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My Fiance's Friend Sucks And He's In Our Wedding - TICKED OFF TUESDAY - The JTrain Podcast w Jared Freid
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Jared Freed
I know you're angry. It's Tuesday and it has no feel. The weekend was fun. You're still hungover from the eating and next weekend is too far away. What will you do with your day? It's time to get ticked off. Complain with your gripe. Right now your friend Uncle J Train is here to tell you that you're right. It's a Ticked off Tuesday. Ticked Off Tuesday. You're angry and you don't even know why. Enjoy this podcast. It'll help you get to Friday. Hello and welcome to the J Train Podcast. This is J Train Jared Freed coming alive from the West Village of Manhattan. That's right, every Tuesday is a ticked off Tuesday. Do you have a problem? Do you have a grievance? Well, bring it here to Ticked Off Tuesday and you shall be hear. And here's what I can promise you will be agreed with. This is the only podcast on the planet that will let you complain about anything. And I will find a way to sing the complaint duet with you. I'll complain with you. I will gripe with you. I will. I will whine. I I'll do it all. I'm trying to think of other ways to describe complaining, but I'll do it with you. So if you want to be a part of Ticked Off Tuesday, there's two ways to do that. You can join Patreon. They get first dibs. I'm looking at we have three ticked off Tuesdays today from listeners. Two are from Patreon subscribers. So you sign up for Patreon. What do you get with that? You get first dibs at ticked off Tuesday. You write your complaint on the comment section of Coffee with J Train, which is the podcast you get when with your membership. So every Friday coffee with J Train and then you get first dibs at your complaint for ticked off Tuesday. That's the deal. Five bucks a month. Patreon.com Jared Freed that's it. Or you can email jtrain podcast gmail.com that's jtrain podcast gmail.com Send in your complaints. I will complain with you. Our third one is from the mailbag, so send those in. Join the Patreon Other announcements are that we're doing a live you up podcast. I would love for you to come. I'd love for you to bring friends. It is meant for people who listen or don't listen to the show. I I this When I started doing live podcasts back in my day, when I first started doing live podcast, I did a live J Tran was I and I was pretty early to it and the whole idea was that it was a promotional vehicle to get people to like the podcast. How do you get people to do that? Well, you make a show that's for everyone. So you, the listener can go, hey, come to this great show. It's this podcast, but they do dating app makeovers and deal reveals. We, we translate text and we play Red Flag deal breaker. So it's really for everyone. It's a dating talk show that's live and we're taping it and I think we'll put it out, but who knows? But come assemble the group chat. Even if you don't listen to you up, you'll have a great time. And that tickets are on my website. We also YouTube. I'm putting out stuff every Saturday on YouTube. I'm putting out crowd work. There's 18 minutes of crowd work on my YouTube channel from Phoenix, Arizona. Sitting there waiting for you to make you laugh. That is, I mean we live in the golden age of very easy payment options for entertainment. I want to make you laugh and I want to keep doing that. You gotta do like, like, like share. Comment. Comment. Just a comment. Just a little train emoji. How about a train emoji? Throw a train emoji on anything I post and I'll know. I mean the feather emoji. Feather, feather. That became like a thing with this show. So do that. All that stuff. I consider payment. Would love for you to do. And we have one sponsor today. I'll get to the sponsor. I do have my complaints. I have. You know, it's funny, I, I looked at the notes for today and I'm looking at the ticked off Tuesdays. They are three depthy, full, full Google Slide length complaints, which I love mine. I came in and I wrote my complaints down and these are like, you know, these are little BB pellet gun complaints. So it's kind of nice that like I went with these like this little poo poo platter of complaints. I got 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 in front of me. I'm going to go through them as you know, not quickly. I'm not going to rush. I'm going to go through my complaints and I'm going to complain and you'll get to listen and then I'll do the three listener complaints that are like novelettes. So I don't even know what a novelette is. And I'm saying the word sometimes I just do that and hope for the best. It's like the Michael Scott thing. Yeah, just Start a sentence, don't know where it's going. I'll just say a word that I've heard and it sounds about right. I would say A Novelette was a short novel. If it's not, and it's like a. A wet nap that you get at the restaurant when you have barbecue, I'll Be A Novelette is a work of narrative prose fiction that falls between a short story and a novel and a novella. So it'd be novelette. Novalette. Novalette. No. Okay, enough of this. Let's get to the show. Here's my complaint. I am getting so sick and tired of