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Changing Our Language For The Dumbest People, Mother's Day, and A Mother's PRE-K Nightmare - TICKED OFF TUESDAY
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I know you're angry. It's Tuesday and it has no feel. The weekend was fun. You're still hungover from the eating and next weekend is too far away. What will you do with your day? It's time to get ticked off. Complain with your gripe. Right now, your friend Uncle J Train is here to tell you that you're right. It's a ticked off Tuesday. Ticked off Tuesday. You're angry and you don't even know why. Enjoy this podcast. It'll help you get to Friday.
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Hello and welcome to the J Train Podcast. This is J Train Jared Freed coming to you live from Delray Beach, Florida. That's right, every Tuesday is a ticked off Tuesday. Are you angry? Are you upset with something? Email us jtrain podcast gmail.com j train podcast@gmail.com. any complaint you'd like. This is the home of complaining, where you can feel comfortable, comfy, cozy. Get in here, complain about anything you'd like and no one can say to you, no, there's bigger problems. Oh, well, what about this? No, no, no, no, no, no, no. You have a problem, send it here. Now. Here's the way this show works. If you want your complaint to be ready, guaranteed, you gotta sign up for the Patreon. That's the way it works. You gotta pay to get to the front of the line. This is the fast pass. It's like going to Disney World. There's a, there's two lines. There's the regular line, jtrain podcast, gmail.com and then there's the Patreon line. You pay five bucks a month, you get an extra. Not extra, you get the Friday episode. You fill out the week. Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, J Train is there for you. If you pay for the Patreon and you get coffee with J Train every Friday, coffee with J Train this week or the most recent one is going to deal with being at the Netflix is a joke festival. I probably haven't taped it yet, but I will probably be talking about the Roast of Kevin Hart on last week's Pop Culture Thursday because that was something that was sent into the show. I saw that email already. You can email for Pop Culture Thursday if you have something that you want discussed. So I, I have a thought. I have thoughts, opinions, the roast. Netflix is a joke festival, which I was very excited to be a part of. I'm excited. I, I, I am part of the Netflix family. I had a special on there, 37 and single that you can watch on my YouTube right now. I have another Special coming to Netflix. The, the, you know, the, the contract's been signed called the family plan, which will be coming out. That's not an announcement. There will be other announcements. But, you know, you guys are like, you guys are the OK piece, the original key players. This is a, this is a close group. I mean, we are small, but we are mighty. The J Train podcast is always looking to grow. Tell a friend if there's a complaint here that you talked about with a friend already, that's a great way to like introduce them to the show. And that, and that means a lot to me. That means a lot to me. We do have two sponsors, so, you know, we do it. This is a revenue producing show, but it's also kept afloat by the Patreon. So five bucks a month gets you to the top of the pile. My complaint, I kind of have two complaints and one of them is a little bit of a continuation of what will be or what has been discussed on Pop Culture Thursday about the roast. I, I, I am, I've already thought of my opinion on the roast. It's going to be a long take. That again. I'm, I'm talking about something I haven't taped yet but now is already taped. I taped these, you know, it's can, it's confusing to me. I hope it's not to you. I guess my complaint is there's a video that I watched on TikTok and that, that the way I just said that sentence should tell you that I am 41 years old. A video that I watched on Tik Tok. I watched a Tik Tok and it was Michael Simon, the chef from Food Network. He middle America guy, cool guy, tatted up. We can play the video. I'm, I'm, I'm, I sent the, the clip to V. And he's making a specific type of egg and he's making this egg and in a way that I have not seen before. And he says, this is my favorite way to make eggs. And then he presses again what he says once again, this is my. And he points to his chest my favorite way to make eggs. And I saw that and I was like, why is he so adamant about telling people that this is something he likes? Almost holding someone's hand to communicate that not everyone has to make eggs this way. This is not how I make eggs. On every occasion. It was this apology, this stiff farm he was doing that we're all kind of doing now. And then he makes