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Chit Chat Wednesday for you to listen to. I have a guess who will be your new boo.
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You're gonna love them, too.
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Chit Chat Wednesday. I hope you're having a good day today. I hope it's gonna be.
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A perfect week, too.
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I hope you have a nice poo. It's a Chit Chat Wednesday, too.
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Hello and welcome to the J Train Podcast. This is J Train Jared Freed coming to you live from Delray Beach, Florida. That's right, every Wednesday is a Chit Chat Wednesday where I sit with a comedian, a friend, an expert. Today I have all three. A friend, a comedian, an expert in being a Dominican daddy. He has a new special out on YouTube right now. It is called Material Boy. Ian Lara, thank you for coming on the show. How are you?
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B
I'm good, brother.
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A
I'm good.
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B
I appreciate you having me on, man. How's Florida?
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A
Florida is great. As you can see, I got my sunglasses on my shirt, which signifies it is.
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B
Oh, you're that guy.
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A
I'm that guy. I have the sunglasses at the ready. I'm ready to pop them on anytime I need them in case of emergency. I'm going to leave here. I'm moving into my new place, so I'm in between apartments. So the Internet is getting put into the new place from 3 to 5, which is like, I consider that the beginning of your new home is when the Internet is there. I don't know if you're as attached to the Internet as I am or like the, the, the service isn't great. So I'm like, I need this thing cooking. I need to, like, have websites appear before I even put them in the search bar. Do you know what I mean? Yeah.
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B
I remember back in the day, it used to be when the cable got put in, right? Like, the cable guy would come. And now you can move in, you have television, you know what's going on. But before that, you were kind of like in nowhere. You didn't have tv, you didn't know what was happening.
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You know, it's like that. I totally agree. It's so weird how that's just an admission that we don't want to be around our own thoughts. Like, that's just like, what do I even do here if I can't go on Instagram and look at people? What do I even do here if I can't watch a clip of a cat doing something funny? You know what I mean? Like, I, because I'm like, I, I. There was a time, remember, you'd go on the computer and be like. I remember being younger, going on the computer and being like.
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What do people do here? Like. Like, I, like, do I just go and play with the calculator? And it's like, I knew that the computer was supposed to have something else, like Oregon Trail, and if you didn't have a game, you know, like, now that's like, the whole apartment without the Internet.
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B
I remember, like, I envy, like, people like, you know, like, Ari Shafir, who's like, I got rid of my phone. Now I just have, like, a flip phone. If you want to call me, just call this 1-800-number and they'll reach me. And I'm like, I don't even. I can't even fathom that type of lifestyle.
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I don't envy those people at all. I'm. I'm. I'm okay with living the piggish lifestyle that Wally, you know, promised me. Like the movie Wally. Do you ever see it? They're all to their chairs while they, like, scroll and do the Internet while the. Like, I'm okay with that. I. I guess. Like, there's that new thing, the brick. Have you seen. Have you gotten ads for that where it's like, it keeps you off of your phone? Like, I do think there is this, like, weird thing where I keep trying to fashion my life into ways that will save me from myself. Like, I'm like, oh, I'll put the phone here and I'll walk in this room and I'll. It'll be in the other room. Like, I tried a joke once where I was like, yeah, I get off my phone every day for about 20 minutes while I'm in the shower, and that's, like, enough for me, you know?
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B
Like, yeah, yeah, that's the break I need.
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A
Yeah.
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B
Do you.
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I mean, right now you have to be in full phone mode. The special came out on YouTube. You are checking comments every 5 seconds. You are responding. You're sharing. I. I know the life. I know what you're going through. You're the. You can't even. You probably having trouble adjusting your eyesight to looking at me right now because you're not looking at a phone.
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B
My screen time, bro, it's like, at 11 hours, dude.
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A
And I think it gets.
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B
I'm in back. Could you cut that out? I'm embarrassed.