nothing. Hinge responses. And honestly, that's probably my sign to leave the dating app. That's probably a note to dating app user. Hey, if you're getting annoyed at Hinge responses, delete the app. Take a break. Go take a seat, partner. You've had enough. Take a breath because it's. I know this is me, but I'm in, you know, ticked off Tuesday. I'm allowed to complain about anything here. What bothers me is these responses that aren't acknowledging that they are doing nothing for their dating life. And if you said that to them, you'd be the miserable one. The ones that really bother me are the ones that tell. And I'm saying this. Listen, I'm a straight guy looking at straight women's profiles or women. I'm looking at women's profiles. I'm not sure, maybe they're queer or bi, whatever. So I'm looking at their response. So I'm giving you one side of the aisle. I am sure. I am positive men do this, too. But I can't speak to that. I. Well, I could speak to that because I do the dating app makeovers and we've brought men on stage. And, you know, generally the problem men have on dating apps, from my perspective, when I see the dating app profiles that we do the makeovers for, is that it looks like they're trying to rush a fraternity. They're too much, too loud, too funny, too too out there. And it doesn't look like they're taking dating seriously. My feedback to the women is that they're too little. It's. It's them with a bunch of friends, them in sunglasses, they're hiding in their own profile. And a lot of their responses to the hinge prompts are saying nothing. Be a gentleman. If you have to tell someone to be a gentleman, they're not a gentleman. You. I just want someone ask me out. The best way to ask me out is by asking me. You've wasted precious space. That's real estate. You could have been fun, funny yourself, giving us information that, oh, I need to go out with that person. The best way to ask me out is by asking me out. Make a plan. Reservations. You know, my love language is making reservations and telling me a time and place. Get out of here. The person you're mad at, you don't want to go out with anyways. So who are you teaching? It's nothing. I just. It's. It's the prompt responses that are teaching. Cause you're not teaching someone. You don't even want to date that person. And it's the ones that are like, I'm just looking for a soulmate, a gentleman, my best friend, and a thousand other things that I could say that no one would disagree with, be disagreeable. That's these. So, okay, that's my first complaint. I haven't been drinking. I haven't drank in. Today's the 20th, so it's been 21 days. Good for fucking me. Fixing the camera as I do this. I haven't drank. It's been 21 days. I'm not counting the days, but I am. It's easy to count because it's April 20th and I'm taping this and I started on the last day of March. Okay. Does that day even count? I don't know. That's the day after you drank. So if you're being kind to yourself. Yeah, I've been not drinking 21 days. I like being social. I live in a social world. I do a social work. I have a social career. I have a social career. I go out at night and I do shows. I've been doing shows at the comic seller all weekend. The lack of options for. Here's what it is. Here's my complaint. I want to go to a bar, and I want to hang out, and I want to be around people, but I want to not look like I'm just sitting there by myself doing nothing. And I also don't want to bother the. The bartenders. I don't want to bother the bartenders. I don't want to take up a seat. That would be making them money. And when you go to a bar, then they say, we'll get the mocktail. I don't want a mocktail. I don't want a 500 calorie juice. I don't want a Coca Cola Classic. I want a Diet Coke. I could get a Diet Coke. It's from the Gun. The Gun Stinks at all these bars. They're dirty. They taste disgusting. I think gun soda is the worst. Is the worst. On the. On the list, it goes cold can, can that's been. Here's the soda rankings. Can that's been in a bucket of ice, glass bottle. Then I would go. I guess I would go plastic. Oh, I would go can in the bucket of ice, glass bottle that's been in a bucket of ice, glass with ice. That has that. From a warm can. A regular, you know, daytime, you know, room temperature can poured into a glass with ice. Then I'm going fountain soda. The fountain soda has become overrated because it was underrated. We've now we're all talking the same way. If you're into fountain sodas, you've read a meme and it's become your personality. You don't like a fountain soda as much as you're just trying to let people know you like a fountain soda. It's not that great. Then I'm going soda gun is last on the list. No soda. And then it goes plastic bottle, plastic bottle. I think those are awful. And then right below, plastic bottle, soda gun doesn't even taste like a diet Coke. So when I go to a bar and I'm not drinking, I just want to be able to sit and enjoy myself and not feel like I am ruining someone's night. That is really what gets me, like, drives me a little nuts, is that I'm like, I'm there at the bar. So I. I had shows. I did shows last night, 7:55. And then I did an 8:35. And then I had no 755 and 8:55. And then I had until 11:15 to do