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Sephora's Business Model, Chatty People At The Bank, & Comments On My Stuff! - TICKED OFF TUESDAY
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I know you're angry. It's Tuesday and it has no feel. The weekend was fun. You're still hungover from the eating and next weekend is too far away. What will you do with your day? It's time to get ticked off. Complain with your gripe. Right now your friend Uncle J Train is here to tell you that you're right. It's a ticked off Tuesday, ticked off Tuesday. You're angry and you don't even know why. Enjoy this podcast. It'll help you get to Friday.
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Hello and welcome to the J Train Podcast. This is J Train Jared Freed coming to you live from Las Vegas, Nevada. That's right. I'm so stuck. I did this yesterday. Las Vegas, Nevada. Nevada. Nevada. Nevada. Nevada. I'm in Las Vegas. I'm in Vegas. I'm taping these a little bit ahead as I'm doing my weekend here in Vegas, which has been wonderful so far. I'm excited for the shows tonight. I'm doing it a little bit ahead because I got this book tour coming up. I want you to come to the book tour. Boston, New York, Philadelphia. All of this is on my website. Jared free.com Denver, DC, Chicago. We're going to try and add west coast dates. I don't know why that took. That is taking a long time, but. That is taking a long time. But the book tour is going to be a live podcast type event. We're going to talk about dating, we're talking about the book, we're going to do games, we're going to do dating app makeovers and screenshots of texts and you can bring those to the show and I would love to make those part of the show. And you can get a, a bundled book, you can get a book with a ticket and bring your friends. It's going to be a fun time. So and we're have moderators at each of the stuff state, each of the cities that I'm going to so assemble the group chat. Plus I got shows, I'm on the road. So the book, as I mentioned yesterday, if you're not a listener of Mailbag Monday, I am also going to be on Good Morning America on June 8th and they asked me to get questions from my audience about dating. So if you have a question that you want to be discussed on Good Morning America, which it could be sending it to j train podcast gmail.com it's got to be dating related. You know, Mailbag Monday we do anything. But if you have any dating related questions, I love specificity. And you got to keep it short because I don't think Good Morning America is going to read your 7 paragraph nolla. Like I don't think that's going to happen. So let's be realistic. If you want that red on the air, send it in to J train podcast gmail.com. i'm also on the road. I'd love to see at a show, assemble the group chat. It's tough to sell tickets right now, so I really appreciate anyone who comes out and if you've been to my show, you know I put a lot of work in it, into it and it's really been fun to do and work on on the road. So come, come, come. I would love to see you at a show. Jaredfree.com I'm always adding dates. I added Red Bank, New Jersey and Foxwoods and Portland, Maine and Cleveland and Austin. I'm going off the top of my head because I wrote down all these notes and then I threw away my notes and I'm sitting here blind. But go to jared free.com for all my cities. I have three complaints of my own but they're all like mall related. I'm in a mall. I'm staying at a mall in Vegas. This is the least Vegas, Vegas trip that anyone has ever taken. I am in what they call town square or town center and it's to be honest, a beautiful, very comfortable mall. I'm at an Element Hotel. I'll talk about this. It's probably on this week's Coffee with J Train. If you sign up for the Patreon and again, if you want to be a part of ticked off Tuesday, it's a ticked off Tuesday. Did I even mention that? Am I, I'm all over the place. I'm all over the place. I don't want to retape. I think this has been good, but it's been all over the place. Jared, we're all over the place. But you're doing a good job. Now I sound like Tony Perkus talking in the mirror. It's not you, it's them. It's them. Okay, I'm at the. I'm at the mall. It's ticked off Tuesday. So if you want your ticked off Tuesday, I always have to reiterate, you sign up for the Patreon, the Patreon has coffee with J Train where I will discuss the Element Hotel that I am staying in. What an undersell over deliver the Element Hotel is. I always thought the Element Hotel, or maybe that's how they started was like this. Like we're trying to help the environment, which I always pissed me off. So that is not what it seems to be. It's a. It's a good hotel. I'm like, near the airport and yeah, okay, you're gonna hear all about this on on coffee J Train, but ticked off Tuesday. If you want your complaint read, you have to sign up for. You don't have to. The first one's a Patreon subscriber. The second one, we got a couple Patreon subscriber cover from the mailbox. So we got. So you can either sign up for Patreon, the link is in the bio, or you can send it to j train podcast gmail.com My complaints and we'll do my complaints. Then we'll do the ads. I two sponsors, herobred and Factor, which really great meals. I call them my Monday through