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Welcome to the Joy Broadcast. I'm Ali Mortimer, joy coach, mentor, and life confidant, and I'm here to tell you something that might surprise you. Joy is not fluffy. Joy isn't frivolous. Joy is not the reward you get after you've ticked all the boxes. Joy is the only strategy you will ever need. It's your competitive edge, your antidote, and your super attractor. It's the power that creates miracles and makes life feel like magic. In my life, joy is the acronym for just on you. Because you matter. Your joy matters, your life matters, and it's time to act like it. Whether you're in the dark with nothing or at the top with everything, and it's feeling so overwhelming, joy is always the answer. Joy is a strategy for every era of your life. And this podcast is the space for women in the boardroom, in business, and those women who are running the show at home. This is your reminder to choose Joy not as a reward, but the strategy that gives you your competitive edge, the energy that will expand to give you the capacity to hold everyone and everything. Now, before we begin today's broadcast, I have an invitation for you. If you would like to go deeper to prioritize your joy, come and join me in the Joy Rebellion. It's my membership where I invite you to align to Joy every single week and where I support you in clearing the path when it's hard. Or work with me in Brilliance, my mentorship for women who want to bring brilliance to the boardroom because they feel fabulous in the bedroom and in their body. But right now and every week on this podcast, I going to be bringing you the ideas, the stories and the strategies to make Joy your lifestyle, your strategy, your North Star. This is the Joy Broadcast. Let's go. Hello and welcome back to the Joy Broadcast. I want to share with you a little story that I was reminded of last week. Last week, I had an incredible opportunity and an invitation to be a keynote speaker at the Women in Estate Agency. Not a conference conference. To come in and share my message of joy and how I believe that joy is your competitive edge. I touched on it in last week's podcast just before I was about to go and deliver this keynote speech. But as I was waiting in the green room with all my mics on and I was ready to go out on stage, I felt so utterly calm. I thought, when are the nerves going to. Going to kick in? When am I going to get that crippling, oh, my God, I'm going to be sick. Going to kick in. And they really didn't. And I thought, gosh, what's happened? What has changed over the last year that has meant that yet there was a nervousness, but it was more of an excited nervousness rather than a. Than a sick. And I just thought, you know What? It's the Cs. I often call them the Cs when I speak to my clients. It's the confidence, the conviction, the clarity and the credibility. I felt deep, deep, deep within me. I knew what message I wanted to share. I was so convicted in the message. I still am. I'm. I know exactly what it is that I'm creating. I'm incredibly clear on that, and who I am and who I want to help and what my message is here and who I want to serve and what I really want people to know about joy and themselves. You know, my message was so clear and so powerful, that message, that joy isn't fluff and it isn't frivolous, it's fucking physics. And I felt, felt, like I said, it was such passion that the eruption and the applause and the laughter was just so. It filled me back with joy. It was like I was sharing joy and it was bouncing straight back at me. I was reminded as I was thinking this and as I was reflecting on this on the train home, that I've come a long way since my very, very first public speaking event, which was in lockdown. And it was an invitation to be on a podcast that was live streaming. I can't even remember which one it was. The bit I remember is that I was representing the UK Health Coaches Association. I was a health coach. My business at the time was Heal Yourself Happy. And the director of the Health Coaching association was also going to be on this podcast. We were being interviewed and she turned to me just before we went live and she said to me, she said, ali, you will tone yourself down, won't you? She said, you will be. Well, not too much and perhaps a little bit less you. I mean, honestly, I was dumbstruck just before we were about to go on, but I took a deep breath and I remembered just feeling, I'm not going to listen to her. That's not who I am. I'm here to be me. And the biggest compliment I get from my audience, the feedback in my communities and my clients, was this. This authenticness of who I am. And at the time, I was also very, very clear and very, very confident and convicted about the message that I had to share, that health and happiness was the first line of defense in A pandemic. I was so clear. I repeated it every single day for the three years that we were in lockdown. And I was so clear that I had the formula to help people with their health, with their happiness. I believed it went hand in hand. I knew the keys on how you could unlock it. I knew the keys on how you could create it. And I wasn't going