nothing. So I went to a restaurant and I ordered two dishes, and it was great. It was fine. I got a, you know, a soda water. You know, I got a Saratoga club soda in a bottle with a lot ice and lemon. Here's what I want. I want an option at the bar that says pay $50 that goes directly to the bartender. I want to give $50 directly to the bartender. And then I want a martini glass to come out with sparkling water in it and a lime. That's what I want. Here's the problem with that. It's creepy. It's a little creepy to look like you're drinking at a bar when you're not drinking. It looks like you're maybe trying to take advantage of people, especially as a man. I don't like it. I kind of. Because if anyone explained it to Be like, yeah, that guy over there is drinking club soda from a martini glass and just trying to have sex with women. And it's like, yeah, that's what. That's what I would be hypothetically trying to do. Talk to women that would maybe want to have sex with me while I didn't drink. But then I don't want the. You know, that sounds like dirty foul play. And it's not. I'm not looking to talk to someone who's drunk. Drunk. I wouldn't want to talk to someone who's drunk. So I just wish there was this $50 option that wasn't as creepy as it sounds and just doesn't exist. I got a text about. So if you've listened to the jcu, the J Train cinematic universe for any amount of time, you know I am a huge fan of College Game Day, which is the ESPN pre game show for NCAA football. Since college, I have watched a piece, if not all, of every episode of College Game Day. Not all. I make a. I like the show. I like the show. I've tried my. If I'm in. If I'm near a TV before football games on a college Saturday, if I'm near a TV on a Saturday of college football Saturday, I'm a watching College Football Game Day. Over the years, I've critiqued the show. Uh, it's gone through tries and trips. Now it is at a point where they have to figure out what to do with this show because they've brought on Pat McAfee, they've brought on Nick Saban. But Lee Corso, the former football coach and analyst, has been on the show for a hundred years. And he's aged on the show and aged considerably to the point where they're still having him on. And honestly, it hasn't done. It's made it awkward. He has gotten so old on the air that it's been awkward the last few years. So I get a text from my brother, hey, did you hear about the Lee Corso news? I'm like, oh, my God, Lee Corso's dead. That was my first reaction. I have a tear going down my cheek. I'm like, oh, my God. And I go, oh, my God, what happened? And as. And I'm like, running to another app. I'm running to Google. Lee Corso. What happened? It turns out Lee Corso is going to be leaving the show. He's doing his last episode. It'll be the first ep. He's doing his last episode the first week of the next college football season. Which is a relief. I'm happy that he's being sent off without having him maybe die on the air. But we need to stop. When you get to a certain age, I think we need like a TV show where you say spoiler alert before you're going to spoil the show. We need all information about certain people after a certain age to just say not dead. It should have been. Because then tweets were like, lee breaking news Lee Corso. Like at that point my heart is, he's dead. Is he gone? Oh my God, I loved him. And then it was like, oh, he's going to be celebrating his last game ever on whatever date. No, no, no. It should say not dead. Lee Corso going to be doing his final game day show on August 30th because let's save us all, like we don't all have to go into cardiac arrest because of these people. And listen, it should be if you're working past 90, that should be the agreement. And listen, if you're gonna say, well that's ages. No, no, no, no, you're working past 90, we need to make some changes to, for the, for the world we live in today. Any other. You should be happy, you should be lucky. The idea that we even acknowledge you at this point, you know, this is, this is. You're late in life, dude. You're, you're getting a paycheck. You know, we. Listen, we'll have you on the show but every article not dead Lee Corso celebrating his final game. That's all we want. Just, just acknowledge that you are working at a crazy age to be working. Um, three more we need. I went to a restaurant. You can watch my restaurant tour on my TikTok. I went to a. I think it's called Degtai and is in Nashville, Tennessee. I also did this type of restaurant review, so to speak for the garbage plate in Rochester at Dogtown. You can go watch that on my tick tock. It's all. It's on there. They've, they've done fairly well. A lot of viewers on it. It gets very local. Dead tie had what I've. When I, I went to Degtai to try everything. The problem is they don't have smaller options. So I'm like, oh my God. I'm put into the Sophie's choice of what do I get. I don't want to miss anything. I'm only here once. I just want to try everything. And I almost got the soup. I didn't get the soup. And what I ended up Getting. And the person behind the. The person behind the counter was like, hey, we have a kids meal option for the pad Thai as well as the fried rice. And I said, okay, those are kind of the down