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No, don't cut that out. Because mine's worse. Mine's like that. You know, my.
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B
You're.
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A
You're speaking. You're. You're in a safe. You know, you're in safe waters. Because I, you know, and I think being on the road, like our screen, I would like to see mine compared to road comedian.
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B
Yeah.
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A
Because, yeah, I think we have to travel. You'll have a lot of alone time. The only friend you got, and this might make someone incredibly sad. Who's listening. But the only friend you got is the phone that connects you to other friends, doing stuff to keep your mind off of the flight you're on and the Uber you're on. You know, all that stuff. Right?
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B
Yeah. I mean, I like it when I'm, when I take like a vacation or something because I'm like, oh, my average is going to come down.
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Right?
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B
Because I'm gonna be, you know, living life a little bit, so my average is gonna, is gonna cool down.
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Well, they say that's nice, but they say the happier you are, you're on the phone, like, the happier. And, you know, that's the thing. It's like this push and pull of like, like, are, are. So you talk about being single in the special. Everyone should go watch it. It is called Material Boy and it is on YouTube. The link is in the bio. This episode, both on YouTube and wherever you're listening, here's what I will say to the listeners. I'm not going to sit here and, like, dance around it, Ian. The Special came out November 7th. We're taping this on the 16th. He needs that first month. He needs the hits. He needs the, you know, that first month matters. So go and you're going to love it. I, I just watched the beginning of it and it's hilarious. Every joke's great. I mean, I, I, our game that we're going to play at the end is, is on the subject of being a Dominican. And, and, and, you know, you talk about how there's always a ban somewhere. The more when Dominicans get money, they make sure there's a band waiting.
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B
Yeah, they just have a ban in places that they don't belong.
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Right. So I'm going to ask more Dominican questions now that I'm.
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B
Okay I'm here with you.
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A
But you're single. Are you single still?
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B
Yeah, that, yeah.
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A
That's the other thing. When you're in a relationship, I'm like, you know, the phone time, you know, it's, you know, the phone is, is right now your girlfriend, you know, like, I treat, you know, that's right. I'm kind of like dating, you know, the, the people who follow and respond to my shit. You.
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B
Yes, yes. I'm also like, I've decided I'M going to be one of those guys that just show up married. You know those guys where you're like, when did you even start dating? And you're like, well, yeah, I'm not married now, so I'm out the game.
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Problem with that, I'm going to have to DM me last week, like a heart eyes thing. What's going on? I don't know.
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B
I'm married. I'm married. Ma'. Am. I can't even. I can't speak, ma'. Am.
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She went from, from, from her name to man.
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B
Baby girl. Yeah.
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A
So special comes out dating. What's going on?
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B
Yeah, I mean, look, the special is out. I. I always struggle with that because I remember, like, I've had girlfriends. How do you deal with this? Like, when you, when you have a girl, are you doing material that's like my girlfriend? Because that feels like it's dependent on the relationship being successful.
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Right. It's hard. I. When I started getting into a relationship, I would do the my girlfriend bit. And I don't know, it's been so long that I don't know how I would handle it now. Because, you know, the, the hard part about being a comic is you put something out and you go, oh, well, that was taped at a part of my life that I was feeling those things and I was saying them that way. And now I've evolved, and I would say it differently now. Like, I. I would hope that I. Because, like, like right now I'm, like, trying to take the word men and women out of my act. I'm like, just trying to say I. I hear that, you know, Like, I. I just say I. I felt that too.
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B
I've. I've thought the same thing.
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Right, right.
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It sounds like I'm doing. Yeah, yeah.
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Because you're like, if I say men, it's just me absolving myself from.
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The responsibility. I'm like, right, guys? Right. We all do this. Instead of, like, I do this, which makes it harder to say. But if I won't even say I do it, then I shouldn't be making a joke about it, you know?