Wednesday meals. My first complaint. I went to the movies. I went to the movies yesterday when I got here. When you go east to west, you get here, you're just kind of flush with time. I really wanted to see Devil Wears Prada, too. I went. I'll give a full review at another time. I. I loved Devil Wears Prada 1. And I loved Devil Wears Prada 2. That's my review, for what it's worth. It's an AMC Theater. Huge theater, beautiful theater, great seats. They have the things that, you know, they. They lay back and you can press the button. They have a serve your own cola machine. You say, I want a large. I want to. I said, I want a large Diet Coke. And then they handed me what I would describe as a bucket that they gave me a bucket to put my soda in, which that's okay. I am one who wants the soda to connect to the cup, to connect to the straw. I like synergy out of my soda experience. That doesn't necessarily mean I need a huge goblet to drink out of. I don't mind like at Starbucks. I love them. Or not Starbucks at Dunkin Donuts. I like their medium cup when they have the smaller straws. I hate the straw that is really wide and it feels like you're drinking from a hose. I like a medium straw with a medium iced coffee from Dunkin Donuts because it feels right in my hand. I will give up the extra coffee that I don't even need. It's not about that for me. So when it comes to a soda at the movies, I do understand that you want enough soda to get you through the whole movie. You don't want to go in and out. You want a lot of soda. So that's kind of the deal you're making with the theater is like they're saying, hey, we want to give you a bunch of soda that you. So you don't feel like you're missing any movie, but what the problem becomes. So they give me this big bucket. I go to the soda center. That's. It is literally the soda center at the AMC theater legitimately looks like a slot machine. I'm here in Vegas. It looks like you are stepping up to the most technologically advanced system in the world. It has, I think it said it had, like, a hundred sodas you can choose from. It has Coca Cola, Diet Coke, and then you can add flavors. So I got Coke Zero with vanilla, cherry Vanilla Coke Zero. Almost like. It's almost like a dream I had, you know, that is something. Yeah, I'd like a. That sounds like a wish to a genie. I'll have a cherry, cherry vanilla Coke Zero. Like, I want a Coke Zero with. I want a Coca Cola with no calories, cherries, and vanilla. Like, it doesn't sound like we are living in the future. So I get a cherry vanilla Coke Zero, and I fill it up with as as much ice as I can get in the cup. Because I'm a nice guy. Not a nice guy. A nice guy. I'd like to think I'm a nice guy, too. So I then put the top on my bucket of cherry vanilla Coke Zero, and I head to the movies. So I sit down. The cup holder fits the cup. I was surprised. I thought to myself, wow, what a great thing. The thought put into the cup, which is a bucket fitting into the chair, which reclines like there is something being thought out. Then I go to drink from the soda, and I'm getting the dribble from the side of the soda down my shirt. I am literally starting to bathe in my cherry vanilla Coke Zero. If you're going to have us put the top on the bucket of soda, the top has to work with a straw while you're sitting in a chair in the canopy position. We can't have weak tops at movie theaters if it costs an extra dime. I think we are all on board with paying whatever the cost is to have the best top on our bucket of soda. And the fact that there is any chance given to a soda dribbling out on you while you're in the canopy position on their beautiful seats, then you have done wrong. You've done less for your customer because no one is going to the movies being upset about the extra quarter. They. A quarter more for the. Honestly, if they said that to you, hey, for a quarter more, you're going to get a top that is way better than the other top we give out. I'm in. And you know who else is in? People with children. Because that is who's most likely to spill on themselves other than me. So that's my first complaint. My next complaint is about what's okay. This is like a mall complaint. But I've had this for a couple weeks and I think I might have talked about it. I'm trying. I'm trying to remember. I might have. Just sometimes it's hard to remember these complaints because sometimes I'm just talking about it to myself in the car. I have been on the hunt for new sneakers. I do a workout class at a place called the Lab in Delray Beach. Go Google it. I think they have a fantastic program at the Lab. Their workout is like a hit workout. That's a lifting that's more lift than it is run, but it is a little aerobic. And I need a shoe for a hit workout is really what I need because I also do their hyrox training class. I'm never going to do a hyrox, but I do their hyrox class when I'm there on Sunday. So I want a shoe that can both be a running shoe, but also mostly used for a hit workout. I have now gone into two running shoe stores where they have basically looked at me and said, we have running shoes. That's it. No, no more. Know how I have been literally sent out of one of the stores. You. We don't have that at a shoe store. I can't believe that running shoes are selling so well