the middle options that I didn't really come here to get. But because it's the kids option and the kids size, I'll have them because now it gives me an opportunity to have everything. We need more half orders of. We need more half order options. We need more half burger options. How about half a burger and a soup? How about half a burger and an appetizer? How about half a pad Thai? And you can also get half the soup. That's why a cup or a bowl is like a gift from God. Every place needs. And this goes back to the Lee Corso issue. We are not adjusting the world for a 20, 25 reality. More people are single, more people are single later in life. More restaurants are these places that are trying to get us in by being like, hey, we're doing a new thing. We're doing a different take on this certain thing. Make it easy on us to try everything. Let there be a kid's option for everything you serve on the menu. Why can't I get a cup or a bowl? And you know, LA is doing this. This place. Courage Bagels. You can get half bagel options. You can get half a bagel, half. You can get half a bagel and lox from Courage Bagels. The fact that I'm 40 and I'm looking at that going, what a revelation. That's a. Isn't that sad that I'm actually thinking that's like, who. What do they think of next? Flying cars? No, that's like a nothing thing. How, how isn't that just the norm? Especially we're being healthier. We're more conscious of portions and we want to try it all. We are the tapest generation. We need restaurants to evolve for a millennial's taste. We are the buyers. We are the people coming into power now. And get rid of this boomer option where give me a big old burger. I want a half burger. I want to try. I want three bites of a burger. I want to act at your restaurant as if I'm with my best friend. And we've negotiated how we're going to order because we're going to trade half of our sandwich with each other and I have no best friend. So make it happen. The restaurant should be my best friend. This is a complaint that's going to make me sound old and out of Touch. Bts. Bts. I just saw one of the members of bts, the K pop band. Listen, I know BTS is huge. There is not one song that I would be able to go, this is a BTS song. I don't understand how BTS is as big as they are and I know they're huge. Who are the people waiting outside for them after their interview on Jimmy Fallon? This guy on Fallon, I was like watching him in an interview and he's got his own song now and it looked like an interview that was happening in a movie about a fake K pop band. I just. For something to be that big, I just feel like I should know it more. Like I should know all the members of bts. I don't. I have no idea any of their names. Last one. It was a beautiful weekend here in New York City. And here's what happens on a beautiful weekend. If you post it as a beautiful weekend, there are these people that co opt the comment space to tell you how horrible New York City has gotten. How bad the crime is, the trash on the street, the homeless is an issue. Let me just tell people. If you're a person that goes on and on about how great a place used to be and how bad it is now and you don't live in the place, we don't believe you. We don't think you're smart, we don't think you have an interesting take. We actually think you're the problem. It's like going on a date and calling your ex girlfriend crazy for an hour. By the end of that hour, I'm gonna walk away and go, I guess this guy is a real fuck up with his ex girlfriend. He really must be out of his mind too, to date someone that he thinks is so crazy. It must have been him a little bit. Oh, your boyfriend was crazy, Horrible, awful. You dated him for 16 years. What, were you there the whole time? Do you have an issue? What's your problem? That's the same thing as, oh, New York is awful now. Oh my God, it's smelly. The crime is so bad. You don't live here. When's the last time you're here? You walk through here for a minute after you were, you came in here for an hour and you heard some loud music outside and you saw one bag of trash and you're like, that's it, it's gone to hell. You should be required to be living in the city that you are talking about to talk about that city. And listen, I'm just telling you no one believes you. No one's hearing how awful that town you used to live in has gotten and going, oh, my God, they're right. I'll never go there. No, they're going. That person really couldn't hack it in the city that they just made fun of and said was awful. J train podcast@gmail.com jtrain podcastmail.com It's a tick tough Tuesday. I just went through a ton of complaints. 