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I know you're angry. It's Tuesday and it has no feel. The weekend was fun. You're still hungover from the eating and next weekend is too far away. What will you do with your day? It's time to get ticked off. Complain with your gripe. Right now, your friend Uncle J Train is here to tell you that you're right. It's a ticked off Tuesday. Ticked off Tuesday. You're angry and you don't even know why. Enjoy this podcast. It'll help you get to Friday.
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Hello and welcome to the J Train Podcast. This is J Train. Jared Freed coming you live from Delray Beach, Florida. That's right, every Tuesday is a ticked off Tuesday. Are you angry? Are you? Are you mad? Do you need to be heard? Well, you need to email us at the J train podcast, jtrain podcast gmail.com. you can complain about anything you'd like. That is the promise of this show. You complain, I listen. I find a way to make you feel seen and heard and to maybe agree with you. I'll always find a way to agree with you. But maybe I find a little nook and cranny in your complaint that I can add on to and then you and I can sing a complaint duet heard from the mountains to the seas. Want to thank you for being a listener to this show. I love doing this show. I love the daily nature of it. I was just kind of procrastinating taping this episode. I'm getting ahead to give you kind of the dates here and when I'm taping. This is coming out on the 6th of January. Happy New Year. I'm taping this way before that. It is Christmas Eve, so my complaints might seem. I don't think they'll. They're not dated. These are complaints that could be said at any time during the year. But it would make more sense for the complaints to come up on December 24th. I'll give you the first one last night. Made a reservation yesterday at what I would describe as the hottest restaurant in Delray. I like when people say it that way. Oh, that place. It's the hottest restaurant in Delray Beach. I would say Delray. Oh, that restaurant. You mean the hottest restaurant in Delray? Doesn't that sound like you're in the know? I honestly, you know, I think a good percentage of life and getting through life is just how you say things. If, if, if, if that's our resolution to just say things more confidently. Of course I have the runs I've been all day. That sounds a Lot better than, yeah, I got diarrhea. Like that's you. You feel bad for one. The other person, you're like, do I want diarrhea? Do I want to be all day? That guy's doing it. He's doing a good job. Okay, I digress. I got my coffee in hand, iced. Okay. So yesterday I made a reservation. Yesterday I was looking, I was reservation hunting. I took a shot. You know, it's like when I go to a town and I'm looking for a hotel. I'm always going to look at the Four Seasons. I'm going to, I'm going to see what it costs. I take a look at a place called the Grove, which one could describe as the hottest restaurant in Delray, The Grove. I've been twice I went once with friends and once alone. This place is great. If you're going to come here, if you're making. Hey, excuse me. If you're going to make a trip to Delray beach, as I suggest anyone on the east coast who's looking to get away from a cold weather place, I think you should do it. I think it's a no brainer as far as a not break the. You can do a a not. I've, I've talked about this enough. But you can come here without breaking the bank and you can have a very nice weekend. I would say this is, you know, single person. Sure. I've been. If you've been in a relationship like less than a year, first trip, this is it. This is it. No brainer not. You don't have to do the tours that you have to do in Charleston. No pressure for that is just beach and drinks and food and beach and drinks and food. And if you listen to my Patreon, if you. And also the best Patreon. Here's the benefits of my Patreon. It's five bucks a month. You get the Friday episode, which is Coffee with J Train and you can write your ticked off Tuesday as a comment on Coffee with J Train. And it gets first dibs here. Today we have four listener complaints to or from Patreon subscribers. So it's being used. People are using their, using their membership. And I would encourage you, I would love for you to sign up for Patreon. The link is in the description. If you go listen to my episode from. It will have come out after I've taped this because I've already taped it. It's coming out on the 26th of December. I talk about going to crazy Uncle Mike's and I Talk about that restaurant. I, I, Because I, and just to give you kind of a flavor of what the town is, there's some quirk, there's some, there's some, there's some. There's just some funny stupidness going on here. So, okay, so the Grove. I go, I, may I. Yesterday, I'm like, looking for a reservation. I, I find the Grove. I'm like, wow, they have a table for two outside available. I'm like, what luck, maybe? And I, I'm like. In my head, I'm like, man, isn't this the busiest restaurant day second to the night before Thanksgiving? Like, people