at these stores that not one sliver of space could be dedicated to. Hey, I do hit workouts. It is. Hey, I do hit workouts. Hey, I do workouts that are aerobic lifting. I can't imagine I'm the only one coming in and saying that. And if I'm of a group that keeps saying that, wouldn't you dedicate give me one small strip on the wall. These are our hit workout cross trainers. They looked at me like, no, we are a running shoe store. And I'm like, listen, I'm more mad that I guess I am not someone to make money off of. Because then I went to Sephora today and I have a similar issue at Sephora. And this is my issue, not just with Sephora, but with the whole skin care industry. I've also gone into an Alta. I went with my girlfriend, Emily. We went into an Alta, and I said to her, I really need some sort of system. I was using Caldera Labs, which was a sponsor on this podcast. They're not sponsoring anymore. Consider this a recommendation. I love what they did. They gave you a package that said, 1, 2, 3. And I used it, used it up. And then I asked for more, and they were like, no, we're done. And that's okay. That's. That's. That's business. And I went and looked it up, and it's pretty expensive. And I guess the charge would be because it works. I felt like I was. My skin felt healthy from it. Again, this sounds like an ad for them. They're not sponsoring. They won't send me more. So I. I. But I'm looking for a similar. Hey, 1, 2, 3. I want this before bed. This when you wake up, this when you go in the shower. Done. That is how men want to take care of their skin. I know. And someone will go, well, that's not what they do. What are you looking for? This is what happens. I walked into Alta with Emily, and immediately I said, hey, do you guys have any, like, skin care for men? And at that point, I sound like a big fucking loser whose ego is huge and can't, you know, I have to gender this. Jared, what's wrong with you? What, are you so insecure you can't wear women's skin care? I can. I'm just trying to make this easy. And the woman looks at me. She goes, what are you looking for out of your skincare? At that point, I'm like, let me leave. I want to go. She goes, let me introduce you to. To Ivan. His name was Ivan. And Ivan had what I would describe as the most beautiful skin I have ever seen a man have in my entire life. And he knew it. He said, look at me. I'm in my 60s. And Emily and I looked at him and went, whoa. We said whoa. To a man's face that we just met. Whoa. You are un. We were in shock. He starts pulling stuff out and. And saying, you need this before bed. I'm so confused. This when you wake up and, you know, do you need a vitamin C? And I. I don't know, do you want spf? And he. And he's going on and on, and I know this is part of the sales routine, but let me just say for men everywhere, and I'm gonna be. I'm gonna generalize. We're not. We don't have it in us. We're not there for this. We don't care enough for you to say, well, what are you looking for out of your moisturizer? Moisture. That's what I'm looking for. Ivan goes on this whole thing, and I'm letting Emily lead because she's been to an altar before. I'm new to this game. Emily's like, oh, my God, yes. Oh, that's great. And he's putting it on our hands. And she's like, that is smooth. It's so great. And I'm like, oh, good. Emily's got this. She's leading the way. We get done with Ivan. We pick up the products that he just told us about. And Emily's like, these are unbelievable. Ivan, you look amazing. They're about to, like, go out for dinner that night. Like, they have gotten along so well. And I'm like, great. Thumbs up. Like, thank you. I'm a little toddler. We get to the register, and Ivan goes, and take these samples. You got to have these samples. You're going to love these samples. We get to the register, and I got to the register, assuming we had just gotten $45 worth of creams. And I put at the stuff at the register. And they go, are you guys ready? And then Emily looks at me. Her face totally changes. She's like. And I'm like, what? She goes, we're buying this. And I'm like, you just had. You just basically sucked off Ivan and told him how great he was. What are you talking. Yes, we're buying this. She says, are you sure? It's like $450. And I'm like, yeah, I guess I'm in. And they start giving me more samples. They're like, take more samples. I mean, I must have been their best customer of the month. And we walk out. I'm now $400 poorer. Emily's like, I can't believe you bottled that. I go, I can't believe the act you put on. She's like, yeah, that's what you do there. You say, oh, my God, this is amazing. This is amazing. Then you go, I'll think about it. And I'm like, well, why didn't you clue me into this? Like, what? In what world was I would. I know what I'm doing here? She goes, I'll return it. She returns it. I've never felt more on a different page than her in her. In all our time together, this. It was like I was dating the talented Mr. Ripley. She's a Con artist. So she returns it for me. I get the money back. Now I'm here at the Sephora. I have the same experience. I walk in a Sephora woman goes, what are you looking for? I'm like, I'm looking for a moisturizer and a serum. Now I'm learning the words that I can put on before bed. That's what I'm