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Ticked off Tuesday, Uncle J. Train all the feathers to your tanned Australian nuts. Thank you. They have a too long didn't read version. I'm not going to do it. I'm going to go. I'm going to. I'm not even going to look at it. I got my eyes closed. I'm going to go right to their. What they wrote, this guy is top 3 worst people I have ever met. Well, I hate that they did too long didn't read, but I need that. Too long didn't read is supposed to sum up your thing. It's not supposed to be the beginning line. Okay. I appreciate that you wrote in. I appreciate their Patreon subscriber take the note, though. Too long didn't read is we are in ticked off Tuesday. I'm ticked off Too long didn't read is to let me know what the whole thing is about, then you do the whole thing. So they are. Okay. All right. You might notice I get, like, indigestion when I. I think because I'm talking so much, I'm taking in a lot of air that, like when I first start doing. But I've been doing this already 24 minutes. Okay. My fiance's best friend sucks, and I don't want him to be a groomsman in our wedding. What a title. Love it. Let's talk about it. This guy is top three worst people I've ever met. You know, I just heard. I don't know if I've talked about this here. I just heard a new acronym. You know, the goat. I. I think this is fantastic, by the way. And you can use this. This is. And it's. I heard it from my brother and his wife, so I don't know if that's their thing. I don't think it is. I just think it's a thing. But maybe I just hadn't heard it. You call someone the greatest of all time. Oh, that's the goat. Tom Brady's the goat. The greatest of all time. They referred to someone as the wote. The worst of all time. Oh, that. I. And I want to use that so badly. Listen, if you're a J Train podcast listener, let's join. Let's jump on the WOAT train. So this guy is top three woes. Examples. I first met him when we took a trip to New Orleans, where he lives nine months into our relationship. I'm a pretty bubbly, outgoing gal and was nice to. And was nice to him all night when I saw him go to leave I left the dance floor to give him a hug and say, nice to meet you. He put his hands in my face and said, what are you doing? I will probably see you tomorrow. Rude. Yeah, I don't like that vibe. I also just like, you are new in his best friend's life. He is new in yours. Like, this should be. We should all be trying is the is. My point is, like, you didn't leave the dancer to say goodbye to him because you were trying to be good to him. You were trying to, like, form the basis of, like, I really want this person to like me because I really like the person I'm dating. And then they give you a face. Smush. Face smush is the most aggressive and horrible ways to, like, get someone out of your face. He put his hands in my face and said, what are you doing? I'm saying goodbye to you like a normal person. That's what I'm doing. I'm being polite. That's what I'm doing. I can't stand when people like, what are you doing? When you're just being a polite person. Yeah, I'm doing the right thing. It's called being a gentleman or a gentlewoman. We went back to NOLA when the Saints were playing my football team, and this time we brought my sister. My sister put her hand out and said, hey, I'm Carly. So nice to meet you. He looked at her hand, didn't shake it. This guy has a real issue with, like, social norms and didn't even say hello, then didn't say a word to me or my sister the rest of the night. At that point, I go, what's wrong? Something must be off. Hey, dude. Now you got evidence. If I were you, I would have been like, you didn't shake my sister's hand. You were rude to me when I said goodbye to you on the dance floor. Is there something we don't know? Like, I. I would be more. Curiosity is a great way to, like, cut through the. The tension. He also calls me Sammy every time he talks to my fiance about me. I go by Samantha or sometimes Sam to my friends and family, but really hate Sammy. And fiance has told his friend this. Something's off. Why would he just be a dick? Why? My dilemma is my fiance wants this guy to be a groomsman in our wedding. Your fiance is really going to bat for this guy. I've asked why he remains friends with this guy, and he says that he's just been friends since. He says they've been friends since first grade. Here's this is kind of like a really nice trip inside the mind of a male, of a straight male or just men in general. We don't like no trouble. We don't want no trouble. We don't want to shake things up. We just want easy peasy, beautiful cover girl. We don't want to rock the boat. Lots of women that I've dated lots of women in my life, one of them being my mom, just likes making things uncomfortable and troublesome. And I'm saying to this person who wrote in which I really appreciate that they wrote in other than the tldr that they screwed up. Is this your fiance? Like to defend him. This is how I would play it. I've known this guy forever. It would be more trouble to not have him in like. And also, you're the devil I know. He's the, you know, he kind of starts this whole thing where with you if I make you upset about him, I can handle you. I can talk to you. I can get you to like see my side and I can figure us out. Him is the unknown variable of now people are talking about it and they're not friends anymore and it's a blow up. But I again, you are valid in your concern of like if you're like mad at him, I can understand why. But just. I'm just trying to defend him a little. Like when he says they've been friends since first grade, I get it. Always played sports together. Parents knew each other very intertwined. I get that. And they still have similar interests. So they can talk about other things that have nothing to do with how big of an he