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I know you're angry. It's Tuesday and it has no feel. The weekend was fun. You're still hungover from the eating and next weekend is too far away. What will you do with your day? It's time to get ticked off. Complain with your gripe. Right now your friend Uncle J Train is here to tell you that you're right. It's a ticked off Tuesday. Ticked off Tuesday. You're angry and you don't even know why. Enjoy this podcast. It'll help you get to Friday.
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Hello and welcome to the J Train Podcast. Is J Train Jared free coming along from Delray Beach, Florida? That's right, every Tuesday is a ticked off Tuesday. Are you mad? Are you angry? Is there something that's on your mind? Well, right into Ticked off Tuesday we will take any complaint. The promise here is that I will find a way to agree with your complaint. I will make you feel seen and heard. I will go along with you. I will sing the complaint duet. If you have a complaint. Jtrain Podcast gmail com if you want your complaint to be read like no questions asked, you need this. You got to hear someone agree with your complaint. Sign up for Patreon. They get first dibs. Patreon.com Jared Freed that gets you first dibs on ticked off Tuesday and Coffee with J Train which people seem to really enjoy, which is my personal diary. If you're listening to this right now, I, I, I've taped two weeks ago Coffee with J Train. It was all about my preparation for her for standup and being in someone else's apartment. It was I, I would say last week's which is two weeks ago now Coffee with J Train. I had a lot of fun with the beginning of it. The beginning of it is all about why I'm the type of house guest I am and kind of talking about my parents being bad hosts or not bad hosts. They're just not loving hosts. Some be I guess they're bad. If someone's good, then someone has to be bad. They, I went to my parents house and they were like we listen to Coffee with J Trade. I mean and I'm like was I wrong? And then they started laughing like they were I nailed it. You know. And it's hard to hear back about yourself like listen, I, I give my parents a lot of credit. They hear about themselves more than most parents have to hear about themselves from an angle that like isn't hateful. I'm just saying this is what's going down. And so if you want a little Piece of that. Sign up for patreon patreon.com Jared Freed. Five bucks a month. First dibs on TikTok Tuesday and the and coffee with J Train every Friday. So I love doing this show. I hope this show my, you know, my goal with ticked off Tuesday with all my podcasts. Put your brain on the shelf. Just take a minute away from your own thoughts and nightmares and screaming voices and deal with this screaming voice which talks a little, a lot about nothing. I'll get to my complaint. I get my complaint today is, is one that I hope, like, you know, I don't think too highly of like how much I could be helping someone. When someone says this podcast like helps my life, that really does feel good. The intention is to make you laugh. I guess that does help your life in some way, but. Or put a smile on your face. But it's not really. I mean this is all way more, you know, for me than it is to say, well, I, you know, I'm not like, not. I do this because I want to make a living doing this. So there's a good, you know, I don't, I don't like when someone tries to like, you know, make themselves out to be this hero. I will say today's complaint from me is something that I hope can help you in the future because I'm already my past self. I've dealt with this complaint before. I'm doing it again and it's helped me. Now let's. So we're gonna mix it up. I. I decided to mix it up. Do a little miu. Mix it up. I'll do your complaint first. We'll go. Your complaint, My complaint. Your complaint, my complaint. I got four listener complaints. We'll get right into it. I live with my boyfriend and he recently got surgery on his foot. My boyfriend's mom lives pretty close by to where we live and they have a good relationship but is not overly involved in our day to day lives. I like that's kind of the best situation. They do their thing, you do your thing. You come together when you have to and when you like to and then it's, you know, no, you know, but we're close enough to help one another out. That's kind of the nice family living situation. I like cooking and my boyfriend and I spend some time each weekend planning our meals for the week. One of my boyfriend's clients brought us dinner one night this week after his surgery. What a really nice move by the client, bringing dinner to someone in their time of like, distress. That was a big thing my mom would do. I think. I think if I'm remembering, it always seemed like a, Like a good way to. Yeah, well, yeah. We got