looking for. She goes, a hydrating serum or. And I'm like, I don't know. I, I said to her, I go, I don't know. And at this point, I wanted to run out of there. And I'm like, what is Sephora doing? Why wouldn't they? And this is where I get mad. Have again one sliver of shelf space. That is that, that says the Dude Zone. And you have one sliver of shelf space, the Dude Zone. Have a picture of a celebrity, someone I like the Rock, Kenan Thompson. I saw they had the woman from snl. They could have anyone from any man from snl. Tom Brady. Let me, I, I. There's a million names I could name right now. Jason Tatum. I'm, I'm, I'm thinking of, like, I, I'm going to watch the Celtics today, anyone, and then just have Dude Zone. And every boyfriend or husband that gets dragged into a Sephora would walk right up to that and go, yeah, you do your thing. Let me just go look at this. And if it said, 1, 2, 3, you do this before bed, this before when you wake up, and you do this in the shower, you would have and do eight different sizes, your big one, your travel one, your medium one, and you're going to make money. And I said to the woman at the counter, I told her this whole idea. She goes, that is a good idea. But people pay for shelf space. So now you got to tell a company out there. And I'm not even saying it has to be different ingredients. Just put a different label on whatever shit you're already selling. I'm. I'm giving you the playbook to sell skincare to men. A group of people who don't care about skincare until they're told to scare. Until they're told to care about it. J train podcast@gmail.com. j train podcast, mail.com. i got two sponsors again, in the, in the, in the effort to make things easier. Herobred. Herobred is the toast you make in the morning. It's the toast you keep in the freezer. Whatever toast you're using from the freezer. 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And, oh, my God, you know, because I get in that position, I'm searching to make the perfect meal and then I end up gorging. This is going to keep you on your shit. So factor meals. And they're delicious. Most of all, they're delicious. I mean, they're also doing breakfast option snacks and drinks. They have broccoli, cheddar, egg white bites for nutrition. On the go, head to factor meals.com jtrain50 off. Use code J, train50 to get 50% off in free daily greens per box. New subscriptions only while supplies last until September 27, 2026. See website for more details. Let's go to the listener complaints again. Sign up for Patreon. That's the best way to get involved with this show. My ticked off Tuesday is that my parent let me. I. I added a word that's on me. My ticked off Tuesday is that the parents I nanny for are constantly hanging around me when the baby I nanny is asleep. Especially the dad. Oh, he doesn't seem to be creepy, but oh my God, he is annoying. I love the idea of this person is nannying and this dad who I'm happy he's not creepy. That was the. Oh, you know. But I hope he stays not creepy. I, I hope for that as a hilarious thing. This dad, you're giving him some form of hang that he's not getting in his life. Like, the wife probably has friends and she's got dinners and she catches up with people on the phone. The dad again. This is the male loneliness epidemic. The male loneliness epidemic has been taken over by this idea that there are all these, like angry losers who are like, just sitting in their room just getting angry at the world. It's really about this guy to me. Like, this dad who wants a little human interaction probably thinks he's killing it with you. Like, and you're like, oh, he's so annoying. Oh, he won't leave me alone. And he's like, oh, she laughs at all my jokes. She thinks I'm hilarious. Yeah, she works for you. He doesn't seem to be creepy, but oh my God, he is annoying and seems like he just wants to impress a younger person or something. Absolutely. Most of all, he has very different political views. Oh, and he now he's getting political. Most of all, he has very different political beliefs and views for me and tends to say very offensive things about more vulnerable populations of people. And it makes my stomach twist. But I don't know what to say because he's my boss. Yeah. This is horrible. This is horrible. This shows you the confidence of not talking to people. Everyone, you know, this idea that like men are born just these cocky. Like, I kind of think that's an easy way to look at these things. I think when it comes to this male loneliness thing and not talking to a lot of people, this guy doesn't keep up with a lot of friends, doesn't talk to a lot of new people. You are the new person he talks to and he pretty much assumes that. That he's nailing it on opinions, on jokes, on everything. And you work for him. What are you going to do? Lose your job over him saying something that you just can just be like, ah, I guess so. And then you move on. Like, you're not going to change the world via this guy. I get why you don't say why you don't say anything in your stomach twists at the same time. I get it. This is annoying. Yeah. And all this would all be taken away with one person being like, what are you talking about? And then someone like, honestly, it's the wife's fault. When does she step in? Because