is. Sports, sports, gambling, golf, etc. Right. And men aren't just like making new friends in the bathroom. The. We're preserving the old ones. And there's a point where you see that one of your old ones serves a specific thing. Oh, I'm never going to talk to that guy about my life, my girlfriend, my wife, the. My problems, my anxieties. I am going to talk with him about football and get a good, you know, conversation out of him. So I feel like if something is going to be in our okay, sports, sports, gay, etc. I feel like if someone is going to be in our wedding, they should be happy for us and support us as a couple. Well, I'm giving you feedback here. I. You've taken him being a dick for him not being happy for you. You got to stay on task. He's a dick. He's treated you weirdly. That's what you have to stay. Don't get off, don't get off the topic here. Don't go into, he doesn't want, he's not happy for you because that's an easy one to disagree with. You got hard evidence, Stick with the hard evidence. And this guy's been nothing but rude to me. Okay, let me reread this because I disagree with their perspective. I feel like if someone is going to be in our wedding, they should be happy for us and support us as a couple. And this guy has been nothing but rude to me. That's all you have to say? This guy's been rude. You don't have to say they have to be happy for you as a couple because that's just not something you can like, you know, get him for. Do I need to just let him stand up there and be in every single picture even though I hate him with a passion from the pit of hell? Or is there a way to stop this? Lots of love, bridezilla. I don't think you're a bridezilla. I think you could be categorized as one if you try to go the self victimization route, which you did with me. Well, I just feel like at my wedding they should support us as a couple. Now stop that. Stop that please. It's just not going to work. We want solutions. We want this asshole out of your wedding. He is an asshole. I agree. But I would say what I said at the beginning of this. Something is off. Curiosity will get you answers and it will get him talking. And now we can figure this out. He might just be really bad at social interactions. Like, and you're husband doesn't know it because you really, when you're friends with someone since you were little, since you were first grade, it's not like, hey, you don't have that original opportunity to not be friends with them, which would come with like someone being, you know, if I walked in a room and there was someone that didn't shake my hand and say hello and look me in the eye, I would go, that loser. I'm not going to make an effort. If I had known someone since first grade who does that to other people, I probably wouldn't know. So I think your fiance probably hasn't even felt this, that the thing you're feeling because he's known him forever, he's never met him. He's. This guy has been there as. He's, this, this friend has been there as much as we just awake and become conscious on earth and this guy's there. So this is me giving a lot of empathy to your fiance. But I would say to you, you have to go to your fiance. If I'm you, I agree. I don't want him in my wedding. I'm cutting. There's an option where you cut the. Well, if he's already been asked to be a groomsman, that's another problem, I think curiosity. You have the. You have. You have the receipts. You have the proof. I would go to your fiance and say, hey. And they probably already know this. But step one, if he doesn't, your friend that's in our wedding, it's driving me crazy. He never says hello to me. He never says goodbye to me. He always kind of acts like a jerk. You've told him to not call me Sammy. He continues to call me Sammy. He wasn't nice to my sister. I need to know why he did these things or what is going on, that he's being rude or I can't get over this and it's hard for me to have him in the wedding. So what you need is some sort of statement from this friend of what's been off to make him act weird and mean so that he can be in the wedding. And you need that on your desk by Monday from your fiance. Your fiance has to get those answers. That's up to him, not up to you. If he wants to bring him to you and go, someone's got an apology to make. They've been, we had a nice little talk that that's the next step. If I was your fiance, I would show him this podcast. He has to go to him and go, hey, there's four things that my fiance has pointed out. Can you explain why you've acted this way towards her? Because it's hard for me to have you in the wedding when my literal fiance is, like, put off by you. And then the person might have their reasons. We don't know what's going on in their head. So. But I would say there has to be something that makes someone not shake someone's hand. You didn't shake her sister's hand. Why? If he says, I don't shake hands, you don't. You don't think that's weird? Can you let my fiance know that you don't shake hands is the answer so they don't take it personally. This is just your blanket weird overall rule that you have. See, now we've kind of broken through. If I knew that. If I, oh, he doesn't shake hands. He's just a weirdo. He's a germaphobe. I. I won't take it so personally, but