the eggs and it's a lot of oil in a pan and he basically kind of shallow fries an egg. It looks delicious. He does it with expertise. It's, it's, it's, it's evident he's done this before and he does a great job. He puts it on a really delicious looking piece of bread and then we move on. It is frustrating to me, Michael Simon, an expert chef with years of TV training, and that's part of what he's doing. It is frustrating to me that we are now changing our language for the dumbest and most emotionally affected viewer. Because what Michael Simon's doing, and he's not saying it, but I know he's doing it, he is getting in front of the commenters, the people who are going to say, that's too much oil. You don't make an egg that way. He's trying to protect his credibility, which he doesn't need to do. There's even a comment, I'll show it right here. Too much oil for one egg. That is not a comment that is worth even acknowledging. That is the dumbest comment. He did not say this is the best way to make eggs. He did not say this is the only way to make eggs. He said, here's a way that I make eggs that I really enjoy that you might enjoy too. That is the premise of this video. This is a way. My grandpa, my nonna used to make eggs. And I really think you on a Sunday. We are watching the eradication of creativity because it doesn't fit the worldview of the dumbest person on earth. The person commenting too much oil for one egg is amongst us. They are a voter. They are an idiot. They are actually the problem. They have no idea they're the problem. And 28 people have liked their comment. So there's 29 of these monsters who are actually against creativity. Because what it does is it has Michael Simon starting his video with this defense. This, this is how I like eggs. Once again, for an idiot. He's saying, once again, not for you or me who watches a video and goes, wow, that's a cool way to make eggs. Maybe I'll try that. He's saying it for someone who will scream from the rooftops. This from the, from the height of morality that that's too much oil. Because that's an easy thing to say. And no one screams back at them. You are a stupid idiot who is against creativity, who is against a new way to make an egg or an old way to make an egg that could be added to your repertoire. J train podcast@gmail.com J train podcast@gmail.com. my second complaint before we get to it. Lola Blankets. This is the best couch blanket I've ever had. I put it over my head. No, I wasn't trying to like you know, end it all. I put it over my head. My dad sleeps this way. My buddy the baby takes a nap this way. I'm familiar with, there's some people that take a blanket and put it over their eyes. This blanket, it, you can't see through it. It is darkness on another level. So Lola blankets are perfect for anyone, any space, anytime. They look great. And again if you are someone who puts the blanket over your eyes during a nap, this is, this is the only blanket for you. Crafted with ultra soft luxury faux fur and a signature four way stretch, it is mom approved. My mom reacted as if I was knighted by the king. Like this was to to have Lola Blankets as a sponsor. She was taken aback. Is is the only way to describe it. Lola has over 20,000 five star reviews. I'm sure some of those are moms. There's a reason it's called the the world's number one blanket. For a limited time, J Train Fans can get 40% off select Lola blanket products with Code Feather. Feather Feather Feather. Code Feather at checkout. Just head to Lola blankets.com use code feather to get 40% off your purchase. After your order they're going to ask you where you heard about them. Support the show and tell them J Train sent you. Wrap yourself in luxury with Lola Blankets. That is a, that's a top tier sponsor. My other complaint and if you're, if you're in Austin, Cleveland, Hamptons, Miami, Red Bank, New Jersey, Foxwoods, Portland, Maine. I'm coming to do shows. I'm doing standup. The book tour rolls on the book tour. New York, Boston, Philly, D.C. chicago, Denver. I'm holding it in my hand, walking Red flag. The feedback already has been amazing. You know, I, I, I take a lot of pride in the stuff I put out there. Whether it be stand up, this podcast or the book. The book is something I'm very proud of. I did it with the right people. Simon and Schuster. I mean the idea that I have a book with Simon and Schuster is crazy to me. It is such a compliment. They approached me. I, I worked with a ghostwriter that is unbelievable at Taylor Phillips, Taylor K. Phillips, who is just wonderful and hilarious and you know, this is a book from a straight man giving you a vulnerable perspective on dating that was purposely put through the eyes of a lot of Women to. To make sure that it connected in the way I wanted it to connect. So what I would