when does she say, hey, you're annoying the nanny? And these opinions. What are you saying to people? Where's the wife? That's what. That's my issue. Yeah, this is annoying. I'd be ticked off, too. And then you leave and you got to go. You have to deal with the problem with this. You have to deal with, like, that thing in your head. Like, should I say something? Should I stand up for what I believe? Oh, my God, why? I can't believe how much I need this money, that I can't look at this guy in the eyes and be like, hey, you sound like a dick. I disagree. I mean, a simple I disagree would be fun to say to him, but I think you got to do it on your way out. I think you, you know, preserve the job. Also, the baby's asleep. This is the whole point of nannying, that you get the baby asleep, and then you get to look at your phone for hours at a time and not have to deal with anything. That's why people nanny a lot of times. That's why people babysit. They're like, oh, I can get money. Once I get these shit kids to sleep, I can get some dough for just hanging and eating their food. He's ruining the workplace. J train podcast gmail.com j train podcastmail.com Jared Love the pod, especially mailbag. Monday, ticked off Tuesday and you up Wednesday. Well, thank you. I'm also seeing your show at the Foxwoods Casino. Thank you. I'm excited. Here's my complaint. Whenever I go into a store and I'm looking for something specific, the employees literally just stare at me or walk right past me. I mean, this is very much what I'm dealing with. Like, you see me going through a stack of jeans and can't even ask, can I help you find a size? I went to the mall this past weekend, and the same thing Happened at two different stores. I used to work in retail, so I understand that this job isn't their life and they are only here. I used to work in retail, so I understand that this job isn't their life and they're only making minimum wage. But still, I, at the, at that point, I would rather just shop online. I'm not asking you to follow me around the store, but a little acknowledgement would be nice. Sign the invisible shopper. Well, this isn't what I was talking about before. Here's the problem, and I agree with your issue. You want help. When you're at a store, you want a friendly face who's going to give you a hand and someone that can go get you the, you know, the, the changing room and can unlock it. And, hey, do you need a few more things? Do you need some other sizes? You want light touches of help? You want. You need a third hand. You don't need a fourth. And that's the problem we have here, is that a lot of people are the opposite. They're like, I want to go to. In store. I want to go. This is a communication issue. There's a lot of people that are like, I want to go into a store and I just want to be invisible, and I just want to look around, and I don't want to have someone up my ass about what I'm going to buy. I just want to literally browse. So how do we get you the person who wants help and the other person who wants no help? How do we all feel comfortable? Here's my idea. We need a bell. How about they put a bell like they do at CVS when you need help getting into the. The locked compartments? Give us a little bell, a little ring a ling. Ling. That's someone who wants help. And then another, you know, and no bell means no help. Why not? A little happy bell. Ring a ling. A ling. I think that would solve it. And I agree with you because sometimes you want some help, not a lot of help. And it's really this three Bears situation. You don't want all the help in the world. You don't want someone bothering you, but you don't want to be invisible. J train podcast gmail.com j train podcastmail.com Jared we got two more to go again. Sign up for the Patreon. I'm in. I'm in Vegas right now. I can feel the dryness. I forgot to get a water before. Before I started here. You know, we're all over the place. Okay, listen, I, I I feel confident in this episode. Jared, I shared your show with my girlfriends and now she's obsessed. This is the goal. If you. If you hear something talked about here and you have a friend who you talked about this earlier with, send this. Send them the episode specifically with Pop Culture Thursdays. Thank you. I'm writing because I need to air a grievance regarding bank etiquette. Okay, listen, first of all, let me just say I have really been enjoying doing Pop Culture Thursdays. Go check that episode out if you don't already. Specifically, the casual chatters. I'm losing my mind over people who treat the teller window like they are meeting a friend for coffee. I think these spaces have been taken over by people who are working from home and are craving some sort of human interaction. Because I've seen this. You see people walk up to the bank teller and they're like, hey, what's been going on? And you're like, this would have been office chatter that they wouldn't need to get here. Every time a customer asks a non banking question, the t. The teller rightfully pauses the transaction to be polite and the entire line grinds to a halt. The teller is there to process your transaction, not have casual chats. Here are a few gems I've overheard recently. I mean, how much time are you spending in the bank? If. If I asked for 20. Okay, so then