I'll just know this for the future. I agree with you. This is enraging. It's enraging because we're not getting a piece of information. J train podcast@gmail.com jtrain podcastmail.com this one's also from a Patreon subscriber. I went on an international work trip a month ago. Yay. We booked our flights through a travel agency, but when I got to the airport my flight was delayed and then got canceled. It was 5am So I had to book a. Hold on. International work trip a month ago. We booked our flights through a travel agency, but when we got to the airport my flight was delayed and then canceled. It was 5am So I had to book a new flight on my own credit card. Totally fine. I knew I could get a refund. It has now been a month since I requested the refund and I still don't have anything. They're sending me a check and apparently it was sent out for delivery two weeks ago. I reached out last Monday. They told me to give it till the end of the day Friday. Great. No problem. I did. Then I let them know on Friday and again on Monday that the check had not been received. They told me once again to wait until this Friday. At that point they will ask if they can recut the check and send it again. I'm just annoyed that a multi thousand dollar check that is owed to me from a company is being sent regular mail and not with a tracking number. Am I wrong for that? No, you're not wrong. You're absolutely right. This is the problem with this, and this has become kind of a theme on Ticked Off Tuesday, is these moments where you realize you're just a number. You realize you matter very little. You're just another name on a list. You are small. These companies have gotten so large and big and there's no Mr. Delta, Ms. Delta, there's no Ms. Planet Fitness. There's the. The ownership structure of these places is now stockholders and board members. So it's dispersed. So none of the people in charge feel any shame. This is why these small business, these videos of small business owners, it's like, do you know how many videos we'd have of these big corporate companies of how you know of of them if we could like actually have someone to put a face behind how bad this customer service is? Because you're right. You sent them. You spend a lot of money with their company. They screwed Up. You want your money back? Who are you going to go to? What are you going to do? Take a picture of, of the Delta symbol, post it on your Twitter? What are you gonna take to Twitter? And three people will agree with you and they'll go, yeah, we hate Delta. And then guess what? Nothing happens. This is just one of those complaints, and I'm with you the most frustrating part, because they could tell you that their check will be recut and cut and rewritten and done again for the rest of your life. They could do that the rest of your life. And you would have no one to go to and no one would help you. And you kind of have to like, just look up the moon and wish on a, you know, on a shooting star that this check comes to you out of the goodness of their heart. Because what are you gonna do? Go to small claims court? You're gonna have someone, you're gonna sue them and it's gonna cost you more for the lawyer than it is to sue them again. This is just how much we are in the pockets of these places. You're just a number, you know, like, I love Delta. I love flying Delta. You know, I don't love, I, I like Delta more than the other shitty options. And you know what? That's okay. But the problem is when I have something go wrong and I go to them and I say, hey, I've been talking about how much I like your product. And then they go, who are you? It's like, oh, I guess I forgot I was nobody in this whole thing. J train podcastmail.com J train podcast mail.com this is ticked Off Tuesday. It is every Tuesday here on the J Train Podcast. Here's what you can do if you're listening right now and you're enjoying this. Share. Let a friend know. A brother, a sister, a mama, a papa, anyone with ears and likes to laugh. We'll take anyone without ears as well. You can really send this to anyone you'd like, anytime you'd like. So let's do one last one. Also, we're putting up videos of the clips of these podcasts. If you like the clips, you know, if you see the clips like them. Little train emoji, feather emoji. Jared, my wife and I are big fanciers. We saw you in Denver a few years ago and most recently in New Orleans. Thank you. I have an issue with my mother in law that is driving me crazy and has caused some pretty serious fights with my wife. Oi. Hopefully we can help you out at least. We can help you have a place to complain. The issue is that every time my retired mother in law visits, she always file. I'm gonna sneeze. Excuse me. Ow. Oh my God. That was a full body moment. And I got a little itchy throat. I think there's, I'm one of those people. I, I think I got allergies. I don't know if I have allergies. Okay. The issue is that every time my retired mother in law visits, she always flies in on a Wednesday or Thursday and flies out the following Monday or Tuesday. Hey, brutal. Give us one. Give us the Sunday night debrief. Give us the Sunday night of Chinese food and not and being in our most disgusting clothing. You gotta leave while I'm at work. I gotta, I