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Right, right. I think that, like, I was in. In my last relationship, like, she kind of came into it as the hour was already, like, there. So I was like, I can't change it now. Like, I can't go from, like, all my single stuff, just get rid of it. I have to tape this. I have to get this out, and then maybe on the next one I'll start. But even that, I, you know, I Mean, we both know comics have 30 minutes on their partner, then they break up. And I'm like, well, now this is just.
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Well, I would be dating someone and I'd be talking about my mom and, like, how she dealt with my relationships. And I could see, like, them being, like, so, like, you know, it's almost like warning them about this person they may have to meet. You know, like all the characters in my stories, like, these are people that you'd have to deal with. And I'm describing them at their worst or most erratic or most not worst. I guess I'm describing them at a. At their most them. Like, they're getting a weird opportunity to meet them through my eyes when they're going to have their own experience. So I'm afraid that I might be, like, scaring them away a little bit. Like, I did a whole bit about, like, my mom and my ex being, like, two cobras and, like, having to, like. And how I didn't know how to handle them. And that is true. Like, I didn't know how to handle them. I didn't know what to do. I'm. I'm probably like, if anything, these jokes are a warning to anyone I'm dating than anything else. I don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing.
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B
Right, Right. I think I'm one. And I don't know if this is good, but I'm one of the. These comic. I'm not one of these comic. That's like, everything on stage is, like a hundred percent real. Like, I'm like, I'm very honest. I'm writing jokes. I'm kind of doing a character on stage. It's an exaggerated character. Because if not, you meet girls and you have all these things about dating and they're like, well, is this your dating life? And I'm like, no, it's not. I'm just making fun. I'm mocking myself and other people's stories. So I'm pretty clear about that. I know I meet comics who, even though we both know they're lying, they try to pretend that, like, it's all real and all coming. Like, I'm like, it's. It's coming from a real place. But they're jokes. They're not. You know, this is not a representation of, like, it's.
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It's hard because I. I start everything in truth. I start. Like, something has to me too. Yeah, right. And then you make it funny. And sometimes the make it funny part is, like, the one thing I try to think About. I'm like, do I want to say this every night? Like, do I want to say this punchline that makes fun of this thing? I don't know. It's hard. And. And that's when it, like, it's almost a luxury, too. Like, you get the opportunity to, like, have fun with the jokes. Like, I think, you know, you're. You're on your second special. So, like, yeah, what an opportunity. You get to make a second special, and it's probably more you than the first one. And now you get the opportunity to say, this is who I want to say I am. Because in the first special, and for me, I was just like, I need jokes that work. Like, I. I just gotta survive at the Cellar and I gotta, like, 100. You know, like, I just want.
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B
But those guys are always the guys who are killing every night.
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A
Right, Right.
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B
The guys that are like, you know, I'm just trying to explore. And you're like, what?
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A
And then. Yeah, and they're all loose, and you gotta.
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B
Yeah, yeah. I'm not. You're not a loose guy? I don't. I'm not a loose guy. We're like. We're like, these are the jokes.
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A
Where are you now?
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B
It's like every sentence a laugh.
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A
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B
No. No dating apps, no dates, man. I'm just. I'm just like, kind of focused on the. On the special and then just whatever, you know, happens, happens. Like, I. I did the dating apps in the past. I haven't done them in years. Like over five years. Honestly, the dating apps, and this is gonna sound weird coming from a man. They became too sex forward for me. Like, it was too much. Yeah, like. Like it was too much. Like you would match with a person and they would be like, let's have sex tonight. And I'm like, this seems like a. I'm not.
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A
I'm not doing you on, bro.
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B
I was on Tinder. I used to do Tinder. I used to get the most egregious messages from women.
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A
That's so funny. I've never had that happen to me once. They're like, hey, will you please, you know, let's get a drink and tell each other, you know, our life stories and then maybe we can like, hold hands. Like, that is like. I think I. I'm not sure that's.