here, the. Here's what they've been hearing. They got bullet points. If I asked for $250,000 in cash right now, could I get it? Well, do they have that much cash to get? I don't. Is that. Is that like one of those, Like. I mean, that's a question to ask. Like, is that a question they've always had for a bank teller or are they just asking for their own? Okay, here's another one. How many different kinds of foreign currency do you keep on premises? I mean, that's a crazy question. That's. That's a question a kid asks while on a tour of a bank. That. That question should have been left in third grade when you went to the treasury on a school trip. Here's another one. I guess I. I guess I should keep all my money in crypto right now. That's. This is. The bank teller is not your financial advisor. They're not going to be able to discuss crypto with mention of crypto publicly. You should really just reassess what you're talking about with people. I just switched car insurance companies. Who do you use? I. This is not the dmv. No, this is not an insurance retailer. No, I'm going to see Wicked for good later. Have you seen it? That's crazy. No, that's. That. That person. They should have a button at the bank teller that just pulls over. A licensed therapist. They should have a deal with better help or whatever therapy program is out there. The minute someone tries to talk to them about something, they should talk about with a friend or family member. Hey, seems like you're not doing well. You just asked me, a bank teller about Wicked for good. Ding, ding, ding, ding, ding. Lorraine. Yeah, this is Dr. Lorraine. She's going to help you. You know, talk to someone. It seems like you need, need to talk, need a little chit chat. We brought Dr. Lorraine. She's going to help you out. Yeah, good luck with everything. Yeah. Here's your receipt. Thank you for depositing $20. That's. That's what they should do. My beef isn't with the tellers being courteous. No, I'm with you. It's not the tellers. It's with the customers who lack the situational awareness to realize there are people behind, behind them in line. Stop chatting and let the tellers do their job. Sincerely, impatiently waiting for a roll of quarters so I can do my laundry. Yeah, these people need human interactions and they're not. It's. It's like someone complaining about pain and you're like, you need Tylenol and you're in a line for coffee. Like this. The coffee isn't what you're looking for. You're in line at the bank looking for a friend. You're in the wrong place for friendship. You're at the bank looking for human interaction. You need a therapist. Ding, ding, ding. Dr. Lorraine, get over here. My friend. You know our friend Dr. Naomi from the Oversharing podcast. Dr. Naomi, this. She should just be at a bank, sitting at the chair, waiting for someone to come over there, someone to ask about Wicked. Wicked for good. The teller. Did you just ask me about wicked for good? Dr. Naomi, get over here. Yeah, we got one. They need help, obviously. J Train podcast at gmail dot com. J Train podcast, gmail dot com. That's right. Every Tuesday. It's a ticked off Tuesday. Sign up for Patreon. You get first dibs to complain you. All you got to do, comment on coffee or J Train. Okay, we have a longer one. Last one, Jared. Love your podcast. I listen daily. Thanks for the laughs. My ticked off Tuesday is that my coworker keeps commenting on anything new or at least new to her. That I use or wear to work. We go to the office once a week and this has been happening for at least a year where every time I have a new case for my iPhone or AirPods or a new T shirt, et cetera, she will make a point to say something every single time. I've noticed it makes me self conscious whenever I'm deciding to what to wear to work or if I decide to change up my cases since I get bored of the color and like to change up my phone case every once in a while or I find a cute case for my AirPods and change the case for those two. She's 25 and I'm soon to be 34. Yeah, I don't want this seems to be a Gen Z generational thing, I don't think. I don't know if it's Covid or what or it seems that Gen Z feels that everything they see or do is new. Like, and it, it's kind of been a joke that's been made online that they'll be like, hey, I got a great hack for, you know, making a sandwich. And they're like, look, you can cut it in half and eat half now and have the other half later. And you're like, have you left the house? Like, did and and my question, I don't blame Gen Z. I. I wonder what the fuck is wrong with Gen X. Gen X. A generation that invented nothing never ran for office and just kind of sulked in the corner and made movies about girls that never noticed them. And then they had this group of children, Gen Z, who all seem a little bit angry and like they didn't get parented at all and never learned what it looked like when you got a mozzarella stick and pulled the cheese like they're impressed by cheese pull. Like, don't you think that generation something wasn't done? And it could be Covid, it could be the, you know, you miss out on these years that you were supposed to be socializing because I could understand that the 25 year old. And again, this doesn't have anything to do with age. Noticing something new you're bringing