don't want to cook. They're home with their families. I'm like, take it. So I make the reservation. I go, I get all dressed. I go, I, I, I, I, I take the car, I park the car on my way to the Grove. They are closed. I look at my reservation. It's for January 1, 2026. Oh, huge blunder on my part. My complaint. How is that place closed on the Tuesday before? Or the two. How was that place closed the Tuesday before Christmas? And, and this isn't. They could give me an explanation. Hey, we are open Wednesday through Sunday, and we are closed Monday and Tuesday, as a lot of restaurants do. My feedback to them is, are you swimming in money? Like, is, are you so successful? And I hope you say to me, yes, Jared, I, I reserve Mondays and Tuesdays to go on my yacht that I have parked on the dock that is attached to my mansion on Delray Beach. I would go, okay, enough said. I'm willing to retract this complaint to me, if I'm the Grove and I am a fan of this restaurant, I'm not taking off the Tuesday before Christmas. This is the season where I go, okay, people, we got a restaurant to push. You're going to be getting tipped. You're going to be doing well to me. Close an extra Wednesday in the summer, take a week off in the summer. I think you could make. And again, I'm saying this out of my ass. There's a little bit of holding back. I'm doing. I'm not holding back, but I'm willing to be told, jared, you're an idiot. Because in my belief, I'd be like, well, to me, the Tuesday before Christmas, I would believe I would be open for breakfast, lunch and dinner. And I would say to the staff, hey, you can make in tips tonight what you'd make in a week in August. So it just befuddles me. How were they close? It worked out. I went to Campy which is inside the Ray Hotel. Beautiful restaurant. Sat outside there right away. It was a beautiful night. Okay, we are in ticked off Tuesday. That is my first. I'm crossing it off my list of four complaints I have. I'm doing shows if you're listening right now. Baltimore, Maryland. I'm not coming. Philadelphia. You started my year off great. I'm looking to have a great year. I'm already 20, 26 is already like doing it for me. Like I've already had some good news. I, I got the opening show of the year in Philadelphia. Sol, if you're in Baltimore, I want you to come be a part of this great year. Bring your friends and family, your brother, your sister, your mom or your papa. We're working on the set. I just found shows here in Delray Beach. I'm going to do this Saturday so I'm going to be able to do some work here. Tampa, Florida. Atlanta, Georgia. Charleston, South Carolina. Beach, Mountain, North Carolina. Boston, Mass. Second show added. Dallas, Houston, New York. We're at like a hundred tickets left Toronto, Vancouver, the cool. I'm coming back Seattle, Tempe. And I'll probably be adding more. So coming to a city near you, Jared Free dot com. Also let's go to my other complaint. I'm walking the beach here. I like walking the beach. This is going to be a double complaint. I'm walking the beach and these complaints. Listen, I'm walking the beach. What I do is I do my gym session when I have the time. Here I really have the time. There is no rush to my day. I go to this gym at the Lab. It's called the Lab. It's a great gym. They do morning classes. I go to the 7am class. I wake up at 6:20. That is not an easy wake up. It's getting better. Once I'm up and in the class. By the end of the stretch, 7:10, I'm like in it. I'm good. I did the lift and then I get back to my apartment and I'm immediately walking the beach. So I go to the beach and I start and I, and I do. It's about 2500 steps each way from to Pura Vida and back to my apartment. So I'm getting like 5k steps in one just like easy breezy walk that you look at the ocean and you go, what a life. So again you'd be like Jared, what are the complaints? On my way back from Pura Vida, which I'm a fan of and I I'm a fan of Pura Vida. I'm an even bigger fan of the people who work there. I think the staff at Pura Vida in Delray beach is some of the nicest. Just a great group in there. Just like. And they're all young, and I'm just like, I. You walk in, you go. And. And they have to deal with, like, just horrific people that come in there. There's people that walk in there. Don't make eye contact, headphones on. I'm in there. I'm bright as a daisy. And they are so nice. They put up a lot with a lot. If you go to the Pura Vida in Delray beach, it's the people. The people there that work there are fantastic. Okay, so I go to Pura Vida, I get my coffee, I say my hellos, and then I walk back. On the way back, I see a guy. I know he's a very nice guy. I like seeing him, but we're going in the same direction. This is my complaint. If two people see each other and they go in the same direction, there's really no good way to be like, hey, you go first. I'll lay back. We didn't come here to walk together. We didn't. Do you know, if you're walking at the beach, you have prepared for a beach walk. And then if someone new comes into that, it is kind of not what you envisioned. And I wish there