dinner tonight. You stay door dad. And now with doordash, that's got to be, like, a lot easier gift to give. So we had factored that into our weekly meal plan. He let it slip to his mom that his client made us dinner and she got jealous and wanted to be involved. What is there to get jealous of? Is she jealous of the great meal you're having, or is it that the client did a nice thing for you? Because both jealousies might are annoying. You know, we didn't. My client didn't factor mom into their, you know, into their purchase. My complaint has two parts. First, she first brought. Okay, my complaint has two parts. She first brought us leftover fish she had made the night before because she doesn't like reheated fish. Yeah, well, if you don't like it, so don't we. I don't like reheated fish. I don't even like the phrase reheated fish. That disgusts me. So if you're going to refer to the food as something that disgusts me, food's probably not going to, like, have a good chance here. Okay, same. So why are you giving this to us? To eat. Right. That's an old Billy Crystal thing. It was from Forget Paris. I think the movie was, or it might have been a Billy Crystal bit that he put in the movie. It was like, taste this, see if it's bad. That, like, that was, like, a thing you would say or still is. Someone looks at you and goes, taste this, see if it's bad. And it's like, it was. I remember thinking of that. Same with this. I hate reheated fish. I brought it here for you. Well, why are you giving it to us? It was annoying, but fine. Since my boyfriend doesn't mind reheated fish. If you write reheated fish one more time, I am gonna go crazy. And he just ate it for lunch. One day. I reheated reheated fish for lunch. I'd break up with this guy. He then texted. He then texted me and said his mom dropped off a giant container of meat sauce. Every phrase in this email has been disgusting. And meat sauce. If it wasn't for the reheated fish, I wouldn't think of the meat sauce. I, I, it's all gross. And all we had. And all we had to do is make the pasta. This annoyed me for two reasons. This this email has many parts. My complaint has two parts. And then the second part is broken up into two part. Two reasons. One, I had already bought everything that we were going to make for dinner that night, so now I have to figure out what I'm gonna. What I'm going to use is it does so it doesn't go to waste. Two, if you're giving me a meal to eat that is supposed to make my life easier, why are you only giving me the sauce? Why wouldn't you just give us the fully prepared pasta and sauce that we just heat up? At least the sauce was decent. But a pasta and meat sauce meal definitely throws a wrench in a relatively healthy eating week. So let me just take a step back. It seems as though there were two options with the jealousy. So the mom got jealous that the client was treating her son, who got surgery better than her, so now she steps in with grosser meal options to compete with the client who gave you something nice and genuine and thoughtful. Yes. This is annoying. This. Mom, I don't want your trash. I don't want. And this is something I'm guilty of. I get a lot of podcast stuff sent to me, and sometimes it's too much for one person. So then I get invited to someone's house and I'm like, I'll just bring a bunch of mouthwash. I'm sure that is a little bit annoying to the family I'm bringing the mouthwash to. There's a way to play it in my mind now. You don't have to buy a mouthwash. In their mind. We have a mouthwash. We like, we don't need your garbage mouthwash. So I kind of understand that complaint that would be given back to me. I would understand the anger that this, you know, starts where you're like, okay, we had a whole plan for the week. Then suddenly, because of her emotional issues, her issues with feeling like she's not enough and feeling she doesn't and feeling like her son doesn't need her now turns into you guys eating a garbage meal, which, again, this is very annoying, especially when you like to eat. You look forward to your meals. You guys, this seems like a really nice and wonderful thing that you and your boyfriend do where you guys, like, team up and have this, like, very nice side venture of communication where you discuss meals and you debate and negotiate. This is all good stuff. Like, if I was a marriage counselor, I'd be like, hey, this. Like, you'd be the example to give to other marriages. Hey, let's have A Saturday. Like, let's do some team building activities. This is something. So your nice thing that you look forward to and like is now taken over by someone else's insecurities. That is annoying. Don't, don't put your reheated fish insecurities on us and this couple. We are trying to make it. We are trying to have a great life together. And this outside source that we have to deal with, the mom is just