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B
A good thing for me, though. I think I got that. Cause I just seem non threatening. I think these girls thought, like, if it came down to it, I'll fight them and I'll, like, if it got dangerous, I'll just beat them up so they. They felt comfortable taking these risks with me. Wow.
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A
I mean, so that like, you're the. You're the background for like a, like a, like a pitch. Like, hey, I'll put it out there. This is my crazy night. And this guy won't.
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B
Yes.
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A
This guy won't be weird. And he will. He's a safe option. Well, I. I've said this before. You know, a lot of people want And I think the. The reason people want to date comedians a lot is because it's somewhat of a safe adventure. Like, if you're a nice guy who does comedy, like, you also offer this. Like, I know this is for me. Like, I go on stage, I do a weird thing, but I'm pretty normal. And I, you know, but I do an adventurous thing. So it's like, okay, normal dude doing adventurous thing can kind of hang out with that. So that makes. I think there's an attractive quality that. There's also an unattractive quality of that, where you're like, who would want to date someone who goes on stage? You know, like, that needs that validation. So I. I understand. It all goes both ways. Yeah.
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B
I don't think. I don't think people, like, especially women, I don't think they generally, like, right out the gate realize the validation part of it. Like, they don't connect. The two. They don't connect. Like, wow, this guy really needs attention.
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A
Right.
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B
They just think you're just, like, some funny guy that can't help it but just make everyone laugh.
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A
Right. And the validation, the attention thing, like, I don't need attention. I want instant feedback. Like, I want to know.
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B
Me too.
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A
How people feel right away. And I think that you're right. Like, translate that. I don't think people realize it's like, that's kind of like how you feel about probably most things. I want to know if this story is fun for you to hear. I want to. And. And, you know, it's the only art where we get to hear back right away. Does it work? Does it not? Like, you put a painting up in a, you know, at a gallery, people go. They walk by, they have their thoughts, they keep to themselves. And then maybe you get critiqued, but that's really it. Like, stand up. Like, thumbs up, thumbs down right away. Like, yeah.
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B
Yeah.
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A
It does translate to dating, I think, as far as, like, first dates are concerned, when I meet someone, I want the thumbs up. I want them to go, I had a good time. I. I liked his company. This is. Wow, really good first date. That guy was actually a good guy. I didn't think so. You know, I want to surprise people. I do. You have that, too.
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B
Yeah. You ever been? Yeah, I do. I do. You ever been on a date where you feel like, man, I am killing. Kind of like, you're on stage.
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A
Yes. And I've also had dates where I'm like, I'm bombing. Yeah.
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B
Like, I'm bombing. I'm bombing. But I would Compare, like, being on a date and killing. It's pretty close to stage killing. Like, the euphoria where you're like. You, like, sit back with your cop and you're like, so what else? You know?
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A
Well, there, you know, there's a lot of, like, bad. You know, this is why I've always felt that, like.
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You know, and this gets. This gets bogged down in a bad discussion. But, like, the idea of, like, when women have great laughs, I am like, I'm in, like. And I can't even.
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B
Me too.
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A
It's a great laugh, and they're a fun laugh, and it's not that they're just laughing at anything, but they, you know, they're a little bit loose with their laughter. I am, like, so much happier on that date. But I don't know if that means I like them more, but I am. Maybe I do. I guess that, like. And I. I think, like, there's sometimes. I've been on dates with women. I'm like, this girl knows that her laugh is going a long way. Like, there is a. You know, like, I. She must know I can't be this funny. She must know this laugh is making me want date, too, because I got to get this audience back together.
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B
Yeah. The best part is, like, for me on a date, the best part is, like, when she's talking and then I'm tagging her stuff, but it's killing, like, so I'm barely saying anything, but every time I speak, it's a laugh.
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A
That's it.
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B
That's the sweet spot.