was some sort of languaging that could take away the awkwardness. Because he's like, hey. And he's like, hey, we're doing this. We're doing that. You should join. He's being nicer than I would ever be. And then I go, okay, well, great to see you. I'd love that. Shoot me a text. And then he's like, okay. And then we start walking in the same direction. I'm like, oh, we are. There's no good way to go. I either have to turn around and just fake like I'm going a different way, or I speed up. I chose speed up. And now I'm guy who looks like he has to take a dump. So just. So now I'm speeding up, and I'm going towards my home. And I'm walking along the beach, and I see three women coming towards me. One of the women is in a big floppy hat. Now, if you are going to walk the beach with three people wearing floppy hat, I'm okay with it. But you guys have to start working like your sacred eyes swimmers. The woman in the floppy hat, I Will say, knew me. She, we. I passed them by. She goes, hey, Jared. I go, hey, good to see you. And then I kept on my way. But they need to be, I think if you're going to wear a floppy hat, and I have my own hats that are floppy, you gotta go single file. Once people come the other way and you gotta, like, I needed to be like synchronized swimmers. I needed to be like, like I need the coxswain on the, on the rowing team. Like, you need someone to go, huh? And then, you know, assemble. Like someone needs to go. Coming. You know, on your left. Like someone needs to be the leader of the three. And I guess it should be floppy hatwoman, because that should not. I didn't. Come on. I'm not passing you. It's not my responsibility to move out of your way. Like, I'm, you know, you know, doing a football R2 on Madden. Like, I don't need to dea, I don't need to juke and jive. That should be your responsibility. My bad. Floppy hat. I went for it. It looked good. I have to wear it. I didn't want to waste the money. Those are two of my, those are two more complaints. Let me check them off my list. I, I, my third complaint. I should save this because. But it is an end of the year complaint. I'm a Delta Platinum and Dime Platinum. I'm a Delta Platinum medallion member. Before I get to it, we have a sponsor, Nutrafol. If longer, thicker hair was on your resolution list, it's time to check out Nutrafol. Nutrafol is the number one dermatologist recommended hair growth supplement brand trusted by over 1.5 million people. Nutrafol supplements are peer reviewed NSF content certified and clinically tested to measure results in growth, quality and strength, helping you reach your hair goals with confidence. Here's, here's how I would play it. If I had hair insecurities, my first stop is neutrophil. You might be heading to Turkey. You might be going to a doctor to get a prescription. Before you do any of that, let's go with this option and see if it works. That's my advice to you. That's what I would do. 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United flies out of Newark and you live close to Newark. That's part of why you love it. So I'm not here as a Delta. I am a constant critic of a company I consider my own. We have made a partnership in the same way. When I go to a comedy club, I love the comedy club, but I'm going to give you my feedback because I want the club to be better, because I'm going to continue to be at the club. So when we work together, I want the best for you. Delta is make. Is. And. And here's my complaint. It doesn't feel that Delta cares as much about me and our partnership as I care about Delta, because I just went to change my flights. I am flying to San Diego to do shows. They are already done by the time you heard this show. I need to go West Palm to Del to San Diego and then back to West Palm again. I was planning on going West Palm to San Diego, San Diego to New York, and then doing a bunch of podcasts. That schedule got changed. So now I go to call Delta and the woman who was very nice and great, she says, do you want to use your upgrades? And I'm at the end of the year. My upgrades for 2025 expire at the end of January 2026. At this point in the year, you know, when I'm deciding whether to use these upgrades, I'm always like, well, you kind of play this weird game of like, I don't want to use it too soon. What if I needed them at the end of the year? And what generally for me is that I'm so nervous about using my upgrades that I never use them all. I generally don't use them all. I usually have a couple left. And I get to this part of the year and I always say to them, I always am left with a cross country flight. And I'm like, do I have any? And they go, you got. And they said, they go, you have a couple global upgrades. The fact that I don't see how many upgrades I have global regional on the app, every time I open it, it is a disservice to your customer. It is a Smack in the face to your medallion holders. Everyone should see it the minute they open their app. There should be no hiding. And it does feel, from my end, from the consumer's end, a partner with U Delta, that you are hiding these benefits that