rattling her wrench in here to try and mess it up. Annoying. I think I got to all your complaints. It had parts and A's and B's and segments. But I, I, I, it is interesting. I, I guess her, the mom being jealous of the client doing the meal. You know, at first I was like, oh, it must be that they're jealous you're getting a meal. But it's actually way more depthy and, and tough when it's, they're jealous that they didn't do enough and it's their own insecurity. What are you gonna say to the mom? Like, you can't. When the mom brings reheated fish. The annoying part is you can't sit her down and go, you're a good mom. You don't need to do this. We're gonna be okay. The kids are all right. Jtrain podcastmail.com Jtrain podcastmail.com if you are in Milwaukee, Minneapolis or Chicago this weekend, I am coming. If you're in Charlotte or Durham, I am coming. If you're in Fort Lauderdale or Miami, I am coming. Those are my upcoming dates. They are coming fast and furious. I'm sitting here on October 28th thinking, oh, God, I got time to promote these. I don't have time to promote these. I need you to buy a ticket. I need you to tell a friend. I need you to assemble the group chat. The show is great. I am more confident than I was a week ago. If you go back and listen to coffee with J Train, the DC show injected just fun and positivity into my veins. It felt like I was shooting up rainbows and happiness. So go, go, go. Jaredfree.com for tickets. Here's my complaint. Tipping technology seems to have gotten better in some places where we might have not needed it and not evolved in places where it is needed and necessary. Let me explain. You go to the barista, they flip over the iPad, they go, 10, 15, 20% tip. Okay? We have all had our varying complaints about that, about how 10, 15, 20, how they're doing, like, 20, 22, 25, you know, they're changing the percentages. I've heard all those complaints. Those complaints are valid. And I am generally, when it comes to the coffee and the barista, a tipper. Now, I will say that technology wasn't really necessary. We were signing a slip and putting down whatever amount we wanted. We. They did have a tip jar. You are using cash and money at. You. You went to this place, like, assuming you would bring cash and money. No, you went to a coffee shop assuming money was to be spent. And when money is to be spent, you're prepared to tip on that money. This past weekend, I went and played golf at PGA National. This is a huge, like, golf resort. I was invited by a friend of mine. He's like, I'm here on a guy's weekend. Come meet up and I'll get into this on coffee with J Train, which is probably out already. I'll tell. This will be part of, like, the week of stories that I tell. And on the way, you know, they had valet and they had. And you would say. I guess you would say the feedback here would be, you do expect to spend money at a golf course. But here's the thing. When it comes to valet, so I get the valet and they. And they grab my golf bag. You don't really think of the cat. I just don't think when it comes to valet or it comes to, like, you know, when you go to the option of valet or not, we're not sitting here with cash flush. And a guy goes to grab my car. I give my card for the car, and then another guy grabs my golf bag. And now I'm in this position where the car gets parked in front of me. The guy with the golf bag brings it to the back. I got two guys and one 10. Now I'm in this position. I want to, like, rip the 10 in half and give them, like, I want to, like, King Solomon this. Rip the 10 and a half. Give them each, you know, half a $10 bill. I don't have two fives, so I have to, like, trust. And this kind of goes into the unfair nature of the world. I saw a few weeks ago, Jeremy Jacobitz, who has been on this podcast, brunch Boys, he got accused of not tipping well. And it's like, all you have to do is say that. And we just believe it. They were like, I've heard he hasn't. He doesn't tip well. And I was like, that's a really annoying thing because. And he was trying to argue against it and call the person Out. And I understood why they were so. Why Jeremy was so annoyed at this, because I would be annoyed too, because all it takes is one person to say I've heard and then gone. Done. That is the truth, especially on the Internet. And if someone doesn't like you, I've heard it too. That's. That's all you have to say. So I have to trust that because to me, five bucks to grab the car, which was like literally five feet away, and five bucks to, you know, get my clubs and put them, you know, in the trunk. I think that's fair as far as a acknowledgement of deed, being of work being done. So now I give the guy who got the car because he's right in front of me. I give him the 10, hoping this goes into a pool of money that gets split amongst the group. That's my hope. My fear is a dozen. And