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A
You know, it's funny because if you were like, to say to women, like, hey, laugh on dates. It sounds really bad. Like, hey, you should smile more, kid. Like, it's like, not a great. But it makes. If you're looking to, like, win a date, having a laugh. Like, I. I don't. This whole thing of, like. Because I've had. I don't know if you get this a lot where I get DMs, where it's like, well, you're not as funny as me.
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Oh, yeah, I'd like to go out with you and maybe you'll be able. You know. And I go, it's. It's some version of, you're not that funny. And I.
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B
That's not. That's not the way for me.
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A
I'm with you. And I look, it's so funny. You were on the same page. Because I hear that, and I go, you have chosen the wrong direction. You. You have missed.
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B
Which is fine.
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A
Fine. I'm not gonna.
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B
Women do that to us all the time. Women do that to us all the time. They're like, that's a terrible pickup line. This is a terrible entryway. Do better. So it's fine. We can do it better.
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A
I don't even do the do better. I'm just like, I see that message. I am, like, not worth it. Not good for my time. Not good for my mentality.
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B
No good for them. Good luck.
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A
I hope they find the funniest person alive. I am not it for that.
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B
I mean, do better in the future. Do better with someone else. With me.
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A
Because you blew it with someone else. I would. I would say if I were to guess it will work in an. In a healthy way with someone else, but I am not here for this mess. I. I am. I will move on. And again, like, you're saying, like. Like, you know, like, I'm like the. I'm like the casino dealer. Like, I'll clap my hands, show them to the cameras.
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B
New guy coming in.
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A
Yeah. Bring in the new guy.
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B
Yeah. If you think about it, psychologically, it doesn't make sense. If you think about. We have dedicated our lives to get an approval from people telling us we're funny. We go out every night. We spent all of our years going out every night to get this. And your opening line to me is going to be that I'm not funny.
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A
That my whole life's work was a mistake. And what they're doing right, is they're trying to bank off of this. Oh, we want to be challenged. I would love to be challenged. Not on this. Not on funny. I want no challenge on funny. I want easy audiences at home. I got easy audiences.
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B
I got.
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A
I get difficult audiences all the time. I think they think if you're successful doing comedy, everyone's just kissing, so. And it's like, yeah, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. We bomb.
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B
Yeah.
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A
Every day, every night, every week.
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B
Yeah.
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A
I don't want to bomb at home. I. I want to. I'm. And I know I'm going to, but I want to have less of it at home.
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B
You ever got this one? You ever got a girl? Like, hey, I like. I don't want to. I don't want to make you. I don't want to make your head big or anything, but I think you're really funny. And I'm like, make my head big. I was suicidal. You just saved me.
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A
Right?
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B
You just saved me from ending it all. It's in my head big. Where do you think I am?
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A
It's a miscalculation. And, you know, because it does take a lot of confidence to get on stage and speak to a mic. I'm not sure how to describe the type of confidence it takes because it does, you know, and again, you meet all flavors. So, like, I think you and I are more alike than maybe some other comics where it's like, yeah, of course I go on stage. I would argue that the person who's cocky about going on stage isn't a very good comedian because that means they're not going on enough.
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B
Confidence or mental. Mental illness also can take the place of confidence. Like if you're really. If you really have.
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A
No, I'm not.
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B
Because we've all mentally ill. We've all seen that guy, which is like, this, this. This is not going to end well.
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A
Right. You know? Yeah, but it's just like, I don't. I get the thing you get. I get it as well, where it's like, I don't want to make you your head any bigger. It's like, I don't know what you think I get. Yeah. This is getting me to. To active and reasonable. Not. I'm not floating above the sky going, look at all these PRs. And now I make them laugh. No, that's not.
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B
But I get it. I get it, though, because, like, think about when you're at the vu and you're murdering, right? You're like, at the top of the world. So to them, they're like, this guy is like the biggest guy in the planet right now.
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A
Right? And he doesn't need.
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B
So if I give him a compliment at all, Right?
