The JTrain Podcast — Ticked Off Tuesday: "Sit at The Bar September Lady, Going Into The Office, And Leftover Thieves"

Host: Jared Freid
Date: October 21, 2025
Theme: Jared vents about the viral repackaging of his original dating advice by a TikTok personality and fields listener complaints about office life, holiday leftovers, salary negotiations, and hot Ubers.

Episode Overview

This lively—and at times heated—episode of the JTrain Podcast is all about complaining, in the true spirit of "Ticked Off Tuesday." Jared Freid begins with an extended personal gripe: the viral success of the "Sit at The Bar September" trend popularized by a TikTok realtor, which he feels is an uncredited repackaging of his own, more thoughtfully constructed dating advice. He then reads four listener complaints submitted by his Patreon subscribers, addressing topics from holiday leftover etiquette to mismanaged return-to-office policies.

Main Segments & Key Discussion Points

1. Jared’s Big Complaint: "Sit at The Bar September" Gets Hijacked

[01:08 - 28:50]

• Background:
  A “kooky old woman” on TikTok—a realtor with big martini energy, likened to the grandma from "The Nanny"—has gone viral for encouraging women to "sit at the bar in September" to meet men, a concept Jared claims to have promoted with more nuance for years.

• Jared's Beef:

  • He’s frustrated at being tagged by fans whenever they see the TikTok trend, with many implying the idea was stolen from him.
  • He feels the older woman’s playful, "easier to package" persona allows her message to travel further online than his own thoughtfully comedic advice.
  • Jared critiques the economy of viral "dating hacks," noting that many creators mimic what works and sell it with new packaging, often with less authenticity.
  • Reports that "Get Off the Apps October" and "Never Stay at Home November" are further rip-offs of his summer dating challenge (where he motivated singles to get out, engage with married friends, join a new fitness class, and enjoy in-person interactions).
  • Tells the story of a Cosmo writer reaching out to credit him as an originator (at least within recent pop culture) of the "sit at the bar" advice.

• Notable Quotes:

  • Jared [10:51]: "Creativity is vulnerability. Creativity is saying out loud the things you’re feeling and putting them into some sort of form. That is my view on it."
  • Jared [13:17]: "Men love being approached. I know I love being approached. That doesn’t mean we’re going to be together forever. But I would never look at a woman as less than for approaching me at the bar."
  • Jared [19:14]: "Never stay at Home November is the worst name for it. They didn’t even spend five minutes. Neighborhood November—that’s the name! That’s actually thoughtful. That’s what I do."

• Memorable Rant:

  • Jared improvises alternative, better-named monthly campaigns ("Neighborhood November," "No Couch November," "No Show November"), lampooning the lack of creativity in the TikTok trend’s rollout.
  • He makes fun of the apparent lack of real dating knowledge behind the TikTok advice, and the aggressive passivity of the social media manager who responded to his online comment.

• Summary:
  Jared’s complaint is as much about not receiving due credit for his ideas as it is about the social media ecosystem that rewards packaging, mimicry, and low-stakes “quirky” personalities. He blends humor and real frustration, expressing a longing for creative recognition over viral thrills.

2. Listener Complaint #1: The Leftover Thieves

[29:23 - 33:29]

• Issue:
  Family members showing up to holiday events, skipping the social awkwardness, and immediately raiding the leftovers.

• Jared’s Take:

  • If you want leftovers, you should have to endure the full "toll" of a family holiday—including awkward conversations.
  • Making a plate to-go before the gathering is done is an unacceptable breach of etiquette.
  • Suggests laying down ground rules: leftovers only once dessert is served and everyone’s had their fill.

• Notable Quote:

  • Jared [31:46]: "You want the leftovers, you gotta pay the toll—and the toll is the awkwardness and stomach-turning crap that comes from family and can only come from family."
  • Jared [33:15]: "We only start taking leftovers once the tinfoil has emerged from the cabinet. It is then and only then that leftovers will be taken. That is the rule of the house."