Now I've given one guy 10 and one guy nothing. Here's my point. Why aren't people in jobs that I want to tip? I want to tip these people. Why aren't they wearing a QR code? Why isn't there a tap situation? How hasn't the app been created where we have made this tipping thing? Like, honestly, when you go to a bar and you can tap your phone, I don't understand how there hasn't been like a Mark Cuban shark tank version of that for tippic. How it hasn't happened where you can wear your Apple watch and maybe someone's going, well, you can do it. It does exist. Here's the tip app. Maybe it exists and we have the technology. It just hasn't made it yet. And I think because at the barista, I don't think the iPad was, like, needed. It's fine. It's there. We were tipping or not. And I'm sure we're tipping more now that the iPad is there when it comes to, like, valet and, you know, bag stuff and the guy who comes, who brings your bag to the room and you're like, oh, do I have any cash? I'm sorry. I should just be able to like, hit 3 bucks, 5 bucks, 10 bucks on. On an app and just tap and go. And I guess it would be annoying to tap a human, like, I don't know, wearing a QR code. How. Okay, we'd be with that or with the look of it. But also, if I'm getting money, I wouldn't mind. Jtrain podcastmail.com Jtrain podcastmail.com that's my one of three complaints or four complaints Nutrafol if you're dealing with hair issues like thinning or shedding but feeling stuck on what to try next, check out Nutrafol. Nutrafil is the number one dermatologist recommended hair growth supplement brand trusted by over 1.5 million people. You can feel great about what you're putting in your body. Since Neutrophil hair growth supplements are backed by peer reviewed studies and nsf. NSF Content Certified, the gold standard in third party certifications for supplements. 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The next day when we pulled the turkey bacon slices, they literally were as thin thin as single ply toilet paper. Yeah, that's annoying. I don't like that at all. Now I'm forced to cook more slices of single ply toilet paper like turkey bacon instead of having a normal serving. P.S. not for my tush or my plate. This is, this is a problem. This is a real issue. I don't like how bacon, and I've talked about it here before, how bacon is packaged. It seems like there is a grift going on. I don't know what it is. I don't know why there isn't the resealable package. The fact that you're being family size, but they just cut it thinner is like one of those that you go, is this that worth it to you as a company? Do you? Because I'm going to not get that brand anymore. And then when you say it's the only option, you go, okay, maybe this company has some sort of monopoly where it is not in their best interest to give you a thicker cut. It is actually what they should be doing, a thinner cut. And I don't like when they give you a thinner cut and they go, oh, it's 30% less fat. No, it's 30% less bacon. So I do think we need national standards when it comes to the thickness of a bacon cut. I only want my turkey thin cut. But I, I've always been one. I mean, this brings me back to when I was like getting at the deli counter, you know, a pound of turkey and the cut was so you. When it comes to a cut that's not packaged, when it's right, when you can check it, I want one that I can pull off easily, but it's not so thick that it's half of my pound. And here's where I agree with you and this is where the complaint takes me. There is really no good description of a medium cut. I want thick cut bacon. I want thin cut bacon, medium cut. There's a lot lost in translation. It's just not happening. And that's the real problem here is if it's going to say family size, thin cut. But it doesn't even say that. It just says family size. Because they're giving you many of the strips of bacon, which is not many, when it's thin cut, huge issue. Jtrain podcastmail.com Jtrain podcastmail.com this brings me to a couple complaints that I have. Here I am in a, I would call the place I'm staying at right now like an airbnb situation there. Seemingly, the house seemingly was built that I Am in light switches first. It is as if they built because there is no rhyme or reason to how the light switches are placed in this home. And when I wake up in the morning, I am fully in the dark. I can't see a thing. I wake up at six to try and go to the gym. Here I go. I like try to make it to the bathroom and then I shut the lights off in the bathroom and now I'm in the dark again and I have to try and get to the closet where there's another light switch that only goes to the closet. So I'm basically like going from island to island with my eyes closed. And then you get to the kitchen. The lights to the kitchen are in the middle of the home. Not. There's no. I just think the