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A
Yeah, yeah, yeah. The problem is we have heard it all. And it's also includes negative. And you tend to feel the negative more than you feel the positive. You tend to remember the negative more than you remember the positive. And so give me.
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B
Right.
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A
Favorite joke from the special and it's called favorite Joe Boy and it's on YouTube. You can go watch right now. The link is in the description of this episode.
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B
Yeah, I had. With the special. I had a lot of fun. It's not. It's nothing better when you have like your hour and you're like. You have fun with it, where you're like, excited for every bit. Like, yeah, so you're killing on one bit, but you're like, I can't wait to get to the next bit. One of the funnest jokes that I had telling is the. I have a joke in the middle. It's about. It's the dead cat Story.
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A
Okay.
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B
It's about going, going on a date. And this girl, like, invited me back to her place. And when I got back to her place, her roommate's cat died and he was sick. Like, she, she knew he was gonna die. Like, he was like a matter of days. She actually mentioned it during the day. And then when we got back, he was dead. And then she wanted me to remove the cat. Like, she wanted me to just like throw it out.
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A
Okay.
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B
And, and I do the whole. And I, I talk about that. That was my funnest that I had the funnest telling that because, like, when that hit, people were like, really like, laughing.
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A
Like, that is an underrated age thing. And I felt this in my own dating life is like after 35, when you start, like when you start dating women 30 and above. 35 and above, there's generally a pet. And.
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I'm not as far along with the pet as I am with her. Like, yes, I don't care about this pet. Not that I don't care about animals, but like, we don't have the connection. And you get brought home to this pet. And I gotta act like I love it already. Like, I, I'm still trying to see if I like the girl. And I'm like, I gotta like, see if this. And then I gotta like, act like there it's, it's the best pet of, I don't know, this pet. I, I hope it's a good dog or a cat, but I, and I always feel awkward that like, the pet is like, I'm meeting the pet on date three and I'm still on date zero with the pet.
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B
Yeah, no, this was even worse because she didn't care. She didn't have a connection. It was her roommates.
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A
Right? So you. She was just like, you care even less about this dead cat.
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B
Right? She was like, just take it. And then she was like challenging my manhood because I didn't want to remove the thing. So it was like a whole. It's like a five minute chunk. And I remember that happened to me like five years ago. And I just had it in my head and I couldn't figure it out. And I remember one afternoon I was in Kansas City. I was doing a comedy club in Kansas City, and I was like, I got to figure out this dead cat story. I got to figure out how to tell it. And I spent like, no joke, like seven hours, like, pacing, walking around, trying to find the beats to the story. And then when I told it later that night, immediately I was like, this is going to be one of my favorite bits.
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A
Yeah. And when you find it, you're like, what a piece I have. I understand that completely.
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B
Yeah.
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A
What's a joke you wish you had longer to work on?
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B
Longer to work on. Let me see if I. If I have any of those.
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I don't think I have any. Because I'm one of these guys that, like, I really. I'm not one of these guys that writes a joke and then he's like, it's ready, Right? I really do it. Like, I run the jokes. Like, none of it was, like. All of it was, like, done. Done thousands of times.
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A
Everyone go watch it. Material boy. It's on YouTube at Ian Lara on all platforms. Go follow. Go watch. It's fantastic. I watched the beginning before we started here today. I just. So that's why I want to bring up this game. You ready?
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B
Yeah.
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A
This is called do Me, Do Me Dominican. Okay. Gotcha, gotcha. You said, you know, the band at every event is a Dominican thing. Like at events that maybe there shouldn't be a ban. I was like, that's awesome. Okay. I like that. I like finding out the very specific thing I. That is particular to a group, because I'm sure, you know this. You'd go to a show. I have this with Jewish people. And then someone says, oh, we do that too. And, you know, you go. You find out that all these things that you think are just Dominican, just Jewish are. So many other people have them. But there's these little things that, like, that you think of as specifically Dominican to each of these subjects. So I'm going to give you a subject. You tell me what's the most Dominican thing about this subject?