you're offering on purpose. As if, if I don't use the, the upgrades. Oh, you're going to use them for your friends and family. They're, they're. But they're nothing. They're, they, they're, they're just, they're just, they're just points. And that I can only use them, so why hide them from me? It's ever. And, and, and this goes back to when you sign up for the benefits. When you sign up for the benefits. You couldn't do it over the app. You had to go to the laptop version. They're hidden behind some weird link that you can't find. It's at the bottom of the page. Why are we hiding the benefits that I have earned? Why? If there was a town hall meeting, I would stand up and I would say, jared Freed, Delta Platinum Medallion member, four years running, Million miler on the horizon. I have a complaint. Why are you hiding my benefits after I've earned them? Why aren't they the first thing I see on the app? It makes me so angry and feel small. When I'm here working with you, I'm coming back to you. I'm a committed customer. And now I have my wife, Delta, being cagey about the agreements we've made. Why you being weird, Delta? If you work at Delta, take this as a. I'm here to talk to you about this. I think it is actually evil. I think it is actually. You're taking advantage of your customer to not have showing on that app on the front page. What I have left. And every time I. And I should be able to do it on the app, use my upgrade on the app, and then take it away. I listen, that's fair. I don't think I'm asking. All I'm asking is for the upgrades that I have earned to be shown to me and not have to do this like, well, can I see how many I have left? The fact that I am going to end the year because the woman today, she goes, you got global upgrades. And I'm like, well, when do those. Like, I'm as. I don't know enough about the global upgrades to even use them confidently. I'm like. She's like, well, if you're not planning on flying anywhere until the end of January, you can Use them now. And I'm like, yeah, I have no more cross country flights. Of course I'm not going to Europe before the end of January because that's when I would use the global upgrades. I've already used them. So if anyone knows anyone at Delta, send them this podcast. Because I am actually like. And the reason I'm angry is like, I'm not leaving. I'm not leaving. So you and you know that Delta. So you're taking advantage of your customer for an unknown reason. I don't know what you have to gain by me not seeing what I have left as far as upgrades are for the year. And I think I would Love you poll 10 platinum medallion members. All 10 are going to agree with me. Jtrain podcastmail.com Jtrain podcast@gmail.com We have four complaints from listeners. I've gone long. We're 23 minutes in. Ads are done. We're on to the listener complaints. Here's what I would ask of you. Join the Patreon. Join the Patreon. Join the Patreon. Tell a friend. Tell a friend. Tell a friend. Follow the Instagram account. Follow the Instagram account. Follow the Instagram account. The YouTube account. Follow the YouTube. We're putting up new videos. There's a behind the scenes for Miami video that's up there now. Ticked off Tuesday. Hey, Jared. It's Saturday. I just got off a flight from New Orleans and I am ticked off. I'll paint the picture. First off, I am already flying American Airlines, which is meh. But I am also row 25, middle seat, boarding group 9. It's a tough day for you. I want the flight to be over even before it starts. But I get to my seat, settle in, and things are normal at first. For the first 30 minutes, no issues. I'm minding my own business, reading a book, but all of a sudden a woman next to me starts biting her nails. Okay, gross. But whatever. She'll probably stop in a little. No, this continues for about another hour and a half during the flight where she is biting and picking at her nails. I even see her picking some of the nails. I even see her picking some of the nails and putting them on the drink tray, which she eventually puts in her leftover cup to dispose of. I almost. This is. And one nail there. And one nail there. I almost threw up as I was hungover and this is the last thing I wanted to witness. Yeah. Flight back from New Orleans. There's gotta be different rules. So I guess this is my complaint. What are we doing people. Where is some people's shame for disgusting behaviors? Papa J Train, I know you fly a lot. Have you ever dealt with something like this 5,000ft up, stop biting your nails. I have dealt with everything. I've seen it all. I'm, if I saw the nail thing, it would take me a while to be clued in. Like I, I, I think some people are more aware of like up biting the nails. That's gross. That's gross, that's gross. And then it's like they're in for the whole show. I would be in for like the second half of the show and I'd be like, wow, this is crazy. I, it would be less throw up, it would be more this is nutty cuckoo bananas. But I will say I do think your complaint on a flight home from New Orleans is the most important part. Every flight home from New Orleans should be