light switch set up. And it brings me to my real complaint is that I'm buying a home and I'm going to be living in Delray Beach. I'm going to make this my base. I'm really excited. The home is beautiful. It is a condo. And I'm right now thinking, oh, no, I didn't really check where the light switches are and how those work because this has annoyed me. Like, I will have to make a change to the apartment if the light switches are no good. I think we live in a day and age where there should be an all on, all off switch at the door. If that doesn't exist in the new place, I'm going to be upset. I'm going to need it done. And this brings me to the next complaint, which isn't about light switches, which is just the house buying process. And this is what I kind of referenced in the beginning of the show. I hope this helps you. You feel so stupid at every point in buying a house and everyone talks to you when it's not their purchase, as if they've gone to house buying school and they aced every exam. Everyone has something to say. Everyone acts like you don't know. They ask questions. And every day, every minute is a pop quiz. And you feel so stupid. And you know what you feel? You feel like you don't care about your money. Someone will go, well, did you get the light switches that go next to the bed? And you're like, I didn't even think of that. And they're like, how could you not think of that? And you're like, I just didn't. My day isn't spent thinking about where the light switches are. This is something. And it makes you feel like you didn't make this decision, right? And the person asking you the question is just happy to be asking and seeing you don't know, because they're happy with themselves that they didn't know. And there's so many people I deal with, and it's like everyone, the realtor, down to the broker, down to the lawyer, and they're all nice people, and I'm happy to work with them, and they've done a great job. But there are moments along the way where they're like, so what do you know about the, you know, the, the air ducks? And you're like, I don't know anything about the air ducts. And they're like, well, the air ducts you know you're gonna want to have. And it's like, I. And I've been doing this. I'm happy that I had the experience of buying my first condo, to know that this is all normal. And I'm telling you right now, if and when you buy a home, you will feel stupid, you will feel be, and you will be made to feel stupid. Made to feel that you aren't caring enough, that you haven't been thoughtful enough. But I'm telling you right now, you're fine. You shouldn't know these things you have hired. There are people being paid to do these things, and they're getting paid. And the reason that you probably don't feel like you're in control as much is because they're paid via closing costs, and a lot of the payment isn't coming from your pocket. You're not like, literally, like, handing the person a 20 who's helping you with the real. The broker. It happens at the end, and you're like, everyone's getting paid, and it's even kind of without you even knowing. So you don't feel equipped enough to be like, this ain't my job. And that's where I feel it. And I'm like, you know, there's points where it's like, have you got. And it's like, I always say to these people, I'm like, give me a list of things I need to do. Just give me a list. If I don't have a list, I don't know any of the answers to your question. Give me a list and then I can do it. And it's. And it's driven me. I'm, I'm. I'm. I'm in a mood because of the house buying process, but less of a mood that I was. I remember the last time I bought it was I just Hated every moment. And now I just kind of hate every moment. But I've. I do feel more empowered to say, give me a list, I'll find out the answers. But don't ask me things on the fly. Jtrain podcastmail.com Jtrain podcastmail.com Here's a listener complaint. Dear Jared, hope you're well. Thank you. This is not from Patreon. So we're getting to the mailbox. So we do get to the mailbox. My complaint is that people are idiots when it comes to being aware of their surroundings in public. I live in a mid sized city of about 600,000. I can't stand it when people walk slow in the middle of the sidewalk, glued to their phones and don't notice when you say, excuse me, it's not just annoying, it's dangerous. Look what you're doing. Look where you're going. You almost ran into me. And that text wasn't so important. We need sidewalks to evolve with phone technology. We have to acknowledge and listen. I'm with you. When I'm stuck behind someone, text. When I'm stuck behind someone who's distracted, I'm annoyed. When I am the one texting or distracted, I'm annoyed that someone would want to pass me. So I hear your complaint. I agree with it. But we have to acknowledge this is the world within we live. This is the