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B
All right, all right.
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A
Birthdays.
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B
Birthdays. Dominicans take birthdays very seriously, okay. Like, very seriously. They treat every birthday like you're gonna die within the next 12 months. So we have to enjoy this one. So we have to enjoy this one because this is. This will definitely be the last one. Like, you know how some people was like, oh, this is my big 40th, right? Like, Dominicans would do, like, my big 32. And you're like, that's not a thing. That's like just a regular birthday. And they're like, no, you're turning 33. This is. That's Jesus age. We have to. We have to rent out a venue and have a sweet 33. Like a sweet 16 for, like, a regular.
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A
I mean, yeah.
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B
Birthday.
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A
I. I don't. Right. I was trying to think of these for Jews, and I I, for birthdays, I don't even know if I have one. Other than like, no one really cared about my birthday. I, I, there was no thought of my birthday. Like, it was just like a kind of a day. But really, yeah, we were. I know, but maybe, I don't know, we just never really. It was like, yeah, you.
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B
Oh no, we're the opposite, dude. Like, that's when like your family, like, they'll write you a letter telling you like how great you are and how much they wish. It's like a big thing.
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A
All right, barbecues. What's a, what's specific to a Dominican barbecue?
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B
Dominican barbecue start very late and end very early in the morning. So I know you hear the word barbecue, you think, okay, so you'll probably have people come over at like one and then you'll barbecue till the sun goes down. And that's how it is. That's not how Dominicans do it. Dominican barbecues start roughly 8, 9pm and people leave 4 or 5 in the morning.
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A
Mom, what's the most Dominican mom thing?
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B
Dominican moms and Jewish moms are very similar. Very overbearing, very in your business. Very like, you know, come, come. If you have a wife, they're gonna like compete. Like that's, that's, they, they, you're their little boy forever.
- [31:15]
A
Dominican dads, Dominican dads very.
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B
Not emotional, angry a lot for no reason. It's. They're just mad. That's just what it is. Kind of being happy is like a sign of weakness. So you gotta, you gotta always just be angry and stern and command respect.
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A
Gifts. What, what, What's a Dominican gift?
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B
Dominicans love gifting colognes. I don't know why, but I have, I have know I have over 30 colognes in my every, every year. Every year. They just think that's like when a guy, you give them a cologne, that's, that's like a real gift. Like any, any name brand cologne, they'll just gift it to you no matter what.
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A
So how, what's your favorite cologne?
- [31:58]
B
Right now I have a Givenchy cologne and a Versace cologne that I'm wearing because then I got like institutionalized because like I grew up, right, getting cologne gifted and now like I'm addicted to cologne, right?
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A
I started like, I, I. Go ahead. I'm sorry.
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B
No, I'm saying, so like I'll go when I fly, if I fly, I'll go to Duty Free, I'll buy a cologne.
- [32:17]
A
Like, that's, I started buying dupes of Colog. Just go on like Amazon and like I'll go to like a list of like top men's colognes for 20, 25 and then I'll go to Amazon, I'll be like type in the name with dupe and they're like six bucks.
- [32:33]
B
Yeah. But does it last the whole day? You feel?
- [32:36]
A
I don't even know. I wouldn't know the difference because I'm so out of the cologne game.
- [32:42]
B
Yeah. Oh, no, dude. I have some colognes that I mean to get the scent off you, you got to go through a car wash. This is like, this sticks to you. It gets in your pores.
- [32:51]
A
Ian Lara, thank you so much for coming on. Fantastic. Go, go, go watch the special. It's called Material Boy. It is on YouTube at Ian Lara. Dude, thank you for coming on. Really appreciate it.
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B
Thank you. Jtray man. I appreciate you having me.
- [33:05]
A
Of course. Chit chat Wednesday, back next week, boom.