love for you to do is to pre order the book. It would be really. I would love that. So my other complaint is I just had a. So I have. I'm in this apartment. Emily, my girlfriend, is moving in. She's going to move in around August, I think. We're going to do a road trip that brings all her stuff down from Philly. I'm very excited for it. The bed that. That we have is from the owner that I purchased the apartment from, but they never used it. The bed, all the furniture here was kind of left here, most of it. I have some other things that I've gotten over time, but most of the furniture was left here as if it was like a show space. So, like, it was, like, kind of built to move. They wanted to. I think someone bought it to sell it. So there were no TVs on the wall, but there was, like, paintings up and they. I ended up acquiring all the stuff in the apartment. The bed had a mattress on it. That was great. It had a bed frame that was beautiful. And over time, the bed started sinking and folding because the slats underneath were weak. So we had to order a. Like, basically a piece of wood to put under the mattress because my back was starting to hurt from me sleeping on an angle. You're wondering, Jared, how do you let it go on so long that you're sleeping at an angle? Well, let me introduce myself. I'm Jared Freed, and I am a lazy piece of. So this is kind of. This is very much friends and family, and maybe some of you would know this is very much in my. My repertoire. And it. It is a part of my. Who I am. The. I'll get to it nature. I know I put out a lot of stuff, and, you know, maybe some of you were. I've gotten a lot of feedback from the listeners. Oh, you. You hustle. Well, I. I'm good at this. I'm bad at that. So Emily, who's really good at getting done, she's like, we're ordering. Well. She also has to sleep on the bed, but she's on the good side of the bed. The. You know, she's on the. The high side. So she goes to City Furniture and she orders this. This mattress. There's a name for it. It's just like a wooden plank to keep it stiff. But we were going to have the bed. So she orders it, and they're going to deliver it today. They delivered It. And she's like, well, what we're going to do is we're going to take the mattress from the guest room, we'll put it into the main room, and then we'll switch the main room mattress to the guest room to see if it all. You know, to see so you don't have to sleep on the mattress that might be bent. And she goes, I discussed it with city Furniture. They're going to bring the ma. They're going to bring the mattress slab. They're going to switch the mattresses for us. They're doing everything. You just got to direct traffic. So I go, great. I go down to meet the guys, they come up with the wooden slab, they bring it upstairs. I said, hey, all we got to do is take this mattress, put it in the other room, take that mattress, bring it in here, and we're done. They go, whoa, whoa, whoa. We cannot move a mattress that's not delivered by city furniture. They go, did you buy this at city Furniture? I don't know where it was bought. I'm going to assume no. I said, no, I don't know. They go, well, we can't move it, because if we move that mattress to the other room and we scratch a wall, if we break something, we are held accountable. And I just don't want to get. Go down that road. And the response from him is understandable, but we were told over the phone that this is white glove service, and they can do anything you'd like. Move a mattress, move a slab, whatever it was. So we've already gotten the wrong information from City Furniture. And then this information from the person who would be blamed if they broke something and I complained is really the person I have to listen to, which I. I listen. If he's lying to me and he's just like, I don't want to do the work. I. I was tipping them. I'm doing all the right stuff. If that guy just doesn't want to do that, that's okay, fine. He lied to me. I can be lied to. My issue is the basis of this response. For this to be a response that means. And again, this complaint goes deep. That means someone asked the city furniture people to move something for them that they didn't deliver. And then that person did them a favor and moved that furniture so that they could put the other furniture in the place that the person wanted it. And then along the way, they scratched a wall or they broke something. And the person who asked for the favor from the city Furniture people then yelled at City Furniture because their house was ruined by a favor that was being done for them at their request. That's who I'm mad at. I'm mad that someone ruined it for everyone. That these people could feel like, hey, I might get in trouble if I move something for you and it scratches a wall. Because some other