gotta look at you Monday morning after you're there all weekend and I have to do breakfast with you and I gotta turn it on before I want to turn it on. Oh, hey. How'd you sleep last night? No. Give us, give us an hour of our weekend. I've expressed to my wife on several occasions that my preference would be for her to leave on Sunday regardless of when she arrives. I agree. Put, put a bow on the week. Now you're in my next week. This is, this is horrific. I understand flights are more expensive on Sundays, but she is not struggling financially by any means. We only live four to five hours apart by driving in 45 minutes by flight. It's a 45 minute flight. She can do the Sunday flight. Do everyone a favor. She doesn't want to be there Monday morning. She doesn't. I, I, I'd pay for it. I'd go. Let me buy you the flight Sunday. If it's. I'll pay the extra 200 bucks. However, my mother in law always has a reason she can't drive, which would allow her to leave on Sunday. I. E. She needs new tires. The interstate is too dangerous. Listen, she ain't driving. I get that she doesn't want to drive four to five hours. Most people don't. I can't imagine my mom driving for 45, four to five hours. She should be flying out on Sunday. My wife has even recommended flights that leave on Sunday to her when they coordinate visits. But the hint is either ignored or not picked up on by her mother. That our preference, mainly mine, is for her to leave on Sunday. You are correct, sir. She should leave on Sunday. Everyone should leave on Sunday. If you are crossing over into a new week, that is like having a second trip there. You have done wrong. I'M afraid I'm going to have to interject myself and explicitly and explicitly ask her to leave on Sunday. It is time for you to go. It is time for you to go. Please, please leave. Miss, am I being petty? I don't think you're being petty. I think it's annoying that your wife isn't seeing or feeling the how intrusive this is to your lifestyle and your and feeling good for the next week. I used to have this with, like, sleepovers with girls. They'd be like, if you were dating someone, like, we have to have a Sunday night sleepover. And the Sunday night sleepover was so important to know that we were on the same page, that we were in a serious relationship. I was like, no, I just want to start my week on Monday. Okay. And not feeling like a piece of shit. I don't want to wake up on Monday and be pleasant and agreeable. I don't want to wake up on a Monday morning and be, oh, how do you like your Cheerios? Hmm. It was quite a weekend. Okay. I'm off to work. To where I have to act like this as well. Is my preference to have her leave on a Sunday when she visits less important than any reason she can come up with as to why she can't or won't leave on a Sunday? I feel like I'm trying to get my wife to establish boundaries with her mom and it's been tough. Help. Thanks. All guests, including family when visit should leave on Sunday. Period. I'm with you. I think you gotta sell your wife on how annoying this is. First, you need a team effort. Right now it feels like the team is fractured. As you say. It started fights with your wife. I don't like to hear that. I hope you guys are doing okay. I don't want this to cause a major rift. And I would also say she might not be on your side when it comes to this Sunday thing. I don't think she. You never acknowledged. I guess I gave my reason why this would annoy me, but I don't really know why you're based on your email. If I'm to give you feedback on how on your complaint your complaint is valid. It's just not specific enough. Why is it? It can't just be I want her to leave Sunday just because I want her to leave on Sunday. As a professional complainer myself, I will tell you you need work on your complaint. If I were you, there's 7,000 reasons I would want someone to leave Sunday as opposed to Monday while I'm already at work and it's. And reason number one, the social battery is drained and I need it even at 50% for the week when it starts. When you stay through Tuesday, it feels as though I just had a seven day weekend and didn't get a chance to recharge before the next week is starting. That's it. To me that makes a lot of sense. It might. And listen, your wife might say, listen, I think if your wife said to your, her mom, hey we're trying to get the week started on Monday, can you get going on Sunday? Like that's different than so want to leave on Sunday? I think that's a better day for you to leave. Then she's gonna go, well, it's an extra hundred bucks. Why would I do that? Well, I, we, we will pay the hundred dollars so that we can get some good sleep and that we can be normal people in our home. But I'm your mother, you can't be normal around me. No, we can't. My husband walks around naked. Do you want to be around your son in law naked? We're a naked house. The minute you get out of here, we turn into two animals at the zoo. We close off. It looks like the Wicked witch of the west melted on that floor. Just a bunch of clothes in a pile and then we're walking around like Adam and Eve. Get the fuck out. That's what I would say. That's my message. Hey granny, get out of our house. We want to fuck. Ticked off Tuesday, back next week, boom.