seen as some sort of like military like flight that is like leaving like a war stricken country like you. We have to treat these flights as if you are sick patients being flown out. You're escaping. And to have any amount of gross on the flight from New Orleans to wherever you're going is actually offensive. New Orleans, Vegas, Miami, all of these cities should have like a no wet food policy. No, no nail biting policy. You can only have alcohol that doesn't smell like only vodka. You can't have like bourbon. On a flight from New Orleans to home. Like there should be special rules to consider. The hungover and the hungover, the stress, the tired, the wary. All of those people should be considered first and foremost on a flight from New Orleans. That is my complaint. We need better rules. Different rules based on places. On the flight from New York to Vegas, do whatever you want. Have your hard boiled egg, drink your bourbon, do whatever. We're all in party mode when we leave New Orleans and head back to our homes where we are with our friends and family and we go back to our normal not New Orleans self. Let's let the menamorphosis begin. From garbage human to regular person. And on that change on that flight, let's get out all, all nail biting. All of that stuff should put you on the no fly list. J train podcast gmail.com J train podcast gmail.com Jared, longtime listener of J training you up feather Feather. My husband and I saw you in Providence and it was the best. I love those Providence shows. I think I have new video from Providence coming out soon. Here's my ticked off Tuesday. What the is going on with parents? Coddling their kids into their 20s. I work at a university and handle the met and hand student medical insurance program. I cannot tell you how many times a day I hear parents say things like, my kid doesn't check their mail. They only know how to use IG and Snapchat. Or I pay the bills, so I should be the one submitting this. My eyes roll so far every. So far back every time. Especially when it's the parents of a grad student. Yes, they're your child, but they're over 18, which makes them a legal adult. I don't make the rules. I may not agree with adulthood starting at 18, but it's not my fault your kid doesn't ch their males to to do the thing they have to do every single year. Also, I got my first email in fifth grade, so the kids don't know Email excuses. Bonkers. Do better. And finally, my husband is an orphan. Both parents have passed. Both the parents passed before he was 18 and paid his own way through undergrad and grad school. So good for you for being able to support your kid, but shut the up. Not everyone has that privilege. Here's the thing. As a person, let me. I, I agree with your complaint. I, I'm, I'm here with you. I'm here with you as a guy who probably didn't open his mail until he was like 24, probably has a mom who says stuff like this. Like, I, I agree with you. I also would assume that my mom has gone to bat for me in ways I would be embarrassed about. This happened when I went to buy my car. I bought a car. But before I bought my Jeep Wrangler, which I have and I really like, I went to the Ford place and tried to look at the Bronco and the people working there were just not helpful. And my mom called to be like, my son has a social media account and she thoroughly embarrassed me. And I honestly, I didn't look deep into it enough to know how embarrassed I should be because I'm too embarrassed to even look because I'm sure it's more embarrassing than I want to believe. So let me just say from the perspective like I under. I agree. What the fuck is going on with the parents coddling their kids in their twenties? It is interesting that this complaint is about the parents and the kids. The kids, the parent. I agree with you. These parents should be embarrassed to say these things to you when they say, my kid doesn't know how to open mail. Well, hi, miss. You know, Ms. Parent. Sounds like you have an issue with the mirror like, like that should be not said to you who works at the school. And listen, I you because your husband is an orphan, you can always go to. You can't do it. I got an orphan husband. Like I understand what you're doing there. You don't have to do that here. I don't need Oliver Twist to make my point about how these parents are calling their kids. I agree with you. These parents are out of their minds. And the issue I would have if I were you is that there's no moment of honesty and self realization. There's no awareness moment. And that's probably what you want the most. If a parent, because I can understand the parent calls you and is like I need your help. If they need your help. If you work at the university student medical insurance program and, and the kid is late for some sort like I remember in college I didn't even know what the bursar was until sophomore year and people were like how are you signing up for classes? And I'm like I don't even know. I might not even have a degree because of this. I don't even know. I'm just saying as a child of coddle, I would love for these arguments to happen