to tone myself down or be any less me. And the feedback again from that podcast was, well, it fueled me again to know that, yes, this is who I am. This is what I'm here to do. It was really interesting when I thought about that and what I wanted to share in this podcast. That's a bit of the story, really, to start it, but what I really feel is that I knew my value. I not only knew my value and the value that I could bring, whether we're talking about the health and the happiness in, you know, being the first line of defense in the lockdown, or the fact that I know that joy isn't fluff, I know that joy isn't frivolous. I know that joy is physics. I know that joy is a healer. It's chemistry. I know that it's biology. It can change you and your lifestyle and your ecosystem, and it can help you become this super attractor and give you that competitive edge because it's fucking quantum physics. And it's like, I am so. Oh, I can feel it in my body. I just know it. And I value my message. I value what I have to share, and I also know my values, and I think those are really, really important things. So I wanted to use this podcast to take you through a little bit of exercise. If you. This sounds like something you want to create within yourself. I know that knowing my values for me as a person has given me such this incredible anchor within myself. It helped me understand who I was. And I think that's why when the director said that to me, because I had done this work on myself and I knew who I was and I knew my value. I had done this inner work on myself that I was happy for it to be shared and be seen, and I could be seen as myself. So there was almost like this human version and this inner version that were so aligned, that were so in tune with each other, that for me to not live in alignment with my values, to not share my values, to be who I was, would have been a huge betrayal of myself and the work that I had done. And I wanted to share that with you so that you can find this Peace and this anchor within you so that you have this strength from within you. This is a lot of the work that I do with many of my private clients. And interestingly, one of my private clients recently has been using this also not only as an anchor, but also as an antidote. I also feel this, too. You know, sometimes when you're very, very visible, people can throw a lot of arrows at you. They can have a lot of judgment. But every single time I read the. The words of hatred or judgment, I come back to my values, and I look at my lists and I go, well, I know who I am, and I know that I'm representing that every day. So their words just. They don't matter. It's almost like their poison is met with my truth. And that literally just dissipates anything that they have to say about me. Knowing your values is the antidote to anything critical that anyone could do to either try and shame you or hurt you. And this is so powerful, because when you recognize when someone is saying something at you, well, I know that that's stepping on this value, and that's why it's hurting. So I can let it go, because I know that this is the truth about me. And what they're saying is not. You know, I can rattle off my values very, very quickly because they're in the front of every single notebook. They are my reminders every single morning that this is who I am. This is what I represent. This is what I want to share. And I can rattle them off because I love words. I love literation. Words is my love language. So I know that the things that matter to me in my life and the things that matter about me and who I am are grit, grace, gratitude, and growth and being genuine and generous. Those are my core values, and I know them. But I've done the work to make sure that I know them. And the reason why they all begin with G is so that I can remember them. It's very easy. Grace, gratitude, growth, genuine, and generosity. But how did I get there? I took a blank sheet of paper. And this is really what I wanted to help walk you through is so that you can get to the set of values that you can repeat very quickly off the top of your head and say, am I aligned with that? Yes, yes, yes, yes. That's hurting me. Oh, which one of those is that hurting for me? So get your blank sheet of paper and just ask yourself a few questions. Start to write down what you value in life, what matters to you. You can pause this and Keep coming back to it. If you're driving, please don't. But really write down what matters to me, what do I value in life? What is important? You know, it's also easy for so many people to just say, oh, yeah, my values are honesty, integrity, love, you know, all of these things. Yeah, they're right, but keep going. What other words? Why does it matter? Ask yourself, when did you feel really, really, really good about yourself? And then ask yourself those questions, why did I feel good? Who was I being? What was I doing? Who was I with? What was going on? What values were I really honoring? And then also ask yourself another when did I feel really, really bad or really, really sad or hurt? And ask what values have been stepped on? Then what weren't you honouring or what was not being