3. Listener Complaint #2: Salary Negotiation Insanity

[33:30 - 39:19]

• Issue:
  A job interview where the recruiter reads questions off a script and obsesses over salary, referencing past pay, ignoring inflation, and refusing to discuss the actual job.

• Jared’s Take:

  • The focus should be on whether candidate and employer are a good fit, not "gotcha" salary trivia.
  • The lack of excitement (and basic humanity) in the interview process is a sign the company doesn’t value prospective employees.
  • Reminisces about his own frustrating early interviews and the absurdity of irrelevant questions.

• Notable Quote:

  • Jared [37:10]: "None of this conversation has to do with you getting the job. That’s the frustrating part... If you aren’t excited to interview me, what are we even doing here?"

4. Listener Complaint #3: Return to the Office (RTO) Farce

[39:20 - 44:39]

• Issue:
  Companies force more in-office days "for collaboration," but employees still just call each other from nearby desks, defeating the purpose.

• Jared’s Take:

  • RTO policies are often about optics, not meaningful productivity.
  • Companies who want employees in person should facilitate real collaboration, not breed distrust.
  • Good management creates environments where employees feel invested and valued—not unnecessarily inconvenienced.

• Notable Quote:

  • Jared [41:19]: "If it could have been an email, you are now fomenting distrust with the workforce. Don’t pee on me and tell me it’s raining."

5. Listener Complaint #4: Sweaty Uber Rides

[44:40 - 48:49]

• Issue:
  Paying $60 for an Uber with broken AC, only to be told after already climbing inside.

• Jared’s Take:

  • Uber should notify you as soon as possible about any non-functioning AC, the same way you get heads up about a hearing-impaired driver.
  • By the time you’re buckled in, it’s too late to back out without risk or hassle.

• Notable Quote:

  • Jared [47:12]: "The driver should tell you: 'Hey, before you get in, just letting you know.' Set the expectation. ‘Cause now it’s going to be windows down, 80 degrees, and you’re sweating out in your sweatshirt. Horrific."

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On creative theft ("Sit at The Bar September"):

  • Jared [07:12]: "Sending it to me does nothing. What am I going to do? I’m not going to spend my day with me—I guess I’m going to go to my podcast and complain about it."

• On job interviews:

  • Jared [37:10]: "None of this conversation has to do with you getting the job. That’s the frustrating part... If you aren’t excited to interview me, what are we even doing here?"

• On leftover etiquette:

  • Jared [31:46]: "You want the leftovers, you gotta pay the toll—and the toll is the awkwardness and stomach-turning crap that comes from family and can only come from family."

• On office management:

  • Jared [41:19]: "If it could have been an email, you are now fomenting distrust with the workforce. Don’t pee on me and tell me it’s raining."

• On bad Uber rides:

  • Jared [47:12]: "Set the expectation. ‘Cause now it’s going to be windows down, 80 degrees, and you’re sweating out in your sweatshirt. Horrific."

Timestamps of Important Segments

• Jared’s “Sit at The Bar September” Rant: [01:08 - 28:50]
• Listener Complaints Begin: [29:23]
  • Leftover Thieves: [29:23 - 33:29]
  • Robotic Job Interview: [33:30 - 39:19]
  • Return to Office Farce: [39:20 - 44:39]
  • Hot Uber Ride: [44:40 - 48:49]

Episode Tone & Style

Jared is equal parts earnest and self-deprecating, shouting out his longtime listeners while making fun of his own urge to "whine" and "invent dislikes." The tone is humorous, conversational, and peppered with well-timed, exasperated asides. He highlights the absurdity of modern trends and work culture, often offering biting—but practical—solutions.

Conclusion

"Ticked Off Tuesday" is a comedy therapy session for Jared and his listeners, where major and minor gripes are treated with equal seriousness and comedic treatment. This episode is especially noteworthy for Jared's deeply personal and incisive monologue about creative credit and viral internet culture, and the relatable, cathartic venting of everyday annoyances by his audience.

If you want the original, thoughtful—and hilarious—take on modern dating advice and all that gets under your skin, JTrain remains essential listening.