world that we have and we have to deal with it. It's raining out. Bring your umbrella. That's my saying with stuff like this, because you're not going to change this. And when you complain about everyone's distracted, everyone's on their phone. Can't you look up for two seconds? You sound like an elitist, which you're not looking to do because there's no solve to that issue. You don't have a solution. I do. I do have a solution that acknowledges people are on their phone, people are distracted, we need a fix. If you sit there and go, everyone's so distracted, you're kind of saying, I'm not one of these losers who needs to be on their phone. I'm one of these good people. It's a morality scream. So here's my answer. Every sidewalk should have a line in the middle like it does on the moving sidewalk. The moving sidewalk has the stand on the right, walk on the left. Every sidewalk across the country should have a line in the middle. Distracted on the right, walk on the left. That should be it. Cell phone lane, walking lane. We should do that with every sidewalk in the country. Now it's fixed. And listen, you know the miserable response to my I'm giving ideas. I'm an idea guy, okay? The most miserable person in the room will scream back at me. That will never work. People are standing in the middle of the moving sidewalk. People still will be distracted. They won't look. Well, I don't care. How about we try first and let's say it helps by 10%. This idea of like, well, it doesn't work for everyone. Nothing is going to work for everyone. I don't know what world you live in. That problem solved. Everyone's on board. This will help enough for us walkers, the not distracted to say, excuse me. And then most people will look down, they'll see the line, oh, I'm sorry, I'm in the walking lane. I should be in the cell phone lane. They'll changes will be made. It will take time. This ain't going to happen on your schedule, but it's going to happen if we get the lines we need. Phone distracted lane, walking lane. Every sidewalk, Every sidewalk in the country. Jtrain podcast.com jtrain podcastmail.com here's my last complaint. Amex offers. I am an Amex guy. I use an Amex card, American Express, fine, I'm not like team Amex. I'm not like waving their flag. But I use an Amex every month or whatever. I get an email with Amex offers. That email is the most confusing email. And then I'll have friends that are like, oh, I got it with amex. Oh, why do I have to opt into the offers? Why don't you just give them to me and make it easy for me to see what I have so that I can use them. I'm sick of this treasure hunt with all these credit cards. And Delta does this too with their benefits. They make you sign in, give them to me, I earn them, and then I will decide what to do with them and make it easy. Is that like, what a weird grift to say, hey, get our credit card, you can get cash back. You get Ubers, 100 bucks a month. And then to go if you can find them. No, give them to me. Make it easy to find. Make it easy to know what I have. I should get a menu. Here's what you have every month. One card, one laminated menu. Here's your stuff this month. And listen, I don't like they give you so much or they claim to give you so much that you do nothing at all. It would be a full time job for me to use and know What I'm using from amex, these AMEX offers. I think it's a lot of offers that equal no offers. It's the biggest grift in the world. It bothers me to death. Last one, Jared Feather. Feather. Big fan, first time writer. Thank you. Here's my issue. I'm what you might call social media adjacent. I post occasionally, usually when something significant happens, but I'm not living in my stories or chronically. I'm sorry, I got a little, little frog in my throat. I post. Okay. So I'm what you would call. I'm what you might call social media adjacent. I post occasionally, usually when something significant happens, but I'm not living in my stories or chronicling my lunch. I would say most people are kind of doing what you're doing. I don't mean to, like, come back at you. This whole thing of, like all these people chronicling their lunch. Yeah. I'm sure people take a picture of their lunch every now and again. I'm sure it's from a restaurant where they're like, this was better than the average PB and J. I think these are things people say to make themselves feel better. They're. These are straw men. Like, I'm posting on social media a lot and it's part of my work and it's to get the word out about what I'm doing here. The. I, I think what you've done is created a subcategory to make sure people don't think that you're some sort of social media loser. I would think you're. To me, you're social media normal. Posting occasionally when something significant happens. You. You watch your stories every now and again. And you, and, and you only post