asshole who knew they were asking these people to do more than the job maybe was called for, then sued City Furniture or asked for money or said that it's their fault and got someone in trouble. So I'm way down the river on this one, but I'm like, angry at the idea that this is something they have to protect themselves over. And this is the nature of people who sue. You know, when you're in school and you're in college, there's a. I don't know what class this was in, but you can sue for anything. There's no rules against what you can and cannot sue for. The person who has a scratch on their wall from the City Furniture guy that they asked for a favor, who then sues is a piece of shit. Jtrain podcast gmail.com jtrain podcastmail.com this episode is sponsored by Rula. If you're looking for therapy, Rula is here to help. Rula's online therapy platform accepts most major insurance plans. The average copay is only $15 a session. Here's what I like about Rula. They saw that online therapy was a thing and people were getting licensed therapists for a lower cost. And then they saw that some of those people weren't using their insurance that has coverage for this. So Rula is making sure that your insurance can be used that you're already paying for to cover for a therapist that might be helpful and beneficial to your life. What an amazing thing. Rula has a network of over 15,000 therapists. If you don't like your first match, switching therapists couldn't be easier. So thousands of people are already using Rula to get affordable, high quality therapy that's actually covered by Insurance. Visit rula.comjtrain to get started. That's R U L A.comJ T R A I N. You deserve. You deserve mental health care that works with you, not against your budget. So that's amazing. I think that's a very high quality service. You might be using online therapy, but you're not using your insurance. Let Rula help you out. Okay, let's do some listener complaints again. Sign up for the Patreon. You'll get my feelings on. Netflix's a Joke festival. I'm going to tell the whole story. It's going to be if you, if you go to the Patreon it's going to be a name droppy episode. I A lot of celebrity moments. Okay. Listener complaints. Jared, love you so much. Thanks for all the laughs. My ticked off Tuesday is that everyone they write in all caps and their mother asked for a review. Nowadays I, I could not agree more. I just there's I get an email and I get it. I, I just wish the review process wouldn't they ask for a review. Like first of all a lot of it is Google reviews and your name is like attached to that and I, I'm not looking to give a negative review but like I, I just, I don't know. I don't like that my Google just like comes up for everything. I, I just don't. I would love to give a. And and also when I give a review it's usually like loved it. Amazing. I don't know. It feels like a homework assignment for something that I paid for. Most recent examples is a massage I got. After a stressful month of studying for a nursing board exam, I received a text. Hi, this is Blank, the owner of Blank Therapeutic Massage. Thank you for your recent visit. I am reaching out for honest feedback about your session with Blank. What was your favorite part of your session? My favorite part was that I was getting a massage that I had someone rubbing my body and I could afford it. That was my favorite part. And is there any way your therapist could have improved your experience? Your insight helps us continue delivering the best care possible. You can reply directly to this text. I sincerely appreciate any information that you can provide. Yeah I this is annoying on a lot of levels. One, I do like that they're asking you to text. You can text them back directly which like that makes it easier. You don't have to sign into an account or create a profile. I will say that I don't want to tell on the massage therapist. I don't want to be the reason anyone loses their job in any capacity. I don't want to be someone's like villain origin story. So then the emailer writes so now you want me to spend my time crafting a thoughtful reply. I can't even choose five stars like in a standard Google review. Yeah we again I don't want to sign into Google but I don't want to text you directly because I want to do the five stars. It's a mess. I'm annoyed. Lol. Thanks again for all you do to help us put our brain on the shelf. Well, thank you for sending this in the. You're right. The reviews have gotten out of hand. I want to review the minute I'm leaving. Maybe the. Here. How about the review the next time you come in? Hey, you were here before. I just don't, I don't think we've, I think with reviews and with, we're catching people at the wrong time. It never seems like the right time for me to do a review. They need to figure