between my parents and I and not with third party adult who has nothing to do with this. So I agree with you. You shouldn't be like it would, I'm sure you would feel better and wouldn't write this email to me if they were like hey listen, I failed as a parent and my kids don't open their mail. I really need your help because they didn't sign up for the medical insurance. How can I make this happen with you? And again let me say to you it is because of me and how I parent that this is happening at all. Like at that point you'd go let me see what I can. Yeah, I'll help you out. I mean just talk to your kids. Come on, let's get up. Opening mail and then you could have a real conversation. That's probably where this anger comes from because I agree with you. J train podcast gmail.com j train podcastmail.com Jared Feather Feather I'm ticked off because my mother in law can't exist at a dinner without rearranging my apartment, starting the dishwasher mid meal, lecturing me on harmless jokes. I can't be myself around her. I, female 27 have been dating my boyfriend, male 30 for just over a year. I finally realized why I don't like his mom. She constantly comments on our apartment calling it messy. It's normal. Lived in clutter and always fixes things instead of just being present. Last Friday we had both families over and she spent most of the evening cleaning, criticizing or reorganizing. This is awful. Even moving stuff because of our puppy. The next day she texts, don't take it personally. I just wanted to help. Like thanks, but I host dinners so people can relax, not clean. She also takes everything seriously. Harmless jokes or our home plans getting get full harmless jokes or our home plans get full on lectures. I feel like I can't be myself around her and all these little things are driving me nuts. Am I overreacting or is this classic overbearing mother in law energy from a frustrated daughter in law? I, I don't think you're overreacting. I think it is, it is delusional. And I say this with kindness, with love and, and I hope you take it the way I'm, I'm giving it. It's delusional to think that you're ever going to be fully yourself in front of your mother in law. You're. You're just not. You're your full self. And, and listen, some people have that luxury. I would say nine and a half out of 10 people are not their full self in front of their mother in law. I mean, so let's get rid of that as a failure. You're not failing. You're not. This mother in law isn't that different from other mother in laws. This relationship isn't failing because you're not your total self in front of them. I do think you, the complaint here has to a little bit be about your boyfriend. Your boyfriend does have to help your mother in law get the message before she comes to the house. Hey, we're here to hang out. You can't clean like in this. Like to me, I'm like the, the, the only solution for you is to just make a total mess and let her clean up and go, yeah, I don't hire a cleaning person. I, my mother in law shows up for a dinner party and then we don't have to hire anybody. Like honestly, let's swim with the current. She wants to clean. Yo, you're gonna clean. Because at this point her opinion is laid in stone. She thinks you are messy, you are lazy, you are a slob. I don't think that opinion is going to change. I think your place could be cleaned in the way she would want it and she still would say, yeah, they're a little messy. A little sloppy. Not my taste, but whatever. You know, this is what it is. So it's almost better to take what you're getting and get this free cleaning. But I would say your boyfriend kind of has to play ball with you on two different fronts. They gotta try and deliver the message. Mom, hey, we're having a dinner party. Mom, before you come, let's. Let's get it down to one thing. The easiest thing, her not getting jokes. Fine. I don't think she's there to be joked with. I think that's kind of on you. You gotta learn, hey, no more jokes for mom. I'm done. When someone's like, takes every joke seriously and goes, oh, to my jokes, I just kind of don't play with them anymore. I'm not gonna. They're not fun for me to play with. I'm gonna be done with that game. So I think you should exit. Let's. Let's keep it to one thing. Your boyfriend going to your mom being like, hey, I know that you just want things looking a certain way, but we're very comfortable. And like, because it is annoying, don't take it personally. I just wanted to help so she knows she's doing something that annoys you. I do take it personally. I also, in addition to taking it personally, I miss out on getting to know you. Like, let's make it sweet. I. That's the move I would be. Because it is annoying. All of this is annoying. And the most annoying part is that you're not going to change them 100%. So let's give up on that. And you're not going to be able to be you on your couch. Hey, look. Gilmore Girls, right? Mom, isn't this the best show ever? You're not going to connect. You're. You're going to connect as much as you can. So let's try and get rid of one of the things, which