this is really where I'm going to share with you all of the tools and all of the strategies that I have gathered together over the last decade. And what I recognize is I've got about a hundred of them and I am crafting them into a series. So I'm gifting you five every single week to try five of these mindfulness practices. This is one of them and go away and see what happens. Now, this is on my paid substack because I could give it away for free, but I'm not going to in this occasion because I feel like I would be doing ubidus as disservice. I mean, my sub stack is what I think it's about £4amonth or something. So it's like the price of a magazine less than the price of a posh coffee. But it's about saying actually when you pay for something, you're more likely to do this work and this work is incredibly powerful. So come in and do the work. Come in and get them. There's over 100 tools, five a week. So it's a 20 weeks that's going to take you right the way through the summer. Do the work. Do the work for yourself, do the work for your kids, do the work for your family, do the work for your teams and your clients and see how this practice can really help you, bring you peace and you can prioritize your peace. If you've been intrigued about human design and me talking about my human design and the boys human design and James's human design and how it's helped me, then I do have a service where I help people with their human design. You can either come in and work with me privately. It's called YOU in HD where I create a full report for you and help you understand you. And if you want to do that with your family, then I can have you understand all of your children and all of your partners. Partners, multiple partners. It's up to you and how you how you can help and support and understand each other. Or if you wish, I also have a master course which is called Joy in HD and this is where I teach human design. I take you through all of the modules of understanding absolutely everything there is to know about human design and then how you can apply it in your life. So there's three different things on there. Actually, I'm going to give you a fourth. I'm always told off when I give multiple options. But you know what? I like choice. If you're not sure which one you want to do, then come in and get on my newsletter, the Joy Brief. Because every week I share a little bit about behind the scenes, but also I spotlight and highlight and also give incredible offers on every single one of my bodies of work or services. So maybe you'll get that splenic hit or that sacral gut feeling or you're going to know which one you you want. So I'm going to leave all of those options in the show notes. You can come in and read the Mindfulness Mondays on my stub stack. You can come in and have your own human design report done. You can come and learn about human design or you can just jump onto the Joy Brief and get a little bit more of awareness of all of the different types of offers I do. So I hope you've enjoyed today. Again, it's been a little bit of a masterclass in fear. I hope you've enjoyed it. But I know that if you know your values like I shared with you last week, one of the most primary things that you can do to help you in your life is to know your values. The second thing is this. Know your fears and make them your friends. I hope you've enjoyed today's podcast. I'll see you next week.
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Date: May 15, 2026
Host: Ali Mortimer, the JOY Coach
In this enlightening episode, Ali Mortimer reframes the much-discussed "imposter syndrome," inviting listeners to stop viewing self-doubt and fear as enemies, and instead to make them friendly advisors. Drawing from her expertise in mindfulness and human design, Ali shares personal stories, practical tools, and heartfelt guidance designed to help women (and supportive men) harness the wisdom of their “fear friends.” This is a masterclass in turning internal struggle into progress and authentic joy.
Ali shares her family’s specific fear gates as real-life examples; each represents a unique recurring pattern of fear that, when acknowledged, can be transformed into growth:
Ali’s mission is to help people learn that they’re not alone in their darkness, and that joy is both possible and powerful—especially when you make your fears your friends. For more tools, guided practices, and insights, Ali invites listeners to explore her Mindfulness Mondays, human design offers, and the Joy Brief newsletter.
For more, visit Ali Mortimer’s substack, human design services, or sign up for weekly inspiration via The Joy Brief (links in show notes).