this out too. Not us. I go to the lab. The, the, the gym here in Delray. I love the lab. I went to the class this morning. I went yesterday morning. I, I, I truly love this gym. They're moving location soon, but after I leave the class, the first email I get is, do you want to review the class? And it's like, how about on a Sunday when I'm sitting around and it's like a. Hey, just checking in. You went to the lab three times this week. Anything nice to say? Anything nice to say would be great. That's great. I, I just like, that's all. Like anything nice. Anything nice to say on a Sunday? All review emails should come to us on Sundays. Hey, you went to the spa this week. Anything nice to say about the massage? And how about anything nice to say? This person. I guess they did say, what is your favorite part of your session? Is there any way the therapist could have improved your experience? I used to take Barry's classes in Chelsea. Still do whenever I go back. And there was a guy who's a very good teacher at Barry's. He's also a very difficult teacher. And I have gone to him maybe for like a decade at Barry's boot Camp. And this guy at the end of his classes, he's like, please review and remember I read the reviews and you do have like a moment. He's definitely gotten reviews that are like super specific and angry because he's a hard teacher. But that's not a reason to give a bad review. A hard teacher. The class was too difficult. Loser. You. That's a loser review. You're in a boot. It's called Boot Camp J Train podcast at gmail dot com. Here's another Patreon subscriber ticked off Tuesday. Jared. Love all your stuff. Look forward to the special. That said, I'm fucking furious, okay? I had to drop my 4 year old son off at preschool late this morning as he had a doctor's appointment ahead of this upcoming. As he had a doctor's appointment ahead of his upcoming surgery. When I got to the preschool, I was instructed to bring him to pre. Pre. I'm sorry, my reading is off. When I got to the preschool, I was instructed to bring him to pre K graduation practice. All good, right? Wrong. My son is not graduating as he has a late birthday and we're holding him back from kindergarten until fall 27. I had asked the owner and managers of the school to move him to a different class while practice is happening, which they agreed to. So now I have to be the huge asshole on teachers appreciation week because he has been going to practice this whole time. As his teacher said, oy, this is a big mistake. I give this school 30,000 a year, volunteer, give extra money for activities. Can you just do what I fucking ask? Also, I get having your kid face a little adversity, but this is mean. Sorry for the long post. I'm really mad. No, this is a really tough thing. So. So the way I understand it is your son is in pre K and they're doing a pre K graduation and they're having practice for it. And you've already established that he is going to be doing another year of pre K so that he can start at a, you know, in fall 27 with kindergarten. So. Which is something that I would feel not. I don't know, but I would understand that a pre K, you can't sit down with little Bobby and go, hey, you know, you're an early birthday and. Or you have a late birthday and we read Malcolm Gladwell's book and if we get you in for fall 27, you're gonna be bigger, stronger, faster than all the other fucking losers in your kindergarten class. And until you graduate high school, like, it's actually like, statistically proven that people with late birthdays, you know, they, they should be held back one year. And I know this is like annoying now and you'll get it later. Like, little Bobby in pre K is gonna go, what? What? What are you talking about? I want to hang out with my friends. I just made. I got to make all new friends next year. Everyone's graduating but me. You know, he's not going to understand that and he's going to be upset. So now he's going to this pre K graduation. They're being told, you guys, you're. This is, this is your stars of the show. It's senior year and all these kids are like, oh my God, we're graduating. Oh my God, I'm going to wear my hat. We're going to go drinking afterwards. All these little kids. Oh, man, I can't wait for kindergarten. Look at world. We're all gonna stay best friends forever. And your kid, little Bobby's in that group. Like, yeah. Oh, my God. I didn't even know I was graduating. This is great. And now you have to go to little Bobby and explain this to a person that can't understand it. This is bullshit. They fucked up big and now they're gonna go, oh, our bad. And then send little Bobby home to you. Explain why he's going to lose all his friends next year and he's going to make all new friends. That sucks. If I'm the. I mean. So I guess he's been going to