is the cleaning. And that's where your boyfriend needs to go to your mother in law and go, hey, she wants to get to know you. And when you're away the whole time, we don't even get to hang out with you. You know, try to go that route. Also, your boyfriend needs to talk about his mom with you. You. That's the only. You need an outlet. You need to look at your boyfriend. You need him to go. It is crazy. That's all I would want. I just need acknowledgment that I'm not delusional. J train podcast or gmail.com? j train podcastmail.com. i got one more. This was such a fun episode. If you. If you had fun listening to this episode, let me know. I like to hear back. If you're this deep, then you've had a good time. Jared, I have a ticked off Tuesday for you. Because a Santa 10K blocked the road to our usual sprouts, my husband and I went to a different location and that's where the nightmare began. At the butcher counter, the crab legs and lobster tail prices. At the butcher counter, the crab legs and lobster tail price signs were clearly switched, making it look like crab legs were $9.99 a pound when they were actually $12.99 a pound. I politely pointed this out, got a smirk and an okay, and the signs were never fixed. When I tried to order crab legs, the butcher kept quoting lobster tail weights and even price. And when I tried to order. I love this complaint. This is. This is hilarious. When I tried to order crab legs, the butcher kept quoting lobster tail weights and prices. Even after I explained the signs were switched, he rang them up at the wrong price, realized it at the last second, aggressively yanked the bag back, ripped it open trying to remove the sticker, and had to repackage everything. All this could have been avoided by switching the two signs. Twenty minutes later, the signs were still wrong. And as I was leaving, the same butcher nearly body checked me with a massive meat cart, forcing me to jump out of the way. Is it just me or was this an unhinged grocery store power struggle that never needed to happen? Sincerely, I just wanted reasonably priced seafood. I'm with you. This is annoying. This is annoying because you know why this is annoying. And I'm going to fault the motto the customer is always right. We have now probably 40 years, my whole life. The customer's always right. The customer's always right. When you speak in extremes like that, you leave nuance at the door. And now you have to be nice to every customer, which makes you also hate every customer. So if the motto was, the customer sometimes has a point just to be considered, then the customers who are dead wrong wouldn't be as emboldened. And then the people they're dealing with wouldn't feel as attacked. And now you would get an opportunity to be listened to when you're right about the price of the lobster and the and the crab legs. So this is really a problem. And it's like one of those things. It's like, you know, nothing is ever forever nothing. So when we have this, like, label of the customer's Always right now going, you know, in the consumer age, which is like, really way newer than we want to really believe. Like, honestly, the customer's always right has probably been around for our grandparents, our parents and us. That's a long time. Where there are effects, there are consequences to everything. Customers always right now we have a bunch of asshole customers. Now we have this friction between people at the grocery store and the customers. Because I see this at bars and restaurants. The. The people working in the bar. And I think 2020, I think Covid kind of revealed this. Like, it used to be New York City bars open till 4am and then I think Covid, they saw, oh, we aren't really making that much money by staying open till 4. My quality of life could be better. And they were right for realizing that. And then they go. And then you go, well, why are you open till 4? And they go, we really were. It wasn't doing much for us. And then they go, you know, so when you have something like that happen when there's like an awakening of sorts of, now you can't put it back in the bottle. You can't take the toothpaste and put it back in the tube. And so for the COVID example, it's like, once you saw that the money you were making wasn't that much more, you go, we're not going back. And then once you see that, the customers all act like assholes and they're all thinking, well, the customer's always right. You go, well, you're not always right. Sometimes you make a mistake. So now all the customers are assholes, all the people working are acting like dicks, and it's this friction, and that's what you're dealing with. Because honestly, this does seem like someone who's had it with all the customers, and now they're taking it out on you, and you're really just trying to help yourself. You were trying to help yourself because you want to get out of there. You're not trying to help them. Sure, a byproduct of telling them the prices are wrong is that they get helped, but you want to leave faster. J train podcast@gmail.com jtrain podcastmail.com Ticked off Tuesday. Back next week, boom.