something if it's a big deal. I, I think that's a normal, everyday social media user. Meanwhile, some of my close friends are very online, like ring light link and bio online. Well, are they making money? Is this an attempt at a business? For a few. It's become their career. Okay. And I genuinely want to support them. Great. But lately it feels like if I don't watch every story, like every reel and comment something, fire emoji adjacent on every post, I'm a bad friend. Have they said that to you? Then there's the fact that my job isn't on social media. It's not like they're stopping by my office to be like, wow, that spreadsheet inspirational. I'm not expecting a standing ovation, but, hey, how's your work going? Once in a while would be Nice. Signed. Caught between likes and loyalty. It is funny, the thing social media has done to our brain. It is one of those things. And listen, I'm guilty of it as well. I hear you and I hear myself, so I'm with you. To me, the complaint isn't as much about your friends. Listen, if your friend has come up to you and been like, hey, I haven't really been feeling the support lately, I, I would like a few likes and fire emojis every now and again. You know, I'm starting a business. I, if they've done that, that's truly annoying. I would just tell them that they've put too much weight on this and they're seeing things that aren't there. Now. If you're seeing their stuff and you're going, they're posting to the point where you're going, enough already. I find no value in this. And a heart emoji would be annoying to me. And you're saying, well, if I don't hear from, I don't know. I do understand. I think the tone is taken out of it in a way where we, our own thoughts go wandering and then we end up in a dark corner and we're annoyed. And I, I, I'm here to tell you you're doing great. You don't need to, like, I, I think this, I think the idea that you're social media adjacent because they're heavily online. I mean, if they're heavily online to start a business, what they want is, I would say as someone who was post online for work and to get the word out, it would be my greatest pleasure to like, not have to post links and ticket stuff and, and, but you have to remind people, like all the, all the social, like, I would love to like, evolve out of that. That's why it's always like, weird to me. Like, when you see Gwyneth Paltrow put up a food cooking video, I'm like, why? Why? But, but she must like it if she was to put up like Lincoln bio to buy my cookware. I guess she, you know, if she started a business, I mean, there is investment. So I do, I get that too. So I, I'm wrestling with it. I do think your complaint is valid as far as when you're seeing, like, I think your complaint is more towards the, the, what these social media programs do to our brain. They make you feel like there's a ghost that's not there. They make you feel like there's evil people and people talking about you and it's not really that. It's not that big a deal. They make you feel like, well, if I don't like my friend's post, they're going to notice. I have had. I have had people. You know, I. I had a friend, they messaged me right after I went on a podcast, and the podcast did, like, a collaborative post, and I had a friend who, you know, message me. I didn't know you were going to be on that podcast. And it's like, I'm like, well, you have me muted, obviously. Like, I. I don't need. Like, I, Like, I'm annoyed on the reverse end of that, you know, like, on the. On the other side of where you're complaining, which I understand your complaint, my annoyance is like, if you're gonna mute, like, let's just be muted. Like. Like, I'm not stupid. You're not stupid. We're all. Both were the same. Like, And. And I was like this person. Like, you know, I'm like, oh, they obviously muted me. They're. They're messaging me three seconds after this post went up, and I'm sitting there watching every one of their stories. So I do get weird. Yeah, I'm with you now. I've come all the way around. I don't. Like when I'm watching all of someone's stories, then all of a sudden, and they're a friend of mine, and I'm like, what am I doing here? Like, I am doing a thing, you know, like, so. I don't know. I guess I'm. Listen, I said to you in the beginning of this email, you are me. I get it. I think we all. The part that annoys me and the part that I'm sure annoys you is we are creating ghosts and arguments that aren't there. And I would say to you, I. I'm sure maybe you hear this response, and you're like, yeah, this is a lot of me going an extra step when it doesn't have to be. Why would I even think this? If I took a day off of it, I'd be sitting here and, you know, in my own happy naivete, which is like, you know, I'm kind of envy at this point. All right, ticked off Tuesday, every Tuesday. Make it your story. Annoy your friends, Boom.