this practice and you only found out because he had a doctor's appointment and he's got surgery coming up. Oh, hey, here's your surgery gift. All your friends are graduating but you. Good luck. Like, what the fuck? I'm annoyed. Yeah, that's a great complaint because I would go ask for some money back. You're paying 30,000 a year, and a lot of time was wasted on something that he's not going to be able to use. And now you got to give a life lesson. Now you got to explain Malcolm Gladwell's book about how Canadian hockey players who were born during a certain month did better than the ones born during another month. I don't think your pre K kid is going to get it. He will at some point, and I'm sure this will end up for the best. Like you said, you know, you need adversity. This is his first taste of something not going his way. But you're the one that has to deal with, you know, getting that through to him his whole life. Jtrain podcast gmail.com J train podcast gmail.com Jared, my friend and I are huge fans. Love your LA show this month. Thank you. My husband and I are proud millennial Dink wads with a dog we adore. So Dink Wads, dual income. Dual income. Kwad with a dog. Dual income, no kids, with a dog. So you're a dinkwad. I get it. So whenever we see a loose dog in the neighborhood, we immediately try to help find the owner. Recently, we found a very cute French bulldog wandering around with no collar, looking dirty, crusty and like he had been outside for days. We knocked on nearby doors, but no one recognized him. So we brought him home and eventually to the Humane Society to scan for a microchip. Turns out his name was Thor. Great French bulldog name. And he actually lived on the same street and had only escaped that morning because a kid left the back gate open before school. Okay. Look at you, Dick Tracy on the case. What shocked us was that if the dog had looked even remotely cared for, we would have assumed he lived nearby and knocked on more doors instead of taking them to the shelter. This is actually the second time this has happened to us with a dog that looked neglected but turned out to belong to someone just houses away. I'm not saying every dog needs to look professionally groomed, but if your dog regularly looks like it has survived three days in the wilderness, people are going to assume it is lost and abandoned. Please keep a collar on your dog, close your gate, or at least wipe the poop off its butt so the neighborhood does not start a full rescue operation every time it gets loose. The Sincerely, a Concern Dinkwad. I'm with you to me and this was talked about on Mailbag Monday. If you go back and listen, there was a woman who was worried about a guy who kisses his dog and then kisses her and how she's going to be seen as someone who doesn't like dogs because she's asking that he go run his mouth under the sink after he French kisses his dog. And to me, if someone says you hate dogs because you don't want to be kissed after they've kissed their dog, that is a crazy person that you shouldn't date. And the same goes for these dogs. What people do is they leave the back gate. Like, if a dog gets out through the back gate and has no collar on, how good of a dog owner are you? In what world are you crushing it as a dog owner? And it seems as though no dog owner takes any feedback because all they do is tell other people they must hate dogs. They put it on the dog. Oh, Little Thor likes to run around. No, no, no, no. Big. You know, Big Tracy and Adam are bad owners to Little Thor and don't tend to him and don't make sure he has his collar on and leave the back gate open and seemingly haven't groomed the dog in months. So we all think a dog traveled across the country with his stick and bindle and ended up in our yard and we had to bring him to the homeless shelter. So it's just the lack of ownership that you have done a bad job. And I honestly, there should be dog owner, like, tickets given out. We need dog owners to be given. I need. It's like at the airport. Nobody thinks they're bad at traveling. If my idea of having an airport penalty box existed, then people would go if you took too long at security, it took you three times to get through the X ray. Go to the penalty box over it says loser and neon lights. And we all get to stare at you and go oh, what'd they do? Oh, oh. And you get to feel how bad a job you did. I think the same goes for dog owners. Your dog gets out with no collar and has to be taken to the Humane Society. Well, you should go to owner training school where you have to do like community service. I need these people to feel how annoying they are. Jtrain podcastmail.com Jtrain podcastmail.com Last one. These are some thorough complaints. I love it Jared. Listening to your ticked off Tuesday on an early Sunday