into the office that could be any age. But I think the tone of like what is that T shirt is different than, oh, you have a new T shirt. But, but she's 25. I'll keep reading. And I'm soon to be 34, so I don't really care about her insecurities that she's projecting onto me and don't feel I need to justify or explain to her but it's really annoying since see even you're saying it's their insecurities. I think it might be the tone they use that they are like literally Gen Z. Kind of acts like the earth was created two days ago. But it's really annoying since this happens every time and she mentions it front of our other coworkers or even just to me if it's only us two. She's even said to me you have too many phone cases. Like what the fuck? Excuse me? Yeah, too many. That's a judgment too. What is too many phone cases? I would. I would say that to her. What? What? What by your standards is too many? I don't believe in too anything. I phone case by mood. How many moods is okay with you? Like that's a good way. You know, I would say that to them. My money and what I like is none of your business. Yeah, I. I think my way is better than none of your business. But I. I hear you. I feel like I can't even wear my nicer things or even use my nice coach per I feel like I can't even wear my nicer things or even use my nice coach purse that I would like to use as my office bag since I would get comments from her and some other co workers too. They are usually complimentary but my about my taste and and style when they say something about my stuff. But this unwanted attention is making me feel like I need to dim my shine and only wear certain things that don't look like quote too much. Yeah it's their problem and the whole two thing. It's also you know younger people speak tend to be cheaper as which I get. That's not. That's not a negative thing but it but to take you know it's like I'll have extra ice. Extra ice. Don't you want more soda? No, this is how I'm comfortable drinking soda. What should I do? It's hard to not be annoyed at these comments when I feel like I'm under a microscope. Thanks so much. Love an annoyed professional trying to keep it cool. Well first I'm going to just commiserate with you what you should I. I love before I get to what you could do just know that this is normal. I do understand especially coming from a younger person. It's a punch up punch down world. So I can understand right now you're taught you know rich is bad victim good. That's. That's kind of how the Internet works. So this idea. So I think a lot And I do think Gen Z was brought up on this premise that they have been told a pecking order of who's doing well and who's not doing well. And they abide by it so much that it's insulting to every group involved. So this idea of, like, do you, you have a coach purse? They're allowed to say that because it's, it's victims speaking up to rich person. Again, these are terms that you wouldn't put on that. But I'm saying that's kind of the world that they're evolving in. When TikTok tells you everyone who's doing well or kind of gives that vibe that, like, we're allowed to punch up at the allowable Internet people that we can punch up at again, rich people. So you and your coach purse that looks so fancy. She's allowed to say this out loud because to her on the world, or to them, I'm not sure their background, but to them, the world on the Internet has told them it's okay to say, I, I had this issue with the email written into you up about the woman going to her boyfriend's country club dinner and kind of talking shit with no vulnerability. And it's like they didn't think they had to show vulnerable, any vulnerability because they are in the position of punching up. And I do think a little bit of, again, I'm going to, I'm going deeper here. I could be accused of going deeper here. But I'm, I'm commiserating with you that I do understand the tone you're feeling too many. And just the quote, you have too many phone cases. She wouldn't say the opposite. They wouldn't say, you don't have any phone cases. That's weird because that would be punching down. That would be saying, and then you could say, well, I have no money for extra phone cases. And then they would be an asshole by the world that they have been brought up in. So to say you have too many gluttonous. You, you know, look at the, you know, the final boss of, you know, capitalism. These are all things set online that now become allowable. So I'm with you. What I would do is, yeah, I love it. I would love the things I own, love the things I have. I would be so pleasant and happy with the life I had that they would have to feel weird for asking any question of the new thing I come in with. Is that a coach purse, isn't it? Unbelievable. I just got it yesterday. You want to take a look? It's like the most fun purse that I have. I would be. I would swim with the current of positivity because no one can be blamed for ulterior motives when it comes to positivity. Yes. I love my purse. Do you want to see it? It's. Oh yes. Very expensive. I can't even believe I dropped the money for it, but I love it so much that I think maybe that's your answer. That would be my advice. Great. Email j train podcast gmail.com it's a ticked off Tuesday every week. Back next week. Boom.