honoured for you Just keep writing as many words as you possibly can. Literally fill a blank page with all of the words that literally come up. That's the first phase. The next phase that I took myself through was to really group those words. And I've got the groupings in front of me, actually, because I keep all my journals. So, for example, I had written down on my page, you know, truth, clarity, transparency, openness, clarity, authenticity, fullness, genuine connection, being trustworthy, being an open book, being seen. And that's where the genuine piece came for me. Genuine. Being genuine represents all of those key values for me. So the minute I say genuine, I know exactly what I mean. I can see it in myself and I can also feel it in others. I love giving and receiving. I loved gifting, I love sharing, I love serving, I love receiving. I love receiving all the compliments that everyone sent to me after last week. It really lit me up. The messages, the DMs, the comments on all of my posts. It was just like, oh, I'll receive that. I didn't used to be very good at doing that, but now it's like, I'll take it. You know, I love being generous with money, time, love, knowledge, experiences, and I love receiving all of the same as well. And that's really, to me, what generosity is. Generosity is giving and receiving in equal measure. I remember conversation I had with a client once and he was telling me, he was like, oh, Christmas, I dread Christmas. I said, why? And he said, oh, because everyone's going to buy me stuff. And I oh, I just want to tell them not to buy anything because if I don't like it. And I said, but you denying them giving you something means that you're denying them the experience of thinking about you and gifting you. Giving is a beautiful act and the act of receiving openly, generously is so important. So generosity is a huge one for me. So those are the first two, but you can keep going. Grace. Oh, I didn't put Grace in there. That was my new one, Heaven's Above. See, look, it's really important that I keep coming back to thee. Grace was a new one that I added in last year. And this was really the representation for me for so many other things in my life that I know is really important. Trust, softening. I've been learning to soften a lot more, which is why I keep forgetting. I must remember Grace. Remember Grace. See, I've been really authentic and open with you right now. This ease and flow, being dignified, you know, all of these things, this calm, present, forgiveness, kindness, those are all the words that I knew there was something missing from my. My six core values. And it was it. Grace was the one that I really wanted to put in there. Patience, unfolding. Grace is my reminder of that. And it's often the one that I forget that is important to me because I'm so busy racing on. I suppose it conflicts with a bit, with grit and growth sometimes that I have. But do you see the. Do you see the pattern that I'm talking about? Write all of these words down and then start to group them in. The words that mean something to you, that matter to you, that you can remember, that you can talk about. Oh, I did say Grace. I've just looked back at my original. Yeah, Grace, gratitude, growth, genuine generosity. I do laugh at myself sometimes. But the point of the exercise is that know your values. Really know your values. Because then no matter what stage you stand on, whether it's a big stage like I stood on last week, or whether it's just in front of your children, your family, a parent, whatever you have to say, if you can live in alignment with your values, then that's where you get that conviction of yourself, that clarity of who you are. Your confidence really comes from knowing your values because no one can tell you who you aren't. It's your anchor. That's where you get your confidence and you have the antidote to what anybody else might say about you. It feels so good to know this. Now, I've taken you through a very quick whistle stop exercise here as part of the JOY broadcast. But I have a whole Life Lab. I love the Life Labs, by the way. There's six Life Labs, but this Life Lab is called I Know Me and I Love Me And I truly believe that this Life Lab is so powerful. It's a. It's a workshop guiding you through exactly what I've just taken you through here, but in. In a lot more detail to help you really understand and get to know yourself. Because ultimately, when you know yourself, then you can really love, honor yourself. And that's really what I believe has given me this confidence and this clarity in who I am. If you want to go a little bit deeper, then there was a program that I wrote in 2021, which is called Love for Life. This was the inner work that I had taken myself through when my whole world had come crashing down. It was like, how am I going to love my life? How am I going to live my life? And it started with loving myself. And I had to get to know myself. So this is a really, really beautiful program that helps you start the greatest you'll ever have, the one that you have with yourself. And when you've got that, you almost become this love warrior because you love and honour yourself so much. It's