because no one wants to hear me complain. I'm a mom on my second Mother's Day as a mom and first of all, this holiday is bullshit. In a role of constant serving and nurturing, performing gratitude is the last fucking thing I want to do on a day supposedly about at least on your birthday you can truly be yourself. But on Mother's Day it's about the archetype of mother. We don't want to hear what moms actually want. A fucking moment of peace or autonomy. We want to give them a flower. Seriously. One more thing I have to keep alive or take them to brunch so someone else can serve them. Boo. My more specific complaint I'm very close with my mom. It was just me and her during my more form it was just me and her during my more formative years. And then my sister came when I was 12. We are 33 and 21 now. It's great. The age gap made us more like 2 only kids that combat the age gap made us more like 2 only kids than combative siblings. However, her girlfriend makes me irrationally angry, much like a normal sibling. My mom is an exhausted teacher who needs to retire and she verbalized not wanting to celebrate Mother's Day till school is out. Fine by me. Because between her birthday and my daughter's May is an exhaustive grind. Well after that was agreed upon and we spent time together the day before, my sister's girlfriend, who lives with them rent free despite only having been together for a year, takes it upon herself to make these elaborate plans all during my toddler's witching hours all during my toddler's witching hour so I can watch them all go celebrate with my mom from afar or or try to go with my daughter and be fucking miserable and I should be clearly more. And I should clearly be more mature than annoyed. I don't think so. I'm with you. I'm a mom. I don't have time for negative feelings, but it truly brings out the kid screaming, back off my mom lady feelings. Sincerely, a bad mom and daughter. Well, you're not a bad mom and daughter. You. I think, if anything, for this person who's living rent free with your mom, they obviously feel a certain way about. They know they're living rent free, they want to do something nice for your mom, and they want to be checked off the list. And that's exactly what your complaint seems to be about from my angle is that a lot of Mother's Day is people doing something to check themselves off a list. So it's ultimately selfish. I'm giving you flowers so that you know I am a good son. And you can't say that I didn't. At least I didn't do Mother's Day. That, you know, it is. It's. It's less genuine. Like your mom saying, hey, let's celebrate after the school year's over. I'm exhausted. I don't want to have to, like, get dressed up on a weekend. I want to be in my comfy cozies on a Sunday and do things on my own and not think or have to, like, put on pleasantries. And then your sister's girlfriend doesn't listen to that because they are not confident enough that your mom is happy with them staying at the house. So now they got to, like, do this elaborate plan so that they get checked off a list. They have to go above and beyond. And it's like, how about you pay rent? How about you pay rent and listen to my mother's wishes? And then we do Mother's Day at a later date when it would actually be a genuine gift from you because you're doing it when the whole world isn't screaming at you to do it. And now you, listener who wrote in are rolled into this. And now you have more work to do because now you have to be a part of your sister's girlfriend's pleasantries that get them checked off the list, not you. So I hope you understand how much I am seeing you and hearing you, because you're right. You just want a genuine interaction with your daughter, with your mom, that shows you're appreciative, and it's got to be natural. And your sister's girlfriend is really the personification of what makes this day so annoying to you. I know we took a long trip there, but I think we landed it. I saw this the other day. I mentioned this the other day. I did a TikTok about it. I saw a guy, he posted. It was him and his mom at the beach and he was doing a post on his Instagram feed. Happy Mother's Day to all the mothers. And you're like, what are you, the mayor? You're not doing this. You don't care about all the mothers. It's not genuine. Happy Mother's Day to everyone means Happy Mother's Day to no one. You're all hard working. How do you know everyone's hardworking? No one's hardworking. So to me, and what you're talking about with Mother's Day is like you said, I just want a day where I can be myself. If I feel. If you're only making me feel appreciated on this day where you're told to make your mother feel appreciated, then you're not really that appreciative. Jtrain podcast at gmail com. 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