like, I will do anything to make sure that I continue to love my life and live my life. Now, both of these programs, courses, workshops are part of the Joy Rebellion. They're not available anywhere else. And I would love to invite you into the Joy Rebellion. It's such a beautiful place. It's got so much fabulous information. All of my courses and trainings that I have done over the last seven years are still relevant today. Even that love for life one that I wrote, 2021, what's that five years ago, so relevant today? The women who've joined my membership are taking themselves through it now. The Life Lab I Know Me and I Love Me is one that I share with all my private clients very, very early on because I know how important this work is to whatever you're going through in your life, whether it's professional, whether it's private, whether it's personal, whether it's a health element. This is so important to know what you value in your life and it helps me then guide and coach them. And also, coming up, something brand new in March, which I'm so excited about. I've written all of the scripts. I know what I want to say. Tomorrow I'm going to be recording a brand new program to go into the Joy Rebellion. And only in the Joy Rebellion will it be available. But it is called Rebel hd. Now the HD stands for Human Design. It's an incredible profiling tool that I was introduced to in 2021. And when I Read my human design chart. It felt like I had been given a guidebook to myself and understanding myself. It was a map to understanding my energy flows, how that I could maximize my energy, my vitality. But not only that brings more confidence into who I am and the way I do things, the way I make decisions, how I interact with. It's everything that I've brought into my business to help me run an incredibly beautiful business that is not only successful on the outside, but feels good on the inside as well. It has helped me understand me and who I am in relationships, in partnerships, in partnerships with my husband. I know his, I know my children, I know me, and I know how my energy influences theirs and how their energy influences me. That's what creates this calm and happy home that I live in. But not only that, what I found hugely helpful, especially going and navigating through the perimenopause these last few years, is how I can use my human design to understand the elements and the parts and the energies within me. Because if you're a believer like I am that what you store in your body as energy can become disease, pain, hurt, frustration in your body, then you know which energies to clear and therefore you begin to start to feel lighter in those areas in your body. I could talk for hours on that by the way. So Rebel HD that is going to be landing on the 23rd of March and it's this beautiful combination of three workshops to help you use your human design in your body, in the bedroom and in the boardroom. And then ultimately it's that precursor into my master course which is Joy in hd, how you can use your human design to amplify your joy. It's a three month master course with a mastermind element. And what I mean by that is that you have 12 modules to work your way through. So you get to under understand human design on every single level. But then also you have this masterminding element which is working with me on a day to day basis through Telegram, which is a private communication channel with the collective and also live zoom calls where you get to personalize and integrate what you're learning in your human design and also any human design that you wish to look at, whether that be in your family or in your business. So that will be starting on the 1st of April, that's currently on pre sale at 11. So if you'd like any more details on that, please do reach out and ask me. I will put some links in the show notes as I will also put links in the show notes for the joy rebellion. I hope that you go away and do this practice. I really, really, really do. Spend some time doing this and it might take you more than just half an hour. Scribbles on your journal. Keep coming back to it. Witness yourself over the course of the next week and determine when I'm feeling good, what values am I honoring? When you're not feeling so good, what values have been stepped on, what's making me feel uncomfortable, and why? It's a really, really powerful, powerful, powerful thing to know. And as we all know, the greatest power of all is joy. And joy stands for just on you. And just on you is knowing your values. And so we go full circle. A lovely, meaty educational podcast here for you today, everybody. I hope you've loved it. I've loved giving it. I'll see you next week. My mission is to spread love, joy, peace and abundance to as much of the world as I possibly can, so that every person knows that they don't have to walk alone in their darkness. So if you've enjoyed today's podcast and this episode, I would be so honoured and happy if you would support my mission and share this with your network, your friends and your family. Please feel free to leave me an honest review on Apple or Spotify. And until next time, remember, the ripple of joy starts with you.